Energy and Focus
One thing that separates them from “non-charismatic” people is the way they use their language.
Not the words themselves, but how they use them.
Consider somebody who’s shy, reserved, not sure of themselves.
Whenever they speak, they’re worried about getting rejected. Maybe other people pick up on this, and they become “easy targets” for those who are belligerent (which is of course another way to hide fear).
When they speak, they refrain from eye contact, you have to lean in to listen to them, sometimes asking them to repeat themselves.
Certainly, most of us speak like this in certain situations. Talking to super attractive people, our bosses, the cops, etc.
However, those that are naturally charismatic say every single word like it feels good just to say it.
Each and every word that passes their lips gets their full attention. Accompanied with strong, positive eye contact, a rich resonant voice, and open and confident body language.
Of course, you can over do this, and if it’s not “natural” you’ll come across as some kind of comic caricature.
But if it’s honest, people will LOVE to listen to you speak. They’ll LOVE to be around you.
If you’ve got young children, or you are ever around young children, you’ve seen this. Whenever you are doing something, and really enjoying it, the kids want to copy you. Even if they don’t know what’s going on.
Those that are charismatic speak and act with a natural energy that says, “I love life, I love me, and I love whatever’s happening right here, right now!”
This makes people want to hang around you. Anything you suggest sounds fantastic. Anything you want to do they’ll want to do.
On the other hand, non-charismatic shy types (or otherwise normal types that are in intimidating situations) speak with a “I’m not sure about life, myself, OR this situation.”
This tends to have the opposite effect.
How do you move from the shy side of the spectrum to the charismatic side?
Remember, all that outside stuff, the behavior, the speech, etc, is first on the inside.
From somebody who genuinely BELIEVES everything’s really groovy.
It’s not a matter of doing something, it’s a matter of NOT doing something.
Those fears, worries, anxieties, just let them go.
That natural charismatic person is already there. Inside you.
When you were a kid, just learning to walk, did you hold anything back? Or did you scream with delight every time something cool happened?
That naturally charismatic person is still there. All you’ve got to do is remove all the fake gunk hiding your brilliance.
How?