Often there is a HUGE chasm between the thoughts and ideas in our heads, and the words that come out of our mouths.
One of the mainstays of a comedy is some character that says something really goofy, gets embarrassed, and then says, “That didn’t come out right…”
Just that we understand that’s funny means it’s a common human experience.
Having clear ideas in mind, but they come out as jumbled up nonsense.
Most of the time, though, we tend to overlook the main issue.
We think if we ONLY had the words, it would be easy.
But when it comes to human communication, words are just the icing on the cake.
How we express those ideas inside our heads takes a LOT MORE than just words.
And most of the time, the words themselves are not the most important part.
Meaning if you have an “understandable enough” set of words, but the underlying energy is positive, attractive and charismatic, you’re good to go.
You might even consider that the feeling of “not having the right words” to be an EFFECT rather than a cause.
Consider that the cause might be the not having the right “frame” to speak from.
As humans tend to do, we often misunderstand the relationship between cause and effect.
It’s easy to get them backward.
But here’s the cool part.
If you take the time to build up the “frame” (which contains all the positive attractive energy) the words can take care of themselves.
Even better, when you combine the right “frame” WITH the right words, you can be unstoppable.