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How To Practice Seduction

Daily Practice Is Crucial For Any Skill

If you practiced picking up girls like some guys practice playing the piano, you’d be a virtuoso in no time.

What do I mean?

Think about the piano. First you learn the C chord. Then you learn a few arpeggios. Then you practice them (which is REALLY boring) until you can play any combination without much conscious thought.

Say this takes a couple weeks, 30 minutes a day. Then you move on to the G chord, then the F chord, then A, etc.

Each time, getting a little bit more efficient. In say, six months time, you can look at a piece of music, know immediately what chord it’s in, and play it through the first time.

Thirty minutes a day of boring practice, and six months or so later, you can play some pretty decent music. Even make some. Combine your new music skills with some software instruments, and there’s really nothing you can’t do.

Now, compare this to picking up girls. Most guys NEVER practice. Sure, they go out a lot and talk to girls, get their numbers, go on dates, create relationships, but it’s NEVER practice. It’s ALWAYS real.

Imagine if you ONLY practiced the piano while giving a recital in front of a bunch of people you’d never met.

You’d ALWAYS be nervous, and you’d NEVER get better.

Any time you even THOUGHT of playing the piano, you’d break out into a cold sweat. You may even spend thousands of dollars on seminars to learn the “one secret trick” that allows you to play the piano without EVER needing to practice.

So, how do you PRACTICE picking up girls? The SAME way you practice the piano.

Spend the first week ONLY practicing eye contact. Nothing else.

Then move on to saying “hi.”

Make sure you understand which categories girls are in. (In your mind). Practice or real.

This will shoot your game to the upper echelons of natural player mode faster than anything else.

Except maybe the skills you’ll learn here:

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Easy Ways To Keep Talking To A Girl

How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl

Keep The Conversation Flowing Like Water

Most guys can walk up to a girl, say “hi,” and maybe get her smiling.

Then what?

Knowing how to keep a conversation flowing, and her feeling relaxed and not under any pressure, is essential to being able to effectively increase her interest.

So, how do you do that?

You could come up with a bunch of stuff to say beforehand, as some people recommend, but then you’d be like a roving stand up comedian. If she doesn’t like your “act” then you don’t have much to fall back on.

A much better strategy would be to combine a couple of ideas from covert hypnosis.

One is called “Utilization.” This is when you simply take whatever she gives you, and use it. This way, you won’t freak out if she doesn’t respond the way you think she “should.”

The other thing to use is to elicit her own “trance states.”

Now, this doesn’t mean pull out your watch and start swinging like some goof up on stage.

What it does mean is eliciting, or get her talking about things she’s really interested in.

Now, most girls are going to freeze up if you walk up and start asking her all kinds of personal questions.

Always Go First

Which is why you’ve got to go first. Meaning you mention some stuff you’re interested in, then ask her opinion.

Don’t argue or bust on her if hers are different. That comes later.

At this stage of the conversation, you’re just interested in getting her talking about things that make her feel good.

Since they are her ideas, and not your stories or techniques, there won’t be any resistance.

Then just keep “digging for gold” and get her more and more juiced about her own ideas.

The ideal outcome for this conversational tactic is to get her talking about her “ideal future” with regards to hobbies, jobs, school, or whatever she’s comfortable talking about.

Granted, this takes time, and practice. But once you get to this level, you won’t need any kind of memorized game or patterns or even any bling.

Because she’ll be talking about her ideal future, all while looking at you.

Which will get her to subconsciously associate the two, together, (you and her dreams) in her mind.

And when you can do that, you’re doing pretty good.

This can help:

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Practice Makes Perfect

Game Time and Practice Time

The best night I ever had with a girl was when I absolutely did not care.

I wasn’t angry, and I wasn’t trying to get anything specific.

I was just relaxed, in a mixed crowd of some folks I knew and some I didn’t know.

I just said whatever was on my mind, sexual or not.

And the girls were just eating it up, including this one super cutie I ended up with.

This was way back in college, when I had no clue how “game” worked, or even what “game” was.

