Category Archives: Charisma

You Are Not A Snowflake

Use Your Uniqueness As Strengths, Not Weaknesses

Follow The Same Path Of Success

One of the BIGGEST mistakes you can make in life is to fully believe or accept the idea of, “My case is different.”

Everybody’s been taught that they are special. They are unique. There’s nobody else like them, and there will never be another person like them. Ever.

Just like a snowflake.

No two are the same. This both true and false. To the extent you know the difference, you will be wildly successful. To the extent you don’t, you’ll spend life in emotional agony, and never know why.

Now, to start off with, let’s address the snowflake is unique myth. In reality, there are two snowflakes that WILL be the same, statistically speaking. But that’s now what we’re talking about.

Let’s just assume that the physical appearance of every single snowflake that ever was, and ever will be is different. As a metaphor if nothing else.

But that doesn’t mean that all snowflakes are created differently. That doesn’t mean that they don’t follow the same laws of physics. That doesn’t mean they’ll all eventually melt, turn into water, and get all their snowflake molecules (which is WATER, btw) mixed back in with everything else.

So yea, they’re all different. But they’re also all the same.

Which means you, as a human, are the same and different than everybody else.

You have the same basic desires. You face the same basic obstacles. You face the same basic limitations.

It’s only when you start to use your own unique qualities as a reason you CANNOT overcome the same obstacles everybody else has to overcome, is it GAME OVER.

To the extent you believe you CAN overcome ANY obstacle, if merely because somebody else did, then you will ALWAYS eventually be successful.

Here’s an example. Every guy would like a girl. Usually a girl that’s pretty, nice, friendly, and intelligent.

And every guy also has a bunch of reasons why they think they CAN’T get that girl.

Every. Single. Guy.

The ones that get the girl, don’t listen to their own excuses. The ones that don’t, do.

Once I knew this doctor. Smart guy. Good looking guy. Rich guy. Friendly guy. But he was also about 5’5″.

He had a rock solid belief, that no “quality girls” would date short guys. This was his REASON for thinking that he was EXCUSED from not facing the same obstacles every other guy faces.

Namely, trying and getting rejected and trying again. Over and over until you finally get the girl you want.

Because he was TOO AFRAID to even try, he created what he thought was a REASON to not try.

He thought HE WAS DIFFERENT. Every single piece of evidence he saw to the contrary, he kept telling himself the same lie. “Yea, but I’m different.”

If you hear yourself telling yourself this, it’s a lie. Which is good news. Because the single most powerful thing you can do that will SKYROCKET your success with women is to STOP BELIEVING YOUR OWN LIES.

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The Ultimate Tool To Beat All Others

Brains!

Maximize Your Brain

Last weekend I went out and my next door neighbor had this guy doing some work on his house.

He had all his tools out, leaning up against the house, his truck, pretty much everywhere.

I guess the guy was doing some kind of big renovation or something.

I saw this one tool that looked completely foreign. It was a combination of a couple of familiar tools, but as they were put together I couldn’t fathom what they were used for.

I couldn’t get my mind off that the rest of the day.

When you think of all the stuff you can do today, that you couldn’t do just a year or so ago, it’s actually pretty amazing.

Not just the things you can do, but the tools you can use. Humans use tools without even thinking about them. But pretty much any gadget that you can think of, any device that is used for any purpose is some kind of tool.

Most tools are simple in concept, but pretty complicated in design. Your car gets you from point A to point B, but if you had to explain every part in detail, most of us would come up pretty short.

This is kind of easy to understand, as all tools are really revisions of previous tools. Things that were added to give more functionality.

A car still gets us from point A to point B as its primary function, but the cars today are a kajillion times more complicated than the cars from the fifties.

And they tell us that within the next couple of years, we’ll have self driving cars in some U.S. cities.

But there’s one tool that is extremely complicated in function AND extremely complicated in design.

This tool is so complicated that it is continuously updating itself, year after year. Being able to do more things, learn more things, use more things.

This “tool,” of course is your brain. You. Your mind-body system that is capable of more.

No matter HOW MUCH you can do now, you can do more. No matter how much you know now, you can learn more. No matter how much you’ve already created, you can create more. (And if you come back and read that sentence ten years from now it’s still true.)

Remember the story of the two guys who had the tree chopping contest? They both started off chopping trees with their axes. One guy would stop every hour, for five minutes.

