I don’t mean successful as in some day, maybe hopefully meeting someone.

I’m talking about having the confidence, skills, and tenacity to come up with the ideal woman, the ideal personality type, and having no problem walking up to and talking to girls long enough to see if they qualify or not.

Real or Fake?

Many guys “number close” like the world’s going to end in a few minutes, but get pretty spotty results. Just being able to walk up and ask for her number is a start, but it’s not nearly enough.

If you number close a girl, she’s going to be able to “sniff out” if SHE’S the only one you’ve closed recently, of if you just make it a habit to number close every girl with a pair of boobs and a pulse.

Which Category?

You may get a number, but she’ll put you in the “player” category in her mind, not the “Potential Mr. Right” category.

Naturally then, on top of number closing skills (being able to walk up and ask for the number) you need a couple more skills. One is you’ve got to dress halfway decently. Nothing special, nothing you need to spend all kinds of time on, just you look decent, and there aren’t any obvious stains on your shirt.

Take A Shower!

And of course, you’ll need some decent hygiene. You can’t stink like a bum, and you can’t have bad breath.

So far so good, right?

There’s ONE thing that will DRAMATICALLY improve your ability. This is a very subtle skill to have, and most gurus or PUA’s don’t talk about it.

It’s when you look out into a room, and tell who’s giving you signals, and who isn’t.

Social Intelligence

It’s when you’re talking to her, and just KNOW when she wants to be touched, or caressed, or moved closer to.

It’s when you KNOW you are at a high point in the conversation, (a local maximum of attraction, if you will) and therefore the PERFECT time to close. (Any kind of close, even THAT kind!).

It’s when you see a text from her, and you know how long to wait before responding, and what to say to generate the desired effect.

The Human Nutjob Factor

Let’s be honest. Women are crazy. OK, let’s be more honest. PEOPLE are crazy. We humans are just on the sane side of psychotic, and nobody can predict our behavior.

Which means whenever you’re dealing with HUMANS, there is NO set of rules to follow. If you want to succeed (in selling, in seducing, in creating and maintaining relationships) you’ve got to read the situation, and know how to respond appropriately.

How do you do that?

With a healthy level of SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE. Without it, you’re just shooting darts in the dark with a blindfold.

If you want MORE social intelligence, so you can easily get MORE success with the ladies, check this out:

Mozart said that they came out of the “air” when he was out walking.

Many great thinkers were able to pull some of their best ideas from dreams.

Subconscious Genius

Edison allegedly would sit in a dark room, holding large weight in his outstretched hand. As he started to nod off, and drop the ball (waking him up) he would immediately write down all the ideas he could come up with.

Often times ideas are created when we see one “element” from one thing, and another “element” from something else, and then combine them in a new way.

If it works out, you can become famous, and incredibly wealthy.

Hey! You Got Chocolate In My Peanut Butter!

When I was a kid (long long ago, lol) there was a popular commercial for “Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups” where some guy was walking down the street, eating peanut butter from a jar (seriously!) and a woman was walking down the street eating some chocolate. They bumped into each other, “accidentally” mixed their peanut butter and chocolate, and BOOM! a new candy was born.

Accidental Creativity

Post-It notes were created by accident, and TONS of new stuff was invented, as a by-product of the U.S. space program to get to the moon.

The truth is that simple things can lead to the most amazing discoveries. Take a couple of random things you see on a daily basis, mix them up in a way nobody’s thought of before, and your idea may be the thing that saves the world.

Accept Your Brilliance

But one thing will KEEP you from coming up with massively creative ideas that will fill your bank account, and that is thinking that you are NOT smart, or clever, or innovative.

You ARE.

It’s just that your genius was metaphorically beaten out of you by formal education. (Ever wonder why super geniuses are always dropouts?).

The good news is you can get it back. Just doing a few simple exercises, on a daily basis, will reawaken your creative giant.

Then YOU’LL see opportunity, excitement and potential where others see sameness and drudgery.

If you haven’t seen the original in a while, or you’ve never seen it, it’s like this.

This robot (The Terminator) had this computer screen in his head. As we walked through reality, the people he saw would appear in the center, and then all the information about them would appear around them.

When they spoke, the words would appear, as would several potential responses. He (the Terminator) would also see any weapons or dangers highlighted.

Enter The Terminator

The way my friend “reprogrammed” this (through some wicked self hypnosis) was to walk into a room, and immediately see all the girls that were displaying open body language, and sending him some IOI’s.

So instead of having a mix of confusion, worry, and sexual desire, like most guys have, he would immediately identify each girl who was open to an approach.

