Category Archives: Attraction

How To Get Lucky With Ladies

How To Get Lucky Baby

How To Engineer Luck

Most people think of luck as something that falls from the heavens. A gift from God. Or some leprechaun, or some unicorn that’s giving out skittles. Or whatever.

But luck is something that can be engineered. How? Keep reading.

First, figure out what you want. Most guys don’t really know. They just know they’d like some female companionship, but that’s about it. Which means they wander through life, unsure, and when they see a hottie, they are in “reactive” mode rather than “active” mode.

Which means they are mentally off balance. Taking risks when you’re off balance is difficult, to say the least.

True luck is when preparation meets opportunity. Just walking down the street you’re going to be presented with plenty of opportunities. But without any preparation, you’ll never get lucky.

How do you prepare?

First, choose the kind of girl or girls you are looking for. Age, height, body style, etc., as much as you can. This will narrow down the list.

Then come up with some positive personality and emotional traits that are good, and some that are bad.

Most guys never come close to doing this.

This makes it easier for a couple of reasons. One is that it will take a little pressure off. Right now, without any criteria, any hot girl is going to seem like your heavenly princess.

But with some personality based criteria, having good looks is only enough to get her foot in your door.

So when you approach her, you’re still in “investigating mode.” Meaning you need to find out more about her. You’ll be more confident, and less needy. Both will make you more attractive.

That’s one element of “preparation.”

The next is to simply practice talking to strangers whenever you can. Girls, guys, young people, old people. Whomever you see.

This will build the experience in your mind that “talking to strangers is normal, safe, and ordinary. Sometimes boring, and sometimes exciting.”

As an aside, this is one thing most people are surprised to find out when they start talking to strangers in social settings. Before they can do this, they imagine all kinds of uncomfortable and terrible things.

But when they start doing this, they find out that most people are pretty boring.

Which means it’s pretty safe.

Anyhow, once you’ve got some practice, and some criteria, you’ve got the preparation taken care of.

Then it’s just a matter of bringing your preparation to all the opportunities you find.

And you’ll get lucky.

Just like that.

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How To Become A Super Confident Seducer

Always See The Big Picture

See The Big Picture

Most guys are conning themselves when they imagine getting with the perfect girl.

When we imagine getting a girl, we imagine it as something that’s given to us, or something that’s earned.

Make no mistake, everybody likes getting rewards or free gifts, especially when there’s a heavenly honey and some fun between the sheets involved.

But in reality, this mindset puts you at a HUGE disadvantage. And truth be told, most men NEVER leave this mindset. That’s why most men, even grown professional men making tons of cash and holding huge positions of importance, still look at their wife as some kind of authority figure.

Especially if they met when they were young, like in their twenties or earlier.

Why is this? Men take a lot longer to “grow up” than women. Even in ancient societies, boys had to be forced into ceremonies where they were transformed from boys into men. If they didn’t go through the ceremony, they’d stay boys their whole lives and be a danger to the tribe.

Why didn’t they do this for girls? Why no ceremonies for turning girls into women?

Because back then, it happened naturally. Having a baby does that to a girl. When you’ve got a little kid who is absolutely desperate for you to keep them alive, it’s kind of hard NOT to “grow up.”

Of course, this isn’t so true any more. But there’s still a lingering “gap” between the maturity level of boys and girls.

Just ask any school teacher.

And when you walk up to a girl in a club with that attitude that she’s got all the goods, and you “hope” that she decides to “give you” some, you’re not doing yourself any favors.

Ideally, you should have such a good life that girls are trying to convince YOU to let THEM in.

Now, this may seem impossible with so many people just barely able to pay the bills.

But the good news is that this comes from the INSIDE, not the money in your bank account.

On a deep psychological level, attraction is triggered by your BELIEF of your own life, and your own potential.

If you need her to be happy, you’re not worth too much to her.

But if you DON’T need her to be happy, she’ll be much more into you. 

Now, most guys are pretty good at pretending or faking this. But they quickly slip back into the beta-male role after a month or two of a relationship.

Which is why girls lose interest a lot in the first few weeks or months. You’ve lost that quality. Or she finds out that quality was fake.

How do you get that quality, on a real and lasting level?