The truth is that this is now “naturals” are all the time.

They don’t have a specific “outcome” in mind, other than having fun and enjoying people’s company.

They are just as likely to flirt with old ladies in line at the supermarket as they are hotties at the club.

If you were to “reverse” engineer their outer behavior, you’d miss a HUGE piece of the puzzle.

It’s very similar to sports, or playing an instrument. If you were playing the piano, for example, and you focused intently on each and every note, you’d be a mess. Similarly if you were playing basketball, for example and you were intently focused on every single dribble, and exactly when and where you should stop and take a shot, you’d also be a mess.

How To Practice Game

Now, if you’re not a natural, that doesn’t mean you have no hope.

But here’s the thing. In your mind, there should be a difference between “practice” and “real” interaction.

Whenever you’re out for “real,” you should simply relax, and enjoy other people. Follow your instincts. Say what’s on your mind. Talk to whomever you want to talk to.

But when you practice, you should see it as practice. Meaning you really should take a few hours each week to PRACTICE your game. Practice talking to people. Practice making and holding eye contact.

Then when you’re relaxed and having fun, simply relax, and have fun.

Basketball players practice by doing drills. Then when they play in a real game, they let loose and go with the flow.

Musicians practice by doing drills, practicing scales, etc. But when they’re playing a live set, they relax and go with the flow.

Hopefully, by now, you’ve come to a realization.

When you are in that state of “flow,” the best you can is whatever level of practice you are proficient in.

So if you want to increase your game level in the “flow” state, up your level while in the “practice” state.

This will help:

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How To Generate Meta Social Confidence

How To Get The Big Picture

Sometimes we feel pretty good about ourselves, other times we don’t.

While everybody’s different, we all have common areas where we’re most likely to feel “in the zone” or “in our element.”

For most of us, that’s whenever we’re doing something familiar, something that we’ve done well in the past.

If you’ve been playing the piano and doing recitals since you were in grade school, for example, playing a medium difficult piece in front of strangers is probably no big deal.

Other people would be terrified of sitting down at the piano in a hotel lobby and playing “chopsticks.”

Once I was watching this TV show with an old roommate of mine. It was this guy trying to break some record with the Rubik’s Cube.

My roommate told me he could NEVER perform like that in front of people, even if it was something he did very well.

He said all that attention and focus on him would make it impossible for him to perform.

This is also pretty common. Something you’re good at, but you’ve never really done it in front of others.

This can be anything from cooking to typing to balancing a broom on your nose. Most of us feel a lot more pressure, and a lot less confident, when we’re the center of social attention.

Content Stays With Content

Even the guy in the example above who’s comfortable playing the piano in front of others might not feel so comfortable giving a speech or riding a unicycle while juggling in front of others, or even walking up to and talking to strangers.

There’s something about being at the center of social attention that makes most of us shake in our boots.

There are basically two ways of getting over this fear. One is content based, one is structurally based.

The content way is like the guy with the piano. Just practice whatever skill you want to practice, and get plenty of practice doing it in front of others.

You can do this with pretty much any skill. If you can find a way to practice that skill in front of others, you’ll do pretty good.

Except it generally won’t translate into other skills that need to be done in front of others.

Playing the piano in front of others won’t help you become a better speaker.

Unless you attack this from a structural level.

Instead of simply focusing on any particular skill, just focus on feeling a general sense of confidence in any social group, especially unknown social groups.

This is the great thing about our brains. It’s very good at generalizing. Once you learn to tie on pair of shoes, you can tie all the shoes on Earth.

So when you learn to simply be confident in social situations, anything you choose to do socially (create relationships, make sales, juggle on a unicycle) will seem easy and familiar.

To learn how, check this out:

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The Easy Way To Deal With Obstacles

Life Can Be Fun Or Frustrating - Your Choice!

Who Decides What They Mean?

There are a lot of very cliche sayings that have some powerfully deep truths.

Take the super corny one, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

Sounds like some t-shirt slogan you’d find in the $0.99 bucket, right?

