One time I went to a Vietnamese restaurant with a Vietnamese friend of mine.
We were both looking over the menu, and we had both decided on the same thing.
It was in Vietnamese, so he had to explain everything to me.
He ordered, and then I ordered.
The waitress looked at me, deadpan, and said, “copycat.”
My friend thought it was the funniest thing.
We kept going back to that restaurant because the food was delicious.
But he always referred to it as the “copycat” place.
Humans are, after all, primates.
And the expression, “Monkey see, monkey do,” is pretty applicable to us humans.
Once in high school my neighbor and I were discussing how much people were “sheep.”
They teacher had done teaching, we’d all finished out in-class assignment, and we were all just sitting around waiting for the bell to ring.
Like animals in a cage waiting for instructions at the zoo or something.
My buddy and I decided to be “rebels.” To stand up and leave a minute before the bell rang.
We felt like we were doing some kind of heroic act of disobedience or something. (high school idiots lol!)
But when we stood up in defiance, everybody copied us. Like it was no big deal.
As we shuffled out, the teacher looked at the clock, confused.
Bottom line is that humans copy each other MUCH MORE than we realize, or would like to admit.
But here’s a way that EVERYBODY is copying YOU that maybe you haven’t thought of yet.
How you see yourself.
If you think you’re an idiot, guess what?
You’ll act like an idiot, and everybody will COPY your own JUDGMENT of yourself.
If you REALLY THINK you’re an awesome person with a lot to offer, people will copy THAT judgment about yourself as well.
Most people think get it backwards.
They think OTHERS judge us FIRST, and then we RESPOND to that.
But that is impossible.
How can they possible judge you just by looking at you?
They need help. Hints. Clues. Evidence.
Where do they get that from?
Your own opinion of yourself.
Change THAT, and you’ll change everything else.
Naturally, this isn’t as easy as changing your shirt or your shoes.
There IS a pretty tight feedback loop.
You, them, you, them etc.
But once you get started, and KEEP WORKING ON YOURSELF, you’ll slowly tip that feedback loop in the other direction.
You’ll think genuinely positive things about yourself. That will change your behavior. That will change how others perceive you. Which will AMPLIFY your own positive opinion about yourself.
When you get into THAT rhythm, (and KEEP it going) life is pretty good.