At first, this allowed his competition to get ahead. But after a few hours, the once-an-hour guy started to take the lead.

See, he stopped every hour not to rest, but to sharpen his axe. Keeping your tool in tip top shape is a sure way to blow away the competition.

Even if the competition is your present self vs. your future self.

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How To Become Familiar With The Unknown 

You That You've Always Got It No Matter What

Trust Yourself On A Deep Level

Once I was out driving around an unfamiliar part of town, in a city I’d been in only a few days.

I’d taken wrong turn, and wasn’t really paying attention to where I was going until I realized I didn’t really know where I was.

Then when I got back on track, I noticed something kind of interesting.

The “familiar” buildings and landmarks looked pretty much the same as the ones when I was lost.

(Obviously, lol).

I recalled a few days ago when I’d gotten into town, when those now familiar buildings and landmarks were strange.

Same external environment, completely different internal state.

This happens quite a bit. You walk into a party, and don’t know anybody. So you feel strange, withdrawn, a little nervous lately.

But if you walked into the same party, and saw maybe three or four familiar faces spread out amongst a crowd of strangers, you’d feel totally different. Excited. Happy. Outgoing.

Most of us think that we need to take time to “get used to” our environment. To wait until we get the lay of the land, so to speak, until we feel comfortable.

But what if you could feel comfortable right away, even in strange situations?

One of the hallmarks of charismatic and magnetic people is that they show up anywhere, any time, and feel totally comfortable and at home.

They walk into a party, and even though they don’t know ANYBODY, they have enough experience meeting and talking to strangers, AND a strong enough belief in themselves, that they KNOW that they are going to have a good time.

They KNOW they are going to meet some interesting people, find out some interesting stories and share some interesting experiences.

All within that first glance across a room filled with strangers.

What’s their secret?

Most of us feel comfortable with people that we know.

Charismatic folks feel comfortable because they know people.

So do you. 

We all have the same fears, anxieties, worries. We also share a lot of the same strengths, hopes, and desires.

We’re just waiting for somebody courageous enough to make that first connection.

Usually, we all sit around and wait for it to happen on its own. Which is pretty slowly.

But when you develop that unshakeable trust that comes from a deep inner knowledge of your true power, it will happen a lot more quickly.

People will notice something about you. You’ll notice something about people.

Something familiar, exciting and wonderful.

Just waiting to be discovered.

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Which Super Conscious Mind?

Kangaroos Know All About Hypnosis

What Do Kangaroos Know About Hypnosis?

One of the cool things about the Milton Model is ambiguity.

This is when you’ve got a few vague words, and you aren’t sure what they mean.

One of the specific patterns is called the “lack of referential index.”

Usually this involves the playful use of pronouns. A pronoun (he, she, they) is usually used after a proper noun is used (Bob, My Uncle, The Purple Kangaroo With a Penguin in his Pouch.)

For example, if I say, “The kangaroo looked at me and then he said, “dude!”

It’s clear that the “he” refers to the kangaroo.

But what if I said this:

“I was fishing with my brother, his friend, and this kangaroo. Then he looked at me and told me that learning hypnosis is pretty easy.”

In this case the, “he” is unclear. 

Is it my brother? His friend? The kangaroo?

But while you’re brain is trying to figure out which “he” said “learning hypnosis is easy” you keep focusing on the “learning hypnosis is easy.” Which means you’ll start to believe that it’s true.

This is how you can leverage an idea by using the “lack of referential index pattern.”

Here’s another way, but on a broader, more “meta” scale.

What is meant by the “super conscious brain?”

Is it the “collective unconscious” that Jung referred to, which is basically a whole bunch of different and unconnected unconscious minds, that are all very similar?

Or is it the Huna style, which is this one brain in the sky (or in some other dimension) that we are all plugged into?

Or is it really just one big brain that we aren’t just plugged into, but are all manifestations of?

Luckily, it doesn’t matter. Just like the “he said learning hypnosis is easy” sentence, the real “meat” of the sentence is not who the particular “he” is, but the idea that learning hypnosis is easy.

And your own personal belief on the exact nature of the Super Conscious (the three of the proposed definitions above or your own) doesn’t really matter.

What matters is that you realize that YOU are much more than YOU. Whether you believe that means your raw potential as a biological human entity, or your metaphysical and infinite “being-ness” as connected to the Super Conscious.

So long as you make it a point, an intention, a goal, a daily practice, of tapping into that Super Conscious, whatever and however you believe it to be.

