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Should You Learn Fractionation?

There Are No Magic Bullets

Do Magic Bullets Even Exist?

There’s a lot of confusion about certain techniques in covert hypnosis as it applies to seduction. One of those is something called “fractionation.” This is a proven technique that shows up pretty much everywhere, and has been used very effectively in traditional hypnosis.

However, because it’s kind of confusing, and vague, some marketers have treated it like some magic bullet that can instantly get a girl ready to go. This is not really true. Not even close.

The truth about fractionation is that is one technique, among many, that can accelerate a process. But in order to use fractionation to accelerate the process, you’ve got to first be able to do the process. Fractionation is NOT a replacement for the process.

So, what IS the process? Talking to a girl, and getting her feeling those special feelings when she thinks about you. If you can do this during the first meeting, you’re doing pretty good.

Now, this is pretty vague. How do you talk to her and get her thinking those special feelings? There’s a million ways to do that. It depends on the girl. It depends on you. It depends on the location. It depends how you compare in her mind to the last five or ten goofs that have tried to pick her up.

In fact, there are so many variables that are always changing, there is simply NO WAY to come up with a memorized set of behavior patterns that will work. The ONLY way to develop the skills to get her feeling those good feelings is to simply talk to as many girls as you can, and try to get as many of them feeling those feelings as you can.

Naturally, you’ll fail most of the time.

But think of what human life on Earth would be like if any goof could memorize a bunch of techniques and then go out and get any girl dreaming of sex? The entire planet would be populated by single guys and single mothers who have no clue who the father is!

Luckily, this is not the case. Luckily, girls DO have certain criteria, conscious or not, for the guy they want to hook up with. And unless you meet this criteria, you aren’t going to get far.

Luckily, one of these criteria that’s VERY important is a guy who’s got really good social skills. And the only way to GET really good social skills is to get out there and be social.

You CANNOT learn social skills by studying techniques or memorizing patterns.

But the more you get out there and practice, the more fun you’ll have, and the more attractive you’ll become.

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You Are Not A Snowflake

Use Your Uniqueness As Strengths, Not Weaknesses

Follow The Same Path Of Success

One of the BIGGEST mistakes you can make in life is to fully believe or accept the idea of, “My case is different.”

Everybody’s been taught that they are special. They are unique. There’s nobody else like them, and there will never be another person like them. Ever.

Just like a snowflake.

No two are the same. This both true and false. To the extent you know the difference, you will be wildly successful. To the extent you don’t, you’ll spend life in emotional agony, and never know why.

Now, to start off with, let’s address the snowflake is unique myth. In reality, there are two snowflakes that WILL be the same, statistically speaking. But that’s now what we’re talking about.

Let’s just assume that the physical appearance of every single snowflake that ever was, and ever will be is different. As a metaphor if nothing else.

But that doesn’t mean that all snowflakes are created differently. That doesn’t mean that they don’t follow the same laws of physics. That doesn’t mean they’ll all eventually melt, turn into water, and get all their snowflake molecules (which is WATER, btw) mixed back in with everything else.

So yea, they’re all different. But they’re also all the same.

Which means you, as a human, are the same and different than everybody else.

You have the same basic desires. You face the same basic obstacles. You face the same basic limitations.

It’s only when you start to use your own unique qualities as a reason you CANNOT overcome the same obstacles everybody else has to overcome, is it GAME OVER.

To the extent you believe you CAN overcome ANY obstacle, if merely because somebody else did, then you will ALWAYS eventually be successful.

Here’s an example. Every guy would like a girl. Usually a girl that’s pretty, nice, friendly, and intelligent.

And every guy also has a bunch of reasons why they think they CAN’T get that girl.

Every. Single. Guy.

The ones that get the girl, don’t listen to their own excuses. The ones that don’t, do.

Once I knew this doctor. Smart guy. Good looking guy. Rich guy. Friendly guy. But he was also about 5’5″.

He had a rock solid belief, that no “quality girls” would date short guys. This was his REASON for thinking that he was EXCUSED from not facing the same obstacles every other guy faces.

Namely, trying and getting rejected and trying again. Over and over until you finally get the girl you want.

Because he was TOO AFRAID to even try, he created what he thought was a REASON to not try.

He thought HE WAS DIFFERENT. Every single piece of evidence he saw to the contrary, he kept telling himself the same lie. “Yea, but I’m different.”

