Category Archives: Attraction

How To Shop For Her Emotions

Talk Your Way Into Her Heart

Feelings Are Everything

No matter how you get a girl interested in you, you’ve got to get her emotions fired up.

You can either plan to do this, or hope to do this.

Most guys hope. Meaning they do things that they hope will inspire the “right” combination of emotions in her, which she’ll “hopefully” interpret as “attraction.”

Flowers?

If you’re super old school, you may go on a “date,” and buy her dinner, give her flowers, shower her with compliments. These are all designed to trigger those emotions in her, that she’ll interpret subconsciously attraction.

One way you will SURELY fail is if you think she’s going to make some CONSCIOUS decision, based on what you’ve done.

Like if you show up with flowers, and you expect her to suddenly “like you” as if she could choose to like you.

Yum!

This would be the same as having a three year old kid, and spending an hour cooking him or her a broccoli and cabbage pie. You think that BECAUSE you put in the effort, that your kid should suddenly think that broccoli and cabbage pie is delicious.

Trust me, the only reason they’ll eat it is to stop you from screaming at them.

Girls (and guys) are NO different. Attraction ISN’T a choice, but even though most guys KNOW this, they act like it’s not true.

Feeling Come From The Subconscious

But the harsh, bottom line truth is if she’s NOT feeling you, she’s NOT feeling you.

Nobody is going to eat broccoli because you CONVINCED THEM to like it. They are ONLY going to eat it if they already like it.

Back on point.

If you want to create attraction, you can only do so by creating the right combination of emotions.

Not only that, but you’ve got to create them on the sly. Most of the time, this happens by accident. A girl just “feels” a guy, and a guy just “feels” a girl.

But you CAN engineer these emotions.

How?

Just move her through several positive emotions (happiness, excitement, discovery, surprise) and a couple of negative ones (fear, shock, anxiety) over the course of twenty or thirty minutes.

Keep It On The Down Low

Just DON’T EVER tell her you’re doing this.

Now, it can be hard to keep track of all these emotions, but they are plenty of mental tricks that can help.

You can literally see an imaginary checklist behind her if you train your mind right.

Then as you’re talking to her, and you see her move through those emotions, you simply check one off your list, and move on to the next.

Just like going shopping.

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How To Guarantee Your Seduction Success

Get Them Attracted To You

Frontways Back?

Most guys get it backward when it comes to pick up.

That’s not entirely accurate. Most guys get only HALF the story, and that half of the story they get backwards.

For most guys, it works like this. They walk into a place and see a bunch of girls. Coffee shop, bookstore, nightclub, whatever.

They separate the girls by looks. This happens automatically, and subconsciously.

Then they look at the girls they’d like, and pick one to approach.

This Ain’t The Holodeck!

The problem they do this as if they were looking at a picture, or watching a movie. They don’t see themselves as part of the equation.

They sort twice. The first “sorting” is based on their subjective opinions. They second “sorting” is based on how easy it might be to “pick her up” based on her surroundings. If she’s with a guy, she’s out. If she’s with one or two girls, then maybe. If she’s alone, then it’s game on.

Notice that NONE of these “sorting” models involve him. He may as well be looking at some pictures taken from the security cameras.

On the other hand, here’s what a natural does. Again, this happens quickly, and unconsciously.

Where Do I Fit In?

He walks into the place, and reads the room. He quickly scans EVERYBODY’S body language, facial expressions, etc.

Then he sorts by girls that are already showing him slight IOI’s. Then he further sorts by girls who are giving him IOI’s and are “high probability targets.” Girls that are NOT with boyfriends.

Sure, it sounds super alpha to claim you picked up a girl who was with a guy, but in reality this often invites more problems than it’s worth. All kinds of drama to say the least. (Nobody wants a girl who’s openly flirting with other guys, while she’s with “her” guy.)

Double Qualified

Only then does he sort them by looks. He’s already classified them by THEIR interest in HIM. Then he’s sub classified them by the probability of success, based on their situation.

