Most of us have common fears and desires.

We’d like more money than we’ve got, and we’d like our relationships to be a little bit better.

Most of us would like to lose a few pounds, and maybe move to a nicer place.

It’s also pretty common to think of these as “out of our control.”

I remember a long time ago I was watching a post game interview of a baseball player whose team had just been eliminated from the playoffs.

What struck me was the lack of responsibility in his language. The words and phrases he was using suggested there was some larger force that kept them from winning.

Now, most professional players don’t talk like this. When they give post game interviews after big losses, they say things like, “WE couldn’t get any hits,” or “WE had trouble getting on the board,” or “OUR defense just fell apart.”

One of the things you’ll learn if you study hypnosis is the things people are hiding underneath their speech. 

Even simple things, like meeting people, can be made to sound out of our control.

For example, when heading out socially, we say things like, “I hope I meet somebody tonight.”

But when you think about it, meeting somebody is TOTALLY under your control. You see somebody interesting, you walk up, you introduce yourself, and you exchange names.

Think about if you talked about eating like this.

“I hope I can find some food.”

Maybe if you live in a cave and you’re going out with your bow and arrow, but not if you live in a modern (or even semi-modern) world with fast food and convenience stores everywhere.

Why are some things easy, and some things hard?

Is meeting people (or getting a better job or making more money) really any different than buying some food?

You want something, and you’ve got to interact with others to get it.

The only real difference is the meaning we put on things.

It’s our perceptions that make them seem difficult, not the things themselves.

Once you change your inner filters and windows through which you interpret the world, it will seem a lot easier.

Learn How:

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