How To Jack The System
For example, the easiest way to get a loan from the bank is to prove you don’t need the money.
The easiest way to attract a partner is to be completely happy on your own.
One way to lose weight is to increase your metabolism, which you can do by eating more food. Which will make you gain weight.
Most of us have heard that we make our impressions of people within the first few seconds. After that, it’s hard to overcome that first impression.
On the other hand, most of us only feel comfortable with somebody after we’ve known them for a little bit, and the more we hang out, the more we let our guard down and let them know who we REALLY are.
Which means almost always, somebody’s first impression (which is hard to change) comes when we are the most reserved and closed off.
There’s a lot of strategies to overcome this paradox. One is where you go out in public and do crazy things, like buy one grape at the supermarket, go into a burger joint and order a pizza, or walk around town with absolutely ridiculous clothing.
Do this long enough, and you’ll just stop worrying too much about what people think.
Then you can relax and be yourself right away, no matter who you meet.
Of course, not a lot of people are willing to go the supermarket and buy one grape!
Another way around this is to develop a deep appreciation for yourself. Take some time every day really settling into your own brain, accepting yourself just the way you are.
This also takes time and consistent effort.
Whichever path you choose, consider making it a goal. Once you are able to feel comfortable around anybody, anywhere, any time, you will have an incredibly magnetic energy.
People will feel better just hanging around you.
Another thing you’ve likely heard is that communication is only 7% verbal. Meaning before you even open your mouth, your sending out MASSIVE amounts of information through facial expressions, body language, and your movements.
Which means once you feel comfortable in your own skin, people will feel it from across the room.
People will naturally gravitate toward you and want to talk to you and get to know you.
Just by showing up, you’ll magnetize an entire crowd.