ONLY THEN does he sort them further by HIS level of attraction.

This way, he’s almost certain to be successful, AND the girl he chooses is hottest of the girls that are ALREADY interested in him.

Here’s what makes it so powerful. It’s very subtle.

When girls give a guy signals, most guys are clueless. But girls see it as obvious as if she’s holding up a big flashing bill board.

So when he sees five or ten girls, giving him signals, THEY ALL KNOW that he’s got five or ten girls giving him signals.

So when he approaches ONE of them, she’s going to feel like the WINNER.

Which means he’ll have to do VERY LITTLE work to create attraction, since it’s already there.

So, how do you develop such ultra laser targeted social intelligence, so YOU can pick and choose?

Here’s How:

The Power Of Story Spinning Seduction

Secret Seduction

Monkey See Monkey Do

If you do the same thing that everybody else does, you’ll get the same thing everybody else has.

If you go to a club, or other place to meet girls, and you’re dressed like everybody else, you use the same lines like everybody else, you’ll end up with the same results as everybody else.

Being different is a great way to stand out in her mind, but you’ve got to be careful. Don’t be different just for the sake of being different, otherwise this would backfire.

Leave The Costume At Home

If you walked into a club wearing a chicken suit, for example, you would certainly be different. But you may not have the best of luck withe ladies.

There’s all kinds of memorized openers that are designed to make you stand out. Like talking about two girls that are fighting outside, or using the “snack opener” or something she hopefully hasn’t heard yet.

But if it’s clear you’re using a line, she MIGHT give you points for originality, but she’ll also know you were being original on purpose, meaning it was part of “non-natural” communication to pick her up.

At best, this is simply a clever “pick up line.” At worst you’ll seem like a creepy stalker.

Your Authentic and Unique Self

The real trick is to be genuine AND different.

How can you do that? One powerful way is to use nested loops. This is when you start telling a story, being very generous with your facial expressions, and the shifting to various stories without really finishing any of them.

This is genuine if you are telling her REAL stories about your REAL life. Most guys get hung up on content, the actual stuff the story is about. But in reality it’s not so important. MUCH MORE important is how you tell it.

Keep Her Interested

AND when you keep changing stories, right when you’re about to get to the climax, she’ll be HOOKED on your every word.

See, most guys walk up and try to “impress her” with their income, jobs, etc. But it’s clear to her on one level that’s EXACTLY what they’re doing. Giving HER information that they hope SHE approves of.

But YOU, on the other hand, are telling her stories about how you woke up late, or found a frog in your bathroom, or put chocolate on your toast instead of peanut butter, AND you’re using really “in the moment” body language and facial expressions, AND you’re leaving her hanging, so she’ll won’t help but be TOTALLY focused on you.

At the end of the night, she’ll consciously be aware that all you did was tell her goofy kid stories, but somehow, she’s totally attracted to you. And THIS is the kind of thing girls DREAM ABOUT.

Of course, being able to remember and keep track of all those stories can be a bit tricky. But it’s well worth it.

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How To Stay On Top Of The Conversation

Conversational Magic Will Keep You From Ejecting

Can You Talk About Different Things?

Having conversational flexibility is a HUGE advantage when talking to girls.

A lot of guys have a great set of opening lines, but once those are gone, they are vulnerable to running out of stuff to say.

Even worse, if you’re lines are actually WORKING, she’s GOING to test you.

Why? If you’re creating attraction, that’s great. But because girls are naturally skeptical of guys for whom they’re feeling attraction for right away, they want to make sure it’s real.

The WORST thing that can happen to a girl is feel like she’s been played, emotionally and sexually.

Forget About The Fake KJ Nonsense

Sure, it might sound like some cool “alpha” bravado to talk about the famous “pump-n-dump” but to a girl, it’s a pretty horrible situation.

Which is why she tests you, to make sure you’re the real deal and not some smooth player.

And if you stumble and stop talking and seem at a loss when she DOES test you, then it’s game over.

