Category Archives: Dating

How To Slowly Build Your Own Harem

How To Get Tons Of Girls - No Colored Feathers Required

How To Surround Yourself With Gorgeous Girls

If you want to get a girl to notice you, it’s pretty easy.

Now some guys will go to great lengths to make this happen.

They’ll spend hours a week in the gym. Deprive themselves of their favorite foods so they can get that six pack that allegedly attracts women in droves.

They’ll drop half their paycheck on clothes to hopefully get one or two ladies to turn their heads when they walk in the place.

Some will even wear big goofy hats that you can’t help but notice.

Of course, if you’re a peacock, this works pretty well. But in the world of peacocks the dude just shows up with all the other dudes, and the ladies pick the guy with the brightest feathers.

If this is the way it worked for humans, all those billboards and magazine ads you see wouldn’t be for women’s clothes, they’d be for men’s clothes.

And men would be the ones paying twice as much for dry cleaning, and worrying about what shoes to go with what outfit. 

Luckily, we’re not peacocks. We can do more than change our appearance, and then sit on the bar stool hoping we get noticed.

So, what’s the secret?

Well, you already know this, so it’s not much of a secret.

Walk over there and talk to her!

See, as much as guys pound their chests about how they’re super hero alphas who slay the ladies at every turn, most guys are TERRIFIED of talking to girls. Especially girls they are interested in.

Sure, they do a good job of covering this up, even to themselves.

Some guys even choose entire CAREERS based on the women they think it will get them.

But if you can talk a good game, NONE of that other stuff matters.

And what’s the best way to get good at talking to girls?

Well, this isn’t a trick question. 

Talk to more girls!

Here’s a mind experiment. Really think about this one.

What if you made a commitment right here, right now, to NEVER try and “pick up” a girl.

You NEVER asked for a phone number. You NEVER made any kind of suggestions about getting together.

From now on, no matter what, all you wanted to do was talk to girls and enjoy the conversation, ANY WAY you could.

Now think about this for a minute.

If you were really serious, and decided to NEVER close a girl in any way shape or form, what would happen?

Well, you’d talk to a lot more girls since there would be no pressure, only fun.

Which means you’d get more relaxed.

Which means you’d enjoy their company, and they yours.

And your subconsciously driven, natural feedback loop would kick in. Just like a little kid learns to walk based on natural feedback, your ability to make her laugh, smile and feel good would naturally and consistently improve.

And pretty soon, girls would start closing you. Remember, the ONLY RULE of this “mind experiment” is that you can’t close them. If they close you, and you’re into her, then let her have you.

What would your life be like in six months?

All the girls in your life would be TOTALLY INTO YOU.

You’d never worry about flakes, never worry about how long to wait until she called you back etc.

All the nonsense would take care of itself.

Now ask yourself this honest question:

How much action have you gotten in the last six months?

Would you be willing to do this experiment for the next six months?

Try and see what happens.

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Find The Girl Of Your Dreams

How To Create The Perfect Relationship

Are High Quality Women A Myth?

Most guys think they need to become a shopping list to get girls.

They think they need a certain level of income, a certain amount of body fat, a certain type of clothing before a girl gives them the time of day.

Then once they get all these things, they wonder why the princesses don’t suddenly fall into their lap.

Most girls, when asked about their “perfect husband” will give you a list of things they THINK are important to them.

Pretty much anybody is asked about such an important thing as a life partner, they tell you what they think they should say, rather than what really floats their boat.

Does this mean that people are horrible liars? Not at all.

It’s just that most times, we don’t really KNOW what floats our boat. Sure, we RESPOND to it when it comes around, but unless we’re ultra honest with ourselves (which is pretty impossible, btw), we’re usually blinded when it happens.

That’s why girls tend to fall in love with guys that they “didn’t think were my type” all the time.

It’s kind of like the difference between shopping for food when you’re hungry, vs. when you’re full.

When you’re full, you buy all the crap you THINK you should want. Usually healthy stuff.

When when you’re hungry, you buy stuff you REALLY want. Usually not so healthy.

This isn’t to say that what drives attraction is or isn’t healthy, it’s just an illustration to see the difference between what we want, and what we think we want.

So if you pay too much attention to conventional wisdom about what girls want (decent income, nice clothes, sense of humor, likes changing diapers, etc) you are going to be in for a HORRIBLE shock.

What do I mean?

She sees you coming along, with your personality based on her “consciously chosen things.” Then because you fit the bill, she goes with you because on paper, you LOOK like a good “catch.”