Always see the big picture. If you don’t have huge dreams in your life, get some. It doesn’t matter if they seem a million miles away. Just BELIEVE they will come to you some day, and do things to make that happen. Even small things. Remember, you only need to convince yourself.

So next time you talk to a cutie, or are about to, ask yourself something like this:

“Does the achievement of my life’s dreams depend on this girl? Can she help me achieve them? Or is she just looking for entertainment? Let me go and talk to her and find out if she qualifies.”

Then go and talk to her.

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How To Practice Seduction Confidence

Drills Are The Quickest Way To Improve Your Game

A Little Practice Yields Huge Results

Many people have tried, and failed with various NLP “procedures” when it comes to seduction.

What’s even more frustrating is when you go to a high priced seminar, try a bunch of goofy NLP stuff that works GREAT in the seminar room. Then a couple weeks later and you’re back to square one.

Many NLP trainers are borderline snake oil salesmen in their marketing. I get why they do that, but I’m not sure it’s so helpful.

For example, consider these two “buying” headlines:

Come To Our Seminar And Learn The Secrets Of Easy Seduction

vs.

Come To Our Seminar And Learn The Skills That Will Allow For Better Seduction After About Six Months Of Practice

One sounds great, the other one doesn’t. But one is much more accurate.

The reason that NLP “tricks” don’t work as advertised is that they need to be practiced.

Think of it from a purely biological, chemical and electrical perspective.

Our brains have neurons, which transmit electricity, and depending on where that electricity goes, certain emotions are felt. (I know, WAY over simplified).

When we see a girl, part of our brain generating intense pleasure at the potential possibility.

But another part of our brain generating fear at the potential negatives.

On a purely physical level, this is two circuits that are hard wired into our brains and are very THICK circuits. Imagine a very thick superconductor with no resistance.

Our eyes see the girl, and both parts of our brain (fear and pleasure) that are wired with the super conducting brain circuits light up.

When we do an NLP procedure, we are indeed laying down new circuits. But since these circuits are new, they are very thin and don’t conduct electricity nearly as well.

Like a one lane road vs. a super highway. Or a very thing copper wire vs. a superconductor.

When there’s no girl there, that “fresh” circuit works well.

But when we SEE a real girl, we default back to our original programming.

This is why doing an NLP procedure only once doesn’t do much.

Which is why you need to practice.

Just like practicing lay ups or scales or punches. The more you practice, the better you’ll do.

How do you practice?

One very powerful way is to simply go in the field, where there are MANY hot girls, and simply practice feeling confident around them. Purposely recall confident memories, just like in those seminars.

Once you naturally feel confident without much effort in the presence of girls (when your new wire is nice and thick), move on to the next step.

Sure, it’s a slow process. But keep in mind the ultimate goal.

To be able to walk up to any girl any where any time, and speak confidently, persuasively and seductively.

Isn’t that a goal worthy of some daily practice?

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Real Game Or Paper Game?

How To Develop Solid Inner Game

Become A Natural Seducer

What’s the difference between paper game and real game?

First, let’s consider the different reason girls go for certain guys. Every girl has a list of what she thinks she wants in a man. These are socially acceptable things like a decent income, decent parents, a sense of humor, good friends, no prison record, etc.

On the other hand, there are things a girl unconsciously responds to. Thing she can’t help. The things that create REAL attraction. These are less “definable” things like self confidence, charisma, assertiveness, and always feeling in control of his frame anywhere, any time.

Now, if a girl is super lucky, she’ll meet a guy who satisfies both categories. How likely is that?

Consider the ideal girl for each guy. A super sweetheart, cute face, nice body, good upbringing ,but a total freak in between the sheets.

How likely is this?

For guys, study after study shows that we like freaks for short term flings, but “good girls” for long term relationships.

Girls are the same way. They like the bad boy in their bed once in a while, but they want to hook their wagon to the nice guy with the decent income.

Even genetic studies have shown that ten or twenty percent of the time, they’re married to the good guy, but making babies with the bad boy.

Does this mean that all girls are evil sociopath’s and we should hide in the closet?

Not in the least.

But as a guy going out into the world, just realize that having “paper game” will only take you so far. Some guys assume that “paper game” is all you need.

But when it comes down to it, real game will trump paper game all the time.

Even if you’ve got not much going on for you financially, developing real game will not only get you good results with the ladies, but good results in life.

