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Should You Change To Get A Girlfriend?

Should You Change or Be Yourself?

Is It Really OK To Be Yourself?

I saw this really horrible movie on Netflix a couple months ago.

This girl met this guy at college. They started dating, and she started to slowly suggest he make changes. At first it was his clothes. Then it was the music he listened to. Then the kind of food he ate. All his friends thought it was just another case of a guy doing ANYTHING to NOT lose his girl.

It happens, but this was a pretty extreme case.

But then it got REALLY extreme. She convinced him to have plastic surgery. Some kind of nose job. Then his friends REALLY thought he was nuts. Like call the guys in the white suits to take him away nuts.

As it turned out, it was even worse. She was doing all this for an art project. And he was the canvas. When he realized that she was doing all of this just to show her art class how “powerful” and “manipulative” she was, he was devastated.

All along, she didn’t really care for him. 

Now, I’m sure you’ve never gone to this extreme, but something happens to a guy when he’s with a girl, or about to be with a girl.

Guys will do ANYTHING if they think it will help them get laid. Anything except what they should do.

Which is simply get into the habit of talking to people. Becoming outgoing and social. Talking to cute girls just because it’s fun to talk to cute girls. If they are interesting enough to take it further, take if further.

If not, no big deal. 

Now, this may seem like an impossible task, especially if you have very little experience. But the more experience you get, the easier this will be.

Start small. Take your time. Start with harmless flirting. Then start saying “hello.” After that, start conversations.

Once you get to a certain point, you’ll come to a realization. A very powerful, and very freeing realization.

You don’t have to change for anybody.

Just the way you are, right now as you read this, there’s likely plenty of girls out there who would be happy to be with you.

(This, of course, assumes you shower regularly and don’t sleep in dumpsters covered in vomit every night.)

It’s not a matter of changing to meet that “one” girl.

It’s a matter of finding that “one” girl.

The more girls you talk to, the easier it will be to find her.

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Are You Resisting The Flow of Life?

Open To The Flow Of Life

Open Up

In physics, there’re many different kinds of equilibrium.

The term equilibrium itself can mean many different things in many different instances.

But it basically means “balance.”

When I was in high school, I was on the track team as a pole-vaulter. Me and the other pole vaulters would goof around and see if we could balance the poles on our chins.

Interestingly enough, the longer the pole, the easier it is to balance, up to a certain point.

For example, take a pencil, and try to balance it in your hand. Not so easy.

But take a broom, and it’s a lot easier.

But if you took a piece of wood that was fifty meters long, it would be pretty impossible.

No matter what you’re doing in life, balance is always a key component.

Playing music, for example, requires you balance the time with musical notes and the silence in between.

Working a job requires you balance doing the part you like doing, with the part you need to do.

In the beginning of a relationship, you’ve got to balance the time you spend with your partner with the time you spend alone.

In any case, too much of one thing, at the expense of something else is pretty dangerous. Things get out of whack, and nature will eventually correct itself, with or without your permission.

In physics, there are two broad types of equilibrium, or balance. Stable and unstable.

Stable equilibrium is when you’ve got a small ball, for example, resting comfortably in the bottom of a big round glass. All the forces are equal, and unless you apply some pretty concentrated force, that ball’s not going anywhere.

On the other hand, you could have a ball balanced on the top of a seal’s nose. The slightest push, or even shift in wind (or the seal’s attitude) will send the ball to another location.

Many of us wish that life would be filled with “stable equilibrium” situations. Where everything’s set and we don’t have to do much.

Unfortunately, the world around us doesn’t always cooperate. Situations are always changing, people are always changing.

They may change slowly, but they change.

This is precisely what they mean when they say, “Stay on top of things.” There you are, balanced right on the tip (like a ball on a seal’s nose) and everything keeps shifting. So you’ve literally and metaphorically got to “stay on top of things.”

Life is one big flowing and unfolding of situations, events, mysteries and secrets.

Just like a river, you could fight the current, hang on to something and hope you don’t drown, or simply embrace the ever changing nature of reality.

Because when you swim with the current, you can get going pretty fast, and get to some pretty interesting places.

Release resistance, and embrace the flow of life.

