Most guys are conning themselves when they imagine getting with the perfect girl.

When we imagine getting a girl, we imagine it as something that’s given to us, or something that’s earned.

Make no mistake, everybody likes getting rewards or free gifts, especially when there’s a heavenly honey and some fun between the sheets involved.

But in reality, this mindset puts you at a HUGE disadvantage. And truth be told, most men NEVER leave this mindset. That’s why most men, even grown professional men making tons of cash and holding huge positions of importance, still look at their wife as some kind of authority figure.

Especially if they met when they were young, like in their twenties or earlier.

Why is this? Men take a lot longer to “grow up” than women. Even in ancient societies, boys had to be forced into ceremonies where they were transformed from boys into men. If they didn’t go through the ceremony, they’d stay boys their whole lives and be a danger to the tribe.

Why didn’t they do this for girls? Why no ceremonies for turning girls into women?

Because back then, it happened naturally. Having a baby does that to a girl. When you’ve got a little kid who is absolutely desperate for you to keep them alive, it’s kind of hard NOT to “grow up.”

Of course, this isn’t so true any more. But there’s still a lingering “gap” between the maturity level of boys and girls.

Just ask any school teacher.

And when you walk up to a girl in a club with that attitude that she’s got all the goods, and you “hope” that she decides to “give you” some, you’re not doing yourself any favors.

Ideally, you should have such a good life that girls are trying to convince YOU to let THEM in.

Now, this may seem impossible with so many people just barely able to pay the bills.

But the good news is that this comes from the INSIDE, not the money in your bank account.

On a deep psychological level, attraction is triggered by your BELIEF of your own life, and your own potential.

If you need her to be happy, you’re not worth too much to her.

But if you DON’T need her to be happy, she’ll be much more into you. 

Now, most guys are pretty good at pretending or faking this. But they quickly slip back into the beta-male role after a month or two of a relationship.

Which is why girls lose interest a lot in the first few weeks or months. You’ve lost that quality. Or she finds out that quality was fake.

How do you get that quality, on a real and lasting level?

Always see the big picture. If you don’t have huge dreams in your life, get some. It doesn’t matter if they seem a million miles away. Just BELIEVE they will come to you some day, and do things to make that happen. Even small things. Remember, you only need to convince yourself.

So next time you talk to a cutie, or are about to, ask yourself something like this:

“Does the achievement of my life’s dreams depend on this girl? Can she help me achieve them? Or is she just looking for entertainment? Let me go and talk to her and find out if she qualifies.”

Then go and talk to her.

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