All those real game qualities (self confidence, frame control, mad social skills) will also work VERY WELL in pretty much any business situation.

You may even say that this “real game,” or more correctly, “inner game” is THE most important skill to cultivate in life.

Because once you’ve got rock solid inner game, money, jobs, careers, ladies, those will be easy. They won’t be automatic, but you’ll feel much more in charge.

You’ll have the experience of walking into a place and noticing that all the girls are noticing you, and hoping that you come and talk to them.

How do you improve your inner game?

Outer practice, and inner practice.

Outer practice is just getting out there and being a human. Interact with people. Practice feeling comfortable in strange situations. Practice holding your frame in uncomfortable situations. Practice speaking your mind when you know most people will disagree with you. Practice starting conversations with strangers and making them smile and feel good because of you.

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Why Thinking Makes It So

The Power Of Positive Beliefs

You’ll See It When You Believe It

A long time ago I used to go rock climbing with a few buddies.

All the different routes are rated on difficulty, and since all of us were at different levels, we had to pick a route that everybody could do.

Which meant the guy that was the least skilled controlled our choices.

That guy, by the way, was me.

But once I was climbing with this one guy, who really wanted to go up this really tough route.

It was a few levels above what I was capable of.

So he just fudged the numbers a little bit.

The way he presented it to me, was it was one more quick route that would only take an hour or so, before we drove home. It was “easy” and it would be a good one to end on.

When we were done, he told me that it was a couple levels higher than anything I’d ever done before.

But while I was climbing, I thought it was easy, so it was easy. I didn’t slip, didn’t miss any holds, I basically just walked right up. Like climbing a ladder.

Had he told me how hard it REALLY was, I would have been terrified.

The truth is that many things are like this, only the opposite.

We make things seem much harder, in our heads, than they really are.

And that, of course, makes them harder for real.

But what if could reverse the process?

What if we could look out into the world, look at something that USED to be hard, and simply convince yourself that it’s easy?

What would you be able to do?

If you could make anything easy, simply be changing what you believe about it.

How much more could you accomplish?

How much more could you get?

The good news is that there ARE proven techniques that will teach you this.

Allowing YOU to decide if something is hard or easy.

To learn how, check this out:

Belief

Three Rules For Creating Attraction

Step By Step Rules To Attraction

How To Create Female Interest

Most guys think too much when thinking about girls.

There’s a lot going on to be sure, but if you over think anything, you can get yourself into trouble.

What very common mistake is to assume that attraction happens on a conscious level.

We’ve all heard that “attraction isn’t a choice” over and over, but many guys still behave like it is.

What do I mean?

They do something, and expect a girl to give them something back. Like doing a business deal, or even buying something at the store.

They buy her a drink, and think she “should” do something, like at least talk to them.

They bring her flowers, and think she “should” let him kiss her.

They have a decent income, and think that girls “should” be attracted to them.

But girls NEVER do anything attraction based because they WANT to, or they CHOOSE to.

Any kind of attraction based behavior is subconscious.

This is hard for guys to understand, because we see girls and we AUTOMATICALLY become attracted to them in a few seconds. If she’s put together, is cute, and is dressed nice, it doesn’t take long.

Girls, on the other hand, take a while to “feel attraction” for a buy.

But just because it takes a while, doesn’t mean it’s a conscious process. It is STILL just as unconscious as a guy’s attraction for a girl.

Which means no matter WHAT you do, she’s NOT going to think, “Hmm, he did this so I should start to like him, and give him some of my feminine energy.”

Nope. Ain’t gonna happen.

No matter WHAT you do, it HAS to be an unconscious response.

If she doesn’t give you any signs of attraction, SHE’S NOT ATTRACTED.

How do you create attraction?

Luckily, there ARE some basic “rules” for guys to create attraction in girls, just like most guys tend to agree what sexually attractive girls look like.

But make no mistake, just like guys have different types, so do girls.

So the first rule is to BE THE SAME throughout your entire interaction.

If you do something that gets her attracted to you, and then change your behavior, she’ll lose that feeling.

The second rule is to take your time. Let her respond to you. 

The third rule is to be able to MEASURE her attraction. Girls may feel really attracted to you, but consciously hold back, for whatever reason.

How can you tell?

Her pupils, how she responds when you touch her, how she responds when you lean into her personal space, if you ask her to come with you (across the room) and she follows right away.

