If you’ve never seen a movie called, “The Tao Of Steve,” you should check it out. Not because it’s a well made movie or anything. The main character is this PUA named Steve, and while it does have a sappy, Hollywood ending, the character does convey some powerful points.

Namely, the secret of getting girls is to “Be excellent, be gone.”

Now, this can easily be misinterpreted, and like any vague truism, how you apply it makes all the different. Just saying it or reading about it won’t do squat.

Be Excellent

This simply means be the BEST you can be, at SOMETHING. You don’t have to be a renaissance man, or a jack of all trades. Just be really good, and really enjoy being really good, at something. Women are hard wired to love a guy who passionate about something.

This means you’ve got something going on in your life that drives you. Some mad goal way out in the future you are pursuing. Some skill that you want to be the best out, even if it kills you.

It also means being confident and socially outgoing. If you are the best piano player in the world, but pass out in fear every time a girl smiles at you, it won’t get you very far.

You’ve got to be comfortable enough talking about your passion in a way that inspires other, not for the skill itself, but how you describe it.

If you want a good character study of this, Paul  Newman’s character in “The Hustler” is perfect. He sucks in life, but he’s a pool master. And when he talks about how he loves pool, it makes his girl go crazy for him.

Be Gone

This means you aren’t dependent on any one person’s approval. You can bounce on a dime if the situation turns against you. While you enjoy her company, if she violates any of your spoken boundaries, you’re gone faster than a puff of smoke in a hurricane.

It also means you don’t hang around longer than you need to. Instead of hanging around on the first or second date hoping to eventually get lucky, you get in, you have fun, and you leave.

You are confident enough that if she doesn’t want to see you again, somebody else will. Most guys are terrified since they imagine this will lower her desire for you. Luckily, it has the opposite effect.

As Steve describes, “We want what we can’t have.” This, of course, invokes the Law of Scarcity. If you are excellent AND you are scarce, this will significantly increase her desire for you.

This is why too much texting, too much calling, too much fawning will KILL your chances with any one girl.

The take away from all this?

Choose some skills that you will pursue whether or not they get you laid.

Be comfortable talking about your passion about these skills as socially appropriate, and let your passion shine when appropriate.

Make yourself scarce.

Do this, and you’ll have your pick of dream girls to choose from.

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There’re a lot of things that can mess up your game with women. Many ways guys self sabotage themselves.

Looking at her boobs when you should be looking into her eyes. Not number closing when she’s most likely to comply. Waiting too long before you approach. Calling too many times between get-togethers. Texting too often, not often enough. This list can go on and on.

There is however, one “meta” self-sabotage that will absolutely destroy you. And this doesn’t only apply to game, it applies to life as well. It’s very insidious, as most guys who are guilty (which is a lot of guys) not only don’t realize they are guilty, but are rarely able to admit it if it’s pointed out.

What makes it even worse is that it’s sometimes true. But this doesn’t help.

What it is?

A simple idea. A simple thought that once you believe it, once you use it to justify your inability to get what you want, you’re done.

“It’s not my fault.”

Blaming people other than ourselves is one of the easiest things to do. Politicians have known this ever since democracy was invented. Once those smooth talkers found out that if all they did was tell people their problems weren’t their fault, they could win every single time.

And what makes it worse is sometimes it’s true. It really ISN’T your fault.

Say you approach a girl, and she turns you down. Not because your game was weak, but simply because you weren’t her type. Maybe you reminded her of her step-brother who molested her in third grade. Who knows.

This really ISN’T your fault. But guess what? Because something isn’t your fault DOES NOT MEAN it is somebody else’s fault. Often times it is NOBODY’S fault.

Many guys spend all times of time and energy blaming women, feminism, the current dating market, their background, and on and on.

Why?

Because once you accept that it’s somebody else’s fault, you don’t have to try anymore.

And believe it or not, as much as guys claim they’d do ANYTHING to get laid, they aren’t willing to do what it takes.

Given the option of approaching ten or twenty women a week, and NOT getting what they want, and approaching ZERO women but blaming somebody else, many guys would choose option two.

If you really ARE willing to do whatever it takes to find your dream girl, simply admit that most of the time, it’s nobody’s fault that she turned you down.

It’s not a rejection, it’s a mismatch. Her criteria and yours.

Now, this is very hard to see if you don’t HAVE any criteria, which is why getting some will make it easier.

That way, you’ll ditch the “please accept me” mindset, and take on the “are we right for each other mindset.”

Do this, and it will be a lot easier to find her.

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