Monthly Archives: April 2015

Do Seduction Tricks Really Work?

Beware of Romantic Shortcuts

Beware Of Shortcuts To The Heart

Most guys would love some kind of “shortcut” to a woman’s heart.

Just take a look at some of the headlines of popular seduction products and you’ll see what I mean.

“One weird trick that will make her love you.”

“The three texts to turn her on.”

“How to get your ex back with this one weird trick.”

“The three steps to her bedroom.”

And on and one.

Can it really be this simple? Well, it CAN. But not really. If all you’re after is some physical fun, then these might work. But unless you’re some ultra jaded poon hound, that’s going to cause trouble. 

Why?

Most guys can’t just pump-n-dump, as much as we like to brag like that on the Internet. Emotions have a crazy way of getting involved once we’re intimate with a woman. When it comes to love, sex, and romance, love to slide down that slippery slope. 

Meaning at first it may be just physical. In fact, you may even have a conscious, rational, adult conversation that it’s going to ONLY be physical. But chances are, somebody’s going to develop feelings for somebody. Mother Nature ain’t stupid.

Sure, some primates spend their entire lives banging as many of each other as they can.

But not the human primate. We are hard wired to form long term pair bonds. And when we’re hard wired to do something, our rational plans don’t usually stand a chance.

So if you think you’re only going after a little fun, think again. As Quarterbacks are fond of saying, every time you throw a pass, three things can happen, and two of them are bad.

Same with hooking up. Three things can happen. You both bang each other silly and then go your separate ways. Or you develop feelings and she goes her separate way. Or she develops feelings and you go your separate way. 

Before you even walk up to her, ask yourself, “What do I want?”

If you are absolutely sure you ONLY want to get laid, make sure you project that energy.

Make sure she knows you’re a player.

On the other hand, if you’re looking for an honest relationship, then maybe you should ditch all those “weird tricks” and “three steps” or whatever.

Just talk to her like you confident, relaxed self. Don’t be fake nice, and don’t be fake alpha.

Just talk to her, be in the moment, and see what happens.

You might be VERY surprised!

Prove Them Wrong

Forge Your Own Path

Forge Your Own Path

Most of us would love a brain-dead-simple way to make money.

Or do pretty much anything, for that matter.

Guys would LOVE a surefire, guaranteed way to get a girl in love with them.

Girls AND guys would LOVE some magic, step by step “fix” to “get their ex back.”

Most people would readily say that they are truly willing to do ANYTHING, as long as somebody just told them what to do.

You see this in the movie all the time. The guy tells the girl, “Tell me what to do to get you back!”

Salespeople are even trained to ask customers this question:

“What can I do to earn your business today?”

Bottom line is if they’re not feeling it, it’s not going to happen.

Think of it this way. Imagine you showed up at your friends house, your belly full after eating a nice dinner.

They’ve just finished baking an onion and broccoli pie, with sliced squid on top.

You say, “No, thanks. I just ate.”

And they say, “C’mon! Tell me what to do in order to make you hungry for this!”

If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it.

I hate to break this to you, but if your ex doesn’t want you want, you ain’t getting them back. No matter HOW perfect you are together.

The same goes with creating things, from scratch, like businesses, relationships, families, careers.

First of all, nobody, not even YOU, knows the full range of your skills and abilities.

Which means NOBODY can give you more than basic guidance on how to build those things.

Your job is to keep trying different things, to see how they work.

If you get closer, do more. If you don’t do less.

The truth about this is that when most people say, “I’m willing to do anything, just tell me what to do,” what they REALLY mean is “tell me the secret easy way that doesn’t involve any risk or me feeling uncomfortable.”

But this is wonderful.

The process of discovery, not only of what works, but what you’re REALLY made of is like nothing most people will ever experienced.

Most people ARE content to be told what to do. And since most people ONLY do what they’re told, most people only get what most people get. Which ain’t much!

In order to rise above the mediocrity, you’ve got to FIGURE OUT what to do, ON YOUR OWN.

This means taking risks, feeling foolish, and yes, even hearing those close to you, maybe even your loved ones, tell you you’re an idiot.

