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Mind Tricks For Massive Confidence With Girls

How To Shift From Anxiety To Confidence In No Time

Flip Your Mental Switch

Here’s a great trick that will quickly boost your confidence.

You go somewhere where there’s plenty of cute girls to flirt with.

Someplace where people are out walking around is best. When you see a cutie coming your way, make eye contact and smile at her like she’s a friend. Like you know her.

While you are doing this, purposely remember a fun time you actually had with a cute girl. Nothing physical, just a fun conversation with a friend from school or work or something.

Nine times out of ten, she’ll smile back.  Even do a few double takes when you pass each other.

This is the perfect “energy” to have when out in public.

Most guys like girls, but they don’t know how to meet girls. For most guys, meeting girls just happens. Which means it always feels out of control.

And most guys like sex, but don’t get nearly as much as they want (if any lol).

You combine these two feelings, and whenever they see a cute girl they’d LIKE to get with, it brings up all kinds of negative feelings. Lack, being out of control, feeling alone, left behind, etc.

And sometimes these feelings morph into anger at the girl.

This is a natural human trait. We want something, and we can’t get it, so we blame the world. In this case the girl.

Now, it’s pretty obvious what will happen with this mindset. You’ll be looking at a girl with a mixture of lust, frustration, desperation and perhaps even a tinge of anger.

Not the kind of energy she’s looking for in a guy.

This, of course, will make it much harder to meet girls, which will increase those feelings. And this is a very hard trap to get out of.

So you’ve got to prime the pump, so to speak.

Hence the exercise described above.

The trick is to FORCE your brain to think of a happy, carefree spontaneous conversation you had with  a girl, no matter how long ago.

Then FORCE your brain to “pretend” the girl you’re looking at is an old friend. 

These two thoughts combined will get rid of those negative feelings and emotions long enough for her to notice your energy, and flash you an honest smile.

And when a cute girl flashes you an honest smile, and holds it, and even does a double take, it feels pretty good.

Try this out whenever you’re in a funk. Try and get five to ten good, honest smiles before talking to anybody.

It will not only put you in a good mood, but it will turn that negative self sustaining loop into a positive one.

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Stop Making Childish Excuses!

Get Out There And Get In The Mix!

Put On Your Big Boy Pants

It doesn’t take much effort find so called “game experts” bemoaning the state of male-female relationships these days.

If you dig beneath the surface, what many of these “gurus” are really teaching is a very complicated philosophical “proof” that is based on the oldest excuse in the book.

“It’s Not My Fault.”

Now, this is a very touchy subject. On the one hand, very few people had ideal childhoods. And it’s no secret that something as emotionally deep and powerful as male-female relationships is HIGHLY dependent on how well you were “raised” in this regard.

To be certain, those things that happened to you as a kid were absolutely NOT your fault.

But that’s not what I’m talking about.

I’m talking about guys who claim they can’t get laid, or find the ideal woman, or find WHATEVER they want, because of a variation of an age old argument that will simply not die.

“The World Is Broken.”

If you were to develop some invisible time machine that had a universal translator so you could travel around and listen in on various people belly aching about pretty much ANY kind of “lack,” you’d hear the same argument.

“It was much better in the good old days.”

“This generation has gotten a raw deal.”

“There just aren’t any X out there. I’ve looked.”

X can be jobs, girls, plots of land to build a cabin, places to prospect for gold, rocks to throw at zebras, you name it.

Why is this argument so popular?

Because it’s incredibly easy.

It takes no risk. It takes little mental effort. It’s very common so you’ll always have good company (misery loves company, eh?)

AND it protects you from taking risks, failing, or doing ANYTHING uncomfortable.

But guess what?

When it comes to girls, WHATEVER you want, you can get.

So long as you are willing to do what it takes to get it.

The strategy is simple.

Choose your criteria. Looks, personality, belief, religion, family background, etc.

Then simply start sorting.

AND realize that your dream girl must be attracted to you as much as you’ll be attracted to her.

Many guys miss this obvious point.

They think any kind of “work” they do is not dependent on her subjective desires.

Your job is to NOT ONLY find a girl who meets your criteria, but to meet a girl that thinks YOU meet HER criteria.

This, unquestionably, is a LOT of work.

And it’s understandable if you don’t want to put in that much work.

Just don’t kid yourself.

Don’t say, “The market sucks.” Or “There aren’t any quality women.”

At least do yourself the courtesy of telling yourself the truth:

“I probably could find my dream girl, but I’m too scared, and I’m too lazy.”

But if you really DO want to find her, (and you should because the benefits are better than ANYTHING on planet Earth), then get busy.

