One of our biggest human issues is an instinct mismatch.
The easiest to see is hunger.
Way back in the day, we had to hunt for food.
And hunting for food was dangerous.
So only those that were ALWAYS hungry were the most motivated to get out and hunt every day.
Or spend all day foraging.
Today, that never ending hunger instinct gets in the way.
Which is why most people (70%) are overweight.
Unfortunately, this is only ONE of the instincts that can get us into trouble.
There are plenty of others.
However, once you understand that hunger will never go away, you can learn to manage it.
It’s not easy by any means.
But through consistent effort, you CAN get into decent physical shape if that’s important to you.
Luckily, all of our other goals can be made much easier by managing all of our various instincts.
The first step is understanding what those instincts are.
Think of when you fell in love with somebody.
In the very beginning.
When you had “one-itis” for them.
You liked them, but you weren’t sure if they liked you.
In that situation, it’s very hard to NOT contact them.
But if you know anything about relationship building, contacting somebody TOO OFTEN in the early stages is the last thing you want to do.
Making yourself TOO available will kill attraction.
Fortunately, this desire to contact them is JUST LIKE our hunger instinct.
If we are OBEDIENT to our instincts, they won’t help us much.
Imagine if you ate all you could, whenever you were hungry.
If you learn about all your other instincts, and how to manage them, you can CREATE a wonderful relationship JUST LIKE you can create a healthy body.
Sure, it’s not easy and automatic.
But nothing worth doing is.
But just as sure as you can create a healthy body, you can create a healthy relationship.
All you need to do is understand the mechanics, the underlying instincts that you need to manage, and get busy.