If you’re waiting for her to TELL YOU she’s attracted, you’ll be waiting a long time.

But if you learn to SEE the “symptoms” of attraction, you’ll be surprised.

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How To Eliminate Rejection From Girls

Back Off Man, I'm A Scientist!

Never Face Rejection Again

The human brain is a pretty amazing tool.

One that’s not even close to being understood yet. 

It’s very fast, which is great for survival. But it’s not so accurate. In a sense, it’s a lot like your web browser.

When you visit a familiar site, instead of loading up all the stuff fresh, it references your browser’s cache.

This makes it load much quicker than if you had to download everything every single time.

Web servers do this as well. If the page is static, they serve up a cached copy, as it’s much quicker.

This is how the brain operates in both familiar and unfamiliar surroundings.

A long, long time ago, maybe there were people that needed to stare at something for a long time, and let the information soak in long enough to figure out what was what.

But they all got eaten by dinosaurs. Which means the only people that are left are us goofs who don’t reference reality any more than your web browser downloads every  piece of data every time you visit the same web site.

Science has measured this. They know which areas of the brain are responsible for imaginary stuff, and which part is responsible for reality stuff.

Most of the time, it’s a mix of two.

Why is this important?

Well, consider this next time you’re out checking out the ladies. One of the reasons guys get so nervous is they see some super hot girl, and make all kinds of assumptions about her.

And because are much more attracted to women based on looks, this puts us at a disadvantage.

We walk over there, already having decided that she passes all of our criteria. Only she knows nothing about us.

So we feel like we’re walking over there with her having all the power. The power to accept us, or the power to reject us.

This, of course, causes all kinds of anxiety.

But when you remember that what you’re seeing is literally an illusion, it makes it easier.

Now, this is something you’ll have to consciously remember, and practice. There’s NO magic thought that you only need to think once that will get rid of your fears.

It’s something you need to train in. Just like a mental version of Karate Kid.

But this is a good way to practice.

When you see her, don’t let your caveman get away with assuming all kinds of crap. Go over there NOT to hopefully get accepted, but to find out if she IS as hot as you think she is.

All girls have flaws. Just like all guys have flaws.

See your first approach to get a better picture of her. Withhold judgment of her, until you talk to her.

If you approach with this mindset, you’ll never get rejected.

Because you’re not trying to get accepted.

You’re just getting more information.

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Basic Elements Of Female Desire

How To Get Her To Fall In Love With You

Automatically Push Her Buttons

How do you create attraction in a woman? Easy.

This is going to sound HORRIBLY un-PC, but Mother Nature isn’t the kindest lass in the land.

Guys like girls for physical reasons. Girls like guys for behavior reasons.

This is from evolution of course, when a girl was chosen for her ability to have healthy kids that would have a good chance to grow up. This meant she was young and disease free, had decent sized boobs, and was symmetric in as many ways as possible.

Like I said, Mother Nature doesn’t care much about our feelings.

Girls on the other hand, didn’t develop a craving for looks. She needs somebody who can take care of her, and bring home the bacon repeatedly for at least 5-10 years.

She can’t tell this by looking at the guy. Sure he might be chiseled with six pack, but if he was a social goof who didn’t play well with others,  he’d never get much meat. He wouldn’t be able to feed her kids.

Back then, hunting was like playing football. (American OR Euro style). It was a team effort. If you couldn’t play well with others, you were SOL.

So she would always check and see how he behaved with others, to decide subconsciously if he was a “quality male” or not. Like it or not, his perceived social status was everything.

Today, that still holds true. If you show up with your six pack, tight shirt, and all kinds of bling, you may be “eye candy” but unless you can hold your own in a conversation, she won’t give you a second thought.

The crucial skills to develop if you want to win a ladies heart is social skills, self confidence, social intelligence, and the ability to maintain a slightly dominant, but friendly frame with whomever you are speaking with.

Luckily, you can practice this ANYWHERE. Supermarkets, post office lines, school, even with dudes down at your local pub.

Sure, you’ve got to talk to ladies occasionally, but not all the time.

And when you develop enough social skills, self confidence, and frame control, you won’t need much else.

Learn How:

Frame Control

How To Skyrocket Your Attraction

Get Everybody On Your Johnson

How To Make All The Girls Want You

Most guys have several fears about approaching a girl and getting rejected.

