There are a lot of “law of attraction” type sayings that sound pretty good.
And like a lot of things, if we repeat them enough, we feel like we “know” them.
But there’s a difference between being familiar with the words (and examples) and actually discovering them on your own.
If you’ve experienced this, it presents a strange problem.
For example, many people have heard the expression, “Fake it till you make it.”
And most people can give a couple examples of why this is true.
All without ever having actually faked it until you made it.
But then something happens, and you actually have to fake something, and then you make “it” (whatever “it” is) and it hits you.
It’s true in an experiential way, whereas before it was true in an intellectual way.
But when you say it, while recalling your own true life experience, it sounds EXACTLY the same.
It’s somewhat similar (but only somewhat) to the famous Bruce Lee quote.
“Before Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a punch. During Jeet Kun Do, a punch is a careful combination of energy, focus, balance, concentration, and intention. After Jeet Kun Do, a punch is just a punch.”
It’s the same thing, but very, very different.
One of the often said truisms (much like faking it till you make it) is that you need to have belief before you have results.
Most people say this, but few people have the experience of believing something BEFORE they believe it.
It’s also easy to rewrite your beliefs so that you can pretend you believed it before you saw it, when in reality, you had your doubts.
The human brain is very clever at always making us the heroes of our own stories.
But one area where you MUST believe in what you’re creating is when you are purposely creating relationships with others.
This is when what you WANT to do is usually the direct opposite of what you SHOULD do.
But if you believe in what you are doing, and you can NOT do what most people do, you will GET what most people don’t get.
One way to make it much easier is to get an intellectual understanding of what you are doing.
Kind of like having an intellectual understanding of the physics of parachuting before jumping out of a plane.
Still pretty terrifying, but not nearly as terrifying as jumping out of a plane WITHOUT a parachute and hoping for a miracle.
The “hoping for a miracle” strategy is what most people use.
But when you understand the structure of relationships, you can create them with as much scientific precision as the air that lets you and your parachute drift gently to the ground.