Category Archives: Charisma

How To Leverage The Paradox Of Success

Step By Step To Riches

Believe It To Achieve It

There’s a startling discovery you’ll notice when you start to achieve significant success.

I mean success that’s bigger and better than anything you’ve already accomplished.

One thing that is common to all humans is how we “overestimate” our future.

They say this is only common in Americans, but it’s present in ALL people. This “entrepreneurial” mindset.

The kind where you look out into the future, and see things much brighter than they really are.

The reason for this is to simply keep us moving forward. Sure, it feels great to achieve stuff, but that feeling doesn’t very long. Pretty soon we’ve got our sights set on something else.

Even world championship teams know that can’t bask in glory forever. It’s only a matter of time before the next season starts and they’ve got to defend their title.

This plays out in any kind of forward movement. Take jogging, for example.

At the beginning, the goal is to run for a mile without stopping. Once that happens, then it’s two miles, then three.

When you get up to three or four per day, then the focus shifts to decreasing times for the same distance.

I’m sure you’ll notice the same thing, in any of your previous accomplishments.

Which means you’ve already noticed that “startling discovery” that I alluded to earlier.

Before we achieve something, we kind of put it up on a pedestal. But when we achieve, it comes back down to Earth. It seems normal. Sometimes you may even have wondered what the big deal was.

The secret is that ANYTHING you can think of, no matter how BIG and FAR OUT it may seem, can one day seem as normal as tying your shoes.

All you’ve got to do is get from where you are now, to where you want to be.

It may take a while, and it SHOULD take a while if you’ve got big goals that are worth pursuing.

But it shouldn’t be scary, or difficult, or frustrating.

All you’ve got to do is shift your mind, so that you believe you can achieve it, and you will.

But be warned, though. When you DO achieve it, the heavens won’t open, you won’t be invited for a ticker tape parade, you won’t feel like a super hero.

Because you will have learned a very under appreciated secret of life.

That you can get ANYTHING you want in life, so long as you believe you can. 

Because when you do, getting THAT (whatever THAT is) will be as normal as baking a cake.

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Belief Change

How To Get Lucky With Ladies

How To Get Lucky Baby

How To Engineer Luck

Most people think of luck as something that falls from the heavens. A gift from God. Or some leprechaun, or some unicorn that’s giving out skittles. Or whatever.

But luck is something that can be engineered. How? Keep reading.

First, figure out what you want. Most guys don’t really know. They just know they’d like some female companionship, but that’s about it. Which means they wander through life, unsure, and when they see a hottie, they are in “reactive” mode rather than “active” mode.

Which means they are mentally off balance. Taking risks when you’re off balance is difficult, to say the least.

True luck is when preparation meets opportunity. Just walking down the street you’re going to be presented with plenty of opportunities. But without any preparation, you’ll never get lucky.

How do you prepare?

First, choose the kind of girl or girls you are looking for. Age, height, body style, etc., as much as you can. This will narrow down the list.

Then come up with some positive personality and emotional traits that are good, and some that are bad.

Most guys never come close to doing this.

This makes it easier for a couple of reasons. One is that it will take a little pressure off. Right now, without any criteria, any hot girl is going to seem like your heavenly princess.

But with some personality based criteria, having good looks is only enough to get her foot in your door.

So when you approach her, you’re still in “investigating mode.” Meaning you need to find out more about her. You’ll be more confident, and less needy. Both will make you more attractive.

That’s one element of “preparation.”

The next is to simply practice talking to strangers whenever you can. Girls, guys, young people, old people. Whomever you see.

This will build the experience in your mind that “talking to strangers is normal, safe, and ordinary. Sometimes boring, and sometimes exciting.”

As an aside, this is one thing most people are surprised to find out when they start talking to strangers in social settings. Before they can do this, they imagine all kinds of uncomfortable and terrible things.

But when they start doing this, they find out that most people are pretty boring.

Which means it’s pretty safe.

Anyhow, once you’ve got some practice, and some criteria, you’ve got the preparation taken care of.

Then it’s just a matter of bringing your preparation to all the opportunities you find.

And you’ll get lucky.

Just like that.

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How To Manipulate Reality

How To Get Anything

Take Control Of Your Life

One of the easiest things for humans to do is blame others.

Politicians have known this for thousands of years. If you convince a whole group of people that their problems are not their fault, they’ll eagerly give you their votes.

