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What Do You See When You Look “Out There”?

Master Your Own Brain

Master Your Brain

Your brain is an amazing tool, much more than most people realize.

It’s lighting quick, and can hold limitless amounts of information.

As much as people are hyping up science and computers and artificial intelligence, nothing comes close to the computational power between your ears.

One thing that makes it so incredible is its amazing efficiency.

It knows when to conserve resources, and when to go “all in.”

For example, scientists tell us that much of what we “see” out there is really generated “in here.”

Meaning our brain does a quick check of our environment, notices it’s pretty similar to things its seen before, and then calls up it’s “brain cache” or its pre-recorded information.

For example, once I was driving down the freeway, and saw a pickup truck a hundred meters or so ahead. There was a dog in the back.

Then, when I got right up next to it, I looked over, expecting to see a dog, but instead saw a pig. (He was looking right at me with a “what are you looking at” expression).

I almost drove off the road!

What happened was my brain saw a pickup truck with a four legged animal in the back. It decided the accuracy of the situation wasn’t crucial, so it looked in the back of my brain for all my memories of four legged animals in the back of pickup trucks, and came back with a bunch of dogs.

So I saw a dog.

Only it wasn’t a dog, it was a pig.

Now, had the situation been important, and I was actively looking for something (like I needed to find a pig to keep a bomb from destroying the Earth or something) I would have seen the pig straight away.

On the other hand, had I been nearly eaten to death by a gang of hungry pigs as a child, I DEFINITELY would have seen the pig. Not only that, but I would have gotten a HUGE negative emotion because of it that told me to stay the heck away from pigs!

So what we “see” out in the world is HUGELY dependent on what we’ve ALREADY got stored in our brains.

We can see things, events, situations, people, you name it. And depending on how we interacted with those same things before, we can get positive, neutral or negative feelings.

Most people think that once those memories are there, you can’t change them.

Like if you get nervous when talking to attractive people, you may think you’ll simply ALWAYS be nervous talking to attractive people.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

All you’ve got to do is change how you access your memories.

Notice what filters your brain is putting up between you, and the world.

And change them.

Learn how:

Belief Change

Why You Should Be A Qualifier Of Women

Have A List And Stick To It

Make Her Pass Your Tests

When a guy is checking out a girl, he’s making a LOT of assumptions about her.

Plenty of guys only need a picture of a girl to literally fall in love with her.

Now, think about what’s going on for this to happen. They’re basically assuming all kinds of things about her personality, her likes, dislikes, beliefs, etc.

All from her pretty face and smoking body. All of which are highly made up to accentuate the “good” parts, and minimize or hide the “bad” parts.

If you’ve ever had the “let down” experience of seeing a favorite actor or actress in an interview, or give a speech during an awards ceremony, this is why.

We see them up on the screen, and imagine their characters (whose words are written by others and actions dictated by others) and actually think that’s really them, on some level.

Then when they’re in an interview, and sound nervous, super shy, or just plain dumb, it’s kind of a let down.

That’s what will happen when you walk over to that girl, imagining that she’s a super perfect princess.

And from her standpoint, it seems really creepy.

Think about it this way. Imagine some guy grabbed you off the street, and told you he had a job at a big company, and he KNEW you were perfect for the job.

He didn’t want to know your skills, your background, your education. He just told you he’d pay you alot, and he KNEW you’d be a PERFECT MATCH for the company.

On top of that, he seemed to be totally desperate to hire you.

Would you take the job? Unless you were one meal away from dying of starvation, probably not.

After all, what kind of job and what kind of company doesn’t care about your skills?

To even further expand this mind experiment, imagine that you’d just spend four years in school, working on a degree you thought was really important.

And this crazy hiring guy didn’t seem to care.

How would THAT make you feel?

This is precisely how girls feel when you walk up making all kinds of assumptions about her based ONLY on her looks.

Sure, a girl needs to look good. There’s no reason to interact (if you’re looking for a relationship of some sort) unless you’re physically attracted.

But don’t let that be your only reason.

You need to talk to her. Find out what she’s like. Figure you need at least FIVE things that must be true about any girl you date.

And only ONE of them can be her looks.

What would the other four be?

If you don’t have a list, you should have one. A good solid list of things about her that need to be true.

Then when you see a cutie, you KNOW she’s only 1/5 of the way there. The rest you need to find out via regular, old fashioned conversation.