She might even get excited about showing her friends and family her good catch.

But her emotions won’t get fired up. Not even close.

Which means once she feels she’s got you on the hook, you’ll be nothing more than an ATM to her.

A provider, not a lover.

So forget about what girls TELL you what they want. Forget about convention wisdom.

Trigger those deep desires that make her chase the man of her dreams DESPITE what her friends and family might say.

When she thinks about you, she shouldn’t think of you as some “checkmark” in her box if things to do in life.

She shouldn’t be able to get her mind off you. Her heart should race when her phone vibrates. She should be nervous as hell when getting dressed to meet you.

How do you create THOSE feelings?

Your language. Your confidence. Your energy. How you talk to her, and then pull back. How you demonstrate that you like her, but you don’t need her. How you build your life with or without her.

Learn to test for REAL attraction. Unconscious attraction. Deep and ancient desire.

The kind that makes it OBVIOIUS she can’t live without you. The girls that DON’T display this level of desire? Not worth your time. Unless you’re content to be a trophy on her mantel.

However, don’t expect these girls to come to you. You’ve got to meet them, create, build and sustain attraction. Real attraction.

Will it be easy? No. 

But once you get a girl like that, she’ll be yours for life.

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Three Rules For Creating Attraction

Step By Step Rules To Attraction

How To Create Female Interest

Most guys think too much when thinking about girls.

There’s a lot going on to be sure, but if you over think anything, you can get yourself into trouble.

What very common mistake is to assume that attraction happens on a conscious level.

We’ve all heard that “attraction isn’t a choice” over and over, but many guys still behave like it is.

What do I mean?

They do something, and expect a girl to give them something back. Like doing a business deal, or even buying something at the store.

They buy her a drink, and think she “should” do something, like at least talk to them.

They bring her flowers, and think she “should” let him kiss her.

They have a decent income, and think that girls “should” be attracted to them.

But girls NEVER do anything attraction based because they WANT to, or they CHOOSE to.

Any kind of attraction based behavior is subconscious.

This is hard for guys to understand, because we see girls and we AUTOMATICALLY become attracted to them in a few seconds. If she’s put together, is cute, and is dressed nice, it doesn’t take long.

Girls, on the other hand, take a while to “feel attraction” for a buy.

But just because it takes a while, doesn’t mean it’s a conscious process. It is STILL just as unconscious as a guy’s attraction for a girl.

Which means no matter WHAT you do, she’s NOT going to think, “Hmm, he did this so I should start to like him, and give him some of my feminine energy.”

Nope. Ain’t gonna happen.

No matter WHAT you do, it HAS to be an unconscious response.

If she doesn’t give you any signs of attraction, SHE’S NOT ATTRACTED.

How do you create attraction?

Luckily, there ARE some basic “rules” for guys to create attraction in girls, just like most guys tend to agree what sexually attractive girls look like.

But make no mistake, just like guys have different types, so do girls.

So the first rule is to BE THE SAME throughout your entire interaction.

If you do something that gets her attracted to you, and then change your behavior, she’ll lose that feeling.

The second rule is to take your time. Let her respond to you. 

The third rule is to be able to MEASURE her attraction. Girls may feel really attracted to you, but consciously hold back, for whatever reason.

How can you tell?

Her pupils, how she responds when you touch her, how she responds when you lean into her personal space, if you ask her to come with you (across the room) and she follows right away.

If you’re waiting for her to TELL YOU she’s attracted, you’ll be waiting a long time.

But if you learn to SEE the “symptoms” of attraction, you’ll be surprised.

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How To Eliminate Rejection From Girls

Back Off Man, I'm A Scientist!

Never Face Rejection Again

The human brain is a pretty amazing tool.

One that’s not even close to being understood yet. 

It’s very fast, which is great for survival. But it’s not so accurate. In a sense, it’s a lot like your web browser.

When you visit a familiar site, instead of loading up all the stuff fresh, it references your browser’s cache.

This makes it load much quicker than if you had to download everything every single time.

Web servers do this as well. If the page is static, they serve up a cached copy, as it’s much quicker.

This is how the brain operates in both familiar and unfamiliar surroundings.

A long, long time ago, maybe there were people that needed to stare at something for a long time, and let the information soak in long enough to figure out what was what.

But they all got eaten by dinosaurs. Which means the only people that are left are us goofs who don’t reference reality any more than your web browser downloads every  piece of data every time you visit the same web site.

Science has measured this. They know which areas of the brain are responsible for imaginary stuff, and which part is responsible for reality stuff.

