Monthly Archives: October 2014

How To Out Alpha The Whole Room

Want Her Attention?

Girls love a guy who’s alpha.

We all know that.

Guys are the same way, only we often misunderstand this.

When guys think of an “alpha” girl, we usually think of a girl who’s trying to be like a guy.

But that’s not the kind of “alpha” we go for.

When it comes to girls, and which girls we are attracted to, we tend to go for the cutest, prettiest, most feminine, the looks and behavior that make up the stereotypical “gorgeous girl.”

Basically, the hottest girl in the room, based on the evidence we can collect safely from our location.

Location Specific

But here’s the thing. It’s all relative to the location.

Meaning if you are in a situation, where most of the girls are not OBJECTIVELY hot, meaning they don’t look like porn stars or centerfolds, it doesn’t take long to start seeing the hottest girl, comparatively speaking, as hotter and hotter.

The same goes for guys. Girls all have some kind of “Objective” standard, like super rich, super powerful, and super friendly.

But they know subconsciously that most guys aren’t like that.

Finding The Local Maximum

So they also subconsciously start to find the “hottest” guy in the room, based on girl standards.

Meaning if you are in any particular location, you just to be the most alpha guy in the room, not the most alpha guy on Earth.

And if you’ve ever taken the time to look around, this usually isn’t too difficult.

Especially if you’ve taken the time to learn some simple conversation techniques, and you’ve got a bit of social intelligence.

Who’s Best At Reading The Signs

It usually boils down to who can spot the girls who are interested in them more than anything else.

Having just a little bit more social intelligence than all the other guys in the room will go a long, long way in getting you EXACTLY what you want.

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Where Do You Rank In Social Status?

It’s Always Somebody Else

We all love to point the finger.

No matter what happens, one of the EASIEST things to do is feel like a “victim.”

If we are a victim, then it’s not our fault.

And sometimes, it’s much better failing, if it’s NOT our fault, than anything else.

This is one of the reasons we humans LOVE authority figures so much.

Who’s In Charge?

All kinds of experiments show that when you put a group of people in a strange situation, there will ALWAYS emerge some kind of “leader.”

Now, think about what this requires. It requires at least one person in every single group to WANT to become a leader. To WANT to tell others what to do.

On the other hand, it requires many more people to WANT to be followers. To WANT to be TOLD what to do.

Whatever You Say, Boss

After all, being told what to do removes a lot of fear, and a lot of risk. It also removes the need to think, especially about actions with uncertain outcomes.

If there’s one thing we humans are terrified of, it’s taking action when we’re not sure what’s going to happen.

But if somebody steps up and says, “I’m in Charge!” It’s suddenly much, much easier for a lot of us.

I’m Just Following This Guy

No thinking, no worrying, no tough decisions. And if things go wrong, it’s not OUR fault, right?

We were just doing what we were told.

The funny thing is that the capacity of being a leader, AND being a follower is in EVERYBODY.

And this is based on scientific proof, not some squishy metaphysical idea.

See, they’ve done TONS of experiments. They take groups of people, split them apart into smaller, completely random groups.

And in each group, one person’s a leader, and everybody else is a follower.

But not all followers are equal. There’s a certain “pecking order,” or varying levels of social status.

There’s people that are in the middle, and there’s people that are clearly at the bottom.

And guess what? When they take the very BOTTOM PERSON from each group, and put THEM in a group, the same thing happens.

One person ends up the leader, and everybody else is a follower.

That means in every situation, you can be a leader, or YOU can be a follower.

It’s up to you.

Here’s something else to think about.

Are You Waiting For Permission?

All of the people in the history of the world who created great things, great ideas, great inventions, do you think they waited until somebody TOLD them what to do?

Or did they just DO IT?

If you’re waiting for somebody to come and hold your hand, and show you the risk free step by step process to EASY SUCCESS, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

On the other hand, if you’re willing to learn, take responsibility and TRY NEW THINGS, then you’ve got a fighting chance.

