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Sexual Division Of Labor

Division Of Labor

One way to help understand male-female relationships is to imagine we are still cave people.

Humans evolved over a long, long time, and the time we’ve been living in cities is very, very short.

We’ve been in our current form, more or less, for about 100K years. Sure, there are all kinds of different theories as to the specifics, but the bottom line is that in the big picture, we’ve been cave people a lot longer than we’ve been city living folks.

Which means that all of our instincts, specifically the ones that drive male-female attraction, and the ones that serve as the glue for male-female relationships, have been with us a long, long time.

Before technology, before electricity, before running water. Before money was invented.

So the same things that got guys and girls interested in each other back then, and kept them together, still holds true today. It may not seem like it with so much distractions, but it’s still there.

One reason humans did so well was we formed pair-bonds that generally lasted a lifetime. Sure there were exceptions, but those only prove the rule.

And the reason these pair bonds worked so well was because there was a sexual division of labor. Meaning guys did one thing, and girls did something else. Bottom line was the guys hunted, and girls gathered.

Which meant we could live in a lot different environments, since both hunting AND gathering got a lot of different types of food.

Think about this. Every day, the guys would go hunting. And the girls would gather. Both working to support the family.

The idea of a “stay at home mom” is not only an aberration in recent history, due to some extreme productivity in economics, but it’s not part of our evolutionary makeup.

Why is this important?

Because when you choose a girl for a relationship, looking pretty is just the start. You’ve got to be able to trust her, to depend on her, and make sure she’s got your back, and you’ve got hers.

Meaning when it comes to building your life, you’ve both got to be on the same page.

Keeping this in mind can help with the initial approach.

You’ve got to screen pretty carefully, as many girls simply won’t match your criteria.

This, of course, assumes you’ve got some life plans aside from playing video games and checking Facebook.

Get a plan, and start looking for a girl to help you get it.

Is it really that simple?

It’s been working for humans for thousands of years, why not you?

What Would Your Ideal Job Be?

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What Does Follow Your Bliss Mean?

What is your passion?

One of the greatest gifts in life is being able to share your passion with others in a way they truly appreciate it.

Not just accept it, or acknowledge it, but appreciate it in their own way.

A great way to do this is by expressing it through your business somehow.

Now, in some cases this pretty easy and straightforward. If you love programming and you get paid lots of cash for programming, then you’re work IS your passion.

Other times the connection is a bit more subtle, but it’s still there. For example, you might love speaking persuasively and convincingly in front of groups, so you make a decent living selling products and services that you may not use yourself, but you know serve a real need.

It can certainly feel empty when you feel zero passion for your job. Like you’re just going through the motions in order to collect a paycheck.

To be sure, a passion filled job is NOT the norm for most people, but it is certainly a goal.

That’s why KNOWING what your passions are is a very important first step.

Next is to find any way possible you can express them on the job.

For example, when I was in high school, I worked at a movie theater. I did a lot of jobs, usher, taking tickets, selling tickets, selling popcorn.

Working behind the snack counter was my favorite. It was busy, we had to do quick calculations in our heads (our boss thought cash registers would slow us down) and we got to interact with a huge cross section of the population.

It was nice seeing people who were happy, as they were about to see a good movie, while enjoying some junk food.

I’ve had plenty other jobs that made a LOT more money, but were incredibly boring, tedious and sometimes stressful.

The key is to take whatever you’re doing NOW, and find SOMETHING about it you like, or at least don’t hate so much.

Since most humans need money to survive, we generally need to have some kind of occupation most of our lives.

The ideal progression is to keep finding better and higher paying jobs that allow for a more direct expression of our passions.

Until you get to that magic sweet spot where your fully passionate, absolutely LOVE your work (whether you’re working on your own or for a huge company) AND getting paid a TON.

If you keep focusing on that ideal future, while always looking for ways to improve, you simply WILL NOT fail.

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When Should You Use Seduction Technology?

What's The Rush?

What’s The Rush?

Here’s a dream scenario, of what an interaction with a girl would go, as most guys imagine it.

