One way to become an incredibly compelling speaker is to create something called “response potential.”
Most people, when they stories, or jokes, are in a hurry to finish.
Then when they finish, they look around, usually hoping for approval.
Sure, if they’ve got a good story, or something interesting happened, this can work.
But it’s HIGHLY content dependent.
Like if you were walking to the dry cleaners and you saw a bank robbery, you wouldn’t have to do much to be the center of attention.
“Hey, I saw a bank robbery this morning!” Would be all you needed to say. And everybody would be DYING to hear more.
Most people are always on the lookout for CONTENT. They even think that because they don’t have good CONTENT, then they can’t be a good conversationalist.
“I never have anything to talk about.”
But the GOOD NEWS is while people like content on a conscious level, we are DRAWN to structure on a subconscious level.
Meaning if you tell a story with good structure, you don’t need decent content.
What kind of structure?
Pause in the middle of sentences, where they don’t usually belong. Where people will SUBCONSCIOUSLY want to hear you “finish the thought.”
Break your stories up, get just up to the climax of one story, and start telling another one.
This is why world famous comedians can tell stories about waiting in line at the supermarket and get paid millions of dollars.
It’s not the CONTENT of their stories, it’s the STRUCTURE.
So long as your stories and anecdotes have an emotionally compelling theme, you’ll be fine.
But the BIGGEST ingredient of telling a compelling story, and holding roomfuls of people in the palm of your hand is having a strong frame.
If you have even a basic story, like when you couldn’t find your shoes this morning, but tell it in a good structure AND with a strong frame, people will think you are incredibly charismatic.
What is a strong frame? It’s the meaning you put on the interaction. Of you telling that story.
If your frame is “I hope they don’t interrupt me and I hope somebody laughs,” then you won’t do so well.
But if your frame is “This is the funniest thing in the world, and I’m going to enjoy talking about it,” then YOUR frame will override everybody else’s frame.
This takes practice. It’s not some easy mental switch you can flip and call it good.
It is a skill. And like any other skill, the more you practice, the better you’ll get.
But most people don’t even know this skill exists, let alone how to practice it.
But you do.