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How To Get A Bigger Brain

Get A Better Perspective

Expand Your Picture Of Reality

One of the cool tricks you learn in NLP is “going meta.”

This just means looking at something from a larger perspective.

Looking at the big picture, stepping back, etc.

For example, if you’ve ever been to a live training, you’ve probably done this while speaking to somebody. Choose a partner and start talking about something not so important.

Then see the conversation from their eyes, and back from your eyes.

Then see the conversation from an imaginary, third person perspective, off to the side.

This gets pretty complicated, and it’s hard to keep even the simplest conversation going when flipping around like this.

It is, however, a very important skill to learn. For example, whenever making a big decision, it’s tough to separate from your emotions.

Which means if you CAN do that, you’ll have a much better chance of choosing an option that will serve you best, in the long run.

Another great skill to have is to “go meta” regarding your capabilities.

For example, when many people go into new environments, especially social environments where there’s some pretty good potential, it’s very common to feel nervous or anxious.

The brain looks out into the situation, and quickly notices two things. One is that there are many interesting people, with many potential benefits.

On the other hand, ALL of them are strangers.

This mix can easily cause anxiety.

On the one hand, part of you is saying “Let’s Go!” and is eager to get the good stuff.

On the other hand, another part of you is saying, “Hold on! We don’t know any of these people!”

Which is why being able to “go meta” is very helpful.

Sure, they are strangers, but they are also people, in the larger sense.

So when you’ve got your brain thinking “Let’s Go!” And “Hey, People! We’ve talked to people before!”

It will give you a lot more confidence and enthusiasm.

The trick is to train your brain so you “go meta” automatically, instead of having to do it consciously.

All you’ve got to do is learn how to build in the beliefs you want, rather than rely on your “factory programmed” beliefs.

How do you do that?

Here’s How:

Belief Change

How To Find Your Dream Girl

Get Girls To Fall In Love With You

Step By Step Love Building

Most guys realize something pretty incredible when they start getting success with the ladies.

And that is that it’s not really as heavenly as they imagined.

Sure, it’s still a wonderful feeling to be with somebody special. Somebody who really gets you and has your back when you need it.

But it’s much more of a “two way street” than some guys imagine.

This is because there is a difference between getting something as a gift, and getting something in exchange.

Remember being a little kid, and getting birthday presents? Or any other present?

It feels good to get something. Something good. Something unexpected. Simply because.

That’s great if you’re a kid. And some guys apply this philosophy to girls. They act like they “deserve” something just “because.”

Like a little kid pounding his fists on the dinner table because there’s no ice cream.

“But You Promised!”

The only reason a girl will “give you” anything is because she’s getting something equally valuable from you.

And as tough as this is to hear, if you aren’t getting what you want from girls, then you don’t have much to offer, at least from their perspective.

No pretty girl, who gets plenty of attention from guys, is going to look across the room at some guy, and just spontaneously decide to walk over and give him the goods.

Girls just aren’t wired that way.

They like being approached. They like being talked to in a special way. They like to feel special feelings. 

And if a guy can consistently make them feel those special feelings, she’ll be more than willing to give back.

Now, it’s absolutely crucial that NONE of this happens on a conscious level. It’s not like trading baseball cards with your buddies.

Your behavior has to trigger those feelings. And those feelings in her will trigger her behavior that then triggers those feelings in you.

To get, you’ve got to give. But not like most guys think they’re “giving.”

How will you know when you’re “giving” correctly? She’ll be responding correctly. Body language, pupil dilation, lip color, skin color, percent of the time she’s looking at you and not gazing around the room.

Now, this requires a lot of practice. A lot of times you’ll go over and talk to her, and nothing will happen.

But if you talk to enough girls, you’ll see that just being you will be enough to get certain girls into you.

Then you just keep focusing on those until you find one you like who likes you.

Now, like I mentioned before, once you get to this level, it’s pretty mechanical. You’ll start to lose that “magic feeling” when a girl looks at you a special way.

You may even feel like you’re wasting your time. After all, you’ll find that if you talk to ten girls a night, you’ll get at least a couple who are interested in you.

You’ve stopped looking for unexpected “presents” and you’ve entered the grown up world of relationship creation.

Which means you can literally design your perfect dream girl, in every way, and then simply go out and find her.

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How To Meet Your Ideal Girlfriend

Get Her To Fall In Love With You

Step By Step To Love

How do you get a girl to like you?

Many guys struggle with this. If this is you, then you may not like you’re about to read.