This will not only make her easier to talk to, but YOU will be much more attractive.

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Why Thinking Makes It So

The Power Of Positive Beliefs

You’ll See It When You Believe It

A long time ago I used to go rock climbing with a few buddies.

All the different routes are rated on difficulty, and since all of us were at different levels, we had to pick a route that everybody could do.

Which meant the guy that was the least skilled controlled our choices.

That guy, by the way, was me.

But once I was climbing with this one guy, who really wanted to go up this really tough route.

It was a few levels above what I was capable of.

So he just fudged the numbers a little bit.

The way he presented it to me, was it was one more quick route that would only take an hour or so, before we drove home. It was “easy” and it would be a good one to end on.

When we were done, he told me that it was a couple levels higher than anything I’d ever done before.

But while I was climbing, I thought it was easy, so it was easy. I didn’t slip, didn’t miss any holds, I basically just walked right up. Like climbing a ladder.

Had he told me how hard it REALLY was, I would have been terrified.

The truth is that many things are like this, only the opposite.

We make things seem much harder, in our heads, than they really are.

And that, of course, makes them harder for real.

But what if could reverse the process?

What if we could look out into the world, look at something that USED to be hard, and simply convince yourself that it’s easy?

What would you be able to do?

If you could make anything easy, simply be changing what you believe about it.

How much more could you accomplish?

How much more could you get?

The good news is that there ARE proven techniques that will teach you this.

Allowing YOU to decide if something is hard or easy.

To learn how, check this out:

Belief

How To Slowly Build Your Own Harem

How To Get Tons Of Girls - No Colored Feathers Required

How To Surround Yourself With Gorgeous Girls

If you want to get a girl to notice you, it’s pretty easy.

Now some guys will go to great lengths to make this happen.

They’ll spend hours a week in the gym. Deprive themselves of their favorite foods so they can get that six pack that allegedly attracts women in droves.

They’ll drop half their paycheck on clothes to hopefully get one or two ladies to turn their heads when they walk in the place.

Some will even wear big goofy hats that you can’t help but notice.

Of course, if you’re a peacock, this works pretty well. But in the world of peacocks the dude just shows up with all the other dudes, and the ladies pick the guy with the brightest feathers.

If this is the way it worked for humans, all those billboards and magazine ads you see wouldn’t be for women’s clothes, they’d be for men’s clothes.

And men would be the ones paying twice as much for dry cleaning, and worrying about what shoes to go with what outfit. 

Luckily, we’re not peacocks. We can do more than change our appearance, and then sit on the bar stool hoping we get noticed.

So, what’s the secret?

Well, you already know this, so it’s not much of a secret.

Walk over there and talk to her!

See, as much as guys pound their chests about how they’re super hero alphas who slay the ladies at every turn, most guys are TERRIFIED of talking to girls. Especially girls they are interested in.

Sure, they do a good job of covering this up, even to themselves.

Some guys even choose entire CAREERS based on the women they think it will get them.

But if you can talk a good game, NONE of that other stuff matters.

And what’s the best way to get good at talking to girls?

Well, this isn’t a trick question. 

Talk to more girls!

Here’s a mind experiment. Really think about this one.

What if you made a commitment right here, right now, to NEVER try and “pick up” a girl.

You NEVER asked for a phone number. You NEVER made any kind of suggestions about getting together.

From now on, no matter what, all you wanted to do was talk to girls and enjoy the conversation, ANY WAY you could.

Now think about this for a minute.

If you were really serious, and decided to NEVER close a girl in any way shape or form, what would happen?

Well, you’d talk to a lot more girls since there would be no pressure, only fun.

Which means you’d get more relaxed.

Which means you’d enjoy their company, and they yours.

And your subconsciously driven, natural feedback loop would kick in. Just like a little kid learns to walk based on natural feedback, your ability to make her laugh, smile and feel good would naturally and consistently improve.

And pretty soon, girls would start closing you. Remember, the ONLY RULE of this “mind experiment” is that you can’t close them. If they close you, and you’re into her, then let her have you.

What would your life be like in six months?

All the girls in your life would be TOTALLY INTO YOU.

You’d never worry about flakes, never worry about how long to wait until she called you back etc.

All the nonsense would take care of itself.

Now ask yourself this honest question:

How much action have you gotten in the last six months?

Would you be willing to do this experiment for the next six months?

