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How To Make Day Game Easy

Most guys are terrified of rejection from girls.

If she says “no,” to whatever you’re suggesting, there’s not much that feels worse. Especially if it happens in front of your friends or her friends.

This is one of the main reasons guys like to hunt in packs. It lessens the sting of rejection to a considerable degree.

But here’s something to consider. It takes a lot of time and planning to get together a group of guys to go “hunting.” And anyplace a group of guys goes to pick up girls, all the girls will KNOW they are there to hit on them.

And if you take some time to inventory all the happy couples in your life, they didn’t likely meet at some meet market.

They met through friends, or at somebody’s wedding, or sitting next to each other in class.

Places where people usually DON’T go to pick up.

Meaning when you think of that special girl out there, whoever she is, and wherever she is, you won’t likely meet her in some meet market, surrounded by your buddies.

In fact, when you DO meet that special girl, there’s a high probability that she’ll be alone, or you’ll be alone.

And unless you feel confident enough to walk up and start talking to her (in NON pick up language), it’s not going to happen.

Sure, you can wait for somebody to introduce you to somebody, or meet people through social circles, but by developing the confidence to just walk up and start talking to people, you’ll have LOT more options, and chances, and you’ll meet that special girl a LOT sooner.

Now, back to that dreaded thought of “rejection” that usually keeps guys safely on the sidelines.

It’s ONLY possible to “get rejected” if you actually suggest something that she can say “no” to.

If you DON’T do that, you can’t get rejected.

Now, it is possible of for you to walk up to her, and have her shut you down completely before you even open your mouth, but if you shower regularly and you don’t have your ding-dong hanging out of your pants, that’s not very likely.

But there IS a way talk to her that is literally rejection proof, so you’ll be able to “feel each other out” and see if you’re both ready to take the next step.

No risk, no worries, no rejection.

And no matter WHAT happens, you’ll BOTH feel much better after the interaction.

Easily Eliminate Rejection

The fear of rejection is incredibly common, and incredibly debilitating.

It always stems from childhood, around the time you became a pain in the you-know-what.

If you’ve got kids, you know what I mean. When they’re young and cute, and can barley walk and talk, any step forward is a literal miracle.

However, once kids can move completely on their own, they stop being little bundles of happiness and become a stress inducing source of terror. What if somebody takes them? What if they get hurt? What if they run away and I can’t find them?

So we all go through a transition when the adults (or gods as we think of them at the time) stop smiling at everything we do, and start yelling at us, or looking at us with those angry faces.

Since we still think they are gods, the only conclusion we can make is that we did something wrong.

The only problem is we NEVER really have any idea what is “right” and what is “wrong.”

All we know is sometimes they smile, and sometimes they get angry.

Here we are as adults, and we still have that deep fear. We want to express ourselves, we want to take action, but part of us isn’t sure what’s going to happen. Maybe they’ll smile, maybe they won’t.

The trick is how you present yourself to others. If you present yourself as something that can be accepted or rejected, then you may get rejected.

For example, consider this common question, as guys ask girls on dates:

“Will you have dinner with me?”

She can say “yes,” she can say, “no.”

One is good, the other is bad. She says “yes,” it’s 100% success. She says “no” it’s 100% failure.

One simple shift in how you “ask” can make all the difference.

A common strategy is to say something like this:

“I’m going to Roberto’s for dinner tomorrow night. You can join me if you like.”

If she says “no,” it’s only about a 50% failure, 50% success, since you’re going anyway.

If she says “yes,” then it’s a 100% success.

But why even let them say “no?”

There’s a way to communicate with others so they wouldn’t even dream of saying “no.” Because you won’t be talking about  you, or your ideas, you’ll be talking about them.

The things they’re interested in. The things that fire up their imagination.

Then later on, (if you want), after you’ve built up a huge bubble of positive energy around them (a filter through which they’ll now see you) you talk about anything you’d like.

And because they’ll now start seeing YOUR ideas through THEIR desires, they’ll almost always go along with them.

Whatever they are.

The Male Advantage

If you want to get a girl attracted to you, you’ve got to talk to her.

This is GREAT NEWS.

Why?

Guys are attracted to girls to a very LARGE degree, by looks. Meaning if a really hot girl walks into a coffee shop, and she’s taken the time to create an even better appearance with her clothes, jewelry and makeup, she really doesn’t have to do much else to create attraction.

Seriously, imagine your type of woman. Looking just the way you like. She walks into a coffee shop, walks over, and sits down right across from you. All she does is smile that sexy smile, and look at you.

If you’re like most guys, you’ve already fallen in love with her by this time. You’re not really concerned with her personality, or her dreams or what she does for a living. In fact, for most guys, whatever these things are, (her personality stuff) you’d be quick to agree that it’s AMAZING, whatever it is.