But the flip side of is that later on, when you ARE successful, they’ll PROVE their worth to you by saying, “Wow, you really ARE awesome! I’m glad I was wrong! I’m glad I know you!”

So get going.

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The Truth Of Rejection Vs. Regret

Not As Bad As You Think

How To Gain Real World Experience

They say that rejection is better than regret.

Meaning if you walk up, talk to a girl, and get rejected, it feels pretty bad. 

On the other hand, if you see a pretty girl, and DON’T talk to her, it feels pretty bad to.

However, even if you agree with the above statement, it may not make it any easier to approach.

Why?

It only holds true on an experiential level.

Meaning if you’re like most guys, you’ve got TONS more experience with regret than with rejection.

Which means you’re pretty used to regret. So much in fact it feels normal.

On the other hand, rejection is mostly in your imagination. And anything in our imaginations can feel pretty terrifying.

So, what good does that statement or any other supposed “truism” about dating, do for us?

If you gain as much experience with rejection as we do with regret, then you’ll get it on a gut level.

So much so that it seems totally obvious, and even silly to say out loud.

Kind of like if you told your buddy, “the sky is blue,” as if it were some kind of genius insight.

This is pretty common when guys start to get pretty good with game.

They wonder what the big deal is.

Why?

If you don’t have a lot of success with girls, it’s easy to imagine that talking to girls on the one hand is totally terrifying. But it’s also pretty easy to imagine that it’s also like cutting in line to heaven.

But in reality, it’s nothing like that.

Any girl you walk up to and talk to isn’t going to scream at the top of her lungs, get all her friends to gang up on you and beat you to death.

On the other hand, she’s not going to morph into your fantasy porn goddess and go into a trance of desperate sexual submission.

In fact, when you get into the habit of talking to cute girls, you’ll find out that they are pretty normal. They ARE people after all.

And in case you haven’t noticed, most people are pretty normal. Some are weird, some absolute nut jobs and some you wish you’d never met. But most are pretty normal.

The more girls you talk to, the less you’ll worry about rejection. 

What about regret?

Imagine you were walking down the street, and you saw something on the ground that looked like it might be money.

But you were feeling lazy, so you didn’t pick it up. Then later, you’d start to wonder. What if it WAS money? What if was A LOT of money?

You’ll never know. Compare that to the “rejection” of picking it up and finding it was some pretend money or monopoly money or something. Sure, you’d be disappointed, but not “rejected.”

This is the comparison of “rejection vs. regret” that you’re going for.

The more experience you get, the sooner you’ll get there.

The more people you talk to, the more experience you’ll get.

So get going!

Fire Or Water – Your Choice

Fire or Water?

Success Is An Inside Job

There’s a very old Sufi poem (by Rumi, I believe) I like.

The gist of it is that if we step through fire, we’ll end up nice cool water.

But if we go straight to the cool water, we’ll end up in the fire.

This, of course, is a metaphor for life.

The things we think are easy are only easy in the short term. They generally build up into HUGE long term problems.

That ice cream may taste good, but if you eat it every single day, you won’t feel so great.

On the other hand, it may seem like the worst idea possible to go for a walk when you’re favorite TV show is on, but once you make it a habit, you’ll feel pretty good.

And that “good feeling” that comes from doing things that aren’t so great in the now, but build up, is a much, much different “good feeling” from doing those things in the present.

Those “present only” good feelings (like sleeping in, eating cheeseburgers for breakfast etc) are pure pleasure. There’s no feeling of accomplishment built in. These pure-pleasure feelings come from the outside.

On the other hand, that feeling you get when waking up early every morning has become a habit, or going for a walk at night instead of eating ice cream is a good feeling that comes from within, and is based on your own accomplishments and actions.

One of the ways this paradox manifests itself is when we want somebody to “tell us what to do.”

Sure we’d like to meet that special someone. Sure we’d like a much more fulfilling career. Sure we’d like to achieve self-actualization. If only somebody would tell us what to do.

The only problem is that all the REALLY good things in life, things that last, like wealth, relationships, REAL happiness, HAVE TO come from within.

Nobody can tell you any step by step procedures or paint by numbers steps.

You HAVE to work it out on your own.

