One time I went to this goofy seminar.
One of the exercises we did is a pretty popular one among goofy seminars.
They shut the lights out completely, and you aren’t allowed to talk.
You’re supposed to only use your sense of touch to “get to know” the other people.
Lots of people use it for different things.
As I learned it, it’s kind of a metaphor for how we live.
Not unlike Plato’s cave idea.
Where we don’t really see “reality.”
We only see a poor shadow.
The idea being that we are really just feeling around in the dark.
There are a lot of metaphors to describe the complexities of life.
But they all agree that life is pretty complicated.
At least modern life is.
Recently a few scientists have actually admitted that social media is bad for you.
It’s very much like junk food for your ego.
Fake approval, fake likes, fake friends, fake validation.
Just for a second, imagine the REAL version of all the fake attention you might get on social media.
Real people would walk up to you, look you in the eye, shake your hand, and say, “I like you.”
And they meant it.
Or imagine if a group of people came to your house.
Imagine they said:
“We really respect your ideas and the work you are doing. We’d like to be kept in the loop, if possible. We would very much like to follow you.”
Imagine how REAL social approval would feel, compared to how fake social approval feels.
Imagine getting ten thousand, or even a million “likes” for RE-POSTING some clever meme you found online.
Now imagine getting a standing ovation from a speech you just finished.
Imagine the looks on people’s faces when they really “get” your message.
The looks of REAL recognition and approval.
These are the REAL THINGS we crave.
For the longest time, they kept our society humming.
We ONLY got positive social recognition for things that actually HELPED OTHERS.
This is the danger of fake social recognition.
It’s junk food for your soul.
How long would you last if you only ate bowls of sugar?
This is the modern equivalent of feeding on a diet of social media.
Luckily, you can RE-CALIBRATE your social instincts.
So you only seek REAL validation for REAL benefit that you provide to others.