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How To Appreciate Girls Without Getting In Trouble

Ditch The Self Judgment

Most guys are terrified of openly expressing their interest in a woman.

They’re afraid they’ll get rejected, or worse, there’re afraid they’ll be labeled as a “creep” or a “pervert” as if they are doing something wrong.

But consider this. Sexual desire is the most natural thing there is, assuming everybody is age appropriate.

If men never expressed their sexual desires, humans wouldn’t exist.

You may even say that the whole of society is a manifestation of man’s sexual desire.

But, you say, I checked that girl out the other day and she caught me, and gave me a dirty look!

Consider this. When you think of doing the nasty with a hot girl you see, it likely makes you FEEL dirty before she even sees you. Maybe because all of your experiences are the same. Maybe because when you were a kid your mom or your kindergarten teacher found you playing with your little guy and gave you a creepy look. But that wasn’t because it was inherently bad, it’s just that grownups DON’T feel comfortable talking about that stuff with kids.

It’s like one of those chicken and egg questions. What came first? Pure, honest, sexual desire, or the feeling of creepiness surround pure sexual desire?

I suggest that pure sexual desire (age appropriate, of course) is PERFECTLY NATURAL. It’s just because most people suck at expressing it that everybody THINKS it’s creepy.

But it’s not.

In a sense, when you’re checking out a girl, you’re already judging yourself as creepy or a pervert before she even takes a look.

Which means she’s not judging you as a creep because you were checking her out, she was judging you a creep because YOU judged YOURSELF a creep.

Most guys know that women want a guy who’ll lead. But what if they automatically follow a guy as their default setting?

Which means HOWEVER YOU JUDGE YOURSELF is how she is going to judge you. Not just her, but society in general.

Which is fantastic news.

Because all you’ve got to do is STOP JUDGING YOURSELF and so will she.

If you accept your sexual desire as normal, natural, and crucially, necessary for the survival of the human race, so will she.

Which means when you express your appreciation for her, even if it’s purely sexual, she will LOVE IT.

Now, this of course means you’ve got to have a healthy desire to find out about her personality, and whether or not she’s a match.

Because the bottom line truth is that most women (simply by the law of statistics) WILL NOT be a match.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy looking.

Not just looking, but appreciating.

So next time you’re out checking out the ladies, try this out.

Think these words in your mind:

“I like looking at you. You are VERY attractive. I get good feelings when I look at you. And when I’m looking at you, I’m imagining that we are PERFECT for each other and can make each other VERY HAPPY. I would LOVE to meet you to see if that’s true or not.”

Try that, and see what happens.

Girlfriend Generator

The Magic Alchemy Machine

Imagination Is Everything

Most people have zero idea how powerful their imagination is.

Many believe that at best, it’s something to use to kill time when you’re bored. Fantasize about your future, that guy or girl you like, or that you’re the star in the TV show you’re watching.

Others see it as some horrible enemy that screws things up. Just when they get ready to try something new, their imagination takes over and shows them all the awful things that will happen if things go wrong.

Let’s say you had some kind of mystery tool. Maybe one day you were cleaning out your garage and you found this cool shiny thing with a bunch of buttons.

You started hammering on the buttons, in random order, and it made some cool noises and flashing lights. But some buttons made it spit out some stinky gas. So you figured it’d be some kind of fun thing to play with if you ever got bored.

Maybe when you and your buddies were sitting around, you’d take turns pushing the buttons in random order just to see what would happen.

Maybe cool, maybe not.

But what if you found this cool machine, as well as a detailed owners manual?

And there were TONS of “recipes” in there, to push the buttons in a specific order, and instead of sounds or smells, you got actual things out of this magic machine. Actual physical objects like books, computers, food, or stacks of money.

There was even a detailed section on how to program this machine, not only to make more complicated things, but to make more machines.

What would you think then?

The truth is we’ve all got a machine just like that.

Your imagination.

Only most of us think it’s something to play around with when we’re bored, and even then it may backfire on us.

The select few of you who take the time to learn how to use this “machine” can create magnificent things.

All you need is an instruction manual, some time, and an idea of what you’d like to create.

Can it really be that simple?

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Mind Persuasion

The Benefits Of Long Game

Stop Hustling For Short Term Action

Some of the most powerful people in the world operate behind the scenes.

