Game Time and Practice Time
I wasn’t angry, and I wasn’t trying to get anything specific.
I was just relaxed, in a mixed crowd of some folks I knew and some I didn’t know.
I just said whatever was on my mind, sexual or not.
And the girls were just eating it up, including this one super cutie I ended up with.
This was way back in college, when I had no clue how “game” worked, or even what “game” was.
The truth is that this is now “naturals” are all the time.
They don’t have a specific “outcome” in mind, other than having fun and enjoying people’s company.
They are just as likely to flirt with old ladies in line at the supermarket as they are hotties at the club.
If you were to “reverse” engineer their outer behavior, you’d miss a HUGE piece of the puzzle.
It’s very similar to sports, or playing an instrument. If you were playing the piano, for example, and you focused intently on each and every note, you’d be a mess. Similarly if you were playing basketball, for example and you were intently focused on every single dribble, and exactly when and where you should stop and take a shot, you’d also be a mess.
How To Practice Game
But here’s the thing. In your mind, there should be a difference between “practice” and “real” interaction.
Whenever you’re out for “real,” you should simply relax, and enjoy other people. Follow your instincts. Say what’s on your mind. Talk to whomever you want to talk to.
But when you practice, you should see it as practice. Meaning you really should take a few hours each week to PRACTICE your game. Practice talking to people. Practice making and holding eye contact.
Then when you’re relaxed and having fun, simply relax, and have fun.
Basketball players practice by doing drills. Then when they play in a real game, they let loose and go with the flow.
Musicians practice by doing drills, practicing scales, etc. But when they’re playing a live set, they relax and go with the flow.
Hopefully, by now, you’ve come to a realization.
When you are in that state of “flow,” the best you can is whatever level of practice you are proficient in.
So if you want to increase your game level in the “flow” state, up your level while in the “practice” state.