Having a coach is a good idea for many reasons.
Sports, music, seduction, self-development, pretty much anything.
If anything to keep you honest. If you know you’re going to having somebody checking your work, on a regular basis, you’ll be much more likely to do it than if you’re on your own.
Even before traditional education was invented, you had to be an apprentice for a while before you were trusted.
Essentially, you had to work under a “coach” who would watch you, guide you, encourage you, and make sure you knew your stuff.
Your success was just as important to him or her, as is to you.
Even today doctors have to go through the same process.
But what happens if you don’t have the time or money for a coach?
You can make up your own.
It’s pretty cool trick that’s been used by a lot of people.
But since it’s pretty “weird” most people don’t really advertise it.
First thing is to figure out what you want to do.
Speak in public, be more outgoing, be more persuasive, play an instrument, anything.
Then choose a REAL PERSON who is a EXPERT in that field.
They can be living or dead, somebody you’ve met or somebody you’ve only read about.
Then you start to develop a “relationship” with this imaginary person.
Get to know their “personality.”
Then when you practice whatever it is you want to practice, imagine they are there helping you.
This will take a while before it feels real.
It’s a skill to imagine somebody’s there when they’re not, so give it some time.
But you’ll find it’s a lot easier than going alone.
If you REALLY want to kick your progress into high gear, you can “channel” them when you do daily journaling.
At the end of the day, just write down a few things you did to get closer to your goal or whatever skill you’re practicing.
Then give yourself an honest “evaluation” with good points and bad points. Only when you write the “evaluation” part, imagine that you’ve given THEM (your imaginary coach) control of your mind and hands as you journal.
Then allow “them” to give you homework assignments for the next day.
A short, easy to stick to, “to do” list.
This is DEFINITLY weird, so be careful who you share this with.
But is very useful. It’s really “you” talking to “you” anyway. Or your “higher self” talking to your “normal self.’
That way, you’ll never feel alone, and you’ll always feel encouraged.
A great way to learn some new skills.