You walk up to her and use some kind of opener. She’s intrigued, and turns toward you. The more you talk, the more she becomes interested. Pretty soon she’s got the whole room fazed out in her mind, and all she sees is you.

You pay attention to her lips, they are slightly parted, and swollen. If you pay attention to her pupils, they are getting bigger and bigger. That unconscious response we all have when we’re looking at something we like.

If you touch her, she increases all her signs of attraction. Her eyes get a bit bigger, she takes a deep breath (as if she secretly wishes you were touching her somewhere else).

Whenever you say something and nod, she slightly nods as well, in perfect agreement.

So far so good, right?

Now, if ALL you want is some quick sex, and nothing else, this is as good as it gets. But most guys, even though they claim they want to love ’em and leave ’em, really want more.

Sure, sex is great. But when you’re having sex with somebody that really gets you, really believes in you, and is genuinely concerned (both for her own reasons and for yours) that you’ll be successful in life, this is a MUCH different feeling than having sex with some girl you’ve just met.

One problem of creating massive sexual desire in an hour or so is you have ZERO idea of what this girl is like. And unless she’s totally OK with getting with a guy and banging him within an hour, a couple of things are likely to happen.

One is that she’ll think you tricked her, or put something in her drink. This is very bad. Unless you’re a traveling salesman and plan to blown town in the morning, this could get you in serious trouble.

Or she could convince herself that she’s found “The One.” Why else would she sleep with you so quickly unless she absolutely KNEW you were soulmates?

This, also, could present some serious problems if you aren’t planning on slinking back to your secret hideaway in the morning.

So yea, it’s fun to create that attraction pretty quickly. But it’s also pretty frikkin dangerous.

So here’s another alternative. Another way to create that same MASSIVE sexual desire, WITHOUT all the potential problems.

First, come up with a list of criteria. Things that MUST be true about your idea girl.

Then find a girl that HAS all those criteria.

Then take her on a couple dates, just to make sure. When you ARE sure, then let loose with the mad patterns and seduction tools.

Then you’ll have a highly qualified girl, who’s perfect for you, who wants nothing more than to bang you silly.

Again and again and again.

Unlocking The Mystery Of Money

Wanna Trade?

My Apple For Your Potato Chips

Next time you buy something you want, pay attention to the energy of the transaction.

This is good to do with food, especially when you’re hungry.

Think of the food, and think of the money you’re about to spend.

Instead of thinking of it as a “purchase,” or a “transaction,” think of it as exchange.

A straight up trade. Like back in elementary school.

Take a moment, and imagine whatever you did to get that money. 

If it’s five bucks for a Happy Meal (or whatever) just imagine what it took for you to get that five bucks.

Then imagine trading your efforts for your food, rather than the money.

This can be a helpful exercise for a lot of reasons.

Sure, we all love money, but only because we can trade money for the things that we want.

I used to find it helpful to think of what I could buy with the money I was about to earn when I had a particularly unpleasant job ahead of me.

When the Beatles (John and Paul) would sit down to write a song, they would literally say, “Let’s write ourselves a couple of new cars.”

The truth about money is that it’s only an intermediary step between two actions.

Your action which you trade for money, and the action of somebody else, who is producing what you want to buy with that money.

This seems pretty basic, but it can be easy to drift up into the upper metaphysical atmosphere when talking about “money energy.”

Boiled down into it’s most essential components, money is the potential or stored energy that exists between two people that are making things that each other wants.

So when people talk about “money energy” they’re really talking about human effort.

When people say “resonate with money energy” what they really mean is to resonate with other people.

Both what they’re doing to produce the stuff you want, and what you’re doing to produce the stuff they want.

When everybody is “resonating with money energy” meaning everybody is doing their part producing and trading, based on what everybody else wants needs and appreciates, that’s when society really starts to take off.

This is natural because humans are social creatures. It is deep in our nature to participate in a diverse society with many different people from many different backgrounds.

With everybody making or helping make what everybody else wants, everybody’s happen.

The good news is that with the whole world kind of linked together, economy wise, it’s easier than ever to get in and get some.

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Do Seduction Tricks Really Work?

Beware of Romantic Shortcuts

Beware Of Shortcuts To The Heart

Most guys would love some kind of “shortcut” to a woman’s heart.