So expecting and dealing with tests, as they come up, is crucial.

Most guys HATE being tested, but you should LOVE it.

It means that she’s into you, and furthermore, she WANTS to be MORE into you.

So when you “feel” like she’s testing you, be happy.

But what do you do?

Accept and Roll With It

Just keep talking. Accept whatever she says, and don’t lose the frame. Keep control of the conversation.

How do you do that?

Here’s a wicked trip that will help.

Take three or four of the conversational threads, and “peg them” to parts of her body.

Face, hair, ears, etc.

That way, you’ll quickly be able to come back to what you were talking about, after dealing with her tests.

Versatile Memory Tricks

Pegging is a pretty slick memory trick that allows you to take abstract ideas, thoughts, pieces of information, and literally set them aside, you so you can come back to them.

The cool thing is that with this technique, you’ll be able to handle several threads at once and stay on top of everything.

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Every Girl You Interact With Helps You Get Better

Everybody Is Worthwhile

You know that old saying, don’t miss the forest for the trees?

What does that really mean?

It means to look at the big picture. The HUGE forest, filled with all kinds of stuff, can be missed if you stare at one tree.

How does this apply to getting girls? Think of that ONE GIRL you are talking to as a tree.

More Than You Think

Most guys quickly forget there’s a HUGE FOREST out there, filled with girls, many much, much better than the one you’re talking to.

Now, most guys understand this, at least on one level. Meaning it sounds a bit like the “other fish in the sea” argument.

Or very similar to the “getting girls is a numbers game” argument, where if you keep number closing, you’ll find those magic few who dig you in the right way.

That is certainly true, but it’s missing a HUGE part of the puzzle.

If you see every girl as one “number” in a huge “numbers game” you’re missing out on a LOT.

Tons Of Good Stuff In The Middle

You’ll see her in either two ways, “pass” or “fail.” She accepts you, or she rejects you.

Kind of like cold calling. You spit out very same ten second sales pitch a hundred times a day, and hopefully get a couple sales.

This is EXTREMELY LIMITING when it comes to girls.

Why?

Because each and every girl you interact with can make you BETTER. Can make you MORE CONFIDENT. And most importantly, can make you MORE ATTRACTIVE.

Every Experience Gives You More Experience

Ever interaction you have with a girl, conscious or not, verbal or non-verbal, goes into your HUGE and growing database of females.

And every time you look at a NEW girl, your subconscious IMMEDIATELY calls up all other female experiences, and comes back with a feeling. Anxiety, confidence, excitement, positive expectation, relaxed enjoyment, all of these are possible.

And all are dependent on your collective experience with girls.

So no matter WHAT HAPPENS when you talk to her, you CAN build up your experience so next time is more fun, and more enjoyable.

This does require that you ditch that “pass / fail” model, and see each girl REGARDLESS of what happens as an experience to be enjoyed.

Do this, and you’ll be a natural in no time.

Especially when you turn on your natural learner, which will help program your subconscious in the best way possible.

Ancient Secrets Of Alpha Males

What’s This All About?

Girls and guys are different.

Contrary to some common, politically correct, misconceptions, these differences go much deeper than just our physical bodies.

We are different in our fundamental nature. What we want, what we seek in life.

Check Our Past

Since humans lived 99% of our collective experience as hunter-gatherers, and that’s how we were formed, it’s helpful to consider THAT environment when going to the club or anywhere else you want to meet girls.

It’s easy to get caught up in all kinds of surface-level nonsense, like clothing or bling or even wealth or physical appearance, but these are just INDICATORS of something deeper.

And that something deeper is what she’s after.

Here’s an example. A very NON politically correct example, so hold on to your hat.

Believe It Or Not

All things being equal, men prefer younger women to older women.

Not nice, not polite, not fair. But Mother Nature is a stone cold BITCH.

So EVERY SINGLE THING that turns a man on, physically, BEFORE you go over and talk to her, is a SIGN OF YOUTH.