To be sure, there’s plenty of courses and trainings and seminars that teach certain step by step behaviors and language patterns to get into her goods.

And to an extent, these work pretty well, especially if you’re only looking for short term flings.

But if you’re really into a girl, and you think she may be “The One,” then those “tricks” might backfire.

To make this easier to understand, we’ll use the metaphor of food, rather than seduction. It works the same way, as in it’s not a choice, and when it happens it happens. And when somebody gets REALLY hungry, especially for a certain food, there’s not much that will stop them from satisfying that hunger.

So let’s say you’ve got this potential customer. You’ve got to get them hungry, so they’ll buy what you’ve got.

But since you’ve only got certain ingredients, you can’t really cook ANYTHING. If you’re a bakery, for example, and all they want is deep fried pizza, there’s not much you can do.

Anyhow, there ARE a lot of “tricks” you can do to entice people’s hunger for bread. Offer discounts. Make sure your bread smells really good when people get close to your store. Put up a picture of the mayor in your shop.

And if you use enough of these tricks, you’ll get enough customers to come into your shop to buy bread.

One thing that WON’T work is if you explain to people consciously why they should eat bread.

Another that wouldn’t work is if you tell him how desperate you are for their business. Or how happy you’ll be if you buy their bread.

The ONLY thing that will work is if you get them hungry for bread.

Which means it’s got to be THEIR decision, based on THEIR unconscious desires. Try as you may, you simply CAN NOT use conscious ideas and logic to trigger somebody’s UNCONCIOUS desires.

That’s why plenty of adverts don’t make any conscious sense, but they work like gangbusters to sell products.

Here’s something else to consider. Supposing they do fall for your marketing tricks (authority, social proof, good smelling bread, testimonials from famous people etc.) guess what’s going to happen if they get your bread home and find out that your bread tastes like crap?

That’s right, they won’t buy any more of your bread.

Can you see how this works with females?

You can ask her or beg her or trick her to like you. 

But won’t unless the following happens:

She Must Be Attracted To You For Reasons She Can’t Explain Logically

How do you do this?

Well, I hate to say this, but you’ve got to be as attractive AND authentic as you can.

Meaning put aside the tricks or language manipulation. Build up your self confidence, social skills, frame control, and your belief in your ability to create and live a magnificent life.

Be yourself, but transform yourself into your very BEST self. For real. For life.

Then interact with as many girls as you can.

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How To Become A Super Confident Seducer

Always See The Big Picture

See The Big Picture

Most guys are conning themselves when they imagine getting with the perfect girl.

When we imagine getting a girl, we imagine it as something that’s given to us, or something that’s earned.

Make no mistake, everybody likes getting rewards or free gifts, especially when there’s a heavenly honey and some fun between the sheets involved.

But in reality, this mindset puts you at a HUGE disadvantage. And truth be told, most men NEVER leave this mindset. That’s why most men, even grown professional men making tons of cash and holding huge positions of importance, still look at their wife as some kind of authority figure.

Especially if they met when they were young, like in their twenties or earlier.

Why is this? Men take a lot longer to “grow up” than women. Even in ancient societies, boys had to be forced into ceremonies where they were transformed from boys into men. If they didn’t go through the ceremony, they’d stay boys their whole lives and be a danger to the tribe.

Why didn’t they do this for girls? Why no ceremonies for turning girls into women?

Because back then, it happened naturally. Having a baby does that to a girl. When you’ve got a little kid who is absolutely desperate for you to keep them alive, it’s kind of hard NOT to “grow up.”

Of course, this isn’t so true any more. But there’s still a lingering “gap” between the maturity level of boys and girls.

Just ask any school teacher.

And when you walk up to a girl in a club with that attitude that she’s got all the goods, and you “hope” that she decides to “give you” some, you’re not doing yourself any favors.

Ideally, you should have such a good life that girls are trying to convince YOU to let THEM in.

Now, this may seem impossible with so many people just barely able to pay the bills.

But the good news is that this comes from the INSIDE, not the money in your bank account.

On a deep psychological level, attraction is triggered by your BELIEF of your own life, and your own potential.

If you need her to be happy, you’re not worth too much to her.

But if you DON’T need her to be happy, she’ll be much more into you. 

Now, most guys are pretty good at pretending or faking this. But they quickly slip back into the beta-male role after a month or two of a relationship.

Which is why girls lose interest a lot in the first few weeks or months. You’ve lost that quality. Or she finds out that quality was fake.

How do you get that quality, on a real and lasting level?

Always see the big picture. If you don’t have huge dreams in your life, get some. It doesn’t matter if they seem a million miles away. Just BELIEVE they will come to you some day, and do things to make that happen. Even small things. Remember, you only need to convince yourself.

