Secrets Of Social Success

Look For Treasure In Others

Learn To Appreciate Others

Through the study of genetics, scientists have concluded that throughout history, a few of the guys have gotten most of the girls.

And studying primitive societies that still live according to the hunter-gatherer lifestyle, this holds to be true.

The guys at the top of the social ladder tend to get a lot more girls than the guys down at the bottom. So it stands to reason, if you want to become better with the ladies, it will help to move up the social ladder.

How do you do that?

Well, if you happen to be a member of the Yanomamo tribe in the rainforests of Brazil, this would mean killing more dudes than everybody else. It seems in that particular society, there is a strong correlation with your kill rate and your success rate with the ladies.

Luckily, that doesn’t hold true for most of us!

So, assuming you don’t want to go out there and become a serial killer, how do you become more like those guys at the top of the social heap?

One way is to become more verbally fluent. Contrary to Hollywood, the alpha male is not the strong silent type who grunts and kills bad guys. In real life, the alpha is the guy who can talk a good game.

And I’m not talking about “game” like using seductive language patterns. I’m talking about general social skills. The kind that makes people want to listen to you. The kind that doesn’t sound like some laser targeted set of patterns with a specific outcome.

The kind that you can use with anybody, and leave them feeling better after you’ve finished speaking with them.

Dale Carnegie talked about this in his famous book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People.” There is a whole set of strategies to follow that will help.

But they can all be boiled down to a simple rule:

Become Interested In Others

Most people don’t do this. Most people walk around desperate for attention, desperate for validation, desperation for approval. They get into a conversation with somebody and all they talk about is themselves.

But if you cultivate a genuine interest in others, and the social confidence to find out about them, AND make them comfortable enough talking to you that they feel comfortable sharing themselves with you, you will be astonished.

This simple technique will do more for you girl getting skills than anything else. All you’ve got to do is just start talking to people, and hold one though in mind while doing so:

“I wonder what’s unique and interesting about this person?”

Do this, and wonderful things will happen.

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