No matter what you’d like to accomplish, you’ll need skills.
If you want to cook a turkey, you’ll need to understand how to operate an oven.
If you want to get a degree, there’s a lot of ideas and information you’ll need to become comfortable with.
Some skills are very specific, some are general.
Some are things that people don’t realize are skills, since we do them naturally.
Communication is an example.
Since most people know how to “talk” and how to have a conversation, it’s really not seen as a skill, more like an inherent ability.
We tend to think some people are “good” at it, while others aren’t so good.
If you met some guy or gal that was really “good” at talking to people and making them feel good about themselves, you’d just think they were “naturals.”
On the other hand, if you saw some guy on the corner playing the violin really proficiently, you’d assume that he simply spent a lot of time practicing.
Of course, ANYTHING that you do can be improved. Talking, walking, persuading, tell jokes.
But for some reason, we don’t associate “practice” with certain things.
One of these is “thinking.”
We just do it automatically. We don’t even “think” about “thinking” as something we can change. We assume it’s something that just “happens.”
But your thoughts are (or can be) under your control. It just takes practice.
After all, you “become” what you “think about” most of the time.
If you are always thinking about scary stuff, and the worst possible thing that can happen, you won’t likely be super outgoing and adventurous.
On the other hand, if are always wondering what cool things you’re about to discover, you may be more likely to try new things, which will get you a lot different results than the first person.
However, when most people try it “change” the way they think, they do it once, maybe twice.
And when it doesn’t “work” they just figure they can’t “do” that.
But what if you tried to juggle ONCE, and determined you just weren’t a juggler?
What if you sat down at the piano ONCE, and tried a song, and then determined you just can’t play the piano?
What if you decided to go jogging for the first time in your life, and could only make it half a kilometer before you got tired out, and concluded that you just weren’t a “jogger”?
Pretty silly, right?
But that’s what people do when they try and “change” their “thinking.”
They try it once, it doesn’t “work” and they figure it’s all nonsense.
But if you PRACTICE thinking “right thoughts” like you’d practice juggling, or playing the piano, or learning a new instrument, you’d slowly get better.
And in six months or so, your thoughts AND your life, would be completely different.