Here’s a quick and easy exercise that will help you maintain a strong frame.
Holding a frame is a skill like any other skill.
However, the way people talk about it, it can sound like there some “technique,” like how do I make a cherry cheesecake.
Once you’ve got the recipe down for a cherry cheesecake, it’s pretty easy.
But something like holding a frame, a skill, takes a lot of practice.
Like hitting a curveball or being able to juggle.
These aren’t impossible things, but you wouldn’t be able to learn them by reading a “how to” guide.
So, how do you practice holding a frame?
Simple. Choose a frame, and hold it!
Just like juggling, or hitting a curveball, the more you do it, the easier it gets.
But unless you are VERY specific and consistent, your “frame” that you are “holding” will be all over the place, which means you won’t exactly be practicing “holding” a frame. You’ll be practicing watching your frame be yanked all over the place!
What is a frame? It’s the meaning of an interaction, or a situation.
So, you can practice by going through similar situations, and HOLDING the same intention.
Like every time you walk into a store, you can set the “meaning” of that situation as you buying what you want.
Sounds simple. Sounds obvious.
But if you’ve EVER walked into a store to buy something, and had your thoughts PULLED AWAY by something you DIDN’T plan, then you lost the frame.
Maybe you saw something you wanted instead.
Maybe you saw a cute guy or girl, and tried to think of something to say.
These are all EXAMPLES of the situation REFRAMING you.
So, how can you PRACTICE holding the frame?
Before you go into the store, choose what your intention is. Buying a sandwich. Buying a case of beer. Whatever.
When you are IN the store, for the entire time, DO NOT THINK OF ANYTHING ELSE.
Do not look at other stuff. Do not wander around. Do not smile at cute girls.
ONLY keep your mind focused on what you are there for. Get in, buy the thing, and get out.
Let NO OTHER THOUGHTS come into your mind.
This may seem simple. This may seem goofy. This may seem like something that you “already know.”
But when you can hold ANY FRAME YOU CHOOSE, regardless of what other people say or do, or whatever “happens,” you will be able to rule the world.
Who rules the world?
The dude with the strongest frame. Not the smartest guy. Not the richest guy. The guy who can HOLD HIS INTENTION regardless of what happens.
OK, maybe you don’t want to rule the world.
Maybe you just want to make a ton of cash, and build some AWESOME relationships.
The stronger your ability to SET and HOLD any frame, the easier that will be.