So next time you talk to a cutie, or are about to, ask yourself something like this:

“Does the achievement of my life’s dreams depend on this girl? Can she help me achieve them? Or is she just looking for entertainment? Let me go and talk to her and find out if she qualifies.”

Then go and talk to her.

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Real Game Or Paper Game?

How To Develop Solid Inner Game

Become A Natural Seducer

What’s the difference between paper game and real game?

First, let’s consider the different reason girls go for certain guys. Every girl has a list of what she thinks she wants in a man. These are socially acceptable things like a decent income, decent parents, a sense of humor, good friends, no prison record, etc.

On the other hand, there are things a girl unconsciously responds to. Thing she can’t help. The things that create REAL attraction. These are less “definable” things like self confidence, charisma, assertiveness, and always feeling in control of his frame anywhere, any time.

Now, if a girl is super lucky, she’ll meet a guy who satisfies both categories. How likely is that?

Consider the ideal girl for each guy. A super sweetheart, cute face, nice body, good upbringing ,but a total freak in between the sheets.

How likely is this?

For guys, study after study shows that we like freaks for short term flings, but “good girls” for long term relationships.

Girls are the same way. They like the bad boy in their bed once in a while, but they want to hook their wagon to the nice guy with the decent income.

Even genetic studies have shown that ten or twenty percent of the time, they’re married to the good guy, but making babies with the bad boy.

Does this mean that all girls are evil sociopath’s and we should hide in the closet?

Not in the least.

But as a guy going out into the world, just realize that having “paper game” will only take you so far. Some guys assume that “paper game” is all you need.

But when it comes down to it, real game will trump paper game all the time.

Even if you’ve got not much going on for you financially, developing real game will not only get you good results with the ladies, but good results in life.

All those real game qualities (self confidence, frame control, mad social skills) will also work VERY WELL in pretty much any business situation.

You may even say that this “real game,” or more correctly, “inner game” is THE most important skill to cultivate in life.

Because once you’ve got rock solid inner game, money, jobs, careers, ladies, those will be easy. They won’t be automatic, but you’ll feel much more in charge.

You’ll have the experience of walking into a place and noticing that all the girls are noticing you, and hoping that you come and talk to them.

How do you improve your inner game?

Outer practice, and inner practice.

Outer practice is just getting out there and being a human. Interact with people. Practice feeling comfortable in strange situations. Practice holding your frame in uncomfortable situations. Practice speaking your mind when you know most people will disagree with you. Practice starting conversations with strangers and making them smile and feel good because of you.

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Find The Girl Of Your Dreams

How To Create The Perfect Relationship

Are High Quality Women A Myth?

Most guys think they need to become a shopping list to get girls.

They think they need a certain level of income, a certain amount of body fat, a certain type of clothing before a girl gives them the time of day.

Then once they get all these things, they wonder why the princesses don’t suddenly fall into their lap.

Most girls, when asked about their “perfect husband” will give you a list of things they THINK are important to them.

Pretty much anybody is asked about such an important thing as a life partner, they tell you what they think they should say, rather than what really floats their boat.

Does this mean that people are horrible liars? Not at all.

It’s just that most times, we don’t really KNOW what floats our boat. Sure, we RESPOND to it when it comes around, but unless we’re ultra honest with ourselves (which is pretty impossible, btw), we’re usually blinded when it happens.

That’s why girls tend to fall in love with guys that they “didn’t think were my type” all the time.

It’s kind of like the difference between shopping for food when you’re hungry, vs. when you’re full.

When you’re full, you buy all the crap you THINK you should want. Usually healthy stuff.

When when you’re hungry, you buy stuff you REALLY want. Usually not so healthy.

This isn’t to say that what drives attraction is or isn’t healthy, it’s just an illustration to see the difference between what we want, and what we think we want.

So if you pay too much attention to conventional wisdom about what girls want (decent income, nice clothes, sense of humor, likes changing diapers, etc) you are going to be in for a HORRIBLE shock.

What do I mean?

She sees you coming along, with your personality based on her “consciously chosen things.” Then because you fit the bill, she goes with you because on paper, you LOOK like a good “catch.”

She might even get excited about showing her friends and family her good catch.

But her emotions won’t get fired up. Not even close.

Which means once she feels she’s got you on the hook, you’ll be nothing more than an ATM to her.

A provider, not a lover.

So forget about what girls TELL you what they want. Forget about convention wisdom.

Trigger those deep desires that make her chase the man of her dreams DESPITE what her friends and family might say.