If you hear yourself telling yourself this, it’s a lie. Which is good news. Because the single most powerful thing you can do that will SKYROCKET your success with women is to STOP BELIEVING YOUR OWN LIES.

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How To Get The Best Of Both Worlds

Long Range Thinking

Long Term Thinking For Short Term Success

In the world of running, there’s fast twitch muscle fibers, and slow twitch muscle fibers. This pretty much determines if you are better at long distance running, or sprinting. (Or if you’re like me with NO twitch muscle fibers, lol).

Meaning if you are naturally fast twitch, you’d be a pretty good sprinter. If you are really low twitch, you’d be a good long distance runner.

But here’s the thing. You can turn a fast twitch muscle into a slow twitch, but not the other way around. Meaning a natural sprinter, with proper training, can turn into a decent long distance runner. But a natural long distance runner can only go so fast in a sprint, you matter HOW hard they train.

Most guys, if they study ANY aspect of game, eventually face a decision. Should you pursue multiple, short term relationships, or should you look for that ONE special girl.

Some choose out of anger, or hate, or pain, after getting burned. They fell in love, got their heart broken, and will forever keep themselves protected from further pain by staying ONLY in short term relationships with low quality women.

Some guys just like the idea of hitting it with strangers.

However, keep something in mind. If you’ve told yourself that you want to be a player now, and settle down later, you may run into trouble.

Game is similar to muscle fibers. You can turn a monogamist into a player, but it’s tough to turn a player into a monogamist.

But, if you have some patience, and a long view, there IS a way to get the best of both worlds.

First, you’ll need to make the serious decision that one day, you DO want to settle down with Miss Right.

Next, you’ll have to come up with some pretty tight criteria of what Miss Right is like.

Then you’ve got to have the courage to go out and meet as many girls as possible, in your quest for her.

Make no mistake, this is incredible difficult. It’s something most guys are simply not capable of doing. Most guys (and most people for that matter) simply take what they can get, call it good, and hope everything works out.

Because the right relationship with the right woman can be so INCREDIBLY FANTASTIC, and the opposite so utterly horrible, do you REALLY want to leave that up to chance?

Now, how does that “best of both worlds” part work?

In the process of meeting as many girls as you can to find Miss Right, you will meet a lot of girls (duh).

A lot of girls who will voluntarily spin your propeller in ways you’ve never DREAMED of!

So long as you keep your sights set on the end prize (You and Miss Right) and stay honest with yourself and what you’re after, the PATH to that inevitable success will be pretty fun.


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Easy Day Game Approach Strategy

Approach Girls Anywhere Any Time

Easy Confidence Builder

Here’s an exercise you can do that will significantly boost your confidence, and when done correctly will pretty much guarantee you WON’T get shot down when you approach.

It’s not as easy as it sounds, so you may need a few tries before you get the hang of it.

It requires that you purposely keep your movements slow. The sign of a true confident person is slow and measured movements, not eyes or body parts darting around.

Anyhow, here’s what you do. It’s a good idea if you and your “target” are both stationary, and about 5 meters or more apart, but not more than 10 or 15. You need to read each others facial expressions.

Find somebody interesting, and look at them. Don’t stare, just look. When they notice you looking, hold eye contact. Don’t stare. Stay relaxed. Hold eye contact and within about three or four seconds, let a smile slowly build on your face. A relaxed, kind smile. Not a lecherous or predatory one. Just a relaxed smile to match your relaxed face that says, “I enjoy looking at you.”

If she smiles, looks away and then looks back, that’s about as clear a sign as you’ll EVER get that she’s interested, and she wants you to approach her.

Of course, how you approach, and what you say when you do will have an impact on what happens next. Nothing is guaranteed. But if you can be relaxed and confident when you approach, and say something simple like, “Hi, I noticed you from over there and I wanted to meet you. My name’s…” and then introduce yourself, you’ll be almost guaranteed to get a decent conversation.

(Just make sure you don’t have garlic breath or something!)

If you’re having trouble with approaches, this is a GREAT way to build up your confidence. Don’t worry about number closing or anything. Just exchange a few words, smile and say, “Well I enjoyed meeting you. I hope I see you around.” And then leave it at that.

It will only take you a few times doing this to realize she WANTS you to get her number. Then when you get to that stage, you’ll be collecting HIGH QUALITY numbers from girls who are genuinely interested in you. Not girls who give you their number just to get rid of you.