Most of the time, it’s a mix of two.

Why is this important?

Well, consider this next time you’re out checking out the ladies. One of the reasons guys get so nervous is they see some super hot girl, and make all kinds of assumptions about her.

And because are much more attracted to women based on looks, this puts us at a disadvantage.

We walk over there, already having decided that she passes all of our criteria. Only she knows nothing about us.

So we feel like we’re walking over there with her having all the power. The power to accept us, or the power to reject us.

This, of course, causes all kinds of anxiety.

But when you remember that what you’re seeing is literally an illusion, it makes it easier.

Now, this is something you’ll have to consciously remember, and practice. There’s NO magic thought that you only need to think once that will get rid of your fears.

It’s something you need to train in. Just like a mental version of Karate Kid.

But this is a good way to practice.

When you see her, don’t let your caveman get away with assuming all kinds of crap. Go over there NOT to hopefully get accepted, but to find out if she IS as hot as you think she is.

All girls have flaws. Just like all guys have flaws.

See your first approach to get a better picture of her. Withhold judgment of her, until you talk to her.

If you approach with this mindset, you’ll never get rejected.

Because you’re not trying to get accepted.

You’re just getting more information.

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Here’s What Women Really Like

Secrets Of Female Desire

Secrets Of Female Desire

There’s some crazy tests they’ve done to see what turns men on, and what turns women on.

These are NOT those lame tests where they ASK people what turns them on. People generally give answers they THINK they should.

Luckily, science ALWAYS finds out how to get around human deception.

One way is to measure the size of the pupil. When we see something we like, our pupils get bigger. 

So they set up these ultra sensitive measuring eyeball things and flash a bunch of pictures.

And what do guys like looking at (according to their pupils)?

Girls. Girls in bikinis. Girls in bikinis with big boobs. Naked girls. Naked girls with big boobs. Naked girls with big boobs kissing each other.

OK, Ok, you get the idea.

Big surprise, right?

What makes girls pupils get bigger?

Babies.

Yep, among all the things, those do it for girls the most.

The moral of the story, then, is that when you’re going out picking up girls, bring a baby.

Just kidding.

But what this DOES tell us that when they flashed pictures of guys with ripped abs, all kinds of bling, even super gorgeous dudes that just walked off the cover of Men’s Health, the girls (according to their pupils) were, “Yea, whatever.”

Which means your body shape, your looks, your bling, your six pack (the one on your stomach or the one in that brown bag you think nobody sees) doesn’t mean squat.

Now, to some guys, this is great news. Most of us don’t belong on the cover of Men’s Health. I know I don’t (except maybe to show what happens when diet and exercise plans fail miserably).

But the folks who DO get angry at this are folks who spend tons of time in the gym, or tons of money on clothes.

They seem to believe they can follow the same playbook girls can. Meaning get in shape, dress nice, and just show up and wait for the girls to flock, like they’re peahens or something.

Here’s a newsflash. (One you already know).

The BEST way to get a girl to notice you, to get her fired up, to get her to want to go home with you (or at least give you her number), is to go up and TALK to her.

That means walking over there, introducing yourself, and find out what she’s all about, and letting her know what you’re all about.

Of course, HOW you talk to her will make all the difference. NOT what you’re wearing while you do.

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Basic Elements Of Female Desire

How To Get Her To Fall In Love With You

Automatically Push Her Buttons

How do you create attraction in a woman? Easy.

This is going to sound HORRIBLY un-PC, but Mother Nature isn’t the kindest lass in the land.

Guys like girls for physical reasons. Girls like guys for behavior reasons.

This is from evolution of course, when a girl was chosen for her ability to have healthy kids that would have a good chance to grow up. This meant she was young and disease free, had decent sized boobs, and was symmetric in as many ways as possible.

Like I said, Mother Nature doesn’t care much about our feelings.

Girls on the other hand, didn’t develop a craving for looks. She needs somebody who can take care of her, and bring home the bacon repeatedly for at least 5-10 years.

She can’t tell this by looking at the guy. Sure he might be chiseled with six pack, but if he was a social goof who didn’t play well with others,  he’d never get much meat. He wouldn’t be able to feed her kids.

Back then, hunting was like playing football. (American OR Euro style). It was a team effort. If you couldn’t play well with others, you were SOL.

So she would always check and see how he behaved with others, to decide subconsciously if he was a “quality male” or not. Like it or not, his perceived social status was everything.

Today, that still holds true. If you show up with your six pack, tight shirt, and all kinds of bling, you may be “eye candy” but unless you can hold your own in a conversation, she won’t give you a second thought.