How do you do that?

Well, it’s not on TV. It’s not on your iPhone. It’s not down at the mall. (Well it is, but access is kind of difficult!)

The easiest access, which you already know, is through your own inner mind. Deep within contemplation, waiting  between the thoughts you are always thinking.

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Destroy Approach Anxiety Once And For All

Always Leave On A High Note

Always Leave On A High Note

What’s the one question guys will invariably ask when they see their buddy talking to a cute girl?

They will always ask if he got the number. Or they’ll ask what the outcome of the conversation was.

And if they don’t get the number, everybody assumes that the guy failed.

This is natural, but it’s also pretty dangerous. Why? Imagine if your number one goal when talking to girls was to close her as high as you could. Number close, kino close, kiss close, whatever.

Even if you have a specific level you’re going for, like a number close, this is still pretty dangerous.

Why?

Because on a deep level, it creates the mindset that she has something you don’t. And you’re only successful if she gives it to you. We all know that this is a numbers game, right? Just like in sales. Call enough people, and you’ll make money. Talk to enough girls, and you’ll get some numbers.

The problem is the ones that DON’T give you their number. No matter how much self confidence and self esteem you have, not getting a number when that is your primary goal is going to hurt. Sometimes not so much, sometimes a lot.

Also consider this. The way our brains operate is that every time we go into a new situation, our brains automatically call up as many similar experiences as possible, to prepare us for what might happen.

Which means when you’re approaching a girl for the first time, you will automatically recall, subconsciously, all the other girls you’ve ever approached. And if every single one them is put into a “win-loss” category in your  mind, guess what feeling you’ll suddenly feel?

Stress. Anxiety. Worry. Even fear.

What’s a better alternative?

Just talk to girls WITHOUT having any “outcome” in mind. Don’t specifically ask for the number UNLESS she seems like you’re type and UNLESS you are pretty sure you’re going to get it.

Otherwise, don’t worry. Juts enjoy the conversation, and then split. It’s also a GREAT IDEA if you leave on a “high note.”

Most guys talk to girls until they get blown out. This creates a subconscious connection between getting blown out, and talking to girls. Which means every time you approach a girl, you’ll feel that fear of getting blown out.

On the other hand, if you ALWAYS leave on a high note, you’ll create a whole different automatic response.

If, from now on, you leave every conversation with a girl thinking, “Wow, that was fun, I could have done more!” Then talking to girls will soon start to be fun and exciting. Not stressful or anxious.

And guess what? It won’t be long before girls start dropping OBVIOUS hints that they want to give you their number.

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How To Take A Daily Vacation

Daily Retreats Inside Your Mind

Sink Into Your Inner Self

What is meant by our “higher self?”

It can obviously mean a lot of things to a lot of people.

Whenever people say, “take the high road,” they mean to not give in to emotional reactions, and live or act according to higher principles.

It’s also been said that the true nature of an “enlightened” person is one who can disregard the instinctive programming we all share, and live according to our consciously chosen goals.

We choose to stop eating not because we’re full, but because we’re consciously choosing the shape of our body.

We choose to stop spending money not because our wallet’s are empty and our credit cards are maxed out, but because we are choosing to create a better financial future for ourselves.

We don’t punch that guy in the face that just blatantly insulted us in front of our peers, because we know that acting from pure rage is never a good idea.

Clearly, acting this way all the time isn’t easy. It sure isn’t automatic, otherwise we’d all be skinny, rich, and spouting peace and love wherever we go.

As a human here on Earth, surrounded by other humans who seem to be competing on an instinctive level, it is certainly hard not to join in the fray.

But as somebody who’s intending to create a much more enlightened life for yourself, your family, and those close to you, it’s something that’s likely on your mind a lot.

One way that can help is to set aside some quite, inner reflective time. A time to just sit, breathe slowly and feel your feelings, and let your deepest thoughts roll through you uninhibited.

This can be kind of hard to get into, (and pretty boring!) but once you see the peace it brings you, it will give you something to look forward to when peace and serenity are the furthest things from your mind.

A kind meditative vacation you can escape to on a daily basis. To regroup and strengthen your higher self, and better calm your instinctive, or irrational self.

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You may find an hour a day, right before sleep, is the best way to create that daily, inner restorative vacation. That quiet inner solitude that can give life, and your place in it, whole new meaning.

