One very valuable trait you can have is to make people feel comfortable and open around you.

For some folks, this is pretty easy and natural. For them, they just show up, act normal, and people naturally flock to them.

Luckily, this isn’t something that’s programmed into our DNA. Which means if we don’t have “it,” we can easily develop it.

Just like how some people suck at cooking, sports, or music. With some practice, you can get pretty good.

So, what’s required to get that magnetic presence that will open so many doors?

First, you’ve got to be able to accept and appreciate other people. Get rid of any idea that you need to tell people how they should behave or think. 

Leave that to the egomaniac control freaks.

Next, you’ve got to accept and appreciate yourself. This sounds simple, but it’s more complicated than we may think.

A lot of us think we need to change ourselves somehow, before we can really get out there, but this is just a self-con to keep us safe on the sidelines.

The truth is that people respond to your interpretation of you, rather than you.

Since they have no idea of your ideas, feelings, beliefs, emotions, they have to follow your lead.

If you think you are inadequate somehow, so will they. But if you truly believe you are perfect just the way you are, so will they.

The final piece of the puzzle is to have some purpose for your life. Something you are creating. Something you are building.

Again, what this is is completely up to you. But if YOU think it’s important, so will they.

There’s something about someone that has all of these qualities.

They accept people, rather than judge them, so it feels good to be around them.

They accept themselves without needing constant validation and approval from others, so it feels good to be around them.

They know where they are going in life, which gives off that “natural leader” vibe, that so many of us crave not in ourselves, but in others.

Like I said, some people naturally have all three. But if you don’t, no problem.

Because once you get them, it will be just as good.

Get Yours:

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