Most people have a lousy memory.
In fact, unless you specifically take measures to remember something, you won’t.
Which is why few people can remember names.
They say their name, you focus on it, and that’s that.
Then only a few seconds later, POOF!
“Sorry, what was your name again?”
Memory is something that SEEMS true, but is rarely the case.
Study after study shows that unless we PRE-FRAME a situation so that we want to remember something, we’ll usually be pretty fuzzy.
Even then, like sitting in a classroom, where the WHOLE PURPOSE is to remember whatever the teacher is writing on the board, we pretty much suck.
We can’t remember things even when we try!
This is good news.
Because every one of your limitations, (real or imaginary) are based on things that happened to you IN THE PAST.
And unless you’re one of those crazy Rainman-people who can memorize everything PERFECTLY, those memories are FALSE.
Meaning all of your fears, phobias, anxieties are based on false memories.
Of course, knowing this doesn’t help.
Just like jumping out of an airplane with a parachute is still scary as crap. Even though you KNOW that the probability of success is 99.999%.
However, knowing that those memories are false can give you an edge.
Meaning you can go back into your brain, and go back in time, and RE-WRITE those memories.
Sure, it does take time. It’s not like switching off a magic “fear” switch in your head.
Remembering what you WANT to remember, rather than what your monkey brain is FORCING you to remember, will take consistent effort.
But think of all the other things you’ve learned in life through consistent effort.
All your skills, abilities, knowledge. That didn’t come easy!
So, how do you do that? Rewrite your memory?
Daily journaling is helpful. Especially when you are starting from a real event in present time.
Say you wanted to talk to somebody, but lost your nerve.
Start there. Rewrite the situation as if it happened the way you WANTED it to.
Then take some time to REMEMBER THAT. As if it really happened.
After all, if you’re head is going to be filled up with false memories, they may as well be ones that help you, right?
What would you like to be able to do? What would you like to be able to accomplish?
Think of the steps required to do that.
Think of those steps as if they were as easy as making a piece of toast.
That’s what’s possible when you take control of your thinking.