Slim stomach, clear skin, firm breasts, long, slim legs, tight, rounded ass.

But you know this.

Wealth and Power

Women are the same way. They are “turned on” by things that are simply pieces of evidence of something much deeper.

The true “alpha” qualities. A leader, an explorer, somebody who takes action. Think of the most valuable guy back in the hunter gatherer days. BEFORE money, bling and even clothing was invented.

The guy who won the women’s hearts was the leader. The thinker. The planner. The ancient quarterback who ran his team after the zebras and brought home the big slabs of meat.

Sideline Sitting Won’t Cut It

Long range vision, mad social skills, the ability to talk a good game and fire up the boys, and most importantly, intelligence.

Not geeky intelligence, or book intelligence, but social intelligence. The ability to read people, organize people, and seduce people to his way of thinking.

The guy who can walk into ANY situation, instantly read everybody like a book, and quietly and covertly assume the dominant position, to everybody’s benefit.

YOU can be that guy.

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Do You Have A Beautiful Excuse That Keeps You Safe?

It’s Not My Fault!

When it comes to self improvement and self development, there’s three general areas.

Much like Goldilocks, two are too this or too that, but one is just right.

On the one side, you’ve got these ideas that there’s some kind of magic.

A magic set of words, a magic sound, a magic kind of idea. Once you “get it” then everything will be easy. No effort or risk required. Not even a lot of thinking. Just say the magic affirmation once or twice, and gold will show up in your pocket.

It Will Never Work!

On the other side of the spectrum, are the skeptics. Before they even move a muscle, they need verifiable proof that it’s going to work.

They don’t like to hold any uncomfortable thoughts in their mind, let alone take any action. So at the first sign of trouble, they spit out that comfortable, “Yea, but is there any evidence? Is there any proof?”

Both sides are really the same. Just two different self deceptions to stay safe.

See, the ONLY WAY to get the really good stuff in life is to take action. And all action requires risk.

No Crystal Balls

Nobody ever knows the future, not even five minutes into the future. That means that EVERY SINGLE ACTION you take will have a bit of uncertainty.

Hiding in your mind waiting for the perfect incantation, or waiting for verifiable proof to be published in all the scientific journals is just to protect the ego.

If you take action, and it doesn’t work out, it’s VERY PAINFUL to the ego.

After all, what will people say? What will people think? What about our reputation?

Go Big Or Go Home

The harsh truth about life is you’ll never get anywhere playing it safe. You’ll never get anywhere without putting it on the line from time to time.

You’ll never get anywhere unless you spend some time thinking, learning, acting, and accepting the feedback. Some feedback will be great. Other feedback will be horrible. Both are invaluable.

Most people are too terrified to understand this.

Your life is a work in progress. It’s up to YOU and YOU ONLY how it comes out. Nobody is going to give it to you.

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Do You Use Robot Game?

Memorized lines can work wonders, but they can also set you up for massive failure.

There was a group back in the day called Milli Vanilli.

They became famous because they were totally fake. They had a couple of number one albums, but they embarrassingly exposed themselves as frauds.

They didn’t write OR perform any of their music. All they did was lip sync. And during one concert, it went horribly wrong. The track they were lip syncing to got stuck. It kept repeating the same part over and over.

It only took a couple of days before their whole careers went down in flames.

Don’t Be Milli Vanilli

This is kind of what happens if you rely too much on memorized lines and patterns.

Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s always good to have a couple of memorized openers, but that’s about it.

But how you respond to her and interact with her IN THE MOMENT will determine your level of success.

Which means you need to have a couple of things.

Think On Your Feet

One is conversational flexibility. Meaning if you’re in the middle of some story, and she blurts out something completely off the wall, you’ve got to deal with it.

The BEST way, is not to ignore her, or diss her, but to PACE what she said, and then simply fold it back into your story.

This is a great way to validate her AND keep the frame at the same time.

This can be tricky if you don’t have a lot of experience with social conversations.

