Who Are You?
Step up to the plate, take the bull by the horns, measure twice cut once.
Even within common sentences like “fall in love,” or “work through problems” are metaphors.
The nouns “love” and “problems” don’t really exist. Sure, they exist in our minds, but you can’t pick them up and throw them out the window. They are metaphors to describe very complicated underlying phenomena.
But when we use them in sentences, our monkey brains have to use them AS IF they were regular objects.
If you know anything about NLP, you know the famous saying, “The Map Is Not The Territory.” (Which, by the way, was invented by a guy who had nothing to do with NLP…).
What does this mean? Metaphors are only an approximation. NOT the real thing.
Sometimes we start to think that the metaphor IS the thing, rather than a handy description of something that we can NEVER truly understand.
What’s the biggest metaphor of all?
Your sense of self. The idea of you. Always changing. Every few years, all the molecules, cells, etc. will be replaced. Every breath is an exchange of matter. Inorganic matter that somehow sustains life.
The YOU who is reading this sentence now is a different YOU that started reading this sentence.
Every moment you are updating your memories, rearranging your thoughts, and even shifting slightly in your posture based on millions of subconscious programs all running at once.
There’s a saying in the dating community that “Women aren’t meant to be understood, only appreciated.”
Maybe this applies to YOU as well.
Sometimes it’s necessary to understand why you do things. What made you say that thing to that person, or why you want to do something but are too nervous. Once you can figure that out, you can go back in your mind and tweak your personal history a bit. Give yourself more freedom and choice. Less fear and more courage.
Other times, though, it’s better to stop wondering. Stop asking. Stop trying to figure yourself out.
Just relax, sink deep into your thoughts, and appreciate yourself. Appreciate your energy. A connection to the source. From far back to the moment of creation, far out into the future.
That endless stream of energy in which you are now relaxing.
Take some time every day, to sit with yourself just a few minutes. Close your eyes. Feel your feelings. Feel your energy. And appreciate yourself.
Just as you are.
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