When she thinks about you, she shouldn’t think of you as some “checkmark” in her box if things to do in life.

She shouldn’t be able to get her mind off you. Her heart should race when her phone vibrates. She should be nervous as hell when getting dressed to meet you.

How do you create THOSE feelings?

Your language. Your confidence. Your energy. How you talk to her, and then pull back. How you demonstrate that you like her, but you don’t need her. How you build your life with or without her.

Learn to test for REAL attraction. Unconscious attraction. Deep and ancient desire.

The kind that makes it OBVIOIUS she can’t live without you. The girls that DON’T display this level of desire? Not worth your time. Unless you’re content to be a trophy on her mantel.

However, don’t expect these girls to come to you. You’ve got to meet them, create, build and sustain attraction. Real attraction.

Will it be easy? No. 

But once you get a girl like that, she’ll be yours for life.

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Are You Waiting For A Hidden Secret?

Secrets Of Life

Automatic Success Strategy

Many things are simple, but not easy.

Meaning they are simple in concept, but not so easy to do.

Take weight loss for example. Eat less, and exercise more, right?

But doing that is next to impossible when we’re surrounded by so much food.

This is an example where NOT doing something is pretty hard.

On the other hand, take something like sales. All you’ve got to do is call enough people, and you’ll be rich. 

Or, if you want a gorgeous partner, all you’ve got to do is talk to enough people, and you’ll find them.

Simple in concept, difficult in practice.

Now, most people can’t even  admit this to themselves. They imagine there’s some kind of super secret technique that’s being kept from them, through some kind of hidden conspiracy.

All they need is to find out the magic “formula” and money will fall from the sky and gorgeous people will surround them and beg for their attention.

Us humans will do anything to avoid pain, including making up stories that keep us on the sidelines.

But the quickest, and most effective way to get anything is to simply get in the mix and try something. Anything.

If it works, do more of it. If it doesn’t work, do something different.

Of course, it can help if you’ve had AWESOME parents who took it upon themselves to make sure you believed that you could learn anything, do anything and overcome obstacles.

Unfortunately, most of our parents were “winging it,” simply doing the best they could to keep you from running out in the street.

This tends to have the OPPOSITE effect of building in that “can do” belief of bolding going out into the world and trying new things.

After being told by parents and teachers “no” a billion times, we tend to be a bit gun shy.

Which is why it seems to hard to do things we know we “should” be doing to get what we want, but have some kind of ready made “excuse.” 

What if you could go back and change your history? What if you could reference much more supportive experiences when you looked out into the world?

What if anytime you felt like taking some kind of action, instead of hearing those “no’s” all you heard was a voice of your choosing, saying something like, “You got this!”

What would you be able to do?

What would you be able to accomplish?

In the Frame Control course, that’s one of the things you’ll get.

A method to reprogram your “referencing system” so you’ll feel compelled to take action, instead of however you feel now.

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Which Memories Are You Referencing?

Choose Only Memories That Support You

Don’t Be Like C3PO

An interesting study recently has proven that a large portion of our reality is imaginary.

How do they know this?

When they hook up somebody’s brain to measure all the electrical impulses, they can see which areas light up when the test subject is perceiving something outside. They show him something he’s never seen before, and ask him specific questions about it, so they know he’s focusing outside of his mind.

Then they ask him to close their eyes, and imagine something. A completely different part of their brain lights up.

But when they show him something “familiar” BOTH parts light up. Meaning he’s creating that image partially on the fly, in real time, but also partially based on his memory.

So a lot of times, what we think we’re seeing around us REALLY IS all in our head.

To make matters worse, sometimes we perceive “meanings” that don’t really exist in the first place. Somebody looks at us “funny” and we’re not only remembering something that happened before, but we’re remembering something we made up in the first place.

A lot of times our brains, in order to protect us, act like C3PO from Star Wars. That part where they were in the garbage compactor, and Luke said, “Shut down all compactors on the detention level!”

And 3PO said, “NOOOOO! Shut Them ALL Down!”

Similarly, whenever we “think” there might be danger “out there,” our brains respond with massive over kill.

Better safe than sorry, right?

But what if that thing they are protecting us from things (like rejection, for example) doesn’t exist in the first place?

Wouldn’t it be better to access more helpful memories, rather than imaginary danger?

You bet it would!

That’s one of the things you’ll learn in the Frame Control learning course.

How to dig deep in your  past, and find times when you were ultra confident.

Then you’ll look how to access THOSE memories instead.

So instead of responding like C3PO, you’ll respond like Han Solo, or any other Hero you’d like.

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