Build Up Your Confidence

But when you start to work on your social confidence, AND your social intelligence, you’ll see going out in public, and just talking to random strangers (girls AND guys) in a whole new light.

You won’t see ANY conversation (girl or guy) as a Pass/Fail scenario, but just a fun conversation that can serve two purposes.

One, to have fun.

Two, to increase your skills.

And this will give you the relaxed, confident attitude that women LOVE.

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Learn How To Learn For Easy Genius

Exercise?

Most people know how to get in shape, physically.

You’d have to do some kind of activity. Change your eating habits.

You could also chart your progress, either in how much you could lift, or the size of your waist or your biceps.

Or if you were working on a particular sport, you could measure how well you play, either by time or by score.

Similarly, if you wanted to learn a specific subject, you could study certain books. Take certain classes. You’d measure your progress by test scores or how well you could discuss the subject.

A Meta Skill For All Meta Skills

But what if you wanted to learn how to learn?

Most people don’t even consider this is possible, let alone try and figure out how.

Luckily, learning is a skill just like any other skill. The more you practice, the better you’ll get.

So, how do you learn how to learn, and how do you measure your progress?

One way is by doing something called “cross crawling.”

Hook Up Your Brain

It’s pretty simple. You stand up and touch your left foot with your right hand, immediately followed by touching your right foot with your left hand. Then repeat with your knees and elbows.

This fires up the connections between both hemispheres, which will make soaking up new information more easily.

This IS a short term process.

It fires up existing trans-hemispherical connections, but doesn’t create new ones.

However, if you do this every ten or fifteen minutes while learning anything, or doing anything that requires some “whole brain” thinking, you’ll do much better.

What about long term results?

Long Term Brain Growth

There are also SEVERAL, proven methods to create NEW and PERMANENT connections between your hemispheres, so you’ll be more “whole brained” as your natural self.

Meaning things will seem easier, clearer, and more fun.

The results won’t be as obvious as putting on a pair of pants and feeling how loose they are.

They WILL be MUCH more subtle.

But they’ll also be much more powerful.

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Don’t Talk About Attraction

Create Irresistible Attraction

No Paint By Numbers

What’s most attractive to a woman?

Unfortunately it’s not just ONE thing. If all you needed to do was put on a green shirt and wear a certain cologne to get laid, then the world would be a huge orgy.

Probably a good thing it’s not.

But there is a certain, repeatable collection of skills, or mindsets, that WILL get you consistent action with the girls (or girl) you want.

I’ll Take Combo Plate Number 17

It’s a combination of intelligence, self acceptance, playfulness and confidence.

The confidence to be yourself in a social situation, and not worry about what people think of you.

The playfulness to NEVER take anything anybody says too seriously, (unless they’re trying to stab you in the eye with an ice pick or something).

The self acceptance that says YOU accept YOURSELF regardless of what anybody else thinks about you.

And the social intelligence to easily read situations, conversations and know what to say, and what not to say.

Do You Get It

If you become known as the guy who really “gets it,” then women will LOVE to have you around. And not in a “girlfriend” sense, where they see you as some safe beta who they can complain to.

I’m talking about in a genuine “above the cut” alpha sense.

One thing women HATE is thinking they need to “take care of” the men they are with.

If she’s talking to you, and she feels the need to spell anything out, it’s going to kill attraction.

Even women in relationships don’t like to think of their boyfriends or husbands as little kids they need to “mother.”

They want to think of them as independent men who both understand them, and lead them.

She’ll Tell Me When To Kiss Her

Sadly, most guys don’t even come close. They actually believe that a women they’re gaming will TELL THEM what to do or say.

They actually think that looking at a woman and saying, “What can I say that will make you like me?” is an effective strategy.

But as I’m sure you know, most everything that happens in male-female relationships happens on the deep structure level of communication.

If you have to ask what’s going on, or if you have to ask her what she means, or if you need to ask her what you should do, it’s already too late.

On the other hand, if you can read the situation, and act accordingly, you’ll be the guy EVERY GIRL wants.

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