How To Avoid Getting Dumped

Shoot Only At Pre-Painted Targets

Shoot Only At Painted Targets

Many people paint the target around an arrow after they shoot it.

This, of course, is a metaphor, so let’s dig a little bit deeper. If you shoot at a target, one that’s already painted, you might miss.

But if you shoot at a blank piece of wood, and THEN paint the target around it, you can claim you’re some kind of super ninja archer.

Only if people see you doing this, they’ll know you’re a fraud.

And if you do this a lot, you might get into trouble. You might start to BELIEVE you are a super ninja archer. But in reality you’re shooting arrows willy-nilly all over the place. Which means you’ll eventually shoot one somewhere that might get you into trouble.

How does this translate to the dating game? Most guys have ZERO consciously determined criteria. All they know is they want a hot girl that won’t throw a drink in their face or kick them in the nuts when they ask for a number.

If she dates him, “lets” him sleep with her, he’s on cloud nine. This is when he starts “painting the target around the arrow.”

Since all he knows about her is that she’s hot and she’s “letting him” access the holiest of holies, he starts to “imagine” that she’s the ideal woman. He’ll reverse engineer his own belief system to match hers, so he won’t have to face a cold harsh truth:

They most likely have NOTHING in common.

This is why when the early excitement wears off, they can’t stand each other. Usually this happens to one partner before the other, and somebody gets dumped.

And they spend the next year and potentially thousands of dollars trying to “get their ex back.”

How can you avoid such a common occurrence?

Easy.

Simply choose criteria consciously, and make sure she matches that criteria BEFORE you get physical.

Because when you get physical, your deeply programmed caveman will take over and convince your conscious mind that she’s PERFECT.

Take some time to develop some criteria. Stuff about her personality. Her intelligence. Her habits. Her beliefs.

Sure, you’ll get laid a LOT less.

But when you do, it will be with somebody who has a LOT in common with you.

Which means it will be much more likely to turn into a relationship that’s got a LOT MORE going on than pure physical fun.

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How To Communicate With Super Conscious Mind

Tap Into The Global Brain

The Deep Connection Within

What’s the difference between the conscious mind, the unconscious and the super conscious?

It’s a common question, and there really isn’t a specific answer.

It’s not like a math equation, where there is only one answer that everybody pretty much accepts.

The conscious and unconscious is pretty straightforward.

Your conscious mind is the part of you that is aware of what is going on right here, right now.

The thoughts in your mind as you read this sentence. The feelings in your body as you feel the surface you are now resting on. The memories of what you ate last.

The unconscious is everything else.

A good comparison between the size of the two is a field about ten miles on each side. That’s one hundred square miles. That’s everything that’s in your brain.

If your brain is a field of one hundred square miles, then your conscious mind, the part that you are aware of at any given moment, the size of a beam of light coming from a small flashlight.

Imagine you were stumbling around in the dark, on that large field, with a flashlight, looking for something.

Luckily, the subconscious, or unconscious doesn’t just sit there and wait for our conscious to finally come across what we’re looking for.

There’s plenty of interaction between the two. The more relaxed and open you are, the more quickly your subconscious can present you with the information you need.

It’s kind of like you’re wearing a magic harness, and when you think of what you need, you suddenly move just over the spot on this metaphorical field where the information is.

So, what’s the super conscious?

If  your conscious is a flashlight, and your unconscious is a one hundred square mile field, think of the super conscious as the entire Earth.

And on top of which, is everybody else’s field, all laid out.

The super conscious can be thought of as the collective of all the minds that exist, not just now, but in the past, and the future.

Think of several Earth’s all representing different points in time, all with people with their own plot of “mind.” 

Not only are all the fields connected (through the deep Earth below) but all the different Earth’s are connected as well.

Now, this is a metaphor, not reality. As they say in NLP, The “Map” is Not The Territory. The metaphor is not that which it describes, only a way to understand it.

So, in the metaphor, how do you connect to the super conscious?

Just like you connect to the subconscious, only more so.

The more relaxed and calm you are, the easier you’ll drift just over the spot of mind you need to find.