Just take a look at some of the headlines of popular seduction products and you’ll see what I mean.

“One weird trick that will make her love you.”

“The three texts to turn her on.”

“How to get your ex back with this one weird trick.”

“The three steps to her bedroom.”

And on and one.

Can it really be this simple? Well, it CAN. But not really. If all you’re after is some physical fun, then these might work. But unless you’re some ultra jaded poon hound, that’s going to cause trouble. 

Why?

Most guys can’t just pump-n-dump, as much as we like to brag like that on the Internet. Emotions have a crazy way of getting involved once we’re intimate with a woman. When it comes to love, sex, and romance, love to slide down that slippery slope. 

Meaning at first it may be just physical. In fact, you may even have a conscious, rational, adult conversation that it’s going to ONLY be physical. But chances are, somebody’s going to develop feelings for somebody. Mother Nature ain’t stupid.

Sure, some primates spend their entire lives banging as many of each other as they can.

But not the human primate. We are hard wired to form long term pair bonds. And when we’re hard wired to do something, our rational plans don’t usually stand a chance.

So if you think you’re only going after a little fun, think again. As Quarterbacks are fond of saying, every time you throw a pass, three things can happen, and two of them are bad.

Same with hooking up. Three things can happen. You both bang each other silly and then go your separate ways. Or you develop feelings and she goes her separate way. Or she develops feelings and you go your separate way. 

Before you even walk up to her, ask yourself, “What do I want?”

If you are absolutely sure you ONLY want to get laid, make sure you project that energy.

Make sure she knows you’re a player.

On the other hand, if you’re looking for an honest relationship, then maybe you should ditch all those “weird tricks” and “three steps” or whatever.

Just talk to her like you confident, relaxed self. Don’t be fake nice, and don’t be fake alpha.

Just talk to her, be in the moment, and see what happens.

You might be VERY surprised!

Prove Them Wrong

Forge Your Own Path

Forge Your Own Path

Most of us would love a brain-dead-simple way to make money.

Or do pretty much anything, for that matter.

Guys would LOVE a surefire, guaranteed way to get a girl in love with them.

Girls AND guys would LOVE some magic, step by step “fix” to “get their ex back.”

Most people would readily say that they are truly willing to do ANYTHING, as long as somebody just told them what to do.

You see this in the movie all the time. The guy tells the girl, “Tell me what to do to get you back!”

Salespeople are even trained to ask customers this question:

“What can I do to earn your business today?”

Bottom line is if they’re not feeling it, it’s not going to happen.

Think of it this way. Imagine you showed up at your friends house, your belly full after eating a nice dinner.

They’ve just finished baking an onion and broccoli pie, with sliced squid on top.

You say, “No, thanks. I just ate.”

And they say, “C’mon! Tell me what to do in order to make you hungry for this!”

If you’re not feeling it, you’re not feeling it.

I hate to break this to you, but if your ex doesn’t want you want, you ain’t getting them back. No matter HOW perfect you are together.

The same goes with creating things, from scratch, like businesses, relationships, families, careers.

First of all, nobody, not even YOU, knows the full range of your skills and abilities.

Which means NOBODY can give you more than basic guidance on how to build those things.

Your job is to keep trying different things, to see how they work.

If you get closer, do more. If you don’t do less.

The truth about this is that when most people say, “I’m willing to do anything, just tell me what to do,” what they REALLY mean is “tell me the secret easy way that doesn’t involve any risk or me feeling uncomfortable.”

But this is wonderful.

The process of discovery, not only of what works, but what you’re REALLY made of is like nothing most people will ever experienced.

Most people ARE content to be told what to do. And since most people ONLY do what they’re told, most people only get what most people get. Which ain’t much!

In order to rise above the mediocrity, you’ve got to FIGURE OUT what to do, ON YOUR OWN.

This means taking risks, feeling foolish, and yes, even hearing those close to you, maybe even your loved ones, tell you you’re an idiot.

But the flip side of is that later on, when you ARE successful, they’ll PROVE their worth to you by saying, “Wow, you really ARE awesome! I’m glad I was wrong! I’m glad I know you!”

