Sometimes Less Is More
Meaning that unless there were guys teaching other guys how to talk to girls, date girls and hopefully get laid with girls, then it would otherwise never happen.
Now, there’s a few things wrong with this theory. To be sure, it does indeed help to know a little bit of what to say. And it helps A LOT to have a group of guys who have been there to share your experiences with, so you can do better next time.
But often times, when guys talk about “game” they are talking way beyond the basics of mutual male support.
Firstly, lets consider guys a hundred years ago. Obviously, they got laid, as there are many more people here than now than there were then. And they generally stayed in long lasting relationships, as the divorce rates back then were much lower than they are now.
And many guys will point to this as the very reason we need game. Girls are so low quality these days, they’ll say, that guys need some kind of super ninja tactics.
But that may be making the problem worse.
Now, let’s define the problem as not being able to meet quality girls for quality relationships.
How does game help this? Generally speaking, any kind game is only a short term strategy. It’s very, very hard to employ any kind of social technology over the long term.
Even politicians know this. That’s why they are always super vague when they speak. They know that if they are specific on any particular issue, they’ll likely contradict themselves later on.
So if you’re using any kind of technology to get girls interested in you, it’s definitely going to work in the short term.
But short term flings are made from much different ingredients than long term relationships.
Short term flings are based on short term interests. They necessarily overlook elements of compatibility and mutually shared experiences.
On the other hand, long term relationships are based on mutual physical interest, but only as an opening ingredient.
For any person to commit to another person, think of what’s involved. A lot of time, money, energy, and most importantly, opportunity cost.
For every hour you’re expecting that other person to spend with you, they CAN’T spend it doing anything else.
So you’re basically asking them to decide that the time they spend with you is the very BEST choice they can make.
Now, think about this. For anybody to spend time with somebody, at expense of all else, they’d better be getting their needs met. They better be with somebody that shares a lot of their interests. They better be with somebody that is got the same basic world views and life plans.
Otherwise, you’re asking for somebody without any world views, without any life plans, and without any idea of what they want. Somebody that will voluntarily chuck everything just to be with you.
Sure, game works in the short term. But it may be keeping you from finding that special lady that will only show her true self to you over a natural course of time. Without the social manipulation of any kind of game.
Something to consider.