This will build your confidence, get you some decent numbers, and quickly take your day game to levels most guys never get to.

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Destroy Approach Anxiety Once And For All

Always Leave On A High Note

Always Leave On A High Note

What’s the one question guys will invariably ask when they see their buddy talking to a cute girl?

They will always ask if he got the number. Or they’ll ask what the outcome of the conversation was.

And if they don’t get the number, everybody assumes that the guy failed.

This is natural, but it’s also pretty dangerous. Why? Imagine if your number one goal when talking to girls was to close her as high as you could. Number close, kino close, kiss close, whatever.

Even if you have a specific level you’re going for, like a number close, this is still pretty dangerous.

Why?

Because on a deep level, it creates the mindset that she has something you don’t. And you’re only successful if she gives it to you. We all know that this is a numbers game, right? Just like in sales. Call enough people, and you’ll make money. Talk to enough girls, and you’ll get some numbers.

The problem is the ones that DON’T give you their number. No matter how much self confidence and self esteem you have, not getting a number when that is your primary goal is going to hurt. Sometimes not so much, sometimes a lot.

Also consider this. The way our brains operate is that every time we go into a new situation, our brains automatically call up as many similar experiences as possible, to prepare us for what might happen.

Which means when you’re approaching a girl for the first time, you will automatically recall, subconsciously, all the other girls you’ve ever approached. And if every single one them is put into a “win-loss” category in your  mind, guess what feeling you’ll suddenly feel?

Stress. Anxiety. Worry. Even fear.

What’s a better alternative?

Just talk to girls WITHOUT having any “outcome” in mind. Don’t specifically ask for the number UNLESS she seems like you’re type and UNLESS you are pretty sure you’re going to get it.

Otherwise, don’t worry. Juts enjoy the conversation, and then split. It’s also a GREAT IDEA if you leave on a “high note.”

Most guys talk to girls until they get blown out. This creates a subconscious connection between getting blown out, and talking to girls. Which means every time you approach a girl, you’ll feel that fear of getting blown out.

On the other hand, if you ALWAYS leave on a high note, you’ll create a whole different automatic response.

If, from now on, you leave every conversation with a girl thinking, “Wow, that was fun, I could have done more!” Then talking to girls will soon start to be fun and exciting. Not stressful or anxious.

And guess what? It won’t be long before girls start dropping OBVIOUS hints that they want to give you their number.

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How To Avoid Criteria Mismatch

Make Sure You're A Match

Make Sure You’ve Got Enough In Common

If you want to sell something to somebody, you need to have rapport. If you want to persuade somebody of something, you need to have rapport.

Rapport is that deep feeling of connection. That feeling that makes you feel comfortable and fully trusting that person you’re talking to. And contrary to many traditional sales teachings, rapport is mostly unconscious, and not really dependent on the kinds of things you’re talking about.

It’s pretty easy as well. Matching body language, matching rate of speech, matching rep systems if you’re advanced enough. Then once you’ve established you’re in rapport (by checking and making sure you’re pretty much mirroring each other) then you want to start leading.

Meaning you move slightly, and make sure they follow you. Once you’ve established this, you can start getting down to business. 

How long does it take to get rapport? It all depends. If you’re a likeable person and you’re both pretty relaxed to begin with, then it won’t take long. But if you or they are in a bad mood, or maybe you’re in some kind of confrontational environment, then it may never happen.

However, there is a time when creating rapport too fast may not be such a great idea. And that is when you’re meeting somebody who is a potential romantic interest.

Unfortunately, many sales techniques have made their way into the dating world. Certainly, they are very similar.

But there’s an assumption in sales that shouldn’t be in dating. If you’re in sales, everybody is a potential candidate. So long as they’ve got the money, they are a potential customer.

But think about dating. If you are intending to create a relationship, everybody is most certainly NOT a candidate. After all, dating for the long term is about much more than physical attraction. Now, to begin with there absolutely MUST be some physical attraction, but that’s just start.

But you also need to have a lot of other things in common. And until you know what those things are, you should hold off on doing any kind of advanced selling topics.

For example, let’s say you see a girl who is absolutely gorgeous. So you fire up your hypnotic selling machine. Within an hour, she’s dripping with desire and thinks you’re the greatest thing since sliced bread.

And you keep your hypnotic selling machine turn on “max seduction” all the way through your first sexual encounter.

