How To Make Talking To Girls Easy
Whenever humans encounter a new situation that’s potentially beneficial, our brains quickly go through a couple of “scanning” processes.
The first thing is to imagine the “best case” scenario, and the next is to imagine the “worst case” scenario.
Then it calculates the likelihood of each happening, followed by the “strength” of each potential outcome.
I know this sounds like a LOT, but our brains are incredibly FAST.
Problem is they pay for that speed by not being very accurate.
So when your brain scans the past, it’s only going to grab a few of the “strongest” memories.
And since most guys have a LOT of memories of getting rejected by ladies, (real or imagined) your brain’s going to come back with a big fat DANGER signal.
THIS is where all that anxiety comes from.
How do you get rid of this anxiety?
Easy. Simply rewire your brain.
One is to take conscious control of your thoughts while out in the field. While you’re looking a girl you’d like to approach (based on IOI’s, flirting eye contact, etc.), literally FORCE your brain to think of positive memories with girls.
Think of the last time you had sex, or kissed a girl, or a girl looked at you in that special way.
And HOLD THAT thought while you’re walking over there and talking to her. This DOES take mental effort, but so long as you FORCE your brain to hold that thought, it will keep any fear from creeping in there. It’s not a “once and done” thought. It’s a “grab and hold” thought.
This may sound simple, but it is very, very difficult. If you’ve ever meditated, you know how difficult it is to force your brain to think of something simple, like a candle, or simple numbers from one to ten.
But your concentration is just like a muscle. The more you practice, the stronger it will get.
The SECOND way is to actually go out and CREATE positive responses from women.
This means walking up (or close to her) getting her to smile, and then leaving.
You need to build up a huge memory bank of experiences in your mind with YOU leaving a girl who WANTED YOU TO STAY.
Now, this may seem easy, but it’s VERY difficult. As soon as you get a nice smile, your caveman brain will be SCREAMING at you to go and talk to her. To hang out and hope for some good stuff.
In order for this to work, you’ve got to NOT do that.
If you do practice these two mental tricks regularly, you’ll be amazed how fast that approach anxiety vanishes.