And in the case of the super conscious, it’s not only about finding the right spot of mind (or the specific information from your unconscious) but how to interpret that.

If you are quiet enough, and patient enough, you’ll find not only deep wisdom within yourself, but ultimate truth as well.

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How To Make Number Closing Easy And Flake Proof

Easily Get The Digits

She Must Meet Two Criteria

How do you relax and just “let something happen?”

This is often give advice when talking to girls. Detach from outcome. Live your life and the girls will show up. Don’t ever go out specifically to “pick up” etc. etc.

But how specifically do you do this? It’s great advice. It sounds great. But how do you do it?

Many people have the question, “Where can I go to find quality girls?” As if all the low quality girls hang out in one side of town, and all the high quality girls have this secret clubhouse they go to.

One way is to simply get into the habit of talking to interesting people. Make this part of who you are. Have the intention of finding out something interesting of anybody you meet.

This will have the side effect of increasing your social skills, and increasing your “experience” with other people. It can also give you some pretty interesting stories. Sure, you’ll be a lot of boring people. But you’ll also meet a few gems who’ve got some REALLY incredible stories.

Then if the person you happen to be talking to is a cute girl that you’re interested in, you simply tell her.

“Hey I like talking to you. You seem pretty interesting. Why don’t we exchange numbers so we can hang out sometime?”

You can tell by how she answers whether or not she’s interested in you. If she seems to be conflicted, or now sure, don’t worry. Just tell her it’s no big deal and move on.

Because it IS no big deal.

This is the side effect of really jettisoning any conscious “plan” of meeting girls. If you go out with the intention of meeting somebody, and you see somebody interesting and get shot down, it feels pretty bad.

But if you’re the kind of guy who just talks to anybody as a matter of habit, it will sting a lot less.

And guess what?

As your social skills and confidence increase, you’ll naturally become more attractive. Girls will enjoy talking to you. Girls will be more likely to exchange numbers to hang out.

If you keep this up, just talking to random people wherever you go, you’ll eventually have a list of numbers of girls who are HIGHLY INTERESTED in you.

Let’s be honest. Any clown can go out and collect ten or twenty numbers. Ask enough girls and you’ll get plenty of numbers. But most of them won’t know anything about you, won’t remember you, and will likely flake.

But if you talk to her, and ONLY ask for her number is she seems interesting TO YOU and interested IN YOU, you’ll have almost zero flakes.

Sure, it may take a while to get to this “level,” but don’t you think it’s worth it? To have the option of SEVERAL GIRLS who are interested in you?

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Secrets Of Your Desires

Listen On The Inside

Listen To Your Inner Silence

I’ve been watching this pretty interesting TV show on Netflix lately.

They are all different episodes with different characters, and all have to do with the future, technology, and some dark side of human nature.

One was pretty frightening.

It was these guys who had to “power” the city by riding these stationary bikes all day long, watching these big TV screens.

They’d get “credits” which they could use to buy food, or entertainment.

They lived in these tiny cubicles, and the walls were pure TV.

Here’s the horrible part. Whenever they played a commercial, the sensors would sound an alarm and charge them credits if they closed their eyes.

Meaning they were forced to watch what the rulers wanted to show them.

Now, this may seem like some horrible future that will never happen, right?

But many of us are TERRIFIED of being left alone with our own thoughts.

Just this morning I saw several joggers, all with mp3 players stuck in their ears.

Are our thoughts so frightening that we need to drown out ANY silence with anything we can find?

It’s been said the problems of humanity can be traced back to our inability to sit alone with our thoughts.

When I was younger I used to do a lot of backpacking. One of my favorite parts was lying awake at night, just listening to the sounds.

Often times we look outside ourselves for solutions, when the answers are within us.

They HAVE to be. Because the only thing outside of us are other people, or the things those other people have created.

Are you willing to let other people, most of whom you’ve never met, and never will, control the flow of thoughts through your mind?

Now, you don’t have to pitch everything and go live in a cave. But it is useful to spend just a few minutes a day with your own thoughts.

Either thinking them or writing them down.

There is so much more to you than you realize now, or will ever realize, or are even capable of realizing.

Life is meant to be one long journey of self discovery, that ONLY gets better.

