We humans use a lot of vagueness.
Both in our thinking, and our language.
We have to.
There is just TOO much stuff going on inside and outside to communicate otherwise.
There’s a movie called “The Usual Suspects.”
It’s considered a classic, or even a cult favorite.
But the MEANING of the movie is VERY vague.
So much so that when the writer and the director finished making the movie, and were ready to go on the press tour, they had a HUGE fight.
One guy had the impression that most of the movie was TRUE, (meaning the events in the movie actually happened) and only a little bit was imaginary.
On the other hand, the other guy thought most of the movie was a HALLUCINATION of one of the characters, and very little was actually true.
If you’ve seen the movie, you can get this.
You can see BOTH interpretations when you see it.
Either mostly real, or mostly a hallucination.
This is one of the problems with vague language and vague thinking.
It’s also one of our BIGGEST weak points.
Because when something is wrong, we tend to IMAGINE the worst.
That’s how we managed to survive in our very ancient and very harsh environment.
If our ancestors had always assumed the BEST, we would have died out a long time ago.
So we’re kind of stuck with that “imagine the worst” response to vague and unknown things.
Which can make us vulnerable, if somebody KNOWS how to push our buttons.
All they have to do is LOOK at us funny, and we’ll imagine all kinds of horrible things.
Even worse if they say something that’s even a little mean, but still kind of vague.
They might let out a sigh, roll their eyes and say, “I KNEW you were doing to do that.”
Even if we’ve done NOTHING, that simple and VERY VAGUE statement can make us feel horrible.
Luckily, there is a VERY POWERFUL way to defend against any kind of VAGUE statement.
So simple it will make people that toss insults quake in their boots.
It’s easy to learn, and simple to use.
And once you TEACH the world HOW to respond to you, they will