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Discover Your Natural Game For Easy Attraction

Have Some Fun

Do you enjoy girls?

I know, silly question. But is it?

Most guys don’t really enjoy girls. Or they do, but only in certain situations. Like their bedrooms.

They look out into the sea of feminine beauty and see nothing but obstacles and barriers to their success.

You Mad Bro?

Some guys look at girls and actually get angry, as they imagine all their “failures” from the past, and project that into the future.

They’ve already “rejected” themselves before they even approach.

On the other hand, there are naturals. Are they naturals because of their success rate? Or is it something deeper.

Consider this.

When a natural looks out into the sea of girls, he sees massive potential for massive pleasure.

But this pleasure doesn’t just come in the bedroom.

Happiness On Every Level

This pleasure comes from flirting with them, talking to them, touching them, and sometimes even seducing them.

I’m sure you’ve heard of the concept, “detach from outcome,” right?

Some guys, (a lot of guys) misinterpret this. They see this as some kind of self-deceptive con to help them get to the prize, which is up in between her legs.

They see that as the ONLY desired outcome, and the “detach from outcome” is only a mind trick to keep them from getting nervous.

This is absolutely the wrong way to look at it.

What’s a better way?

Relax And Enjoy Yourself

Actually detach from outcome. Not as a mind trick, but as a way of life (at least when talking to girls).

The easiest way to “detach” from outcome is to simply not have an outcome.

Just see girls as a group of people, or an individual, to simply be enjoyed, no matter WHAT happens.

Here’s another one I’m sure you’ve heard: “The road is better than the inn.”

Which of course means that traveling to a destination is usually better than the destination, either metaphorically or real.

So forget about trying to get laid. Forget about getting her phone number. Forget about even getting her name.

All that WILL happen naturally, when you approach the situation naturally.

Just enjoy her. Let nature take it’s course.

One thing that will REALLY help is the mindset of a natural learner. Not only with girls, but with life.

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Intelligence Accelerator

How To Obliterate The Fear Of Failure

Go Higher

In NLP, there’re these things called “meta programs.”

These are filters through which we see the world.

Now, we all have millions of filters that change on a day to day or even moment to moment basis. Like if you’re really hungry, your subconscious will pick up anything that looks like it might be food.

Or if it’s been a while since you’ve been in a satisfying relationship, your subconscious will pick up people who look like they might be candidates.

Or maybe you just bought a red car, and you see red cars everywhere. Or maybe you just became or are trying to become pregnant, and you see pregnant ladies everywhere.

Deep Structure

Meta Programs operate on a much deeper, and much more “permanent” level. They can be changed, but only with conscious effort. Seeing red cars or pregnant ladies, on the other hand, happens on its own.

One Meta Program is how we are motivated. Either by somebody outside of us, or by ourselves.

Like when you know, really know, you did a good job at something, which feels better, somebody telling you that you did a good job, or when you tell yourself you did a good job?

This is also contextual. Meaning that depending on what we’re doing, that approval can seem better coming from the outside or the inside.

Seeking Approval

If the reason we’re doing something came from the outside (somebody telling us to do something) then hearing outside approval is usually better.

If the reason we’re doing something came from the inside (we decided to do something) then inside approval is usually better.

Nowhere is this truer than in the frame of “learning” anything.

If somebody tells you to “learn” something, like your boss or a teacher, you usually depend on their “approval” to know if you’ve done a good job or not.

But if you want to learn something for your own reasons, that approval best comes from within.

The best part is when you realize this on a conscious AND unconscious level.

Understand Why

When you are learning something for your own reasons, and YOU are the only one allowed to say if you’ve failed or not, you CAN make significantly more progress.

This means you can learn anything, for any reason, and NEVER feel as if you’ve “failed.”

Just like Edison when he went through 9,999 different filaments for his light bulb before he found the right one.

He NEVER failed once. He just of a whole lot of methods that didn’t work. Which meant it was simply a signal from his environment to keep searching for something that DID work.