Try and see what happens.

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Three Secrets of Unlimited Charisma

Unleash Your Mental Magnetism

Project Your Best Image

One very valuable trait you can have is to make people feel comfortable and open around you.

For some folks, this is pretty easy and natural. For them, they just show up, act normal, and people naturally flock to them.

Luckily, this isn’t something that’s programmed into our DNA. Which means if we don’t have “it,” we can easily develop it.

Just like how some people suck at cooking, sports, or music. With some practice, you can get pretty good.

So, what’s required to get that magnetic presence that will open so many doors?

First, you’ve got to be able to accept and appreciate other people. Get rid of any idea that you need to tell people how they should behave or think. 

Leave that to the egomaniac control freaks.

Next, you’ve got to accept and appreciate yourself. This sounds simple, but it’s more complicated than we may think.

A lot of us think we need to change ourselves somehow, before we can really get out there, but this is just a self-con to keep us safe on the sidelines.

The truth is that people respond to your interpretation of you, rather than you.

Since they have no idea of your ideas, feelings, beliefs, emotions, they have to follow your lead.

If you think you are inadequate somehow, so will they. But if you truly believe you are perfect just the way you are, so will they.

The final piece of the puzzle is to have some purpose for your life. Something you are creating. Something you are building.

Again, what this is is completely up to you. But if YOU think it’s important, so will they.

There’s something about someone that has all of these qualities.

They accept people, rather than judge them, so it feels good to be around them.

They accept themselves without needing constant validation and approval from others, so it feels good to be around them.

They know where they are going in life, which gives off that “natural leader” vibe, that so many of us crave not in ourselves, but in others.

Like I said, some people naturally have all three. But if you don’t, no problem.

Because once you get them, it will be just as good.

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Frame Control

Find The Girl Of Your Dreams

How To Create The Perfect Relationship

Are High Quality Women A Myth?

Most guys think they need to become a shopping list to get girls.

They think they need a certain level of income, a certain amount of body fat, a certain type of clothing before a girl gives them the time of day.

Then once they get all these things, they wonder why the princesses don’t suddenly fall into their lap.

Most girls, when asked about their “perfect husband” will give you a list of things they THINK are important to them.

Pretty much anybody is asked about such an important thing as a life partner, they tell you what they think they should say, rather than what really floats their boat.

Does this mean that people are horrible liars? Not at all.

It’s just that most times, we don’t really KNOW what floats our boat. Sure, we RESPOND to it when it comes around, but unless we’re ultra honest with ourselves (which is pretty impossible, btw), we’re usually blinded when it happens.

That’s why girls tend to fall in love with guys that they “didn’t think were my type” all the time.

It’s kind of like the difference between shopping for food when you’re hungry, vs. when you’re full.

When you’re full, you buy all the crap you THINK you should want. Usually healthy stuff.

When when you’re hungry, you buy stuff you REALLY want. Usually not so healthy.

This isn’t to say that what drives attraction is or isn’t healthy, it’s just an illustration to see the difference between what we want, and what we think we want.

So if you pay too much attention to conventional wisdom about what girls want (decent income, nice clothes, sense of humor, likes changing diapers, etc) you are going to be in for a HORRIBLE shock.

What do I mean?

She sees you coming along, with your personality based on her “consciously chosen things.” Then because you fit the bill, she goes with you because on paper, you LOOK like a good “catch.”

She might even get excited about showing her friends and family her good catch.

But her emotions won’t get fired up. Not even close.

Which means once she feels she’s got you on the hook, you’ll be nothing more than an ATM to her.

A provider, not a lover.

So forget about what girls TELL you what they want. Forget about convention wisdom.

Trigger those deep desires that make her chase the man of her dreams DESPITE what her friends and family might say.

When she thinks about you, she shouldn’t think of you as some “checkmark” in her box if things to do in life.

She shouldn’t be able to get her mind off you. Her heart should race when her phone vibrates. She should be nervous as hell when getting dressed to meet you.

How do you create THOSE feelings?

Your language. Your confidence. Your energy. How you talk to her, and then pull back. How you demonstrate that you like her, but you don’t need her. How you build your life with or without her.

Learn to test for REAL attraction. Unconscious attraction. Deep and ancient desire.

The kind that makes it OBVIOIUS she can’t live without you. The girls that DON’T display this level of desire? Not worth your time. Unless you’re content to be a trophy on her mantel.