They cause events to happen not because the initial outcome is what want. Nor the secondary or tertiary outcome. But because they know they are setting up the conditions for the outcome they REALLY want.

And it’s not some kind of once-off type of deal. It is a situation where they can continue to reap the benefits of their efforts for DECADES.

This is the power of the LONG CON. However, the word “con” is not the best word. The word “con” involves stealing, or law breaking, or some kind of trickery or manipulation.

However, when dealing with women, and personal relationships, the structure is the same. In this respect, the term long “game” is more appropriate, but even then it’s a misnomer. When you think of “gaming” somebody, it conjures up ideas of one person “winning” and the other person “losing.”

It can help to think in terms of sales. For example, think of an insurance salesman. Let’s say he goes door to door, and tries to sell people auto insurance. There’s basically two types of “game” he can employ.

Short game, or long game.

Short game is where he comes up with some super ninja language patterns, or really persuasive charisma that gets him really high closing rates. Like maybe two or three out of ten people. Considering it only takes him a couple three hours or burn through that many potential customers, and that each sales is worth a couple hundred, that’s pretty good money.

However, those customers aren’t likely going to be long term customers. His “short game” doesn’t allow for him to see if they are really a match for his product or not.

Which means most of them cancel after the first year. Which means he ALWAYS has to be out hustling new customers.

As soon as he stops hustling, his income stream wills top not long thereafter.

Now think of a guy who employs ultra “long game” strategy.

Maybe he talks to 100 or even 500 customers before he gets a sale. Maybe he only gets a sale every one or two weeks.

Sounds horrible at first glance.

But these customers are LIFE LONG customers. They renew EVERY SINGLE YEAR. Not only that, but guess who they call when they know somebody who needs insurance? Or when their kid’s old enough to drive? Or when they buy a new car, or even a new house?

That’s right, they call him.

How many of these customers do you think he needs for a really FAT and really PASSIVE INCOME?

Not a lot. Maybe a couple hundred.

Sure, he’s got to hustle a lot, and NOT GET PAID while he’s getting those customers. Most sales people don’t have that kind of long term vision, or patience.

But those that do get paid FOR LIFE.

Long term game, when it comes to women, is the same.

How does it apply?

You can use short term game. Do a lot of hustling to get a lot of low quality (unqualified) women in the sack. But when you stop hustling, so does the love.

On the other hand, you can employ long game. Find high quality candidates that don’t need to be gamed. They see the quality of your product (YOU) and are sold on their own.

How do you do that?

Take some time talking to her. Figure out if you REALLY ARE a match. Forget the short term, NON-SUSTAINTABLE relationships that all the other clowns are chasing.

Keep this up and before long, you’ll have a few HIGH QUALITY WOMEN that are totally into you. And they will be the ones trying to close you.

With little effort on your part.

How do you create this wonderful situation?

Here’s How:

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How To Ditch The Agony Of Defeat

How To Create A Positive Feedback Loop

Whenever you do any kind of planning or manifesting, it’s always recommended to have a positive expectation.

If you think you’ll fail, you will increase your chances of that happening. Say you go in for a job interview, and you don’t think you’ll do well. This will decrease your enthusiasm, which will have a negative effect on how you present yourself.

Of course, this will decrease the chances you get the job, making your negative expectations come true.

On the other hand, if you’ve got positive expectations, and really imagine yourself having the job, then you’ll be much more outgoing, confident and articulate. Things interviewers love to see.

However, this won’t guarantee you get the job. Sure, it will increase your chances. But what if everybody else who’s interviewing is doing the same thing?

This is one of the problems with holding a positive expectation. If it doesn’t happen right away, it’s very easy to get discouraged, angry and resentful.

Expecting to get something, and then not getting it, feels VERY similar to getting cheated.

It’s the same, on an emotional level, as somebody making a promise to you that is based on pure lies.

I’m sure you’ve heard that old saying, “Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.”

Thing about those old sayings is there’s a reason they’ve been around for a while.

How do you implement them? How do you continue to maintain a positive expectation when odds are you’ll run into problems, difficulties and obstacles no matter what?

One is to take on the mindset of responsibility. One of the reasons we feel cheated when things don’t work out, is we still have the mindset of “receiving something” rather than “earning something.”

Often times, we feel like we’re supposed to put in a certain amount of work and then the “universe” is supposed to “give us” a prize for our efforts.

Kind of like being a little kid playing some game at a birthday party.