But let’s dig a little deeper.

Say you’ve got some plans. Maybe big plans, maybe not so big.

If you’re like most people, you start out like gangbusters, and then run into trouble.

Maybe things didn’t go as smoothly as you thought. Maybe you ran into some unexpected obstacles.

Maybe when you told other people they looked at you like you were crazy or something.

There’s also a very powerful technique in covert hypnosis called “utilization.”

This means that you, as the hypnotist, have a strong intention. No matter what the client or customer says during the conversation, you simply weave it into your language, and use it. You don’t resist it. You don’t wish they didn’t say it. You have the attitude that everything that they do, you can use to get closer to your outcome.

Nothing we choose to do ever goes without a hitch, except super safe and super boring stuff that anybody can do. (Like watching familiar TV shows on our familiar houses while we eat familiar comfort food).

In order to get the REALLY good stuff, we’ve GOT to fall on our faces. Not just once or twice, but on a regular basis.

The Good Stuff Will Always Take Time And Risks

This is probably the BIGGEST thing that keeps people from achieving their dreams. They somehow bought into the notion that it should be easy or simple or risk free.

So when they run into obstacles, they figured they’d been cheated or conned or the “world is against them.”

But what happens when you see everything that happens, good AND bad, as instructive events to help you get closer?

If you’ve ever been in sales, you’ve likely heard another super corny yet super true statement:

“Every no is one step closer to a yes.”

Now, here’s a weird question.

When you come across those “obstacles” that seem to hold you back, who decided they were obstacles?

Do they HAVE to be thought of as obstacles? If you think of them as learning experiences, are the thought police going to pop out of nowhere and write you a ticket?

Every experience, especially ones you’ve never experienced before, will give you more experience. (huh?)

And every time you come up against an unknown experience, you’ll automatically try and recall all your past similar experiences. The more of those you’ve got, the better you’ll do.

When most people come up against an obstacle, they usually complain. “Oh WHY does my life suck so much?”

What about you? What do you think?

What happens when you think this instead:

“Hmm. Interesting. How can I use this?”

With the right frame of mind, this can be your “go to” mindset, making everything a LOT easier.

Learn How:

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How To Become The Definition Of Charisma

The Supremes Know What’s Up

“I don’t know what it is, but I know it when I see it.”

That’s what one member of the supreme court said many years ago when trying to define “pornography.”

Many things are like that. We’re hard pressed to define them, but we certainly know it when we see it.

Some of these are subjective, some of these are objective.

Taste in food is more on the subjective side. You can’t really describe what “delicious” means to you, but you certainly know it when you taste it. And everybody has their own unique classifications of delicious.

Beauty leans more on the objective side. Most people would agree that certain paintings, landscapes, or yes, even people, are beautiful, while others are not.

Charisma and social magnetism are like that as well. It’s really hard to define what it is, without describing the feeling that comes from seeing somebody that is incredibly charismatic and magnetic.

Tale From The Temple

I was once at this open house at a local Buddhist temple, and there were plenty of local folks there. They had it set up so you could just wander around, look at stuff, and ask questions.

We were all in this big room, kind of doing our own thing, and this “guy” came walking in. All of us stopped what we were doing, and turned to look at this “guy.”

He had a certain “energy” about him. He was tall, good looking, and had pretty good posture. His movements were slow and purposeful. There didn’t seem to be any fear or anxiety or worry. Like he knew where he was going and was very aware of his surroundings, including all the people that were covertly watching his every step.

Like he felt totally comfortable in his own skin, totally at home wherever he was. As if it was the most important place on Earth or event in time. Total focus, presence and congruence.

As he got closer, I noticed he was wearing a name tag. Turned out he was the mayor. A mayor of a town famous for it’s ultra rich people.

Now, did he have charisma because he was mayor, or was he mayor because of his charisma?

I suspect it was both. Certainly, being in a position of power and surrounded by people who recognize that power will certainly give you a confidence boost.

But you can’t get there unless you’ve got the confidence to begin with.