Trouble is, once you get into the “blame game” you voluntarily give up all your power and potential.

Usually without realizing it.

Why?

When you blame others, or even blame things like your genetics or upbringing or neighborhood or the economy, what you’re saying is you are completely dependent on those “things” for your success.

Which means it’s no longer up to you. It’s up to somebody else (real or imagined) to give you what you want.

Now, this may indeed happen. On the other hand, it may not.

The sad truth is that most of humanity are “waiting for somebody” to give them what they want.

I know it seems unfair and even scary to “take responsibility” for your life, but if you want to truly succeed beyond the vast sea of mediocrity, that’s precisely what you’ve got to do.

Here’s something else to consider.

Most of us start life with the same set of skills. Then it’s our job to learn what we need to learn, to get what we need to get.

Those that aren’t afraid to take uncertain action, and continue to learn and improve themselves, regardless of the outcome, generally do pretty well in life.

The truth is that life is a journey. It doesn’t end until you take that long dirt nap.

Along the way you’ll succeed, fail, find magic, start and stop again and again and again.

The only difference between people that fail and people that succeed is what they believe about themselves.

People that succeed generally look out into the world and think things like, “I wonder what will happen if I try this? Who knows, maybe something good!”

While people who fail, don’t really fail, they just never get started. They usually think things like, “Yea, but what if it doesn’t work? I’d better wait for a safer opportunity.”

The truth is we all live in the same world, surrounded by the same people, and the same opportunities.

Are you ready to take advantage of them?

Are you ready to try something, just to see what happens?

If you are, then this is for you:

Belief

Do You Like Driving On Dirt Roads Of The Brain?

Super Highways Of The Brain

Take The Easy Way To Happiness

If you were driving across a few hundred kilometers of land, which routes would you take?

Huge, wide, super highways, or small back roads?

Unless you had plenty of time to kill, and wanted to experience local culture, you’d take the highway.

Generally speaking, when we decide to do anything, we take the shortest route possible. This doesn’t have to involve physical movement.

The idea of “killing two birds with one stone” is embedded deep into our psychology for economic reasons. Every calorie we burn must be accounted for on a microbiological level, so our subconscious minds quickly calculate the least amount of energy needed to get what we want.

Sometimes, though, this doesn’t help us.

Just like real roads, our brains are a collection of superhighways and back roads. Whenever thoughts move around our brains, they take the easiest route.

Unfortunately, the routes that lead to fear are HUGE. This is so we stay safe, no matter where we are, and what we are doing.

Long time ago, our brains decided the most important rule, in all cases, was to not get injured.

This worked great in primitive cultures and environments, but not so much anymore.

Now we get tons of “false positives” when our brains think there’s something to be afraid of when there really isn’t.

This is why so many things that SHOULD be easy aren’t. We know what to do, but for some reason we think it’s hard, or we keep putting it off, or we imagine there’s somebody “out there” that is stopping us.

But here’s the deal. When we build up those back roads, in our brains, so that they are BIGGER than those factory programmed, fear-based super highways, taking action, ANY action will seem easy.

The false images of fear will be removed, and getting what we want will be as easy as baking a cake. (At least if you know how to bake a cake!)

How do you do that? How do you build up those positive, “good feeling” paths in the brain so they are the go-to path for your thoughts?

A combination of mental exercises and hypnosis.

These the basic elements of Belief Change.

When you change those back roads into super highways, you’ll truly believe, on a deep level, that getting whatever you want is easy.

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Belief Change

What Do You See When You Look “Out There”?

Master Your Own Brain

Master Your Brain

Your brain is an amazing tool, much more than most people realize.

It’s lighting quick, and can hold limitless amounts of information.

As much as people are hyping up science and computers and artificial intelligence, nothing comes close to the computational power between your ears.

One thing that makes it so incredible is its amazing efficiency.

It knows when to conserve resources, and when to go “all in.”

For example, scientists tell us that much of what we “see” out there is really generated “in here.”

Meaning our brain does a quick check of our environment, notices it’s pretty similar to things its seen before, and then calls up it’s “brain cache” or its pre-recorded information.

For example, once I was driving down the freeway, and saw a pickup truck a hundred meters or so ahead. There was a dog in the back.

Then, when I got right up next to it, I looked over, expecting to see a dog, but instead saw a pig. (He was looking right at me with a “what are you looking at” expression).

