Here’s an interesting experiment to do next time you’re walking down the street.

You’ll need to be walking one way, with another person coming toward you, with relatively few other people on the street.

Situation one is to pick something out on the horizon, and focus on that. ONLY look at the other person, as you approach them, as a kind of blur in your peripheral vision. 

Situation two is to look at them, off and on, in the eyes as you walk toward them.

If you do this a few times, you’ll notice a pretty clear difference between the two situations.

In situation one, even though you’re not looking at the person, the both of you will automatically and subconsciously move out of each other’s way.

In situation two, when you keep making eye contact, it will be hard NOT to bump right into the other person. As you move, so will they, mirroring your movements.

This is one of the reasons why people can walk down the street staring at their phones and rarely crash into things. Sure, there’s a few funny vids with people falling into fountains and walking into glass doors, but these are FAR from the norm.

Humans have kind of a “sixth sense” both in avoiding others, AND in creating instant and deep rapport with one another.

That’s what’s happening when you make even the briefest eye contact. You suddenly fall into rapport, and if you know anything about rapport, you know it’s all about mirroring and matching. Which is EXACTLY why you always crash into each other. Even doing that uncomfortable but funny little “dance” the closer you get. Both moving the same way at the same time.

When you create rapport with somebody, you transform from two people trying to avoid each other to two people magnetic for each other.

It’s also pretty fun when you do this in a social setting, when everybody is pretty stationary. This is kind of an “out there” exercise, but it also works pretty well.

Next time you’re at a social gathering, whether it’s friends at a party or down at the local pub, try this out.

Sit or stand somewhere where you can get a good view of the room.

Then imagine that YOU and the CROWD are in deep rapport. 

Use whatever mental image you can conjure. For some, this means visualizing chords of light connecting everybody in a big energy lattice structure.

For others, they imagine a big bubble of positive energy emanating from you, and surrounding and protecting everybody else.

Do this long enough, and people will start to notice you.

In a GOOD way.

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