But ONLY if you decide to take the journey. Nobody is going to take you by the hand and lead you.

Within you lies the secret of everything you desire.

Are you willing to listen?

How To Overcome Two Obstacles To Romantic Success

Patience Is Always A Virtue

Two Birds – One Stone

The two biggest killers to natural, effortless “game” is impatience, and fear.

Now, I put “game” in quotes (there, I did it again!) because I don’t really mean “game” like it’s normally used.

The whole reason for using that word is that it’s a metaphor from sports. Sure, it’s easy to see a guy interacting with a girl as some kind of competition. And it can seem like in sports, there’s going to be a winner, and there’s going to be a loser.

But hopefully you’re starting to realize that this is a pretty restricting metaphor. Even holding the idea that the male-female interaction should be some kind of “game” takes away the real truth of it.

Girls all have their idea of their dream guy. And guys all have their ideas of a dream girl. Sounds sappy and overly romantic, but there it is.

And believe it or not, unless you’re talking to some con artist who just got out of prison, most girls hope YOU are their dream guy when you talk to them, just like you hope SHE is your dream girl when you first talk to her.

But here’s the thing. One, guys are pretty terrified of talking to girls. Even guys who go out and number close like nobody’s business don’t feel nearly as comfortable talking to girls as they do their buddies.

So one hurdle you’ve GOT to overcome is fear. If you want to be comfortable talking to as many girls as you want, with the intention of finding that PERFECT GIRL for you, you’ve simply got to ditch the fear.

The second reason guys study so many techniques and patterns and angles and gambits is impatience. They want their dream girl, and they want her right now.

Now you can thank Mother Nature for that. For something as important as reproduction, we humans don’t want to wait. The whole purpose of girls looking good to guys is so we’re ready go to NOW.

But here’s the thing.

If you can overcome BOTH those powerful instincts, and think with your rational, conscious mind, you will achieve astounding success.

You’ll lose your fear when talking to girls, and slowly but surely you’ll sort HUNDREDS if not THOUSANDS of girls to find the right one for you. 

How do you do that?

Start slow. Progress even slower. Take your time. Slowly and carefully expand your comfort zone.

If you do this,  you’ll be killing two birds with one stone.

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How To Get Better At Anything

All Skills Can Be Mastered

How To Master Any Skill

The best way to get better at any skill is to simply practice.

This is pretty obvious for things like sports, music, or even cooking.

But we tend to overlook this simple rule when talking about thinking and other behaviors.

Consider feeling confident in certain situations.

It’s long been known that in the mind-body system, not only does form follow function, but function also follows form.

Wait, what?

If you ARE confident, then you’ll ACT confident. Meaning you’ll walk more upright, look people in the eye more often, speak a little bit more slowly and clearly.

However, if you AREN’T confident, you can ACT confident and the REAL confidence will follow.

Now, this is probably old news to you. In fact, this may be pretty obvious and self-evident.

Which is precisely WHY most people FORGET how powerful this is.

We tend to think that life changing behaviors and ideas must come with angelic trumpets blasting and the parting of the heavens.

But most of the MAJOR success you’ll achieve will be through LOTS of small, consistent steps.

Baby steps even.

Consider the confidence angle. If you spent TEN MINUTES, every single day, pretending to be confident, it would add up pretty quickly.

You don’t even have to talk to anybody. Just walk around where there’re other people like YOU are the King or Queen of the Earth.

The more you practice feeling confident, the more you WILL feel confident.

It’s like learning the scales on the piano. At first it’s tedious, takes all your brainpower, and is pretty boring.

But once you get it down, you can do it literally without thinking. 

ALL SKILLS, internal, external, or halfway in between are the same way.

At first practicing them is uncomfortable, takes lots of brain power, and feels weird. But so long as you don’t push yourself too hard, and give yourself plenty of time, there’s literally NO LIMIT to what you can do.

Getting in touch with your higher self is no different. Some people imagine some bolt of energy coming straight from Zeus and opening up your deep mind. 

But it’s really more like developing any other skill.

Spend a few minutes in quite introspection, and simply listen.

Listen for your inner wisdom and guidance. It’s there. It may be very quite, but it’s there.