Sure, you can learn the basic structure, just like you can learn how exercise and healthy foods will help you get in shape. But the SPECIFIC exercises, and the SPECIFIC food, are up to you to figure out. Some things work for some people, others work for others.

Creating relationships is the same. Talk to enough people until you find somebody that spins your propellers. HOW and WHEN you do that, and what you specifically say is up to you to figure out.

The good news is that there are NO shortcuts.

Why is this good news?

Because if there were, then EVERYBODY would be on them.

Since there’re not, every single path you find to any kind of success will be YOURS.

Your creation, your dreams, your results.

Nobody else’s.

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The Never Ending Cycle Of Means and Ends

You Can't Have One Without Leading Into The Other

One Leads To Another

No matter what you do, it’s always a mix of two things.

Means, and ends.

Now, this may be a bit of an oversimplification. You can take pretty much any one thing or process and come up with a kajillion different categories to put them in. Good things and bad things. Legal and illegal. Safe or dangerous, etc.

But for the sake of this post, we’ll talk in terms of ends and means. Means is simply what you do to get the ends.

But few things are purely one or the other. And end is useless unless it’s part of a bigger process, or means, to get an even bigger end.

This is helpful to think about when you’re out with the intention of meeting people, especially the ladies.

Most guys see a cute girl, and suddenly all their problems will be solved if only she accepts them. Then they’ll be the hero of Earth, and never worry about anything again.

But even if you walk up and she falls madly in love with you, SHE is still a means to a greater end. Certainly, you are not going to use her and throw her aside like a spent Dixie cup. Hopefully you’ll see her as a partner in creating a relationship, even for a short time. And that relationships is going to be a means to create an ends of more happiness, self expression, and sexual fulfillment.

Now, if you walked up and said all this, you may sound like Data from Star Trek.

But this is how you are programmed.

All humans are built with goal seeking mechanisms, and feedback mechanisms.

And within each feedback mechanism are all kinds goals in and of themselves.

Just think about walking. Your overall intention is to get from here, to over there.

But in the process of doing so, you need to keep balance, and keep one foot going in front of the other.

If you captured only a second or two in time, and played it over and over, each step of your foot would be an end, within a larger process.

The bigger you go, the same this same structure exists. From the smallest atom all the way up to the galactic truth of why this whole thing exists.

Not to get too metaphysical, but no matter WHAT happens with that one particular girl, the same overarching goals still exist, and you will still pursue them.

So instead of seeing her as a “make or break” princess of the realm, just see her as maybe part of your own process, maybe not.

Go over and talk to her, and see what happens.

Continue Your Journey

Let Loose Your Inner Hero

Have You Discovered Your Inner Hero Yet?

What is your greatest gift?

We all love a good movie, and one of the most powerful movie structures is the “Hero’s Journey.”

Spiderman, Dorothy, Luke, Neo, Harry Potter, all these characters have the same kind of path.

That is they all pretty normal dudes, (or gals) living normal lives, and then something takes them (usually against their will) somewhere and forces them to step up their game. 

A lot.

Luke has to defeat Vader, Dorothy has to overcome the fake Wizard, Harry has to kill Voldemort, etc.

Why are these stories so popular?

Because they represent our lives.

From the time we are born (actually a few hours before) we face the same structure, over and over again.

We’re cruising along, safe, (and also kinda bored) and then something pulls us out of our comfort zone.

We pretty much HAVE to learn new skills. Going to school for the first time, making friends, getting a job, starting a family, becoming an established member of your community, all follows the same path.

Leaving behind your comfort zone and moving further out into the world.

Those stories, books, and movies speak to us on a deep level.

They help us remember who we are.

Heroes.

Now, I’m not saying you need to grab a cape and start beating up bad guys. That might get you arrested.

But if you’re playing it safe, you’re not living up to your potential. If you believe in any kind of a Creator, you can’t think He or She put us here so we could be safe.

We were put here to continuously move forward. Take risks. Make mistakes. Expand our social circle. Expand our vision. Create dreams and MAKE them come true.

Go. See. Conquer.

So, what is your greatest gift?

When you’re long gone, what would you like your greatest contribution to humanity be?

What would you like to create? What service would you like to provide? How will you help people?

Deep within you lies the answer.

