Frontways Back?

Most guys get it backward when it comes to pick up.

That’s not entirely accurate. Most guys get only HALF the story, and that half of the story they get backwards.

For most guys, it works like this. They walk into a place and see a bunch of girls. Coffee shop, bookstore, nightclub, whatever.

They separate the girls by looks. This happens automatically, and subconsciously.

Then they look at the girls they’d like, and pick one to approach.

This Ain’t The Holodeck!

The problem they do this as if they were looking at a picture, or watching a movie. They don’t see themselves as part of the equation.

They sort twice. The first “sorting” is based on their subjective opinions. They second “sorting” is based on how easy it might be to “pick her up” based on her surroundings. If she’s with a guy, she’s out. If she’s with one or two girls, then maybe. If she’s alone, then it’s game on.

Notice that NONE of these “sorting” models involve him. He may as well be looking at some pictures taken from the security cameras.

On the other hand, here’s what a natural does. Again, this happens quickly, and unconsciously.

Where Do I Fit In?

He walks into the place, and reads the room. He quickly scans EVERYBODY’S body language, facial expressions, etc.

Then he sorts by girls that are already showing him slight IOI’s. Then he further sorts by girls who are giving him IOI’s and are “high probability targets.” Girls that are NOT with boyfriends.

Sure, it sounds super alpha to claim you picked up a girl who was with a guy, but in reality this often invites more problems than it’s worth. All kinds of drama to say the least. (Nobody wants a girl who’s openly flirting with other guys, while she’s with “her” guy.)

Double Qualified

Only then does he sort them by looks. He’s already classified them by THEIR interest in HIM. Then he’s sub classified them by the probability of success, based on their situation.

ONLY THEN does he sort them further by HIS level of attraction.

This way, he’s almost certain to be successful, AND the girl he chooses is hottest of the girls that are ALREADY interested in him.

Here’s what makes it so powerful. It’s very subtle.

When girls give a guy signals, most guys are clueless. But girls see it as obvious as if she’s holding up a big flashing bill board.

So when he sees five or ten girls, giving him signals, THEY ALL KNOW that he’s got five or ten girls giving him signals.

So when he approaches ONE of them, she’s going to feel like the WINNER.

Which means he’ll have to do VERY LITTLE work to create attraction, since it’s already there.

So, how do you develop such ultra laser targeted social intelligence, so YOU can pick and choose?

Monkey See Monkey Do

If you do the same thing that everybody else does, you’ll get the same thing everybody else has.

If you go to a club, or other place to meet girls, and you’re dressed like everybody else, you use the same lines like everybody else, you’ll end up with the same results as everybody else.

Being different is a great way to stand out in her mind, but you’ve got to be careful. Don’t be different just for the sake of being different, otherwise this would backfire.

Leave The Costume At Home

If you walked into a club wearing a chicken suit, for example, you would certainly be different. But you may not have the best of luck withe ladies.

There’s all kinds of memorized openers that are designed to make you stand out. Like talking about two girls that are fighting outside, or using the “snack opener” or something she hopefully hasn’t heard yet.

But if it’s clear you’re using a line, she MIGHT give you points for originality, but she’ll also know you were being original on purpose, meaning it was part of “non-natural” communication to pick her up.

At best, this is simply a clever “pick up line.” At worst you’ll seem like a creepy stalker.

Your Authentic and Unique Self

The real trick is to be genuine AND different.

How can you do that? One powerful way is to use nested loops. This is when you start telling a story, being very generous with your facial expressions, and the shifting to various stories without really finishing any of them.

This is genuine if you are telling her REAL stories about your REAL life. Most guys get hung up on content, the actual stuff the story is about. But in reality it’s not so important. MUCH MORE important is how you tell it.

Keep Her Interested

AND when you keep changing stories, right when you’re about to get to the climax, she’ll be HOOKED on your every word.

See, most guys walk up and try to “impress her” with their income, jobs, etc. But it’s clear to her on one level that’s EXACTLY what they’re doing. Giving HER information that they hope SHE approves of.

But YOU, on the other hand, are telling her stories about how you woke up late, or found a frog in your bathroom, or put chocolate on your toast instead of peanut butter, AND you’re using really “in the moment” body language and facial expressions, AND you’re leaving her hanging, so she’ll won’t help but be TOTALLY focused on you.

At the end of the night, she’ll consciously be aware that all you did was tell her goofy kid stories, but somehow, she’s totally attracted to you. And THIS is the kind of thing girls DREAM ABOUT.

Of course, being able to remember and keep track of all those stories can be a bit tricky. But it’s well worth it.