On the other hand, think of a girl who repulses you. (Don’t worry, this is just a mind experiment, we’re not out to slam anybody or hurt anybody’s feelings.) Imagine THAT girl came over and sat down, looking at you the same way. 

You probably couldn’t get out of there quick enough, no matter WHAT she said.(Unless it was something involving millions of free dollars).

Guys on the other hand, don’t have this power. Meaning most girls won’t fall in love with a guy JUST based on looks. Lust, yea, Eye candy, yea. But most girls, if they DO see some eye candy model, generally put them into a “category.”  This “category” is most definitely NOT boyfriend category.

Now, I’m going to assume that you’re not some kind of magazine model eye candy guy.

Which means that you have INCREDLBE POWER with ONLY your language.

The attraction that girls feel is MUCH MORE determined by things like your personality, and how YOU can make her FEEL with your conversational skills.

And lucky for us guys, conversational skills can simply get better and better. The more you learn, the more attractive you’ll become, and the LESS things like looks, money, social status, will matter.

The BOTTOM LINE when it comes to attraction is how well you can conversationally create those feelings in her.

Now, most guys THINK they can ONLY create those feelings if they’re rich, or famous, or some other nonsense.

But now you know the secret.

Misunderstood Secrets of the Law of Attraction 

Many people have had not so great results with the Law of Attraction.

Meaning they do the  meditations, do the visualizations, and wonder why it isn’t working.

Don’t get me wrong, the Law of Attraction is a powerful universal force, but it’s most often misunderstood.

Firstly, it’s a metaphor for how things work. We humans have brains that are hard wired to only understand the most simple things. Anything beyond a simple “cause and effect” relationship between objects is beyond our comprehension.

Think of chess masters. They need to think several moves ahead, meaning they need to be able to predict the potential movements of each of their movements in the future. Say they have three potential moves. Each one of these three potential moves can be met by three from the opponent. That’s NINE potential changes in the chess board from three moves.

Two moves out, and he’s got to imagine 27 moves. Three moves out, and he’s got to imagine 81 moves. At only three moves out, he’s stretching the limits of conscious thought.

This is in a system (chess) where the moves are very well defined, and constricted.

In real life, there’s about a billion more outcomes from each move. Even if we tried to think two or three moves ahead, it’s WAY beyond our conscious comprehension.

This is the first stumbling block to the Law of Attraction. We think we need to “understand” how it’s going to work.

Clearly, unless you’re doing something simple like buying an ice cream cone, there’s NECESSARILY going to be about a BILLION potential things between where you are and where you want to be.

So TRUSTING  your unconscious is crucial. Expecting immediate and easy to understand results will only make you frustrated.

The second thing people have trouble understanding is this thing called “The Universe.”

As the LOA goes, if you “put out” a certain kind of energy, you’ll “get back” like energy.

But what exactly IS “The Universe?”

All the stars and planets out there spinning around? Some kind of metaphysical dust that nobody can see?

Nope.

“The Universe,” as it’s metaphorically used in the LOA, is always and only OTHER PEOPLE.

Everything that exists that’s NOT HERE NATURALLY ( I mean things other than trees or rocks or dirt) was made by OTHER PEOPLE.

And chances are, whatever it is you want, is going to made by OTHER PEOPLE.

Or at the very least, OTHER PEOPLE are going to be involved.

And since EVERY SINGLE PERSON who ever lived has something called “Free Will,” in order to get the cooperation of OTHER PEOPLE,  you’re going to need to talk to them in a way that will make them WANT to help you GET WHAT YOU WANT.

How To Get Her To Open To You

Girls are easy to talk to when you know the secret.

Most guys see girls as the holders of some kind of magical power, which they and they alone decide who to give it to.

Now, this is an easy mindset to get into, especially if it’s been a while since you got some genuine affection from a lady.

When operating from the “scarcity mindset,” everything is more difficult, no matter WHAT you’re trying to get.

But when you look at girls through the right frame, it’s actually pretty easy.

There’s a certain way to talk to them, and a certain way to measure how well you’re doing.

Both are pretty easy and straightforward to learn. 

Next time you’re out and about, just check out all the “guy-girl” interactions you see. Forget about listening in the conversation, and you’ll be able to tell just by the body language who’s into whom.

Meaning if the girl is facing the guy, has her arms and legs uncrossed, is looking at him more than half the time, and has an open expression on her face, AND she’s smiling easy, she’s literally imagining him taking her somewhere private to do the grownup.

However, if she’s closed off, not really looking at him, and her face doesn’t have that “glow,” then she’s either getting ready to bolt (if they’ve just met) or they’re having a huge fight and the poor guy isn’t going to be getting any from her any time soon (if they’re a couple).

