Category Archives: Defensive Language

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Destroy Fear Before It Exists

Way back in the day, Teddy Roosevelt had an interesting foreign policy.

“Speak softly, and carry a big stick.”

Which basically means be as nice as possible, but when somebody crosses a line, you respond as quickly and viciously as possible.

Imagine two different guys, trained as martial artists.

To one guy, it’s important everybody knows he’s a martial artist.

He always acts as tough as possible.

Then there’s another guy, who wants to project as kind a personality as he can.

Which guy do you think is more confident?

Clearly, the first guy has issues.

He is perhaps so worried about getting into a fight, in his mind, he probably feels like there are enemies around every corner.

While the second guy is so confident in his skills, he only worries if somebody is actually in his face and getting ready to punch him.

But even then he knows he can easily defend himself.

The more confident you are with your skills, the less you’ll think about using them.

This is where that stereotypical movie line comes from:

“You learn martial arts so you don’t have to get into fights.”

One of the strange paradoxes of human behavior is we tend to attract what we fear most.

People who are always worried about getting mugged walk around with closed off body language, walking while staring at the ground.

Project the EXACT body language muggers, pickpockets and purse snatchers look for.

The people least likely to fight back, give chase, or even call the cops.

Or the stereotypical guy who secretly think the world hates him.

So he walks around with a scowl on his face.

Which causes everybody to keep their distance.

His fears create his reality.

But when you plan for the worst, the opposite happens.

The more daily action you take to prepare for the worst, the more confident you’ll be able to handle it.

And the less likely it will actually happen, since you’ll be projecting more confident energy.

One of the biggest things that cause people anxiety is what to say when dealing with strangers.

Especially when it comes to asking for what we want.

We imagine all the potential responses, imagine our worst fears coming true, so we don’t ask.

Or if we do ask, we do through fearful and protective body language which virtually guarantees we get what we most fear.

But by practicing all the different ways to ask, and handle any objections, you’ll be asking with much different energy.

Very much like sales objections.

The more you practice handling them, the less likely they ever come up.

The more confident you are with your language skills, the less likely you’ll need them.

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Behold The Mighty Language

How The Ends Can Justify The Means

Ends and means are easy to confuse.

I never really quite understood the problem with “the ends justify the means.”

It’s something you talk about in high school.

It’s generally frowned up to accept that any ends is justified by any means.

But I was never one to go along with how we were “supposed” to think about things.

Our teacher would say, “suppose you have an end to get money. Does robbing a bank justify getting money? No, it does not, therefore, the end doesn’t always justify the means.”

I would always argue.

I would say that the “end” was poorly defined.

That having a well defined end is justified by any means.

In the above example, you just re-define your “end” as “legally getting money.”

Of course, I was never one for blindly obeying authority.

When you tell somebody that the ends doesn’t always justify the means, it also presupposes that there is some entity that is capable of which “means” are acceptable, and which are unacceptable.

Even in my high school days, I was arguing against authority any way I could.

My idea then, and my idea now is that if you create a well enough defined end, which precludes any immoral, unethical or otherwise negative behavior, then any means you use is perfectly fine.

And perfectly justified.

In fact, you might say our entire lives are based around satisfying our never ending “ends” with as simple and effective “means” as possible.

But people who like having any authority will sneak that authority in any way they can.

And unless you know how to linguistically stand your ground, it’s very easy to get taken advantage of.

Humans are goal setting machines.

We cannot NOT set goals.

Most of the time, these are unconscious and automatic.

Getting up to use the toilet.

Getting something to eat.

Talking to friends.

But that inner structure is always there. And it happens hundreds of times a day.

You feel a desire, and you satisfy that desire.

This is why people LOVE taking advantage of others.

They can very carefully and covertly take over your natural goal setting ability.

So you’re not getting outcomes for YOU, you’re getting them for them.

Usually this is fine.

This is the conscious and unconscious “tit for tat” that makes relationships work.

They become a problem when one person is benefiting at the expense of somebody else.

You don’t need to get defensive.

You don’t even need to be assertive.

Just learn how to ask some very simple questions.

Questions that will force them to rethink their strategy.

Very powerful.

Very subtle.

Very effective.

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Ghosts Are Everywhere

Wax On – Wax Off

A lot of things influence pop culture in unexpected ways.

Way back when Star Wars was being made, Alec Guinness (the guy who played Obi Won Kenobi) looked at the script and thought it was silly.

He said it was like Robin Hood in space or something.

I doubt anybody working on the movie thought that Darth Vader would become one of the most popular villains of all time.

Short lines from these movies also have a way of making into the common vernacular.

“Maybe the Force be with you,” from Star Wars.

“I’ll be back,” from pretty much any Arnold movie.

One movie that seemed to be pretty corny even when it came out was Karate Kid.

“Wax on, wax off,” was one of the more famous lines.

Keep doing something boring, over and over and over.

And then one day it will surprise you with its deadly effectiveness.

This is the heart of the Weaponized Hypnosis program.

A core set of writing exercises.

Just like, “wax on, wax off,” they are boring and repetitive.

And just like the kid from the Karate Kid, you won’t want to do them.

But those who DO will find them just as effective as the wax on wax off exercises in the movie.

These are linguistic exercises.

If you do them long enough, they’ll be built into your brain.

And one day something will throw a verbal “punch” at you.

A verbal punch they expect will land with considerable force.

But because you will have been doing the linguistic “wax on wax off” exercises, you’ll be able effortlessly block it.

And just like in the movie, the first couple of times you might surprise yourself.

But nearly as much as they’ll surprise your attacker.

Because he or she will have assumed you’re an easy target.

Otherwise they wouldn’t lob the insult at you.

What’s particularly insidious about verbal slams is they are done in front of others.

And they are carefully created so even if you just sit there, trying to ignore them, you’ll look weak.

If you try to defend them the WRONG way, it will be even worse.

But after doing these exercises, you won’t even need to think.

You’ll respond automatically.

And all the focus will be on your attacker.

Most of the time this will be enough to send them scurrying.

But if they keep coming at you, you can dig deeper.

And switch from defense blocks, to deadly attacks.

Attacks that will make NOBODY want to mess with you.

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