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How To Properly Discriminate

Discrimination Isn't Always Bad

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They say discrimination is a bad thing, and should be avoided at all costs.

While this is true for some things, it’s certainly not true for others.

“Discriminate” is one of those vague words that has taken on some negative connotations in the past few decades.

But what does it mean?

Basically, it means looking at several choices, and choosing one for your purposes, based on some specific qualities of the things you are looking at.

Like if you wanted to buy only red apples and not green ones, you would discriminate by color. Absolutely nothing wrong with this when buying apples.

Or if you were choosing a job, and you only wanted to work in a couple cities, you would discriminate by location.

This only becomes a problem when you are assuming things about the “thing” which you are choosing, based on a very superficial quality.

Like the old saying, “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover.” It could have a crappy cover, but be a great story. Or could have a fantastic cover, but be a horrible book.

Personally, I’ve been “conned” many times by choosing a DVD by the cover, only to find that the movie absolutely sucked. (Sometimes I think they spend more money on the cover than they do on the actual movie!)

One type of discrimination is absolutely crucial.

The women you choose to be with. Now, all humans are pre-programmed with some basic filters on what they find attractive, and what they don’t find attractive. We automatically discriminate this way. But since it’s unconscious, we don’t really acknowledge it.

But that’s not what I’m getting at.

Since getting together with (or chasing) the wrong women can cause you a LOT of grief, it’s a good idea to make sure you choose wisely.

The more accurately you can discriminate, and the earlier, the better.

Ideally, you’d be able to tell if she was your type or not within the first few minutes of talking to her.

That way you don’t waste any time.

Of course, if all you want to do is get laid, then you’ll walk up to any attractive enough girl with a pulse and do and say anything to get her into bed.

Again, that’s not what we’re after here.

So, how do you discriminate, or to use a less loaded word, qualify?

First, you need to be comfortable around attractive women so you don’t get hypnotized by their beauty.

The easiest way to do this is to simply talk to as many attractive girls as you can find. Not to pick them up, just to fill your brain with experience.

And the more you talk to, you’ll learn something amazing.

Some of them will become MORE attractive the more you talk to them.

Some of them will become LESS attractive the more you talk to them.

The more of this experience you get, the easier it will be to qualify.

Your Auto Pilot Brain

Your Set And Forget Brain

Can You Really Set And Forget?

There’s a huge desire in us humans for “auto pilot.”

Meaning we don’t like to think, so we’re always pretty easy to sell if whatever is we’re buying is “automatic” or “hands-free” or the ever popular “set-and-forget.”

After all, who wants to sit there and watch something if we can be doing other things, while that “thing” is busy taking care of business on its own?

Often times this is presented in business terms as “turnkey,” meaning all you really need to do is press a button and watch the business run on its own.

To be sure, this is a highly desirable trait, and very marketable if it actually works. Nobody wants to buy ANYTHING (business or not) that’s going to come with a complicated set of steps and instructions.

But since it’s such a huge marketing trigger, it’s often times abused.

Check any “work from home” forum in the “business opportunity” section and you’ll find endless “systems” being sold that are heavy with these terms.

Automatic. Autopilot. Turnkey system. Hands free. Set and forget. Push button simple. Etc.

Unfortunately, anything regarding business involves one very important, and often left out, aspect.

Other People.

No matter what kind of business you are in, you need customers. (Unless you’re the government lol).

And these customers all have limited funds. Which means they need to CHOOSE to buy your product, service, or whatever it is you are offering.

They don’t HAVE to.

And any kind of system that GUARANTEES profits, is also, by definition, GUARANTEEING that somewhere out there there’ll be people to buy.

And as I’m sure you can guess, this is highly unlikely. Unless maybe you’re selling water in the desert, or something similar, and you’re the ONLY game in town.

Does that mean that the ideas of “auto pilot” and “prosperity” are mutually exclusive?

Absolutely not.

Because the auto pilot is NOT in the business model itself. It’s in your BRAIN.

Humans are hard wired to learn.

In fact, we’re hard wired to learn, and then take whatever we’ve learned, and drop it down into our subconscious. 

Which means we’ll be just as effective, but on auto pilot.

Like riding a bike, playing an instrument (if you can) typing, driving, etc.