Many people assume that having such massive charisma and magnetism is like being born tall or super athletic. You’ve either got it or you don’t.

They’re wrong.

You CAN build in that confidence, that charisma. So YOU can be the one walking in the room and turning heads.

Learn How:

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Eleven Easy Ways To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl

You Made A Move – Now What?

So you made a move, and now you’re talking to her. Great job! You’ve done what most guys are terrified to do. But now something else happens. Those uncomfortable silences.

She answers one of your questions, or you say something hoping she’ll respond, and now she’s just staring at you, waiting for you to say something.

Brain Freeze!

This sucks. Really sucks. Really majorly sucks. But don’t worry, it’s easy to fix. There’s some great tricks you can learn that will keep a conversation going with anybody, especially that gorgeous girl you’re talking to.

Open Ended Questions

It’s always better to ask questions that will take long sentences to answer, rather than short words. Nobody likes to feel like they are being interrogated. Avoid asking questions that can be answered with one or two words.

Instead, asks questions that take some thought, and longer responses. However, be careful that you don’t put her on the spot, or ask any questions that might make her feel defensive. For example, if you ask her what she does for a living, or what she’s studying in school, follow up with some questions like this:

How Did You Get Into That?
What Would You Like To Be Doing In A Couple Years?
Have You Always Been Interested In That?

Look For Similarities

Always keep your ears peeled for anything that you’ve got in common. But avoid being overly vague. If she says she likes movies, don’t say you like movies too and think she’s going to be impressed.

On the other hand, if she’s having trouble choosing a major, and you are too, then say you are, and explain why. Or if she doesn’t really like her job and is looking for another one, chances are you are too.

Pay Attention To “Trance Words”

Trance words are any words or phrases she uses that she puts special emphasis on. What you’re looking for at this point are things she’s really interested in. Things that make her animated and excited. The ideal situation is to find a few things she really likes talking about that you genuinely like as well.

Tell Engaging Stories

The truth about having conversations with strangers is that unless you really “click” right off the bat, most people are going to have a hard time. Everybody’s nervous, and hoping the other person is going to do all the talking.

That’s why it’s a good idea to do most of the heavy lifting, at least in the beginning.

Then later on, after you’ve had a few conversations, you can start to lay back a bit and let her do more of the talking. But at first, realize that you should at least be able to fill in the blanks when she comes up blank.

A fantastic way to do that is to tell stores. The good news is these can be about anything. Really, anything. Stupid boring stuff that happened on your way to work. Some old lady you saw picking her nose in the park, or your boss walking down the hall with a string of toilet paper on his shoe.

The real secret of telling interesting stories is HOW you tell them, not WHAT you talk about.

Be Prepared

To start off with, you should have a few simple stories up your sleeve. If they cover a wide range of emotions, that’s even better. You don’t need to practice, since these actually happened to you, just have a few stories you can pull out when you need to.

Be Energetic

When telling stories, be excited. Use a wide range of facial expressions. Don’t afraid to use gestures. Wanna know why people love little kids? Because they are so expressive. Not reserved. Not edgy or “cool” or filled with fake angst.

If you are the same way when telling stories, she’ll be into you.

Pay Attention To Story Structure

In any story, there should be a buildup, a moment of ultimate tension, the climax, and the release. This is true of epic Hollywood productions as much as a two minute story about how you lost your left shoe.

Understanding where these points are in your own stories will help.

A lot.

One thing that will definitely increase her interest in you is how you shift from story to story. If you start one story, finish it, and then go on to the next one, she’ll get pretty bored, pretty quickly.

On the other hand, if you switch from story A to story B, just as story A is about to get good, she’ll be really into you.

Why?

The human brain HATES unfinished business. So when you leave a bunch of “open loops” she won’t help getting more and more interested in you.

This does take some practice, but it’s easy to practice with some buddies or even by yourself when you’re out driving around.

(Or you could go down to your local mall and stand there alone in the food court practicing your story telling, and see how long it takes you to get arrested!)