This is EASY to see if you’re an objective observer, but most guys completely miss out when their in the mix.

But simply paying attention to her, as if you were a third party observer, while talking to her, is one of the most crucial skills to have.

In reality, if this were the ONLY skill you knew, you’d be much better than most guys,

See, when you’ve got an accurate feedback mechanism, you really can’t fail. All you’ve got to do is just literally TRY ANYTHING, and see how it works. If it DOES work, just do more. If it DOESN’T work, just do less.

But when you combine some basic observational skills with some powerful language technology, you’ll have the BEST of both worlds.

You can read her body language, AND talk to her in a way so her mind, body and spirit will literally AND figuratively open up.

To YOU.

How To Float Through Life Without Resistance

People who take the time to improve their skills generally do much better in life than those who don’t.

Sure, some people get lucky, and somehow stumble their way to love or riches, but for the most part, people who have achieved greatness in their lives do so simply because they made a decision to do so.

And they stuck with it, no matter what. There’s all kinds of stories and anecdotes, most of which you’ve likely heard, that support this. Every successful business has three or four failures behind it, you’ve gotta get through ten “no’s” before you get to that all important, “yes,” etc.

The idea of “keeping your eye on the prize” has been around for a long, long time. The reason is that this statement is true (keep your eyes on the prize) both literally and metaphorically.

If you’re running a race, for example, you’d be much better of starting directly at the finish line that your competitors.

If you’ve got a big goal in life, it’s MUCH easier if you focus on that big fat juicy goal than all the little problems that WILL come up from time to time.

If you look at those tiny problems in light of the massive accomplishment your life is becoming, they’ll be small blips. But if you lose sight of your purpose, and stare at those little bumps in the road, they’ll likely morph into giant mountains of doom.

Kind of like when I went parachuting for the first time. The guy told me, right before I jumped out, “Don’t look down!” But he also described WHY I shouldn’t look down. 

Not because it was scary or anything, but he said that when people tend to look down, they “fixate” on something down below, and miss the wonderful experience of just “floating” in mid-air, which is what it feels like when you reach “terminal velocity.”

And that “floating” feeling something that I completely didn’t expect. Nothing I’ve ever experienced comes close.

Well, almost nothing. The truth is that we all tend to move through life and “forget” about who we are and who’s around us.

The only thing that compares to that wonderful “floating” feeling (besides sex, anyway) is when you get into a conversation with somebody, and it’s just a free flowing exchange of wonderful ideas, each one building up the last, into a self sustaining loop of wonderful creativity and discovery.

Most people rarely experience this, but with the right language technology, you can literally generate that feeling at will.

Turn On Your Natural Charisma

What makes somebody charismatic?

You know, the kind of person who walks into a room, and all heads turn. The kind of person who slowly checks out the people, and all the people are thinking the same thing:

“I hope they come and talk to me!”

Most people assume this is purely based on looks. Certainly, if an ultra hot guy or girl walked into a room, they would have this effect.

But this is something much deeper than that. This has to do with incredibly magnetic personal energy that people are drawn to, on a very basic unconscious level, that goes WAY beyond looks or physical appearance.

In fact, even if somebody isn’t otherwise attractive, but they have this magnetic quality, people will be MUCH more interested in them than some brainless beauty (guy or girl).

How can you get that quality?

On a deep level, it’s how you view yourself, and the world around you. 

Most people are worried what people will think about them, and all their thoughts, behaviors, and even micro-movements are designed to elicit that desperately needed approval and validation.

The first step is to get rid of that need for validation and approval from others. But that’s only half the battle. If you only did that, you wouldn’t care what people thought about you, but you wouldn’t much care about other people as well.

That’s why the second piece of the puzzle is crucial. And that is to simply realize that within other people, is treasure.

Wonderful treasure that will take somebody like you to carefully elicit and magnify.

This will change your energy on such a deep and fundamental level that it doesn’t matter WHAT you look like, what kind of clothes you wear, or any of that other “surface level” stuff.

They’ll just notice that YOUR energy is much different than anybody else’s.

You feel comfortable in your own skin, you totally accept and appreciate yourself, and you are genuinely interested in them.

And when they hear the language you use, and how you structure your communication, they will be completely and absolutely transfixed.

In you.

Secrets Of A High Quality Male

Most guys spend all their time trying to “impress” girls.

As if she’s sitting back on her throne, and only needs to wait for ten or twenty guys to approach her, and “apply for the position” to be her boyfriend, or even maybe-boyfriend, or even to get on her “list” of guys she’s thinking about dating.

To be sure, it’s easy for a girl to develop this attitude, given the desperation of most guys.

But consider this “structure” in a context different from dating and sexual relationships.