The best part is that ANYTHING related to prosperity is related to other people.

And humans come pre-programmed with a HUGE set of tools that allows us to talk to others, find out what they want, and then use our creativity of figure out how to help them get it.

And get paid.

Of course, this requires a bit of conscious action, a little bit of uncertainty, and the belief that you WILL succeed.

But once you get started, you’ll see how quickly it can become automatic.

Ultimate Life Strategy For Romance

Don't Be A Player

Too Much Game Is Harful

Learning too much game can do more harm than it’s worth.

There’s plenty of movies about some ultra player who’s ultra skillful with the ladies, and has billions of notches on beds all over town.

Then he meets “The One” but she sees him as a true player. Someone who’s nature is to love ’em and leave ’em.

Similar to the story of the frog and the scorpion. The scorpion begs for a ride, but the frog says he’ll sting him, and they’ll both die. The scorpion pleads and pleads, and finally the frog is convinced.

Halfway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog, and they both die. Just as they are going under, the frog asks why, and the scorpion responds, “It’s my nature.”

This is the danger of learning so much game it becomes a part of who you are. So that any time you are talking to girls, you are “game mode” where you have one outcome, and one outcome only. 

To be sure, if you are absolutely certain you never ever want to settle down, then by all means. But even if you are sure now, Mother Nature has a way of messing you up when you least expect it.

You may be happily hopping from bed to bed, and then you get hit with the thunderbolt. Suddenly you’re in love. You don’t care if you ever see or sleep with another woman again.

Only problem is that girl you’re with sees you as a stone cold player.

And guess what? You may be just like that scorpion. The scorpion actually believed he wouldn’t kill the frog. But Mother Nature won.  She always does.

How do you avoid this?

If you have any inkling that you’d like to settle down in a real relationship with real potential, leave the game strategies behind.

Instead, practice simple social skills. Practice talking to people, and becoming generally interested in them. You’ll slowly expand your social circle, and build up a network of folks who’ve got your back, and you theirs.

With a solid social circle as your anchor, you’ll learn talking to cute girls doesn’t require any hidden strategies or ninja tactics. Just open, honest communication. No fear, no pretend nice guy or alpha crap to protect your ego.

Let people see the real you, while you continue to improve the real you.

You may be surprised what happens.

Simple And Easy Skills

Social Skills Are The Most Important Of All

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Some things are simple, and some things are easy.

What’s the difference?

One way to think about this is that simple things aren’t complicated to understand and only take a few steps.

Easy means that it’s not emotionally difficult to carry out the steps, whether they be complicated or simple.

For example, walking up and talking to attractive people or potential clients is simple, but not easy.

I mean, you walk up, use some kind of an ice breaker, develop rapport, and see if there’s any mutual interest right?

Yet for many of us, that can be the most difficult thing to do.

And the funny thing is we usually convince ourselves we’re NOT doing it because we imagine that it’s complicated. So we read books on communication, go to seminars on dating, all because we don’t want to avoid the big gorilla in the room (or in our brains):

We KNOW what we need to do, we just can’t get ourselves to do it.

On the other hand, some things are pretty complicated, from the number of steps, but are pretty easy for a lot of people.

Computer programming, engineering, medicine, flying planes, cooking complicated recipes, coming up with interesting characters and plots, playing musical instruments. 

These require an intense amount of concentration, focus and intelligence.

But once you’re practiced enough, these things can be easy. Routine even.

I had this roommate once who was studying to become a physical therapist. As part of his training, he had to observe several joint replacement surgeries. Incredibly complicated.

But to the docs and nurses doing the surgery, it was pretty easy. Straightforward. They would listen to ball games on the radio, and talk to each other like they were hanging out at the local pub.

One of the biggest mistakes we can make is when we assume something is complicated, when it’s really simple.

As a general rule of thumb, anything that involves talking to and creating relationships (business, romantic, and otherwise) with others is pretty simple.

Since that’s what humans have been doing since day one.

Even building a business is based on relationships. Every cent you can get is based on your ability to figure out what others want, and then figure out a way to give it to them.

Sure, you might need to learn some complicated technical skills, but those will become easy after a while.

Then you’ll be in that wonderful place where you’re not only combing easy AND simple, but getting paid.

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