Think of something that you KNOW is totally under your control. When things don’t go the way you’d hoped, you step back and do something different. This is pretty much the underlying structure of ALL human behavior.

Action, feedback, increased information, more action.

This is true for huge life dreams, like creating a lucrative career. This is true for very small things, like finding our way to the bathroom in the dark in a friends house.

To remove the sting of not getting what you want, think in terms of creating, rather than simply being a passive receiver.

Not only will it make things much easier, but because you’ll have much more control, you’ll be able to create a LOT more.

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Goal Setting

How To Build Up Massive Attraction

Experience Is Essential

What do women want? That’s kind of a trick question, since what we want is based on our conscious decision making. Like when the waitress takes your order, or when the barber asks what kind of hair style you’d like.

When it comes to attraction, both male and female, what we want isn’t really so important. It’s what we respond to.

Now for guys, this is pretty hard to understand instinctively. Sure it makes sense on intellectually, but most guys don’t ask as if they truly understand this crucial concept.

Guys respond to girls based on how they look. And when they look at many girls, they tend to respond the same way. Big boobs, slim waist, clear skin, healthy hair, etc. So when somebody asks, what’s our ideal of a perfect woman, we describe the way she looks.

Meaning we describe the girl we respond to most. Because we respond to the same type, over and over, either in real life or through media, it’s easy to consciously describe the type of girl we dream about.

But girls aren’t nearly as interested in looks as guys are. They are much more interested in character. And character takes a lot of time to flesh out. Which means they don’t have NEARLY as much data to go from, when asked to describe what they “want.”

Even movie characters are kind of hit and miss. Male movie characters that truly turn a woman on are NOT the same type of movie characters that sell movie tickets.

At least not in the way we think.

However, if you study the kind of movies and books that women tend to DEVOUR, you’ll see a pattern.

Romance novels, for example, are filled with the same types. And guess what? They are NOT beta providers, or the hippie sensitive type.

Nor are they the politically correct type.

Woman are drawn to guys who can lead. Guys who are confident. Guys who can handle any situation that comes up.

They want to feel protected, on a subconscious level. They want to FEEL IT, rather than hear you say it.

They want to see EVIDENCE that you can do it, not you telling them you can do it.

How do you show them?

One is to be confident, no matter what happens. This is precisely WHY girls test you.

They WANT to make sure you are REALLY confident, and not easy to shakeable.

They figure if you can pass HER TESTS, once she decides she is WITH YOU, you’ll be able to handle any tests the world throws at you.

She’s not going to feel very safe with you when you’re crumbling at the first sign of trouble!

This simply CANNOT be faked, despite how much money people pay for courses that teach otherwise.

The only way to demonstrate your ability to handle anything is to experience as much as you can.

Which means talking to girls rather than looking at them.

If you start doing this, you’ll build up some incredible skills.

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Forge Your Own Path

How To Become A Creator

Some things happen randomly, by chance.

And others happen purely by conscious choice.

Generally speaking, most everything has a mix of both.

For example, you could be bored on a Sunday afternoon and go for a walk. You may start off without any particular destination, but that doesn’t mean you won’t make conscious choices along the way.

On the other hand, you could start out with a well constructed intention in mind, only to get sidetracked by an unexpected encounter.

Sometimes, these unexpected encounters are the best things that can happen.

The story of Facebook, for example, is really a story of a big accident. The book describing the story was called “The Accidental Billionaires.”

Sure, it wasn’t planned, but that doesn’t mean that anybody would be able to take advantage of such an opportunity.

I’m sure you know plenty of people who sit around coming up with great ideas. Everybody does that. But few people ever take action.

I saw this movie a few months ago, about a true story of a couple of inventors. They tried crazy invention after crazy invention, only to crash and burn every single time.

Finally they found one that worked, and they both became millionaires. The invention itself was incredibly simple, incredibly cheap to design and mass produce.

No matter what you’re doing, you’ll need to have a pretty clear picture of where you’re going, as well as the ability to respond to those things that happen by chance.

The good news is that you are hard wired to do this. You don’t need to learn anything. You just need to set your sights on what you’d like, and get going.

Here’s the even better news. Most people only have a vague idea of what they want. Even if that’s all you’ve got, that’s enough to get started.

All you’ve got to do is to try something. Anything. And see what happens.

If you get closer, great. Do more.

If you don’t get closer, no biggie. Do something else.