The crucial skills to develop if you want to win a ladies heart is social skills, self confidence, social intelligence, and the ability to maintain a slightly dominant, but friendly frame with whomever you are speaking with.

Luckily, you can practice this ANYWHERE. Supermarkets, post office lines, school, even with dudes down at your local pub.

Sure, you’ve got to talk to ladies occasionally, but not all the time.

And when you develop enough social skills, self confidence, and frame control, you won’t need much else.

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How To Approach A Girl For The First Time

The Best Approach Angle For Success

Defocus With Congruence

It’s funny how things that are true on a huge, galactic scale are also true on a tiny, microcosmic scale.

Solar systems are made of suns with planets orbiting around them. Planets have moons orbiting around them. Atoms are made of a nucleus with electrons orbiting around it.

Interacting with girls is the same way, both on a large scale, and on a microcosmic scale.

For example, most guys know instinctively if you make girls the sole purpose of your life, you won’t get very far. 

Sure, there are some world famous pick up artists that are actually homeless, but because of their super tight game, they just move from relationship to relationship, always staying with the girls they are currently with. 

Even though they’re homeless, they never have to spend a single night on the street.

Now, for some, this would be a dream come true. But for most normal guys, this would kind of suck. It’s nice to have your own place, your own car, your own money, your own job and a boss who appreciated what you do and would fight tooth and nail to keep you on board.

In the big scheme of things, having a girl is a great PART of your life, to be sure. And all that comes with that later on (family, etc, if that’s what you want.)

But that shouldn’t be the central FOCUS of your life.

Similarly when you go out, making girls the most important focus isn’t likely the best strategy. Most guys, when they think back to the best nights of their lives, according to their interactions with females, were nights where they DIDN’T specifically go out looking for girls.

Take a look at this on an even smaller scale. Suppose you’re in some place with your boys, having fun. You see a cutie across the room, and you trade a few flirty eye locks.

If you dropped everything and walked over there while staring straight at her as if she were the ONLY person in the world, she’d likely flee in terror.

That’s why it’s always a good strategy to kind of “show up” next to her. Then simply “ease yourself” into a conversation with her.

Now, if you’re doing this as part of your “game,” and while you “pretend” to be nonchalant, you can’t get your mind off her, it might not work as well.

But if you’re attitude is to “make your way over there,” and “see what she’s like,” AND it’s congruent with your attitude toward girls both in life and that night, you’ll be much more successful.

You and she will be more relaxed when you talk. You’ll both be less likely to “put on your game face” and try any short term tricks.

Which means if you DO hit it off, it will be real, and not fake.

Now, holding that frame of mind can be tough.

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The Exchange Model Of Seduction

Exchange Emotions Instead of Beg For Them

Get Your Mind Right!

There’s one problem that’s pretty common (among guys) when getting out and interacting with females. An overestimation of HER worth, and an underestimation of YOUR worth.

The thing to understand about ALL human interactions they are based on exchange.

Sure, when we’re kids and in a family, we just get what we need without really having to give anything back.

But once we grow up and put on our big boy pants, that crap needs to get tossed out the window.

Nobody’s going to give you anything just because you think you deserve it.

Especially girls, girls who have options (which is the kind of girls you SHOULD be going after, but that’s another argument completely.)

In order for any girl worth her salt to spend any time with you, she’s got to be getting something out of the deal.

She needs to benefit just much as you are benefiting.

Granted, this all happens on a subconscious level, but it’s still there.

If you don’t create those emotions and feelings in her that she wants from you, she’s not going to give you those emotions and feelings you want from her.

Luckily, this is pretty automatic. Both men and women are hard wired to reciprocate when we get out buttons pushed in the right way.

The only trouble comes when you assume she’s got more to offer you than you’ve got to offer her.

To make it worse,  if you walk to her with an emotional “trade deficit” AND an expectation that she SHOULD feel a certain way, it’s going to make it even harder.

Both of these problems go hand in hand. Which means once you get rid of one, you’ll usually get rid of the other.

How do you do this?

First, understand how attraction works. We usually need to feel attraction first, before we are willing to create attraction in others, even subconsciously.

No girl is going to be sweet and feminine and affectionate with you unless she ALREADY feels those feelings for you.

The next step is to stop overestimating her value, AND to stop underestimating your own value.

Don’t walk over there with a puffed up chest thinking your king Alpha of the Planet, but DO have an honest appreciation for your strong points.

Then just go over and talk to her.

See it as a discovery process. Show her what you’ve got, and see what she’s got.