However, don’t expect these girls to come to you. You’ve got to meet them, create, build and sustain attraction. Real attraction.

Will it be easy? No. 

But once you get a girl like that, she’ll be yours for life.

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How To Make Your Frame Irresistibly Attractive

Get Them Feeling At Home Under Your Roof

Get People To Feel At Home In Your Presence

I watched an old episode of “Criminal Minds” last night on Netflix.

This one mastermind criminal was in an interrogation with one of the mastermind FBI agents.

Since they didn’t have any evidence, they had to get the guy to confess.

It was a great study in “frame wars,” at least how they’re imagined by Hollywood writers.

Each guy was basically having a separate conversation. The criminal was talking about how quickly his case was going to dissolve, and the FBI guy was talking about how horrible the crimes were.

Each guy would completely ignore what the other guy said, and continue on with his own conversation.

This illustrated a crucial element of Frame Control. Never “bite” on the content of your opponent.

The easiest way to maintain a frame is to simply “out frame.”

But in that TV show, each guy was trying to “out frame” in a different direction, since they had two completely opposite intentions.

A true “Frame Master” will not only out-frame, but out frame in to a frame that still respects and validates the frame of the other person. 

You just go bigger, but bigger in a way to include, not alienate, the other person.

People will be much more likely to voluntarily enter into your frame if they can keep their own.

Kind of like working at a desk that doesn’t belong to you, at a company where plenty of other people work.

Bosses have known for centuries that if they let workers “personalize” their workspace, they’ll be much more productive.

If you’ve got pictures of your friends, family, etc., you’ve effectively created your own frame within the larger frame of the company.

And so long as the company keeps paying you, and you have pretty good leeway with how you can decorate and “make home” your workspace, you’ll likely be a very loyal employee.

This is EXACTLY the best way to “out frame.”

The more people you learn how to do this with, and the more natural it becomes, the more people you’ll have that are literally BEGGING to enter into your frame.

This is one of the PRIMARY reasons some companies are FANTASTIC to work for, while others, not so much.

If you want to create a fantastic frame into which many people would love to come inside, check this out:

Three Rules For Creating Attraction

Step By Step Rules To Attraction

How To Create Female Interest

Most guys think too much when thinking about girls.

There’s a lot going on to be sure, but if you over think anything, you can get yourself into trouble.

What very common mistake is to assume that attraction happens on a conscious level.

We’ve all heard that “attraction isn’t a choice” over and over, but many guys still behave like it is.

What do I mean?

They do something, and expect a girl to give them something back. Like doing a business deal, or even buying something at the store.

They buy her a drink, and think she “should” do something, like at least talk to them.

They bring her flowers, and think she “should” let him kiss her.

They have a decent income, and think that girls “should” be attracted to them.

But girls NEVER do anything attraction based because they WANT to, or they CHOOSE to.

Any kind of attraction based behavior is subconscious.

This is hard for guys to understand, because we see girls and we AUTOMATICALLY become attracted to them in a few seconds. If she’s put together, is cute, and is dressed nice, it doesn’t take long.

Girls, on the other hand, take a while to “feel attraction” for a buy.

But just because it takes a while, doesn’t mean it’s a conscious process. It is STILL just as unconscious as a guy’s attraction for a girl.

Which means no matter WHAT you do, she’s NOT going to think, “Hmm, he did this so I should start to like him, and give him some of my feminine energy.”

Nope. Ain’t gonna happen.

No matter WHAT you do, it HAS to be an unconscious response.

If she doesn’t give you any signs of attraction, SHE’S NOT ATTRACTED.

How do you create attraction?

Luckily, there ARE some basic “rules” for guys to create attraction in girls, just like most guys tend to agree what sexually attractive girls look like.

But make no mistake, just like guys have different types, so do girls.

So the first rule is to BE THE SAME throughout your entire interaction.

If you do something that gets her attracted to you, and then change your behavior, she’ll lose that feeling.

The second rule is to take your time. Let her respond to you. 

The third rule is to be able to MEASURE her attraction. Girls may feel really attracted to you, but consciously hold back, for whatever reason.

How can you tell?

Her pupils, how she responds when you touch her, how she responds when you lean into her personal space, if you ask her to come with you (across the room) and she follows right away.

If you’re waiting for her to TELL YOU she’s attracted, you’ll be waiting a long time.