And the more you PRACTICE listening, the stronger it will get.

If you started today, imagine where you’d be in six months.

Imagine if you started six months ago, where you’d be today.

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How To Become Naturally Attractive

Turn On The Permanent Charm

Turn On The Permanent Charm

There’s a difference between the natural players you see on TV, and natural players in real life. The natural players on TV are fictional characters, made up by writers who couldn’t seduce their way out of a paper bag. Most of the stuff on TV is fake, and it only LOOKS like it’s real so you don’t automatically assume your watching some fantasy-land show.

Even the way people talk. Remember, these are actors, who are saying lines written by writers, and they’ve practiced them over and over again. They sound super witty, with rapid fast comebacks and super confidence.

But remember, they’re only pretending. Watch that same actor in an interview, or giving a speech, and they sound a lot less confidence, and the stuff they say is lot less “well thought out.” 

This is what happens when they don’t have people writing their lines.

What about guys in real life that are ultra charismatic?

One thing you can do is simply pay attention to the guys that are always talking to cute girls. You’ll find them to be super happy, rather than super poised. Super relaxed and comfortable in their own skin rather than always coming up with the super snappy comebacks.

You’ll also find that they genuinely enjoy being around people. Not just some people, but all people. They are eager to simply have a chat with somebody just to pass the time. They enjoy making people feel good about themselves. They enjoy making people smile.

How can you become that person?

Easy!

Just start talking to people. The idea that you can glide through life as the silent, lone wolf, but then suddenly turn on the charm when you see Miss Right is kind of far-fetched.

It’s MUCH easier to simply learn to enjoy talking to people.

Truth is that humans are HIGHLY social creatures. It won’t take long to find out how good it feels just chatting people up.

The more you practice, the easier it will get.

Then you’ll start giving that wonderful vibe that attracts people (including cute girls) like bees to honey!

Then you’ll have your pick!

Here’s a step by step manual to help:

How To Be A Social Magnet

Everything Points To You

Energy and Focus

I’ve had some pretty charismatic friends in my time.

One thing that separates them from “non-charismatic” people is the way they use their language.

Not the words themselves, but how they use them.

Consider somebody who’s shy, reserved, not sure of themselves.

Whenever they speak, they’re worried about getting rejected. Maybe other people pick up on this, and they become “easy targets” for those who are belligerent (which is of course another way to hide fear).

When they speak, they refrain from eye contact, you have to lean in to listen to them, sometimes asking them to repeat themselves.

Certainly, most of us speak like this in certain situations. Talking to super attractive people, our bosses, the cops, etc.

However, those that are naturally charismatic say every single word like it feels good just to say it.

Each and every word that passes their lips gets their full attention. Accompanied with strong, positive eye contact, a rich resonant voice, and open and confident body language.

Of course, you can over do this, and if it’s not “natural” you’ll come across as some kind of comic caricature.

But if it’s honest, people will LOVE to listen to you speak. They’ll LOVE to be around you.

If you’ve got young children, or you are ever around young children, you’ve seen this. Whenever you are doing something, and really enjoying it, the kids want to copy you. Even if they don’t know what’s going on.

Those that are charismatic speak and act with a natural energy that says, “I love life, I love me, and I love whatever’s happening right here, right now!”

This makes people want to hang around you. Anything you suggest sounds fantastic. Anything you want to do they’ll want to do.

On the other hand, non-charismatic shy types (or otherwise normal types that are in intimidating situations) speak with a “I’m not sure about life, myself, OR this situation.”

This tends to have the opposite effect.

How do you move from the shy side of the spectrum to the charismatic side?

Remember, all that outside stuff, the behavior, the speech, etc, is first on the inside.

From somebody who genuinely BELIEVES everything’s really groovy.

It’s not a matter of doing something, it’s a matter of NOT doing something.

Those fears, worries, anxieties, just let them go.

That natural charismatic person is already there. Inside you.

When you were a kid, just learning to walk, did you hold anything back? Or did you scream with delight every time something cool happened?

That naturally charismatic person is still there. All you’ve got to do is remove all the fake gunk hiding your brilliance.

How?

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