You’ll also notice that this technique is used by some the best comedians in the world. When you think about it, the stuff they talk about is pretty common, everyday stuff. It’s how they structure that common, everyday stuff that makes them so entertaining.

How You Break Up The Stories Are Crucial

How to Break Up The Stories

The best way to break up loops is to always have a couple that are “open” at any given time. Meaning start story A, then break off into story B. Then halfway through B, start off with C, then finish up A, and then start on D, and halfway through D, start on E, and then finish up B, etc.

If you do this while smiling and having fun, she’ll literally NEVER forget you, even if you’re talking about doing your laundry. She’ll most definitely be interested in you!

Her Ideal Future

Whenever you’re going back and forth, it’s a great idea to get her talking about the things she likes, as mentioned before. It’s an even better idea to get her talking in terms of her ideal future. Her biggest dreams and goals.

Like if she’s studying biology in school, ask her if her plans played out perfectly, and she got the perfect job, what would her life look like in five years.

This way, she’ll be talking about her big dreams, while looking at you. That’s pretty good!

No Spots

While the idea of “cocky and funny” can be used effectively, it’s easy to go too far. Just pay close attention to her mood, and avoid saying anything that will make her want to go and talk to somebody else.

Also, avoid asking any questions where any potential answer might make her feel uncomfortable. Remember, this is a first conversation, and she’s using this conversation to form a first impression of you. And since first impressions are hard to change, you want to start off on the right foot.

Don’t Be Afraid To Disagree

However, you don’t want to be TOO nice. This will also make her want to talk to somebody else. While you’re looking for things you have in common, you should also be looking for opportunities to disagree.

If all you say is “Hey, me too!” she’s going to think you’re pretty fake. But if you take the opportunity to disagree, and tell her why, she’ll know you’re for real.

Bottom Line

Walk up, break the ice, and start talking. Ask some open ended questions. Look for positive answers that make her feel good, and ask for more information. Tell stories with lots of facial expressions and gestures. Break them up a bit to keep her on her toes. Don’t be afraid to mix it up a bit and disagree.

And remember the most important rule of all:

There’s PLENTY of girls out there. Relax, have fun, and see each and every girl as a simple opportunity to enjoy life and have some fun. Not a life or death situation.

If YOU enjoy the conversation, chances are so will she.

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The Mystery and Myth of Intention

Do You Set It And Forget It?

Everybody knows about “intention,” right?

It’s one of those things you need to do to get whatever you want.

Set an intention, as they say, and all your dreams will come true.

Some even treat this mysterious thing as some kind of magic gumball machine. You “think” of an “intention,” set it, and forget it.

Like all you need to do is put your intention “out there” and some kind of universal wish-fulfillment center will deliver it right into your hands.

As you can guess, when many people “set an intention” all they’re really doing is putting voice to a wish.

Here’s the thing. Setting an intention is hard wired into every human. It would be IMPOSSIBLE to take any action, even going to the toilet in the middle of the night, if you weren’t able to “set an intention.”

Before your body gets up and starts moving, it needs to know where it’s going, and what it wants. Which means the whole time your stumbling to the bathroom in the dark in the middle of the night, your brain is measuring your current “state” and comparing that to your “intention.”

How You Hold It Is Crucial

So saying that you need to “set an intention” to achieve anything is pretty self-evident. It’s like saying in order to breathe, you need to take air in and out of your lungs. No kidding.

What’s NOT so clear is specifically HOW to set an intention. And even more importantly, how to HOLD an intention.

You may have an intention that’s strong enough to get started, but you suddenly lose all willpower when you run into trouble.

Everybody and their sister has an intention to lose weight. Some even get started. But very few follow through.

Plenty of guys have intentions of going over there and talking to that pretty girl. But what happens when she has the intention of getting rid of you as quickly as possible?

Just like Newton’s Second Law of Mechanics, some intentions are met with an equal and opposite intention.

You may have an intention of knocking on some strangers door to sell them a vacuum cleaner, but they’ve got an even stronger intention of watching their favorite TV show. And they’ve got home field advantage.