To be sure, it’s that moment where she says “no” that’s pretty painful.

It’s also pretty painful, as most guys imagine everybody else is watching them.

One more reason it sucks is because most guys have been told or taught that if you try and number close every girl in the joint, you’ll be seen as some player who’s only after short term flings.

Now if you ARE only after short term flings, then that’s not a big deal.

But here’s something to consider. People ARE watching you, especially girls. And in that first moment you walk up to a girl, all the other girls who’ve got you on their radar (which is usually a lot more than you think) are thinking the same thing:

“Why’s he talking to HER?”

As I’m sure you know, girls are terribly competitive. Even if they have ZERO intentions of giving our their number, they STILL don’t like it when you approach somebody else and not them.

This is pretty fun to see when you’re actually looking for it. To see it in action, try this out:

Go somewhere where you can sit and watch people walking by. Then wait until there’re a couple of girls walking toward you, that are a good distance apart. Like maybe opposite sides of the street or something.

Then OBVIOUSLY check out one of them, long enough for the other one to notice (which won’t take long).

Then as soon as you STOP checking out girl A, quickly look at girl B on the sly. She’ll almost ALWAYS be staring at girl A, wondering why you were checking her out.

Bottom line, even if you aren’t a player, are good looking, or have any bling to speak of, girls will STILL get jealous when you talk to other girls instead of them.

But this will be significantly REDUCED if you’re going up and getting shot down all the time.

So here’s a really good way to increase your charisma, magnetism and attraction. Go and talk to a few girls, but DON’T try to close them. Your ONLY goal is to get them to smile.

As soon as you get a genuine smile or laugh, EJECT. Be nice, say nice talking to you, whatever, but LEAVE while they still have that smile on their face.

If you do this with three or four girls, separated out by twenty minutes or so, the other girls in the place will be going CRAZY.

So long as you’re not in some super loud nightclub packed wall to wall like sardines, this will work pretty good.

Then after you’ve had your fun, go and close somebody for real. 

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Frame Control

How To Approach A Girl For The First Time

The Best Approach Angle For Success

Defocus With Congruence

It’s funny how things that are true on a huge, galactic scale are also true on a tiny, microcosmic scale.

Solar systems are made of suns with planets orbiting around them. Planets have moons orbiting around them. Atoms are made of a nucleus with electrons orbiting around it.

Interacting with girls is the same way, both on a large scale, and on a microcosmic scale.

For example, most guys know instinctively if you make girls the sole purpose of your life, you won’t get very far. 

Sure, there are some world famous pick up artists that are actually homeless, but because of their super tight game, they just move from relationship to relationship, always staying with the girls they are currently with. 

Even though they’re homeless, they never have to spend a single night on the street.

Now, for some, this would be a dream come true. But for most normal guys, this would kind of suck. It’s nice to have your own place, your own car, your own money, your own job and a boss who appreciated what you do and would fight tooth and nail to keep you on board.

In the big scheme of things, having a girl is a great PART of your life, to be sure. And all that comes with that later on (family, etc, if that’s what you want.)

But that shouldn’t be the central FOCUS of your life.

Similarly when you go out, making girls the most important focus isn’t likely the best strategy. Most guys, when they think back to the best nights of their lives, according to their interactions with females, were nights where they DIDN’T specifically go out looking for girls.

Take a look at this on an even smaller scale. Suppose you’re in some place with your boys, having fun. You see a cutie across the room, and you trade a few flirty eye locks.

If you dropped everything and walked over there while staring straight at her as if she were the ONLY person in the world, she’d likely flee in terror.

That’s why it’s always a good strategy to kind of “show up” next to her. Then simply “ease yourself” into a conversation with her.

Now, if you’re doing this as part of your “game,” and while you “pretend” to be nonchalant, you can’t get your mind off her, it might not work as well.

But if you’re attitude is to “make your way over there,” and “see what she’s like,” AND it’s congruent with your attitude toward girls both in life and that night, you’ll be much more successful.

You and she will be more relaxed when you talk. You’ll both be less likely to “put on your game face” and try any short term tricks.

Which means if you DO hit it off, it will be real, and not fake.

Now, holding that frame of mind can be tough.

This will help:

Frame Control