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Develop Instant Rapport With Anybody

Learn To Appreciate The Silence Within

Learn To Appreciate Silence

A lot of us feel it takes a while to “get to know us.”

Which is true, in many ways. After all, humans are very complicated beings with many different layers of complexity.

You can know somebody for a long, long time, and never really know everything there is to know about them.

This part is very straightforward.

Meaning it will take a while to learn anything that’s complicated and diverse. You can only handle so much at any given time.

But on another level, it takes most of us a while to feel comfortable enough with somebody to share certain things about ourselves.

It’s funny when you see a couple at a restaurant, and they’re obviously on a first date. Or maybe some kind of sales meeting, or an interview.

Both people are very careful to project the “right” image to the other person. If you pay close attention, you can usually figure out who’s trying to impress whom, regardless of the situation.

On the other hand, it’s pretty easy to spot couples (opposite sex or not) that are completely comfortable with one another.

They are much more relaxed, have much more open body language, and seem to not worry too much.

One thing that is a clear signal of people who are totally comfortable around each other is how they handle silence.

If you’ve been on a first date, and there was that uncomfortable silence, it can seem terrifying.

But when you’re with a close friend, you can sit for a long, long time and not really say anything.

One of the hallmarks of people who are naturally charismatic and magnetic is they feel this way, all the time, no matter who they’re around.

That’s why we love being around them so much. It’s like they’ve figured out a way to shortcut the “getting to know you” phase and go straight to the “comfortable with long silences phase.”

How do they do this?

Well, for starters they just simply feel like they belong, everywhere they go. They feel comfortable, no matter who they are with, and no matter what they are doing. If a stranger comes up and starts talking, they don’t wonder who they are or what they want. They just enjoy their company.

Many people feel this is a special gift. One that you either have or you don’t.

Luckily, that’s not true. It’s easy to cultivate that ever present feeling of comfort. Just accept who you are, and understand that no matter what happens, you’ll be fine.

Once you get to this level, you’ll be able to relax, and enjoy the world. 

And everything, and everybody in it.

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Don’t Rush Too Fast

Take Time To Screen Her

Screen First Enjoy Later

Most every guru, internet keyboard jockey, or goof hanging out at your local bar will tell you the purpose of pick has one reason, and one reason only. And that is to get laid. Nearly everybody will tell you that if she doesn’t “put out” after the third date (or some other kind of imaginary line in the imaginary sand) then you should unceremoniously kick her to the imaginary curb.

After all, if you’ve put in the time, effort and risk to take her this far, she OWES you that much, right?

Not so fast.

In reality, there’s a lot of hidden problems in this strategy and model.

One is that by making sex with her your main goal, you’ll be overlooking pretty much everything about her. Now, if all you want is sex, and you never want to have a decent relationship past a few weeks or months, then stop reading now.

(Or keep reading, just realize this doesn’t really apply to you.)

But consider a few things. One is that after the thrill of early sex wears off, you’ll be left with HER. Her beliefs, her personality, her hang ups, her strengths, her weaknesses, good habits, and bad habits.

Another thing to consider is that even if you ARE looking for a serious, long term relationship, having sex with her can SIGNIFICANTLY decrease your ability to accurately screen her.

Why?

Mother Nature ain’t an idiot. The main purpose of humans is to make more humans. So when humans start getting some, we pretty much hypnotize ourselves into thinking that EVERYTHING about each other is perfect.

But that self-hypnosis will wear off. And then you’re left with two people that may or may not know each other very well. Sometimes that works out. Sometimes there’s enough overlap, enough shared experiences, enough social pressure from friends, family, religion, etc, to keep the “glue” between you going.

But not always. Sometimes you go down in horribly painful flames.

How can you increase your chances?

Two ways. One is to simply have some criteria aside from her being hot. Figure out the kind of girl you’d like, aside from her looks. These are things like her background, family life, religion, politics, financial views, etc.

The more of these you can discern BEFORE you sleep with her, the better.

Because once you do the deed, that self-hypnosis will kick in, and you’ll start painting the bullseye AFTER you’ve shot your arrow. Right around the target.

This isn’t easy, but it can save you a lot of grief in the long run. You’ll need to figure out how to conversationally find out those things about her within the first couple dates, so you don’t waste too much time on “low probability candidates.”

The more you practice, the easier it will get.

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Are You Hobbled By Brain Bias?