You can do the same.

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The Secret Girl Laboratory

It’s Always A Numbers Game

You can beat the race, but you can’t beat the races.

My dad used to say that about the racetrack. Meaning you might get an inside “angle” on any particular race, where you know something that nobody else does, giving you a clear advantage, but over the long haul, the racetrack will ALWAYS come out ahead.

It’s based on statistics, human behavior, and the “juice” so the owners will ALWAYS have an income stream.

With girls, it’s the complete opposite.

More Girls Than You Imagine

Meaning you might get rejected by the girl, but it’s impossible to get rejected by GIRLS.

Sure, that one hottie may tell you to take a hike when you try your latest and greatest pick up line, but so what?

Hold Off On The Chanting

At last count, there were more than 7 BILLION people on Earth. It’s not like if she (whoever SHE is) shuts you down, you have to join a monastery.

The secret to getting plenty of action, just the way you want it, is to see it ALL as a learning process.

You don’t have to go balls to the wall, and ask every girl who makes eye contact with you to marry you.

Just do whatever you’re comfortable with, and go just a little bit further.

If you’re comfortable making quick eye contact, and that’s it, that’s perfectly fine.

Slightly Push The Boundaries

Just practice holding it for a bit longer, and see what happens. Some girls will look down and away (good) while others will look away sideways (not so good).

When that gets easy, start smiling. Some girls will smile back, some won’t. So what? Next, just start saying “hi” to the girls that smile. Some will say “hi” back, some won’t. So what?

Just keep going. See yourself as a mad scientist experimenting on the female population.

See your bedroom as the ultimate laboratory, and every social interaction is part of your own vast selection and screening process.

See the world filled with girls as a HUGE opportunity to become a lifetime learner of seduction.

Eyes On The Prize

Even if you’re only looking for ONE special girl, this is still valid. Once you’re in THAT relationship, just use THAT as your laboratory.

So long as you’re learning with an eye on always improving, you CANNOT FAIL.

If you want to accelerate your process by unleashing the natural learner within, check this out:

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When Is Failure OK?

Forget Perfection

There’s two kinds of learning, conscious and unconscious.

Both are required for full understanding.

When we were kids, all learning was unconscious. Stuff like walking, talking, using certain tools and toys. We just had a certain unspoken desire, and we tried stuff until it worked.

We didn’t need to consciously plan or think as we had the deep programming to drive us forward.

Monkey See Monkey Do

We learned by copying. We saw somebody doing something, we got a deep desire to do the same thing, and we kept trying all kinds of different stuff until we got it right.

We had ZERO concept of failure. Only getting closer.

Imagine having this attitude when learning something requiring plenty of conscious thought, like Calculus or something.

Halfway There!

You start the class not knowing squat, you do your best to study. The first test comes back, and you get 50 out of 100.

What do you think?

“Sweet! I’m halfway there!”

Not likely!

Why not?

For some reason, when we learn things consciously, we lose our “explorer” mindset. We lose the ability to judge whether or not we are getting closer, and replace that by judging whether or not we are all the way there.

Less Than Perfect = Failure?

So instead of feeling good about ourselves the entire journey, we feel like failures unless we get it a hundred percent right.

Naturally, this can lead to giving up halfway there. Imagine if you gave up learning to walk when you could only take three steps before falling on your face!

“I suck at walking! I quit!”

The thing to understand here is we had to LEARN to feel like a failure. We had to LEARN that NOT getting one hundred percent correct was WRONG.

Don’t Be A Tree Killer!

Now, as an adult there ARE some things that require this attitude. If you decided to drive down to the burrito restaurant, and crashed into a tree halfway there, it’s GOOD to feel like you did something wrong.

Otherwise the roads would be littered with wrecked cars.

The crucial skill of being an adult is knowing WHICH situation requires WHICH mindset.

The pass / fail mindset (like driving to the burrito store) or the LEARNING mindset (like learning ANY kind of useful or profitable skill).

