Trust Your Inner Caveman
Even coming to an agreement on what the ego is can be difficult.
From a purely biological standpoint, it can be considered a leftover set of instincts from our days as hunters/gatherers.
Back in those days, we lived with the same group of people our entire lives, so their opinions of us were VERY important.
If they were talking trash about us behind our back, we could be in serious trouble. Life threatening, kicked out of the tribe trouble.
On the other hand, if everybody thought you were the bees knees, then you got a better looking mate, first dibs on all the big kills, and all the best spots to live whenever the tribe found a living spot.
So it became advantageous for those primitive humans to be super-hyper-sensitive to the opinions of others.
But like most other instincts, what worked well back then can only get in the way today.
For example, you could make a LOT of money in sales. It’s not that complicated, you’d just have to memorize a “pitch,” and call enough people, and you’d be making some serious cash.
Only problem is after getting yelled at by people who don’t like being called at home, you’d quit in a hurry.
Most sales that are based on commissions have a HUGE turnover rate. People are lured in by the potential big money, then run away in terror after getting their ego’s beat up.
Unfortunately, those instincts are pretty hard to ignore. For example, another instinct is to stuff our pie holes with food whenever it’s available. Worked back then, but not so much now.
But just understanding it doesn’t really help much. (Those burgers fries and ice cream sure do taste good!)
The trick isn’t to ignore or suppress your ego.
The trick is to accept it, appreciate it, and manage it.
Think of it as your ally, rather than your enemy.
The easiest way is to have an overarching goal that is MORE IMPORTANT than the short term gratification of your ego.
One of the most important skills to develop, regardless of what you’d like to create in life, is to step back and see the big picture.
See your current situation in the context of your entire life.
Many people think of what they’d like to create, but then get stuck when their fear-driven ego (and all that other baggage) shows up.
But when you train your ego think long term, rather than short term, it’s a lot easier.