Obviously, having an intention is not enough. If you want to get anywhere in life, you’ve got to set a clear intention. You’ve got to set a strong intention. And you’ve got to HOLD your intention no matter what.

Learn How:

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How To Maximize Your Personal Profits

Are You Getting Enough?

Sometimes words can lose their meaning.

Take the word “profits” for example.

Originally an accounting term that meant money in compared to money out.

A business spends a hundred bucks, and makes a hundred and ten bucks.

Or they spend a hundred bucks, but only got back ninety bucks.

Positive profits is a signal that whatever they are doing is good, and they should keep doing it. Negative profits is an indication that they’d better do something different.

So why did “profits” become synonymous with “evil?”

It’s not the profits themselves, it’s how they are obtained. If everybody has choice, the ONLY way you can make any profits is to make something that other people want. That they are willing to pay for, based purely on their free will.

Positive profits are a signal that you are providing something that people, in general, subjectively value.

Big Business Wrecks Everything

Only when the game is tilted in the favor of big business,and people are put into a position where they have no choice, and HAVE TO buy something, do profits take on a negative component.

But the basic description (devoid of any evil-ness) is very instructive.

Because, in a sense, businesses and people behave the same way.

There’s never any sure fire way of doing business, or behaving. We never REALLY know what’s going to happen. All we can do is try, and see what response we get.

Just as the best businesses are ALWAYS testing new products, measuring responses from their customers, and trying to consistently tweak themselves to MAXIMIZE their profits (and therefore maximize the amount of value they are providing to customers), individual people do the same thing.

We are never sure what’s going to happen. All we can do is take action, and see what the results are.

If the results are GOOD, we do more. If they aren’t so good, we do something different.

What are GOOD results? That is completely up to you. Generally speaking, anything that gets you closer to achieving your dreams.

No matter what your dreams are, no matter how big they are, if you consistently take action, measure the results, and then use THAT to take BETTER action next time, you will not fail.

This is the strategy that will get you anything you want in life.

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Unleash Your Inner Hero

Your Life Is A Hero’s Journey

I love watching movies.

Anybody that knows me well knows I spent a good deal of time in movie theaters.

Being somebody who loves hypnosis, movies are the perfect trance generator.

The conscious critic is knocked out, and you’re taken for a nice ride.

Stories have been part of human life since we learned to talk. Maybe even before, as some of those ancient cave paintings may have been around before humans developed any kind of recognizable grammar.

It seems out minds are hard wired to relax into a good story. Evolutionary psychologists tell us this folded in neatly with our huge learning ability.

Listening to some old, experience member of the tribe tell a fascinating story was a much better vehicle to deliver essential truths about life than to simply pass dry information.

By following along to stories, rather than some dry lecture, early humans could “own” the knowledge. By paying close attention to the story, they would “see themselves” in the roles of the main characters, and appreciate the deeper meanings.

Get In The Game Of Life And Conquer Your Fears!

All Blockbusters Tell Your Tale

Many stories and movies today have the same structure. Most blockbusters, despite being filled with zillion dollar special effects, generally tell what’s known as the “Hero’s Journey.”

Meaning they’re about some normal guy or girl put into an “un-normal” situation, generally without much choice. Then this normal guy or girl has to dig deep and respond to the situation. Usually there’s some bad guy, and usually the hero has to develop skills, relationships, and sometimes use a “magical” tool.

Why are these stories so compelling?

Because all of us experience the same thing. We all feel we are living lives without really living life.

We are kind of going through the motions, without feeling we are living up to our potential.

We KNOW we are missing something. That common theme, the “Hero’s Journey” is a welcome reminder that we are MUCH MORE than we think we are.

YOU, are much more than you think you are.

You were meant for greatness. Not to get by. Not to make enough to pay the bills and save a little. Not to spend your free time wasting away in front of the TV.

You were put here to set your sights on something HUGE. You were put here to ACHIEVE something huge.

In your life, YOU are the hero.

Are you ready to begin your journey?

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