Get In The Game
In order to get that, you’ve got to meet a lot of people. If you’re a normal guy, meeting a lot of people with this end in mind is pretty fun.
That’s if you can get past this common roadblock.
This one insidious obstacle that’s been going around A LOT these days. This is not something you can see, and it exists only inside your brain.
But once you get stuck in this trap, it’s VERY hard to get out. The best way to avoid this brick wall is to run in the other direction when you start to suspect it’s presence.
What mysterious entity to I refer to?
It usually goes like this. A guy sees a girl. He wants to go over, talk to her, get to know her, maybe exchange numbers so they can get together later. But it doesn’t happen that way.
He either doesn’t go over, but he goes over which such a lame attempt he falls on his face.
And instead of chalking it up to his lack of skills, he does one thing that humans have been doing since the dawn of time.
He avoids responsibility.
This usually ends up with a bunch of dudes talking about the deep philosophical meaning behind the current state of the dating game.
Otherwise they’d have to admit they suck. Because it really sucks to openly admit that you suck. Not in a kidding, self-deprecating way, but in an honest, “Wow, I’m not nearly as great as I thought I was” way.
This is a HARD pill to swallow for ANY human.
It’s MUCH EASIER on the ego to blame the world. Now, if you’re throwing a rock at a moving target, like a zebra, for example, it actually does make sense to blame the zebra. This makes you angry, which gives you more energy to keep throwing rocks until you’ve got something to eat.
But since we live in a modern world, things are MUCH more complicated.
Which means any excuse we come up with (especially if all we’re doing is sitting there complaining) is going to be pretty vague.
And when you’ve got a bunch of whiny guys coming up with vague excuses for why they can’t get laid, what does it sound like?
Philosophy makes people sound smart. Philosophy makes it sound like people have some deep insight into the world. Philosophy gives people the illusion they are superior to other knuckle-dragging mouth-breathers.
But two things philosophy WON’T get you is laid or paid.
Unless, of course, you’re selling circularly logical tomes on the deep philosophies of the world.
So whenever you hear yourself start talking about the “sexual market,” or “social pressure,” or any other ego protecting nonsense. Stop. Get up, and go talk to some girl. See what happens. If it doesn’t work out, go talk to somebody else.
And keep doing that until you’ve got somebody you like, that also likes you.