So long as you are willing to take action, accept whatever results you get, without self-judgment, you’ll be fine.

Along the way your target will become clearer, the path will become more visible, and your skills will SKYROCKET.

For some, this is pretty scary. Many of us are terrified to do something unless we KNOW we’ll be successful. We want guarantees, step by step plans, and if possible, to see somebody do it first so we know we’re not the only ones.

But where’s the fun in that? All followers get is the leftovers.

Leaders, creators, people like you, get much, much more.

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Goal Setting

The Slow Path To Seduction

Conscious Skill Building

Most guys don’t like to approach girls because they think they are afraid of rejection.

In reality, this isn’t really the case. This is why simple sounding solutions like, “rejection is better than regret” don’t make it much easier.

The truth is that the whole process is uncomfortable. It’s not uncomfortable because you might get rejected. It’s uncomfortable because you don’t know what’s going to happen.

The human brain HATES uncertainty.

This is why guys that approach girls over and over aren’t really that nervous. They don’t get rejected any less, it’s just that they have a much more accurate idea of what’s going to happen.

Simply by getting rejected over and over, you’ll build up an experience in your mind of getting rejected. This way, it’s much easier to take a step back and see it as a pure numbers game.

Sure, it takes a few successes for this to work. Meaning if one of out every girl you talk to gives you a valid number, it’s just a matter of talking to enough girls. If you talked to ten girls a day, you’d get one number a day.

After a while, the girls who rejected you would simply be girls you want to hurry up and get out of the way so you could find that one that didn’t reject you.

But if you don’t have a lot of experience, this can be tough to do.

Which is why it’s crucial to start slow.

It’s funny how when learning any other skill we intuitively know this. We start playing the piano, and we don’t expect to play Moonlight Sonata after a week.

If we took up golf, we’d realize we’d have to play for a while before we got a good score.

But for some reason, when guys go out, they hope to get laid by the hottest girl in the club without going through the same learning curve.

Maybe our biology is programmed from evolution to think this way, and maybe this is the way it worked back in the caveman days.

But not any more.

Which is why going slow is the BEST thing you can do.

Actually write down a set of intermediary skills that you MUST MASTER before getting laid.

Eye contact, flirting, conversations, kino, number closing, etc.

If you took your time, maybe a few weeks, ONLY practicing these skills, you’d be surprised, and how easy it was.

I know, I know. You want to get laid NOW!

But take your time. If you take six months to really work on your game, you’ll be getting much more quality dates than all your buddies. Then you can pick and choose from THOSE GIRLS and find your DREAM GIRL.

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Why Failure Is Fantastic

How To Double Your Success Rate

One of the hardest things to do is accept negative feedback.

Now, most people will refer to this as “failure.” If you’re a normal person, who’s been through normal school, then it’s been drilled into your brain that failure is bad, and should be avoided at all costs.

Or maybe you played sports and got yelled at when you made a mistake.

One of my favorite commercials of all time is with Michael Jordan. Now like him or hate him, he and Nike (and whatever marketing company they used) made some pretty good ones.

The one I’m talking about is when he slowly talked about all his “failures.”

Like taking the last shot at the buzzer, and missing.

Like all the games he’s lost.

Like all the times he choked during the playoffs when his teammates were depending on him. Then he listed all the shots he missed (in the thousands) all the games he’s lost (at least in the hundreds).

Then he said, “I’ve failed again, and again and again and again.”

Then he looked at the camera and said:

“That, is why I succeed.”

The CEO of Sony, who took their company from when “made in Japan” meant junk to a global leader in electronics was asked, “How do we double our success rate?”

“That’s easy,” he responded.

“Double your failure rate.”

Even Babe Ruth struck out more than most people realize.

What is failure, anyway? It’s the natural feedback mechanism that’s built deep into your brain.

It’s what helped you walk, talk, read, write, and everything else you know to do.

If failure didn’t happen, learning would be impossible.

If learning was impossible, we’d all be monkeys throwing poo at each other!

So why is “failure” so scary?

Maybe because we associated it somehow with negative social pressure. Maybe we forgot that there’s ALWAYS a next time.

To be sure, if something really important is on the line, like a job promotion, or a championship game, not getting what you want really, really sucks.

But what’s the alternative? Not play? Not try? That sucks even more!