I almost drove off the road!

What happened was my brain saw a pickup truck with a four legged animal in the back. It decided the accuracy of the situation wasn’t crucial, so it looked in the back of my brain for all my memories of four legged animals in the back of pickup trucks, and came back with a bunch of dogs.

So I saw a dog.

Only it wasn’t a dog, it was a pig.

Now, had the situation been important, and I was actively looking for something (like I needed to find a pig to keep a bomb from destroying the Earth or something) I would have seen the pig straight away.

On the other hand, had I been nearly eaten to death by a gang of hungry pigs as a child, I DEFINITELY would have seen the pig. Not only that, but I would have gotten a HUGE negative emotion because of it that told me to stay the heck away from pigs!

So what we “see” out in the world is HUGELY dependent on what we’ve ALREADY got stored in our brains.

We can see things, events, situations, people, you name it. And depending on how we interacted with those same things before, we can get positive, neutral or negative feelings.

Most people think that once those memories are there, you can’t change them.

Like if you get nervous when talking to attractive people, you may think you’ll simply ALWAYS be nervous talking to attractive people.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

All you’ve got to do is change how you access your memories.

Notice what filters your brain is putting up between you, and the world.

And change them.

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Belief Change

How To Slowly Build Your Own Harem

How To Get Tons Of Girls - No Colored Feathers Required

How To Surround Yourself With Gorgeous Girls

If you want to get a girl to notice you, it’s pretty easy.

Now some guys will go to great lengths to make this happen.

They’ll spend hours a week in the gym. Deprive themselves of their favorite foods so they can get that six pack that allegedly attracts women in droves.

They’ll drop half their paycheck on clothes to hopefully get one or two ladies to turn their heads when they walk in the place.

Some will even wear big goofy hats that you can’t help but notice.

Of course, if you’re a peacock, this works pretty well. But in the world of peacocks the dude just shows up with all the other dudes, and the ladies pick the guy with the brightest feathers.

If this is the way it worked for humans, all those billboards and magazine ads you see wouldn’t be for women’s clothes, they’d be for men’s clothes.

And men would be the ones paying twice as much for dry cleaning, and worrying about what shoes to go with what outfit. 

Luckily, we’re not peacocks. We can do more than change our appearance, and then sit on the bar stool hoping we get noticed.

So, what’s the secret?

Well, you already know this, so it’s not much of a secret.

Walk over there and talk to her!

See, as much as guys pound their chests about how they’re super hero alphas who slay the ladies at every turn, most guys are TERRIFIED of talking to girls. Especially girls they are interested in.

Sure, they do a good job of covering this up, even to themselves.

Some guys even choose entire CAREERS based on the women they think it will get them.

But if you can talk a good game, NONE of that other stuff matters.

And what’s the best way to get good at talking to girls?

Well, this isn’t a trick question. 

Talk to more girls!

Here’s a mind experiment. Really think about this one.

What if you made a commitment right here, right now, to NEVER try and “pick up” a girl.

You NEVER asked for a phone number. You NEVER made any kind of suggestions about getting together.

From now on, no matter what, all you wanted to do was talk to girls and enjoy the conversation, ANY WAY you could.

Now think about this for a minute.

If you were really serious, and decided to NEVER close a girl in any way shape or form, what would happen?

Well, you’d talk to a lot more girls since there would be no pressure, only fun.

Which means you’d get more relaxed.

Which means you’d enjoy their company, and they yours.

And your subconsciously driven, natural feedback loop would kick in. Just like a little kid learns to walk based on natural feedback, your ability to make her laugh, smile and feel good would naturally and consistently improve.

And pretty soon, girls would start closing you. Remember, the ONLY RULE of this “mind experiment” is that you can’t close them. If they close you, and you’re into her, then let her have you.

What would your life be like in six months?

All the girls in your life would be TOTALLY INTO YOU.

You’d never worry about flakes, never worry about how long to wait until she called you back etc.

All the nonsense would take care of itself.

Now ask yourself this honest question:

How much action have you gotten in the last six months?

Would you be willing to do this experiment for the next six months?

Try and see what happens.

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Three Secrets of Unlimited Charisma

Unleash Your Mental Magnetism

Project Your Best Image

One very valuable trait you can have is to make people feel comfortable and open around you.

For some folks, this is pretty easy and natural. For them, they just show up, act normal, and people naturally flock to them.