The next day, she’s head over heels in love with you, because you’ve been banging on her hot buttons all night long.

But you don’t really know ANYTHING about her!

What if she has the opposite political beliefs as you? What if you go to daily mass but she’s a witch? What if she’s a vegan and you eat raw steak three times a day? Sure, you can put up with a little bit of differences, but be careful!

The moral of the story? Qualify first, and seduce later.

Don’t Rush Too Fast

Take Time To Screen Her

Screen First Enjoy Later

Most every guru, internet keyboard jockey, or goof hanging out at your local bar will tell you the purpose of pick has one reason, and one reason only. And that is to get laid. Nearly everybody will tell you that if she doesn’t “put out” after the third date (or some other kind of imaginary line in the imaginary sand) then you should unceremoniously kick her to the imaginary curb.

After all, if you’ve put in the time, effort and risk to take her this far, she OWES you that much, right?

Not so fast.

In reality, there’s a lot of hidden problems in this strategy and model.

One is that by making sex with her your main goal, you’ll be overlooking pretty much everything about her. Now, if all you want is sex, and you never want to have a decent relationship past a few weeks or months, then stop reading now.

(Or keep reading, just realize this doesn’t really apply to you.)

But consider a few things. One is that after the thrill of early sex wears off, you’ll be left with HER. Her beliefs, her personality, her hang ups, her strengths, her weaknesses, good habits, and bad habits.

Another thing to consider is that even if you ARE looking for a serious, long term relationship, having sex with her can SIGNIFICANTLY decrease your ability to accurately screen her.

Why?

Mother Nature ain’t an idiot. The main purpose of humans is to make more humans. So when humans start getting some, we pretty much hypnotize ourselves into thinking that EVERYTHING about each other is perfect.

But that self-hypnosis will wear off. And then you’re left with two people that may or may not know each other very well. Sometimes that works out. Sometimes there’s enough overlap, enough shared experiences, enough social pressure from friends, family, religion, etc, to keep the “glue” between you going.

But not always. Sometimes you go down in horribly painful flames.

How can you increase your chances?

Two ways. One is to simply have some criteria aside from her being hot. Figure out the kind of girl you’d like, aside from her looks. These are things like her background, family life, religion, politics, financial views, etc.

The more of these you can discern BEFORE you sleep with her, the better.

Because once you do the deed, that self-hypnosis will kick in, and you’ll start painting the bullseye AFTER you’ve shot your arrow. Right around the target.

This isn’t easy, but it can save you a lot of grief in the long run. You’ll need to figure out how to conversationally find out those things about her within the first couple dates, so you don’t waste too much time on “low probability candidates.”

The more you practice, the easier it will get.

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The Third Path To Finding Your Dream Girl

Three Paths To Your Success

The Natural Way Is Easiest

There are three basic choices if you want to go from where you are now, to where you want to be with regards to women and relationships.

Choice number one is what most guys do. Which is nothing. Sure, they spend a lot of time online in forums, mostly complaining about women. Sometimes they’ll give each other advice (safely from their keyboard) about what they should have done or shouldn’t have done.

While it can feel like you’re making progress if you learn about human relationships through reading various blogs on the Internet (ahem…), it will only get you so far. It may even impede your progress, as you think you may be “learning” but in reality, you’re just learning new excuses to keep you out of the game.

Choice number two is what a few guys do. They make a decision to do something about it. Maybe they figure enough is enough, or maybe they had their hearts broken so badly they decide that will never happen again. So they buy courses and attend seminars. They study language patterns and techniques. How to approach, what to say, what to wear. They use all kinds of sales terminology as if they are insurance salesmen going door to door.

And guess what? If they keep at it, they will be very successful. That’s pretty much guaranteed with all skills. If you take the time to learn, and take the time to practice, you WILL improve. This is an absolute certainty.

However, talking to and dating girls is pretty much part of our DNA. Sure, if you wanted to study and master something totally “unnatural,” something that humans AREN’T hard wired to do (like juggling or bowling or playing the piano or whatever), then studying and practicing skills is the way to go.

But in reality, talking to girls and meeting enough of them to find your dream girl is not really unnatural. It’s not something that was invented in recent human history.

The concept of humans mingling with other humans to make more humans has been around for millions and millions of years, since WAY before we were even humans.

Which brings us to choice number three.