Your entire life is the sum total of your day to day behaviors and accomplishments. Your day to day behaviors and accomplishments are based on how you view the world, and how you view yourself.

Change one, and you’ll change the other.

Change the cause, and you’ll necessarily change the effect.

YOU are the cause. Your world is the effect.

When you embrace ALL feedback, both good and “bad,” then you’ll know the real secret of achieving anything.

That ANYTHING is possible.

This course will teach you how. Step by step.

Goal Setting

The Mistake That Kills Any Chance Of Love

How To Create Magic

How do people fall in love?

This may sound incredibly cynical, but it’s really not. Understanding how the world really works can only help you to operate within it to get what you want.

Love is based on self-hypnosis. You meet somebody. You go on a few dates. Then you start thinking about them. You start to look forward to seeing them. You plan what to do with them. You remember them after the date is over.

Most of the thinking about the other person is when they are not around. Based on your own ideas. This is why “one-itis” is such a hard thing to kick. It’s not based on an honest and realistic interpretation of what the other person is really like, but your own imagination of what they are really like.

You’ve got this idea of her, that’s based ONLY on your imagination. Finally when you talk to her, or if you’re like some guys, you express your deep and undying love for her, it’s going to sound creepy as hell.

Why?

Because you’re talking to her like you know her. Like you’ve been with her. And she maybe only knows you from one or two conversations.

However, when two people start feeling this way about each other, at the same rate, it’s pretty cool. So cool that there’s nothing else that even comes close, pleasure wise.

But remember those feelings are generated when you are apart. When you are thinking about each other.

Which means if you DON’T give her time to think about you, and crucially to WONDER about you, it’s simply NOT going to happen.

If she knows you’ll always be there for her, (at least in the early stages) she won’t dream about you.

Humans don’t dream or fantasize about things we KNOW we are going to get.

There HAS to be a bit of uncertainty.

So if you are trying to create those deep feelings, you HAVE to give her room.

DO NOT text her fifteen times a day. DO NOT chase her like desperate puppy.

Now, this is INCREDIBLY DIFFICULT if you are head over heels in love with her (or at least think you are) and are unsure of how she feels about you.

Which is why you should ALWAYS be in the habit of talking to cute girls wherever you go. Not to pick them up, or number close, or even flirt.

Just to be friendly. Just to keep yourself from going insane.

The BEST TIME to start doing this is BEFORE you meet “her” and start to feel those longings.

That way, it will already be part of who you are.

AND it will make it much more likely to find “her.”

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Have You Started To Build Your Life?

Dreams Walking In Broad Daylight

It’s always easier to go with the flow, than go against the flow.

If you are swimming, for example, swimming with the current is a lot easier than swimming against the current.

Often times beaches have “rip tides” which pull swimmers out to sea. The instinct is to swim back towards the beach, but this can get you killed.

Since you’re swimming against the tide, you’ll get pretty tired, and unless you swim on a regular basis, you won’t last long.

Instead, lifeguards say to swim parallel to the beach, until you are out of the “path” of the rip ride. Then you can swim much easier, even though you may be a bit further out.

When I was in college,we had to write three essays as part of this English class. Then we had to rewrite one of them, for our final grade.

Naturally, we would choose the best one, since that we’d already got a good start. This would make it much easier to get a good grade than if we tried to completely rewrite one that wasn’t so good.

Any time we do something that’s congruent with our nature, it’s easier than something that’s not.

What is in our nature? Being social. Interacting with others. Sleeping at night instead of during the day. Having urges to make more people. Having urges to make money or create wealth of some form.

Sure, there are exceptions. Some times we want to be alone, sleep all day, and stay away from the opposite sex.

But for most of our lives, we are striving to improve ourselves along these lines. We want better relationships. We want more income. We want more intimacy.

This is human nature. The human condition.

How you do that in your own life will be based on your own personality, likes and dislikes, history, beliefs, and about a kajillion other variables.

For most of human history, we never really had to think about this stuff. We just kind of did what was natural, and that was good enough.

But now we’ve got an incredible opportunity. To create things with much more specificity. Much more control. Much more creativity.

Every year there are more and more millionaires, some for the craziest reasons, some for pretty boring reasons.

But if you just kind “go with the flow,” it’s not likely to happen.

But when you choose it to happen, and plan it to happen, you can expect it to happen.

Because it will.

No matter what “it” is. Money. Relationships. A better career. Artistic expressions.

What will you create?

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