Luckily, this isn’t something that’s programmed into our DNA. Which means if we don’t have “it,” we can easily develop it.

Just like how some people suck at cooking, sports, or music. With some practice, you can get pretty good.

So, what’s required to get that magnetic presence that will open so many doors?

First, you’ve got to be able to accept and appreciate other people. Get rid of any idea that you need to tell people how they should behave or think. 

Leave that to the egomaniac control freaks.

Next, you’ve got to accept and appreciate yourself. This sounds simple, but it’s more complicated than we may think.

A lot of us think we need to change ourselves somehow, before we can really get out there, but this is just a self-con to keep us safe on the sidelines.

The truth is that people respond to your interpretation of you, rather than you.

Since they have no idea of your ideas, feelings, beliefs, emotions, they have to follow your lead.

If you think you are inadequate somehow, so will they. But if you truly believe you are perfect just the way you are, so will they.

The final piece of the puzzle is to have some purpose for your life. Something you are creating. Something you are building.

Again, what this is is completely up to you. But if YOU think it’s important, so will they.

There’s something about someone that has all of these qualities.

They accept people, rather than judge them, so it feels good to be around them.

They accept themselves without needing constant validation and approval from others, so it feels good to be around them.

They know where they are going in life, which gives off that “natural leader” vibe, that so many of us crave not in ourselves, but in others.

Like I said, some people naturally have all three. But if you don’t, no problem.

Because once you get them, it will be just as good.

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Frame Control

Find The Girl Of Your Dreams

How To Create The Perfect Relationship

Are High Quality Women A Myth?

Most guys think they need to become a shopping list to get girls.

They think they need a certain level of income, a certain amount of body fat, a certain type of clothing before a girl gives them the time of day.

Then once they get all these things, they wonder why the princesses don’t suddenly fall into their lap.

Most girls, when asked about their “perfect husband” will give you a list of things they THINK are important to them.

Pretty much anybody is asked about such an important thing as a life partner, they tell you what they think they should say, rather than what really floats their boat.

Does this mean that people are horrible liars? Not at all.

It’s just that most times, we don’t really KNOW what floats our boat. Sure, we RESPOND to it when it comes around, but unless we’re ultra honest with ourselves (which is pretty impossible, btw), we’re usually blinded when it happens.

That’s why girls tend to fall in love with guys that they “didn’t think were my type” all the time.

It’s kind of like the difference between shopping for food when you’re hungry, vs. when you’re full.

When you’re full, you buy all the crap you THINK you should want. Usually healthy stuff.

When when you’re hungry, you buy stuff you REALLY want. Usually not so healthy.

This isn’t to say that what drives attraction is or isn’t healthy, it’s just an illustration to see the difference between what we want, and what we think we want.

So if you pay too much attention to conventional wisdom about what girls want (decent income, nice clothes, sense of humor, likes changing diapers, etc) you are going to be in for a HORRIBLE shock.

What do I mean?

She sees you coming along, with your personality based on her “consciously chosen things.” Then because you fit the bill, she goes with you because on paper, you LOOK like a good “catch.”

She might even get excited about showing her friends and family her good catch.

But her emotions won’t get fired up. Not even close.

Which means once she feels she’s got you on the hook, you’ll be nothing more than an ATM to her.

A provider, not a lover.

So forget about what girls TELL you what they want. Forget about convention wisdom.

Trigger those deep desires that make her chase the man of her dreams DESPITE what her friends and family might say.

When she thinks about you, she shouldn’t think of you as some “checkmark” in her box if things to do in life.

She shouldn’t be able to get her mind off you. Her heart should race when her phone vibrates. She should be nervous as hell when getting dressed to meet you.

How do you create THOSE feelings?

Your language. Your confidence. Your energy. How you talk to her, and then pull back. How you demonstrate that you like her, but you don’t need her. How you build your life with or without her.

Learn to test for REAL attraction. Unconscious attraction. Deep and ancient desire.

The kind that makes it OBVIOIUS she can’t live without you. The girls that DON’T display this level of desire? Not worth your time. Unless you’re content to be a trophy on her mantel.

However, don’t expect these girls to come to you. You’ve got to meet them, create, build and sustain attraction. Real attraction.

Will it be easy? No. 

But once you get a girl like that, she’ll be yours for life.