But if you learn to SEE the “symptoms” of attraction, you’ll be surprised.

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Are You Waiting For A Hidden Secret?

Secrets Of Life

Automatic Success Strategy

Many things are simple, but not easy.

Meaning they are simple in concept, but not so easy to do.

Take weight loss for example. Eat less, and exercise more, right?

But doing that is next to impossible when we’re surrounded by so much food.

This is an example where NOT doing something is pretty hard.

On the other hand, take something like sales. All you’ve got to do is call enough people, and you’ll be rich. 

Or, if you want a gorgeous partner, all you’ve got to do is talk to enough people, and you’ll find them.

Simple in concept, difficult in practice.

Now, most people can’t even  admit this to themselves. They imagine there’s some kind of super secret technique that’s being kept from them, through some kind of hidden conspiracy.

All they need is to find out the magic “formula” and money will fall from the sky and gorgeous people will surround them and beg for their attention.

Us humans will do anything to avoid pain, including making up stories that keep us on the sidelines.

But the quickest, and most effective way to get anything is to simply get in the mix and try something. Anything.

If it works, do more of it. If it doesn’t work, do something different.

Of course, it can help if you’ve had AWESOME parents who took it upon themselves to make sure you believed that you could learn anything, do anything and overcome obstacles.

Unfortunately, most of our parents were “winging it,” simply doing the best they could to keep you from running out in the street.

This tends to have the OPPOSITE effect of building in that “can do” belief of bolding going out into the world and trying new things.

After being told by parents and teachers “no” a billion times, we tend to be a bit gun shy.

Which is why it seems to hard to do things we know we “should” be doing to get what we want, but have some kind of ready made “excuse.” 

What if you could go back and change your history? What if you could reference much more supportive experiences when you looked out into the world?

What if anytime you felt like taking some kind of action, instead of hearing those “no’s” all you heard was a voice of your choosing, saying something like, “You got this!”

What would you be able to do?

What would you be able to accomplish?

In the Frame Control course, that’s one of the things you’ll get.

A method to reprogram your “referencing system” so you’ll feel compelled to take action, instead of however you feel now.

To learn more, check this out:

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How To Eliminate Rejection From Girls

Back Off Man, I'm A Scientist!

Never Face Rejection Again

The human brain is a pretty amazing tool.

One that’s not even close to being understood yet. 

It’s very fast, which is great for survival. But it’s not so accurate. In a sense, it’s a lot like your web browser.

When you visit a familiar site, instead of loading up all the stuff fresh, it references your browser’s cache.

This makes it load much quicker than if you had to download everything every single time.

Web servers do this as well. If the page is static, they serve up a cached copy, as it’s much quicker.

This is how the brain operates in both familiar and unfamiliar surroundings.

A long, long time ago, maybe there were people that needed to stare at something for a long time, and let the information soak in long enough to figure out what was what.

But they all got eaten by dinosaurs. Which means the only people that are left are us goofs who don’t reference reality any more than your web browser downloads every  piece of data every time you visit the same web site.

Science has measured this. They know which areas of the brain are responsible for imaginary stuff, and which part is responsible for reality stuff.

Most of the time, it’s a mix of two.

Why is this important?

Well, consider this next time you’re out checking out the ladies. One of the reasons guys get so nervous is they see some super hot girl, and make all kinds of assumptions about her.

And because are much more attracted to women based on looks, this puts us at a disadvantage.

We walk over there, already having decided that she passes all of our criteria. Only she knows nothing about us.

So we feel like we’re walking over there with her having all the power. The power to accept us, or the power to reject us.

This, of course, causes all kinds of anxiety.

But when you remember that what you’re seeing is literally an illusion, it makes it easier.

Now, this is something you’ll have to consciously remember, and practice. There’s NO magic thought that you only need to think once that will get rid of your fears.

It’s something you need to train in. Just like a mental version of Karate Kid.

But this is a good way to practice.

When you see her, don’t let your caveman get away with assuming all kinds of crap. Go over there NOT to hopefully get accepted, but to find out if she IS as hot as you think she is.

All girls have flaws. Just like all guys have flaws.

See your first approach to get a better picture of her. Withhold judgment of her, until you talk to her.

If you approach with this mindset, you’ll never get rejected.

Because you’re not trying to get accepted.

You’re just getting more information.

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