The good news is it’s pretty easy to tell the difference. So long as you’re not going to break anything, hurt anybody or lose a significant amount of money, you can take your time learning, and just keep getting better and better.

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How To Generate Irresistible Passion In Her

Power Of Language

Girls love a guy who can talk a good game.

Not seductively, or using any kind of secret language patterns designed to get her out of her panties, but somebody who can speak in a certain way.

What way?

There’s two crucial elements. One is that you speak with passion. Now, that sounds like of vague, so let me explain. What it means is simply to really care about what you’re passionate about. (Just never actually use the word “passion,” or “passionate,” OK?)

Like What You’re Talking About

If she sees that you are into what you’re talking about, she’ll be into it to. This means don’t be shy about letting your emotions show through your language.

Stress certain syllables, stretch out certain vowels, and use a lot of clear facial expressions.

(Hint: Don’t talk like a robot).

The second thing is to describe things in vivid detail. Colors, shapes, smells, use as many sense words as you can.

Structure vs. Content

Remember, girls aren’t attracted to you BECAUSE of what you’re talking about, they’re attracted to you by HOW you’re talking about it.

ESPECIALLY if you’re talking about regular stuff. Not stuff like skydiving, or going spelunking in Russia.

Why?

Because most girls have average self esteem. Not high, not low, average. (Just like most guys are of average height, etc.) And if you’re talking about how you fought off two grizzly bears in the Klondike with a banana, she’s going to feel like she can’t compete.

But if you’re talking about how a cricket woke you up and you went on a ninja seek and destroy mission to find it and assassinate it, she’ll be into you.

Go Easy On The Crickets

NOT because you’re a cricket killer. But because you get excited about mundane things, and make them interesting.

Life is filled with mundane things. If YOU can make mundane things sound exciting, she’ll want to tag along.

But it’s much deeper than that.

Most girls think THEY THEMSELVES are mundane things. (As do most guys).

Which means if you can get jazzed up about every day stuff, she’ll assume, on an unconscious level, that you can get jazzed up about her.

It’s All Unconscious

Understand this will ALL happen on an unconscious level. She won’t know WHY she’s suddenly feeling that funny feeling in her tummy, but she will be.

So forget about trying to impress her with heroic stories of dragon slaying. Let loose your emotions and learn to share them with passion and descriptive language.

You can learn more by studying this program that will teach you how to reach into your brain and make life come alive in new and exciting ways.

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The Problems Of Underestimating Intelligence

Random TV Wisdom

The other night I was flipping through Netflix looking for something to watch, and I came across “Lost.”

If you’ve never seen it, it’s about a group of people stuck in an island after a plane crash, but the island has got all kinds of messed up magical stuff about it.

Anyhow, when it first came out, I watched the first season or so, and then lost interest. And then for some reason I watched the very last five or six episodes (the whole show ran for six years) just to see how they’d resolve it.

This Will NEVER Work!

So being a bit curious, I looked up the show’s info online. As it turned out, it almost never got off the ground. The studio exec who thought up the idea was told, again, and again, that it was too “dense.”

Meaning it was too complicated, too cerebral, too many overlapping stories intersecting in too many places.

But it turned out to be a HUGE success. A show they thought people weren’t intelligent enough to “get” or enjoy.

People Are Smarter Than You Think

I had a girlfriend once that would always do that with her friends when they went to see movies. My girlfriend felt she needed to “explain” all the seemingly complicated plot twists while they were happening.

She didn’t think her friends would “get them” otherwise.

Bottom line is that people are MUCH smarter than we give them credit for. I know it’s pretty popular (and easy), especially online to think that only “we” get it, or see things they way they REALLY are, and everybody is a drooling, mouth breathing idiot, but the truth is that people are pretty smart.

Including YOU.

Now it’s one thing to underestimate the intelligence of others. It may keep you from getting your ideas fully out there (because you may think nobody will understand them) or you may annoy your friends at the movies, but one of the BIGGEST mistakes you can make in life is to underestimate YOUR OWN intelligence.

