What is it about some movies that make you want to watch them over and over, yet other movies you only want to see once?
I’ve seen plenty of movies, and I’ve enjoyed plenty of movies.
But some movies, even though I’d rate them pretty high, I already know I don’t want to see them again.
But other movies, I enjoy watching them every couple years or so.
Same with books. There’s a few books I’ve read several times.
What’s the difference?
For me, at least, some stories are heavy on dramatic suspense. The story and characters draw you in, and you want to see what’s going to happen.
But once you know what’s going to happen, the enjoyment wears off on subsequent viewings.
Other movies don’t have that effect. Even though you KNOW what’s going to happen, you enjoy it anyway.
I think part of it has to do with the old Greek theory of “Catharsis.”
Meaning you get emotionally involved in the character, and vicariously solve your OWN emotions as the hero solves his or her problems.
Action packed movies don’t tend to have that.
But stories with strong character arcs do.
Because all us humans are continuously on our own character arc, we tend to “resonate” with those stories more.
We love to see the hero overcome their own inner demons, because as we watch them, we do so ourselves, if only a little bit.
This was the genius behind Milton Erickson.
He told stories, rather than simply talking about people about their problems.
He would match a story PERFECTLY with the person he was talking to.
And by following along, they would overcome their own problems.
That’s one way.
Which is great if you have access to a world famous hypnotist who solves people’s problems in one or two sessions.
But there is another way.
And that is to create your OWN hero’s journey in your mind.
Rehearse and practice mentally, overcoming those demons, and getting the prize.
Most people don’t like doing this.
They’d rather self-medicate themselves with hours and hours of brainless TV.
Not that there’s not good stuff on TV.
But when you make and watch YOUR OWN mental moves, they are necessarily going to be a PERFECT match to help you conquer your inner demons.
And believe me, we ALL have inner demons.
The whole character arc of life is to conquer inner AND outer demons. The more successful you get, the bigger the demons get.
You will NEVER face a demon you cannot destroy.
But you HAVE to face it.
With practice, it’s easy.
Mental exercise. Focus on what you want. Train your mind to expect to get it.
That way, you can more easily focus on what’s on the OTHER SIDE of that imaginary demon, that the demon itself.