Some of the best techniques have been around for a while.
A long, long while. Thousands of years.
Reason being, of course, is that they work. Especially anything that has anything to do with other people.
Because people are the same as they were thousands of years ago, it makes sense that the same “people strategies” have been used over and over.
Sure, somebody might come along and give things new and fancy names, but the strategies and structures are still intact.
Not only do the same structures work, but the same obstacles exist.
People are afraid of rejection today just like they were thousands of years ago.
People are terrified of being “left behind” just like they were thousands of years ago.
Being recognized for your accomplishments by your peers feels pretty good, as it did thousands of years ago.
One of the simplest means of influence is that you can get anybody to do anything, so long as they are doing it for THEIR reasons.
However, there is an unexpected problem that pops up when you learn to do this.
And that is your ego won’t like it.
All of us CRAVE recognition. Validation. To be noticed for our genius ideas.
So when we carefully construct a message to influence others, and they take our advice, it’s as if they thought up the idea on their own.
This is GREAT, until you realize something.
They won’t look at you and say, “Wow, that’s a fantastic idea! Thanks for suggesting it!”
You’ll just be talking to them, they’ll start nodding, and THEY’LL get the idea as if THEY thought of it.
In fact, they might not even remember the specific “content” of the conversation.
They’ll just remember talking to you, and then getting this AWESOME idea.
That it was your idea all along won’t even register.
Now, some people don’t have a problem with this. They LIKE the idea of being a covert persuader, helping people make decisions that they feel really good about.
But others tend to feel a little underwhelmed. After all, it feels good when somebody genuinely thanks you for something you did.
But if you CAN get over that pesky desire of your ego, you can create magic.
Talk to people in the right way, get them thinking of a big, bright future, you’re on your way.
What would YOU like people to do?