If you’re both feeling it, good job. If not, it’s NOBODY’S fault. Nobody’s cheating anybody. Nobody is manipulating anybody. Nobody’s dissing anybody.

Think of it like setting up a booth at your local flea market. Do you get super pissed when people wander by without buying anything? Nope. You just hang until you see people that ARE interested in what you’ve got.

Luckily, for most guys, that only means finding ONE girl when it comes to romance.

So get out there and mingle until you find her.

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How To Practice Seduction

They Ain't Gonna Play Themselves!

Daily Practice Is Crucial For Any Skill

If you practiced picking up girls like some guys practice playing the piano, you’d be a virtuoso in no time.

What do I mean?

Think about the piano. First you learn the C chord. Then you learn a few arpeggios. Then you practice them (which is REALLY boring) until you can play any combination without much conscious thought.

Say this takes a couple weeks, 30 minutes a day. Then you move on to the G chord, then the F chord, then A, etc.

Each time, getting a little bit more efficient. In say, six months time, you can look at a piece of music, know immediately what chord it’s in, and play it through the first time.

Thirty minutes a day of boring practice, and six months or so later, you can play some pretty decent music. Even make some. Combine your new music skills with some software instruments, and there’s really nothing you can’t do.

Now, compare this to picking up girls. Most guys NEVER practice. Sure, they go out a lot and talk to girls, get their numbers, go on dates, create relationships, but it’s NEVER practice. It’s ALWAYS real.

Imagine if you ONLY practiced the piano while giving a recital in front of a bunch of people you’d never met.

You’d ALWAYS be nervous, and you’d NEVER get better.

Any time you even THOUGHT of playing the piano, you’d break out into a cold sweat. You may even spend thousands of dollars on seminars to learn the “one secret trick” that allows you to play the piano without EVER needing to practice.

So, how do you PRACTICE picking up girls?  The SAME way you practice the piano.

Spend the first week ONLY practicing eye contact. Nothing else.

Then move on to saying “hi.” 

Make sure you understand which categories girls are in. (In your mind). Practice or real.

This will shoot your game to the upper echelons of natural player mode faster than anything else.

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The Paradox Of Becoming A Natural Seducer

How To Turn On Your Magic Love Juice

How To Boost Your Game

Most guys would love to become a natural. The guy who can just walk up to any girl, any time and just say whatever’s on his mind. Then just sit back and watch the girl transform from passive observer to drooling desirer of love.

How do you become that guy?

The answer’s pretty simple, but HOW to do it is kind of a paradox.

The answer, of course, is to practice. Picking up gorgeous girls is a skill, just like any other. To get better at ANYTHING, all you’ve got to do is practice.

HOW to practice is something that most guys never consider. Most guys see a girl, go up and get blown out, and then later convince themselves it was “practice.”

Or maybe they start to practice, but end up talking to some super cutie that feels like a life or death conversation.

Sure, if the game’s on the line and you’re making a do or die free-throw, you’ll feel like crap if you miss.

But if you’re just practicing free throws, missing won’t hurt for squat.

That’s the paradox of practicing game. In most guys’ minds, there’s no difference between practice game and real game.

Imagine this:

You’re practicing free throws, just messing around with your boys. You make one. Then another, then another. You’re about to take your fourth shot, when suddenly and magically your transformed to the championship  playoff game. You check the scoreboard, you’re down by one point, and there’s one second left.

Now how do you feel?

This is what happens if you blur the line between “real game” and “practice game.”

Practice Makes Perfect

How Can You Practice Game?

Choose an outcome. One that’s consistent with your level. Eye contact, smiles, whatever. Then go out and ONLY practice that aspect. 

NOTHING ELSE.

For example, if you’re having trouble flirting, simply practice smiling at girls while holding eye contact.

Tell yourself you’ll go out and do that fifty times. Only smile while holding eye contact.

Nothing else.

As soon as you lock eyes and smile, eject, and move on to the next practice target.

This goes with all other levels. Opening. Number closing, kiss closing. Everything.

You’ll find this is the HARDEST thing you’ll ever do.

Why?

Because once you lock eyes and smile, she may smile back. And EVERYTHING in your brain will want you to keep going. Keep smiling, go and talk to her, etc.

Don’t do this. This is practice.

If you can resist your natural tendency to keep charging forward until you get rejected, your game will quickly shoot to natural levels of easy seduction.

The ONLY thing you need to remember is whether or not is real game, or practice game.

Define that BEFORE you leave your house, and you’ll be good.

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