How To Reinvent Yourself
Then later, in college, it was the same thing. Only instead of wanting to impress the adults, we wanted to impress each other.
It’s been a while since I dressed up, I think last time was at this kids party. So I wanted to “scare” them without really “scaring” them.
All three of these situations, I wanted to “impress” people by my outward appearance.
Many people have discovered that you pick up and move to a different city, or even country, it’s pretty easy to “reinvent” yourself. You’ll have a chance to start fresh.
Anybody that has gone through any substance abuse recovery program of any sort knows that it’s not a good idea to hang out with the old crowd. It’s easy to slip back into your old way of doing things.
In NLP they have this idea of “Meta Programs.” These semi-permanent filters in our brains that affect how we perceive the world and our place in it.
One of these is how we reference “success” or “failure.”
On one hand, there are people who ONLY reference their internal compass. If they’re doing the right thing, it doesn’t matter what everybody else says.
On the other hand, there are people who ONLY reference those outside of them. They can’t decide to save their lives, and NEED some kind of group or other person to tell them what to do.
Clearly, most people are a mix, and we tend to change our mix slightly based on who we’re around, or if we’re around anybody.
Now, it’s not the purpose of NLP to say which is “better” or “worse.” That’s a PURELY subjective judgment, and nobody’s opinion is any more “valid” than anybody else’s.
You can, however, say what is more RESOURCEFUL.
The idea being that the more options you’ve got, the more choices you’ll have, and the easier it will be for you to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve.
If you’ve ever been to anything like a real estate or Network Marketing seminar, it’s really heavy on the EXTERNAL motivation. You get all jacked up while you’re there, but when you’re back at home a week later, you don’t really feel any different.
This is what happens when you are dependent on forces outside of yourself for validation and motivation.
On the other hand, if you’ve got an internal guidance system, a very STRONG set of beliefs about yourself, and your own motivation, you’ll succeed no matter WHERE you are.