You’re So Money And You Don’t Even Know It!

Because the simple truth is that YOU are capable of MUCH MORE than you think you are.

Even if you spend you entire life creating massive accomplishment after massive accomplish, you still haven’t even scratched the surface of your real potential.

Isn’t it time to find out what you can really do?

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How To Shop For Her Emotions

Feelings Are Everything

No matter how you get a girl interested in you, you’ve got to get her emotions fired up.

You can either plan to do this, or hope to do this.

Most guys hope. Meaning they do things that they hope will inspire the “right” combination of emotions in her, which she’ll “hopefully” interpret as “attraction.”

Flowers?

If you’re super old school, you may go on a “date,” and buy her dinner, give her flowers, shower her with compliments. These are all designed to trigger those emotions in her, that she’ll interpret subconsciously attraction.

One way you will SURELY fail is if you think she’s going to make some CONSCIOUS decision, based on what you’ve done.

Like if you show up with flowers, and you expect her to suddenly “like you” as if she could choose to like you.

Yum!

This would be the same as having a three year old kid, and spending an hour cooking him or her a broccoli and cabbage pie. You think that BECAUSE you put in the effort, that your kid should suddenly think that broccoli and cabbage pie is delicious.

Trust me, the only reason they’ll eat it is to stop you from screaming at them.

Girls (and guys) are NO different. Attraction ISN’T a choice, but even though most guys KNOW this, they act like it’s not true.

Feeling Come From The Subconscious

But the harsh, bottom line truth is if she’s NOT feeling you, she’s NOT feeling you.

Nobody is going to eat broccoli because you CONVINCED THEM to like it. They are ONLY going to eat it if they already like it.

Back on point.

If you want to create attraction, you can only do so by creating the right combination of emotions.

Not only that, but you’ve got to create them on the sly. Most of the time, this happens by accident. A girl just “feels” a guy, and a guy just “feels” a girl.

But you CAN engineer these emotions.

How?

Just move her through several positive emotions (happiness, excitement, discovery, surprise) and a couple of negative ones (fear, shock, anxiety) over the course of twenty or thirty minutes.

Keep It On The Down Low

Just DON’T EVER tell her you’re doing this.

Now, it can be hard to keep track of all these emotions, but they are plenty of mental tricks that can help.

You can literally see an imaginary checklist behind her if you train your mind right.

Then as you’re talking to her, and you see her move through those emotions, you simply check one off your list, and move on to the next.

Just like going shopping.

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How To Discover Your Inner Magic

Unconscious Love

The border between the conscious and unconscious is where it’s at.

When you’re (or your body is) doing something unconsciously, like walking, breathing (most of the time) pulsing your blood through your veins, and processing the billions of bits of information hitting your sense, you never know.

When you’re doing something consciously, like writing (most of the time), speaking about some kind of topic that’s crucial to your livelihood (like talking to your boss or your kids) then it’s all above board, and you know what’s going on.

But the magic happens when it’s right there on the border. When it could easily go either way.

Getting lost in conversation with a friend or loved one, and then forgetting what you were talking about.

In The Flow

Playing a well rehearsed piece on an instrument, and both listening and playing at the same time.

Losing yourself in physical activity, getting that often sought after “flow.”

This is when we humans are at our best.

That perfect combination of automatic instinctive, and subconsciously programmed behaviors coupled with consciously chosen direction.

This is pure magic. When we choose where we want to go, with our conscious, and then turn over the reigns to our unconscious to get us there.

With our full trust and appreciation.

Expand The Interface

The bigger this “border” is, and the more often we experience it, the richer our lives become.

Consciously looking out into a world filled with wonderful opportunities, while digging deep below the surface to pull up our vast resources.

Combining conscious vision and unconscious skills to achieve greatness.

When people fully begin to realize the vast reaches and depths of their minds, they usually come to one stunning conclusion:

“There is MAGIC here!”

Have you discovered yours yet?