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How To Eliminate Rejection From Girls

Back Off Man, I'm A Scientist!

Never Face Rejection Again

The human brain is a pretty amazing tool.

One that’s not even close to being understood yet. 

It’s very fast, which is great for survival. But it’s not so accurate. In a sense, it’s a lot like your web browser.

When you visit a familiar site, instead of loading up all the stuff fresh, it references your browser’s cache.

This makes it load much quicker than if you had to download everything every single time.

Web servers do this as well. If the page is static, they serve up a cached copy, as it’s much quicker.

This is how the brain operates in both familiar and unfamiliar surroundings.

A long, long time ago, maybe there were people that needed to stare at something for a long time, and let the information soak in long enough to figure out what was what.

But they all got eaten by dinosaurs. Which means the only people that are left are us goofs who don’t reference reality any more than your web browser downloads every  piece of data every time you visit the same web site.

Science has measured this. They know which areas of the brain are responsible for imaginary stuff, and which part is responsible for reality stuff.

Most of the time, it’s a mix of two.

Why is this important?

Well, consider this next time you’re out checking out the ladies. One of the reasons guys get so nervous is they see some super hot girl, and make all kinds of assumptions about her.

And because are much more attracted to women based on looks, this puts us at a disadvantage.

We walk over there, already having decided that she passes all of our criteria. Only she knows nothing about us.

So we feel like we’re walking over there with her having all the power. The power to accept us, or the power to reject us.

This, of course, causes all kinds of anxiety.

But when you remember that what you’re seeing is literally an illusion, it makes it easier.

Now, this is something you’ll have to consciously remember, and practice. There’s NO magic thought that you only need to think once that will get rid of your fears.

It’s something you need to train in. Just like a mental version of Karate Kid.

But this is a good way to practice.

When you see her, don’t let your caveman get away with assuming all kinds of crap. Go over there NOT to hopefully get accepted, but to find out if she IS as hot as you think she is.

All girls have flaws. Just like all guys have flaws.

See your first approach to get a better picture of her. Withhold judgment of her, until you talk to her.

If you approach with this mindset, you’ll never get rejected.

Because you’re not trying to get accepted.

You’re just getting more information.

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Why You Should Love Rejection

Rejection Is Your Fastest Path To Success

Rejection Is Essential To Success

A lot of guys have a common problem with women.

And that is that they are waiting for some kind of obvious “green light” that tells them it’s OK.

This is normal. Nobody likes taking risks. We’d all love some perfect step by step method that is guaranteed to work. Some paint by the numbers system that gets us whatever we want, especially affection from gorgeous girls, without every having to put it on the line.

The trouble is that NOTHING is certain. All action requires risk. Sure, some actions are so LOW in risk they seem risk free. Things like ordering a pizza, going to the toilet in the middle of the night, or anything else simple and routine that we do over and over again.

But the simple truth of reality is that we absolutely cannot predict the future. 

It’s very common to be sitting there on the couch or in the bar talking to the girl of your dreams, and wondering whether or not you should make a move. And many guys DON’T make a move, and later claim that it was because they weren’t getting the right signals.

This is utter nonsense.

Let’s take a step back and see this from a scientific and biological perspective.

If a guy makes a move, and gets shot down, he’s going to feel like crap. BUT it won’t likely affect his social standing.  Think about one of your buddies right now. Now imagine him making a move (not an obscene or illegal move) and getting shot down. Politely shot down, not some girl screaming bloody murder.

Now, how do you feel about him after imagining that he tried and got shot down? Is he a social outcast? Is he some pariah to be avoided? Are the guys going to suddenly stop talking when he comes around, and look around in an uncomfortable silence?

Nope. If anything, he’ll get more props for trying.

Now imagine if a girl gave clear and obvious signs that she wants to be kissed. And SHE gets shot down.

What would happen to her reputation? What would her friends say? What would happen if she were known as the girl who throws herself at guys?

You know what would happen. Every girl who knew her (and every guy) would suddenly use different adjectives to describe her. (Easy, for example.)

So if you are waiting for a girl to make it obvious she wants you to kiss her, or touch her, or ask for her number, you’re going to be waiting a long time.

Not fair? Maybe not. But so what?

If you want success, you’re going to have to make a move. A risky move.

As the great founder of Sony once said, “If you want to double your success rate, simply double your failure rate!”

Now go out there and get shot down!