So get going.

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The Truth Of Rejection Vs. Regret

Not As Bad As You Think

How To Gain Real World Experience

They say that rejection is better than regret.

Meaning if you walk up, talk to a girl, and get rejected, it feels pretty bad. 

On the other hand, if you see a pretty girl, and DON’T talk to her, it feels pretty bad to.

However, even if you agree with the above statement, it may not make it any easier to approach.

Why?

It only holds true on an experiential level.

Meaning if you’re like most guys, you’ve got TONS more experience with regret than with rejection.

Which means you’re pretty used to regret. So much in fact it feels normal.

On the other hand, rejection is mostly in your imagination. And anything in our imaginations can feel pretty terrifying.

So, what good does that statement or any other supposed “truism” about dating, do for us?

If you gain as much experience with rejection as we do with regret, then you’ll get it on a gut level.

So much so that it seems totally obvious, and even silly to say out loud.

Kind of like if you told your buddy, “the sky is blue,” as if it were some kind of genius insight.

This is pretty common when guys start to get pretty good with game.

They wonder what the big deal is.

Why?

If you don’t have a lot of success with girls, it’s easy to imagine that talking to girls on the one hand is totally terrifying. But it’s also pretty easy to imagine that it’s also like cutting in line to heaven.

But in reality, it’s nothing like that.

Any girl you walk up to and talk to isn’t going to scream at the top of her lungs, get all her friends to gang up on you and beat you to death.

On the other hand, she’s not going to morph into your fantasy porn goddess and go into a trance of desperate sexual submission.

In fact, when you get into the habit of talking to cute girls, you’ll find out that they are pretty normal. They ARE people after all.

And in case you haven’t noticed, most people are pretty normal. Some are weird, some absolute nut jobs and some you wish you’d never met. But most are pretty normal.

The more girls you talk to, the less you’ll worry about rejection. 

What about regret?

Imagine you were walking down the street, and you saw something on the ground that looked like it might be money.

But you were feeling lazy, so you didn’t pick it up. Then later, you’d start to wonder. What if it WAS money? What if was A LOT of money?

You’ll never know. Compare that to the “rejection” of picking it up and finding it was some pretend money or monopoly money or something. Sure, you’d be disappointed, but not “rejected.”

This is the comparison of “rejection vs. regret” that you’re going for.

The more experience you get, the sooner you’ll get there.

The more people you talk to, the more experience you’ll get.

So get going!

Fire Or Water – Your Choice

Fire or Water?

Success Is An Inside Job

There’s a very old Sufi poem (by Rumi, I believe) I like.

The gist of it is that if we step through fire, we’ll end up nice cool water.

But if we go straight to the cool water, we’ll end up in the fire.

This, of course, is a metaphor for life.

The things we think are easy are only easy in the short term. They generally build up into HUGE long term problems.

That ice cream may taste good, but if you eat it every single day, you won’t feel so great.

On the other hand, it may seem like the worst idea possible to go for a walk when you’re favorite TV show is on, but once you make it a habit, you’ll feel pretty good.

And that “good feeling” that comes from doing things that aren’t so great in the now, but build up, is a much, much different “good feeling” from doing those things in the present.

Those “present only” good feelings (like sleeping in, eating cheeseburgers for breakfast etc) are pure pleasure. There’s no feeling of accomplishment built in. These pure-pleasure feelings come from the outside.

On the other hand, that feeling you get when waking up early every morning has become a habit, or going for a walk at night instead of eating ice cream is a good feeling that comes from within, and is based on your own accomplishments and actions.

One of the ways this paradox manifests itself is when we want somebody to “tell us what to do.”

Sure we’d like to meet that special someone. Sure we’d like a much more fulfilling career. Sure we’d like to achieve self-actualization. If only somebody would tell us what to do.

The only problem is that all the REALLY good things in life, things that last, like wealth, relationships, REAL happiness, HAVE TO come from within.

Nobody can tell you any step by step procedures or paint by numbers steps.

You HAVE to work it out on your own.

Sure, you can learn the basic structure, just like you can learn how exercise and healthy foods will help you get in shape. But the SPECIFIC exercises, and the SPECIFIC food, are up to you to figure out. Some things work for some people, others work for others.

