I used to work in this huge lab.
We had all kinds of expensive equipment used for measuring all kinds of stuff.
Each one had to be calibrated.
Some every day, some once a year.
There was another lab, (with one guy) and his only job was to make sure the calibration of all the stuff (in my lab and in the other labs) was all up to date.
We made stuff that was regulated by the FDA, and they’d pop in unannounced every once in a while and check.
How do you calibrate something?
Compare it to a standard.
For example, one of the units of measure for pressure is millimeters of mercury.
A glass column filled with liquid mercury will exert a certain pressure relative to the height.
So you increase the actual column height of the actual mercury, and then compare that to how the electronic pressure gauge is reading.
You can calibrate people the same way.
This is one of those exercises people do in NLP seminars.
Ask a person two questions, and get them to tell the truth on one, and lie on the other.
The idea is you relax your mind, defocus your eyes, you can read the difference their energy between lying and telling the truth.
If you do a few times by calibrating (knowing when they are lying so you can accurately measure they’re “lying energy”), then you can have fun.
It’s a lot easier than people think.
The thing about us humans is we’ve been around a long time, and been effectively communicating with one another LONG BEFORE spoken language was invented.
But if ALL you focus on is spoken language, you’ll mist over NINETY PERCENT of people’s true message.
Think about the difference between really GOOD actors and really TERRIBLE actors.
Both are given the words to say. Both are told HOW to say those words.
But some are really good, (and are worth millions) and some are not so good.
What’s the difference?
Inner congruence. We believe the million dollar actors.
The straight to streaming actors, not so much.
How do you develop that inner congruence?
By accepting and appreciating ALL your energy.
Few people ever consider this.
Most folks only know they have good stuff, and bad stuff.
They chase the good stuff, and ignore anything that causes discomfort, anxiety, or fear.
But if you appreciate ALL your energy, and learn to express it through all of your communication, there is magic.