Imagine some girl is hungry. (NOT interested in sex or romance or relationships). She’s at some kind of food court. There’s a line of guys with various dishes that are average, at best.

And because each guy hasn’t made a sale in a while, they are desperate to sell her some food.

So the line up, and all give her their best “pitch” knowing she’s only going to choose one of these average dishes.

She looks  at all of them, and because they are all about the same, she kind of enjoys the fact that all these poor guys are trying to sell her something.

But then she smells something fantastic. Some guy in the back, in his own shop, cooking up something that smells ten times better than what these chumps have.

Only this guy isn’t standing in line. Because he KNOWS that what he’s got is ten times better than any of those fools, which means he can CHARGE ten times more than any of these fools.

So he just hangs back, and waits for HIGH QUALITY customers that appreciate what he’s got. He doesn’t waste his time on low quality customers who enjoy being pitched to by average sellers.

Because he’s only got limited ingredients, he won’t sell them to just anybody. He sells them ONLY to people who make an effort to come to his shop, and pay his asking price. Which is MUCH MORE than those other chumps.

And guess what? This guy, the one with the QUALITY STUFF, makes ten times more than anybody else.

In the game of seduction, it’s the exact same thing.

As  high quality male, you don’t need to get in line with all other fools.

Because you’ve got the quality ingredients, you can let quality girls come to you.

What kind of quality?

Your powerful language that stirs feelings in her that she simply CANNOT feel with those other guys.

The deep language of sexual persuasion that girls NEVER experience.

Which is why once they hear it from you, they’ll won’t be able to settle for average again.

How To Leverage Her Desires For Incredible Attraction

One of the easiest ways to get a girl interested in you is to use her own naturally occurring desires.

Every human has a huge collection of unmet wants and needs. As soon a we achieve something, it’s not long before we want something else.

Nothing wrong with this, it’s just human nature.

Some of these things are simple, like getting something to eat or drink.

Some of these are much deeper and more powerful, like expressing your true self, and getting that deep feeling of accomplishment.

Whenever we look out into the world, we do so through a set of filters. How we see the world, and interpret it will be HUGELY influenced by these filters.

Most people don’t even know they exist, let alone understand how we can not only adjust our own, but how to covertly adjust the filters of others.

Advertisers have known this for centuries. You put an attractive girl next to a product, any product, and she’s going to evoke feelings, sometimes unconscious, of sexual desire.

We then see that product through that filter of sexual desire, making it much more attractive, no matter what it is.

If you can get a girl looking at you through similar filters (not necessarily sexual desire), she’ll have a hard time NOT being attracted to you.

What kind of filters?

Anything that has to do with those deep desires that we all have. Feelings of excitement, hope, wonder, joy, deep emotional pleasure, dreams for the future.

The secret is that these are pretty easy to elicit. All you’ve got to do is establish a base level of rapport (which is pretty easy and automatic, since humans are “pack animals”), and you’re good to go.

Just ask the right questions, follow up questions, and leverage those things that she wants.

Truth is, when you talk about HER deep desires, wants and dreams, you really won’t have to talk about yourself at all.

Learn to do this, and you can literally create attraction in pretty much any girl you meet.

How To Blissfully Trance Out And Hypnotize Others With Your Message

I love a good feedback loop.

The Beatles were the first group to actually use a feedback loop as part of their song, at the beginning.

If you are in a good mood, you’ll generally behave in ways that will invite positive responses from others, thereby enhancing your good mood.

On the other hand, if you are in a bad mood, the same thing generally happens. You scowl at people, they scowl right back, and your mood worsens.

It’s like that line from the first Pirates of the Caribbean movie, where the girl looks at the ghost and says, “I don’t believe in ghost stories!” to which the ghost replies, “Ya best believe in ’em, cause you’re IN ONE!”

When we’re in our own feedback loops, it’s pretty hard to tell. It’s easy to blame the world, and not look to ourselves as the driver of our own feelings.

What’s even better than noticing and enhancing your own feedback loops is creating them in others.

You know the old saying, “A picture is worth a thousand words,” right?

Basically it means that a good photo or painting will inspire much deeper emotions and understanding than any amount of random verbosity.

But what happens when you create a word-picture feedback loop?

What happens when you talk to people in a way that will get them generating their own pictures, in their own minds, in their own way?

Not only will they fully embrace their pictures (creates with YOUR words) but they’ll give them MUCH BETTER feelings than any picture taken or created by somebody else.

And when you carefully pay attention to what they say, how they speak, and their body language while feeding them even BETTER words, to help them create even BETTER pictures, they’ll literally fall into a self-generated bliss trance right on the spot.

Needless to say, this is a pretty good party trick. 

Or you could use it for other things.