Forget the internet posturing. Forget learning specialized skills and patterns and techniques. Just get out there and be social. Talk to people and find out something interesting about them.

Sure, for many people it’s pretty scary at first. But they ALL quickly realize the same thing. People LIKE talking to other people. So long as you’re not pushing MLM or don’t have horrible garlic breath, people will ENJOY IT when you start up a conversation.

If you make it a habit of talking to people wherever you go, just to enjoy it, some of those “people” will be cute girls. And guess what? Some of the cute girls will turn into your dream girl!

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How Should You Look For Your Dream Girl?

Become Socially Outgoing and The Girls Will Follow

Primary Focus Or Side Effect?

Some of the best things come as a side effect, not the main benefit.

But if you focus on them as the main idea, you’ll mess everything up.

Take going out to eat or have a couple drinks with your buddies. The main idea is to get something to eat. So you talk about what kind of food you want, or what kind of bar has the best atmosphere.

This is the focus of that particular excursion. But the main side effect to eating some decent food with your buddies is just hanging out and sharing that experience. But if you were to tell your buddies you wanted to get together to share some fun times, they’d look at you funny.

This is the kind of thing you always know is there, but you never really talk about. Because if you did it would sound kind of lame. Really lame.

Meeting girls is the same way. Most of the time it happens, it happens as a side effect to doing something else. You’re at a friends wedding, you’re in some study group at school, your meeting a bunch of friends for a concert, or you go to a friend of a friend’s going away party.

All of these have a potential side effect of meeting a special lady for a special relationship.

But that’s not the main reason why you do those things.

Nevertheless, many guys go to places SPECIFICALLY to meet girls. They go to clubs and bars specifically to sarge, to use memorized lines and routines to get numbers.

Make no mistake, this will get you some numbers of some girls who are interested in you.

And if you are interested in as many short term flings as you can possibly fit into your life, this is the best method there is.

But if you want to create a good, honest, relationship. This might not be the best angle.

Instead, just do what you want. Go places where there are people. Get in the habit of talking to people, just because you’ll find them interesting.

If you do this, you’ll be much more likely to be an interesting, outgoing, charismatic person when you meet your dream girl.

Another way to think about this is imagine yourself ten or twenty years from now, after you’ve been with your dream girl all this time.

Somebody asks you how you met, what would you like to say?

“We met through friends at this guys work party.”

Or

“I sarged her when she was in a 3 set. I opened her friend with the potato chip pattern.”

Ultimately, it’s up to you.

What do you want?

Should You Change To Get A Girlfriend?

Should You Change or Be Yourself?

Is It Really OK To Be Yourself?

I saw this really horrible movie on Netflix a couple months ago.

This girl met this guy at college. They started dating, and she started to slowly suggest he make changes. At first it was his clothes. Then it was the music he listened to. Then the kind of food he ate. All his friends thought it was just another case of a guy doing ANYTHING to NOT lose his girl.

It happens, but this was a pretty extreme case.

But then it got REALLY extreme. She convinced him to have plastic surgery. Some kind of nose job. Then his friends REALLY thought he was nuts. Like call the guys in the white suits to take him away nuts.

As it turned out, it was even worse. She was doing all this for an art project. And he was the canvas. When he realized that she was doing all of this just to show her art class how “powerful” and “manipulative” she was, he was devastated.

All along, she didn’t really care for him. 

Now, I’m sure you’ve never gone to this extreme, but something happens to a guy when he’s with a girl, or about to be with a girl.

Guys will do ANYTHING if they think it will help them get laid. Anything except what they should do.

Which is simply get into the habit of talking to people. Becoming outgoing and social. Talking to cute girls just because it’s fun to talk to cute girls. If they are interesting enough to take it further, take if further.

If not, no big deal. 

Now, this may seem like an impossible task, especially if you have very little experience. But the more experience you get, the easier this will be.

Start small. Take your time. Start with harmless flirting. Then start saying “hello.” After that, start conversations.

Once you get to a certain point, you’ll come to a realization. A very powerful, and very freeing realization.

You don’t have to change for anybody.

Just the way you are, right now as you read this, there’s likely plenty of girls out there who would be happy to be with you.

(This, of course, assumes you shower regularly and don’t sleep in dumpsters covered in vomit every night.)

It’s not a matter of changing to meet that “one” girl.

It’s a matter of finding that “one” girl.

The more girls you talk to, the easier it will be to find her.

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