Then he would simply approach, imagining that he had this “Terminator” screen feeding him information and ideas on what to say and how to behave.

Imaginary Power

Now, he didn’t REALLY see a computer screen, and he didn’t REALLY words pop up and have some computer voice in his head telling him what to say.

This was an IMAGINARY frame that helped him to get rid of that natural anxiety that we all have.

It also helped him to “play” instead of taking things so seriously.

And, by the way, this guy got laid a TON by some REALLY hot girls.

All because he had an imaginary “helper” which turned him into an approach machine, literally.

Tons of Information

However you get there, the ability to “read” a room, and approach the girls that are most open is crucial.

Most guys never get this far. Instead of approaching girls that are sending out IOI’s, then only approach girls they LIKE.

Whose Desires?

They approach based on THEIR OWN desires, instead of the desires in the room.

That’s the real secret. If you can look out into a room, find the girls that are open and giving you IOI’s and then approach from within THAT GROUP, instead of the whole room, you’ll have a LOT more success.

Inside or Outside?

The easiest way to dramatically increase your social intelligence is to simply get out of your head, and pay attention to what’s going on.

There are also plenty of other ways to increase social intelligence, so approaching, opening, increasing attraction, and closing is second nature.

AND, they’re a window to a LOT more.

If you get out of your head, and turn off those chattering voices that are always in the back of our minds, you can get a TON of information just from somebody eyes.

How tight or loose the skin is around them, how slowly they move around, or how quickly they dart.

Unlimited Information

How quickly or slowly the pupils open or shut, as if their emotions are being jacked all over the place by the reality around them.

How they see themselves as part of their reality will come across in their eyes. Are they merely present, are they a victim, or do they feel absolutely and completely at home, wherever they go?

Here’s something else that’s pretty amazing, as well as extremely controversial.

This was the result of a scientific study done recently.

Do They Got What It Takes?

Just by looking at somebody’s picture, most folks can accurately tell if they are above average, average, or below average in intelligence.

Combine this with their level of fear or comfort in their situation, it’s absolutely possible to size somebody up completely.

On some level, we all know this. I know that judging people is a big “no no,” that it’s unkind, unfair, and sometimes illegal.

You Can’t Not Communicate

But whenever you walk into a room, you ALWAYS do this. You subconsciously scan the room, and decide, within an instant, who you “accept” and who you don’t “accept.”

Who you’d trust, and who you wouldn’t. Who you wouldn’t mind sitting next to, and who you’d want to steer clear of.

Like I said, most of us don’t like to admit this part of ourselves. We’d like to think we are completely accepting of others, all the time.

Ancient Power

But deep below our conscious awareness and moral sensibilities is that ancient animal that’s in all of us.

And while most of us are capable of turning off those instincts, a lot of people don’t.

Meaning if YOU don’t judge people when you walk into a room, most other people do.

This isn’t an easy truth to accept. But there it is.

The question is, what will you do about it?

You can hope that everybody will hold hands and accept everybody as equally valid.

But that rarely happens, at least in the REAL world.

What Image Will You Project?

Which means the better you present yourself, the more opportunities you’ll find.

Learn more:

To be sure, the stuff we learn BEFORE we turn seven or eight can be difficult to UNLEARN, but that doesn’t meant that it gets harder to learn new stuff.

Linear Progression

Meaning most people don’t change their religions a bunch of times as they move through adulthood, but they certainly DO learn all kinds of new skills.

In fact, your brain is hard wired to LEARN for LIFE, not just as a kid.

So what changes?

The main thing that changes is your environment. Before seven or eight, you’ve got NOTHING to worry about, except learning. Not money, not relationships, not school, only learning and staying out of trouble.

But then they stick us in school, and we’ve got all kinds of other stuff that gets in the way.

We’re stuck in a room all day with people we don’t know very well, and FORCED to sit still and pay attention when that’s the LAST thing we want to do.

Imagine going back in time, to the caveman days. Imagine looking at a group of kids 10-15 years old.

Super Boring!

Would they likely be sitting under a tree listening to some old guy talk about ancient history?

No way. They’d be out and about, following the adults, and learning how to BE an adult.

Not filling their heads with silly nonsense just so they can pass a test so they don’t get yelled at.

The truth is that humans are a very, very unique animal. Sure we’ve got TONS of instincts, (food, sex, running away from tigers and cockroaches) but we’ve also got UNLIMITED learning capacity.

Unlimited Capacity

No matter how much stuff you’ll learn, your brain will NEVER get full.

Which means the amount of knowledge and skills can ALWAYS grow.

Whatever you WANT to learn, you can.

Whatever skills you want, you CAN get them.

Unlock your genius, and the world is yours.