Creating relationships is the same. Talk to enough people until you find somebody that spins your propellers. HOW and WHEN you do that, and what you specifically say is up to you to figure out.

The good news is that there are NO shortcuts.

Why is this good news?

Because if there were, then EVERYBODY would be on them.

Since there’re not, every single path you find to any kind of success will be YOURS.

Your creation, your dreams, your results.

Nobody else’s.

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The Never Ending Cycle Of Means and Ends

You Can't Have One Without Leading Into The Other

One Leads To Another

No matter what you do, it’s always a mix of two things.

Means, and ends.

Now, this may be a bit of an oversimplification. You can take pretty much any one thing or process and come up with a kajillion different categories to put them in. Good things and bad things. Legal and illegal. Safe or dangerous, etc.

But for the sake of this post, we’ll talk in terms of ends and means. Means is simply what you do to get the ends.

But few things are purely one or the other. And end is useless unless it’s part of a bigger process, or means, to get an even bigger end.

This is helpful to think about when you’re out with the intention of meeting people, especially the ladies.

Most guys see a cute girl, and suddenly all their problems will be solved if only she accepts them. Then they’ll be the hero of Earth, and never worry about anything again.

But even if you walk up and she falls madly in love with you, SHE is still a means to a greater end. Certainly, you are not going to use her and throw her aside like a spent Dixie cup. Hopefully you’ll see her as a partner in creating a relationship, even for a short time. And that relationships is going to be a means to create an ends of more happiness, self expression, and sexual fulfillment.

Now, if you walked up and said all this, you may sound like Data from Star Trek.

But this is how you are programmed.

All humans are built with goal seeking mechanisms, and feedback mechanisms.

And within each feedback mechanism are all kinds goals in and of themselves.

Just think about walking. Your overall intention is to get from here, to over there.

But in the process of doing so, you need to keep balance, and keep one foot going in front of the other.

If you captured only a second or two in time, and played it over and over, each step of your foot would be an end, within a larger process.

The bigger you go, the same this same structure exists. From the smallest atom all the way up to the galactic truth of why this whole thing exists.

Not to get too metaphysical, but no matter WHAT happens with that one particular girl, the same overarching goals still exist, and you will still pursue them.

So instead of seeing her as a “make or break” princess of the realm, just see her as maybe part of your own process, maybe not.

Go over and talk to her, and see what happens.

Continue Your Journey

Let Loose Your Inner Hero

Have You Discovered Your Inner Hero Yet?

What is your greatest gift?

We all love a good movie, and one of the most powerful movie structures is the “Hero’s Journey.”

Spiderman, Dorothy, Luke, Neo, Harry Potter, all these characters have the same kind of path.

That is they all pretty normal dudes, (or gals) living normal lives, and then something takes them (usually against their will) somewhere and forces them to step up their game. 

A lot.

Luke has to defeat Vader, Dorothy has to overcome the fake Wizard, Harry has to kill Voldemort, etc.

Why are these stories so popular?

Because they represent our lives.

From the time we are born (actually a few hours before) we face the same structure, over and over again.

We’re cruising along, safe, (and also kinda bored) and then something pulls us out of our comfort zone.

We pretty much HAVE to learn new skills. Going to school for the first time, making friends, getting a job, starting a family, becoming an established member of your community, all follows the same path.

Leaving behind your comfort zone and moving further out into the world.

Those stories, books, and movies speak to us on a deep level.

They help us remember who we are.

Heroes.

Now, I’m not saying you need to grab a cape and start beating up bad guys. That might get you arrested.

But if you’re playing it safe, you’re not living up to your potential. If you believe in any kind of a Creator, you can’t think He or She put us here so we could be safe.

We were put here to continuously move forward. Take risks. Make mistakes. Expand our social circle. Expand our vision. Create dreams and MAKE them come true.

Go. See. Conquer.

So, what is your greatest gift?

When you’re long gone, what would you like your greatest contribution to humanity be?

What would you like to create? What service would you like to provide? How will you help people?

Deep within you lies the answer.

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