Most guys spend a LOT of time trying to think of “what to say.”

In fact, this is a common excuse for NOT talking to her. 

“I was going to go and talk to her but I just didn’t know what to say.”

“I felt totally confident, but since I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t make a move.”

And other similar nonsense. I say “nonsense” because almost always, the real reason we don’t make a move is NOT the one we tell ourselves.

Sure, rejection is pretty terrifying. But you can not only insulate yourself from rejection, but  you can talk to her in a way that doesn’t require the perfect opener or pickup pattern.

First of all, in order to become rejection proof, you just structure your communication in a way that you can’t get rejected.

If you never ask or suggest anything, she can’t reject you. Sure, if you walk over and ask for the number within the first ten seconds, she can say “no,” in which case you’ve been rejected.

But if take ten minutes instead of ten seconds, you’ll get a LOT better response.

Just start talking to her about things she can’t say “no” to. Meaning don’t ask any yes or no questions about you, or anything you want her to do.

Talk to her about things she’s likely interested in. Fish around for similarities in interest between the two of you.

While doing so, pay close attention to her body language and facial expressions. It will tell you everything you need to know.

So much that if you wait for the right time to “ask” her anything, instead of spitting it out because you can’t wait, she’ll almost always say “yes.”

And not the kind of “yes” that she just says to get rid of you, but the “yes” that means she really, really wants to get to know you.

See, when you talk to her in the right way, and ask her the right questions, she’ll almost always “feel you” no matter who she is.