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

Patience Always Helps

The human mind has all kinds of biases.

One reason is to simply cut down on brainpower energy.

If we find a shortcut in thinking, and it works out, we tend to keep thinking that way.

Sometimes though, we keep thinking that way long past its point of usefulness.

Like when we’re little kids, we learn that it’s sometimes a good idea to keep our mouths shut, or else we’ll get yelled at or get some kind of unwanted social pressure.

Of course, that strategy doesn’t work so well into adulthood, but most of us still have it.

Other biases are hard wired in, as they helped our ancestors. For example, we tend to make cause and effect relationships between things that don’t really have anything to do with each other.

This helped when our world was simple, and filled with predators, but not so much anymore.

This doesn’t stop mainstream media from pushing all kinds of crazy “links” in our face. Of course, two things can be linked, but that doesn’t mean one is causing the other.

There was a scene in the old movie, “The Jerk,” with Steve Martin, where some crazy killer was trying to shoot him. He kept missing, and was blowing up a stack of oil cans.

Steve Martin’s character (The Jerk) came to the conclusion that, “He hates these cans!”

Many of our conclusions based on what we see around us aren’t much better!

Another bias is something called “cognitive dissonance.” This is when we flat our refuse to see things that may prove we are wrong, or not as good as we think we are.

This, of course, can help to protect our ego.

But often times, it keeps us stuck. One of the fastest ways to get better at ANYTHING is to try, fail miserably, look what you did wrong, and then try again.

We did that great when we were kids, but now we’re terrified.

Now when we fail, most of us don’t acknowledge it. Not only that, but we tend to point fingers at others, as if it’s their fault we can’t do what we want, or are even afraid of trying.

But if you’re honest with yourself, you know the truth. This takes a great deal of courage. An amount of courage most people don’t have.

But in those quiet moments with yourself, you’ll know what’s up.

The secret of doing ANYTHING is just getting out there, trying, and learning from all the feedback you get.

Instead of trying to keep your ego safe all the time, imagine how much better you’ll be in the future.

Like I said, most people are terrified of this. They’d rather stay safely in their comfort zone and blame anything and everything.

What about you? Are you willing to do what it takes to unleash your brilliance?

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Are You Running From Pain?

How To Change Your Filters

How To Flip Your Internal Script

There’s a theory in NLP called “meta programs.”

It basically describes a collection of filters that we carry around with us, to make it easier, quicker and less tiresome on our poor brains to make sense of the world.

Scientists have known for a while that our brains take many shortcuts in thinking to save on energy.

Most people are surprised to find out that up to 25% of the calories you burn in any single day are from your brain.

Which is why you feel so tired after studying or thinking or worrying. 

So long ago, Mother Nature decided that shortcuts in thinking would be a good thing, all else considered.

Which is the theory behind these “meta programs.”

They’re not quite set in stone, meaning you can change them, but they do take a while to change on their own.

One of the most well know is whether a person is motivated by pain, or pleasure.

If you’re motivated by pain, then you only get motivated when there’s a clear and present danger. If the danger goes away, so does the motivation.

This is what leads plenty of us to look in the mirror, get disgusted with our bodies, and then vow to change our physical shape. Only when the pain of looking at our flabby belly passes by, we lose the motivation.

Same goes with making money. When you’re close to the end of you’re rope, you’ll do anything for a buck.

But once you’ve got enough to pay the rent, the bills, and a little extra in the bank, that motivation fades.

On other hand, you could be motivated by pleasure, rather than pain. Meaning if you’ve got a goal, and the closer you get to it, the more motivation you feel.

I’m sure you won’t be surprised to find that most people are motivated by pain, and not pleasure.

This is why almost all advertisements rely on building up pain, then promising to take it away, so long as you buy the product.

Then as soon as you buy the product, the pain is gone. Until you see another advertisement. Then the whole process repeats itself.

I don’t know about you, but making pain avoidance your main strategy doesn’t seem like a great way to live life.

If you are totally successful, all you’ll do is avoid pain. If you’re in pain, getting rid of it IS the most important thing.

But once the pain goes away, there’s not much else.

Like I said, this can be changed. It takes time, and effort, but it is worth it.

Instead of running away from things, you can train your mind-body system to run toward things. Things you want. Things that inspire you. Things that empower you.

Your higher self.

You may say that becoming a fully enlightened human is learning to stop focusing on what you’re moving away from, and start focusing on where you’re going.

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