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How To Sell Her Your Banana

Become More Attractive

Putting yourself in somebody else’s shoes is an incredibly effective way of becoming more persuasive.

This is true in sales, romance, and any kind of conversation where you’re trying to get your ideas across with little resistance.

The secret to all influence is taking your idea, and translating them so they are easily accepted by others, based on their own “model of the world.”

This includes their beliefs, their recent experience, and what they think is important.

For example, let’s say you were selling bananas. And you could sell them based on their nutritional value, or their taste, or their versatility. (Just go with it, OK?)

Now, if you came across somebody who was a health nut, and planned out all their meals based on specific nutritional information, it wouldn’t do you very good to try and sell them your bananas based on how delicious they were.

On the other hand, if you came across somebody who ONLY chose food based on taste, you’d be wasting your breath if you talked about all the vitamins and minerals in a banana.

Talking to girls is the same way. 

Now, I’m not saying to walk up to a girl and start selling her your banana!

However, instead of walking up and spitting some goofy lines WITHOUT first talking to her and seeing what she’s all about, like most guys do, take some time to get to know her.

Find out what’s important to her. Find out what spins her propellers.

The cool thing about this method is that if you’re talking to her about what she likes, what kinds of things turns her on (not like that!), what her dreams are for the future, something pretty cool will happen.

She’ll start to see YOU, through HER OWN filters of desire.

So if you hold off just a little bit, and turn on her own filters of desire BEFORE you start saying anything about you, you’ll have a MASSIVE ADVANTAGE.

Once her desires and filters are fired up, she’ll be much more likely to be attracted to you (and your banana, lol) when you DO get around to talking about yourself and your interests.

Especially when you inevitably find those things you’ve got in common.

The truth is that HOW you talk to her is much more important than WHAT you talk about.

Learn how to talk to her in that special way so she can’t help falling for you.

Develop Long Lasting Recognition

It’s been said that when we don’t care who gets credit, we can get a lot more done.

However, voluntarily giving up public recognition is a hard thing to do. General Napoleon (among others) knew his solders would fight with a lot more intensity if they knew there was a chance of being publicly recognized for their bravery.

If you’ve ever had a good idea, and somebody else got or took credit for it, it certainly stings.

However, there is short term “credit” or “recognition,” and there’s a longer term “energy.”

What’s this mean?

If somebody gets a good idea, and they take credit (deservedly or not) that recognition won’t usually last long. On the flip side of coming up a good idea is the concept of “what have you done for me lately.”

If you spend too much time worrying about getting credit, or recognition, people are going to start to notice.

Instead of thinking of you as the “idea person,” they’ll start to think of you as the “attention seeking person.”

On the other hand, if you’re the person who’s always coming with good ideas, and specifically letting others take the credit, you’ll be developing something MUCH more powerful.

A deep sense of appreciation and magnetism. People will start to think of YOU, in unconscious terms as somebody that’s just good to have around.

They’ll feel much better, much safer, and in much more capable hands when you’re there.

And since this will all be on an unconscious level, it will come across to them as a deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that they just can’t put there fingers on.

So, how do you BECOME that idea person? Easy. Just base everything you discuss largely on THEIR criteria.

Since we always take actions and make decisions on our own criteria, when you start out by talking about THEIR criteria, without being obvious, you’ll seem like a breath of fresh air. 

Since you’re really using THEIR criteria to base your ideas on, you’ll just need to change up your communication style, just a bit.

Instead of showing up and overwhelming them with your ideas (like almost everybody else does), you’ll be covertly eliciting THEIR ideas, and handing them right back to them.

And they’ll think it’s (and YOU’RE) the greatest thing since sliced bread.

Easy Questions For Natural Attraction

Most guys spend a LOT of time trying to think of “what to say.”

In fact, this is a common excuse for NOT talking to her. 

“I was going to go and talk to her but I just didn’t know what to say.”

“I felt totally confident, but since I didn’t know what to say, I didn’t make a move.”

And other similar nonsense. I say “nonsense” because almost always, the real reason we don’t make a move is NOT the one we tell ourselves.

Sure, rejection is pretty terrifying. But you can not only insulate yourself from rejection, but  you can talk to her in a way that doesn’t require the perfect opener or pickup pattern.

First of all, in order to become rejection proof, you just structure your communication in a way that you can’t get rejected.

If you never ask or suggest anything, she can’t reject you. Sure, if you walk over and ask for the number within the first ten seconds, she can say “no,” in which case you’ve been rejected.

But if take ten minutes instead of ten seconds, you’ll get a LOT better response.

Just start talking to her about things she can’t say “no” to. Meaning don’t ask any yes or no questions about you, or anything you want her to do.

Talk to her about things she’s likely interested in. Fish around for similarities in interest between the two of you.

While doing so, pay close attention to her body language and facial expressions. It will tell you everything you need to know.

So much that if you wait for the right time to “ask” her anything, instead of spitting it out because you can’t wait, she’ll almost always say “yes.”

And not the kind of “yes” that she just says to get rid of you, but the “yes” that means she really, really wants to get to know you.

See, when you talk to her in the right way, and ask her the right questions, she’ll almost always “feel you” no matter who she is.

How To Make Day Game Easy

Most guys are terrified of rejection from girls.

If she says “no,” to whatever you’re suggesting, there’s not much that feels worse. Especially if it happens in front of your friends or her friends.

This is one of the main reasons guys like to hunt in packs. It lessens the sting of rejection to a considerable degree.

But here’s something to consider. It takes a lot of time and planning to get together a group of guys to go “hunting.” And anyplace a group of guys goes to pick up girls, all the girls will KNOW they are there to hit on them.

And if you take some time to inventory all the happy couples in your life, they didn’t likely meet at some meet market.

They met through friends, or at somebody’s wedding, or sitting next to each other in class.

Places where people usually DON’T go to pick up.

Meaning when you think of that special girl out there, whoever she is, and wherever she is, you won’t likely meet her in some meet market, surrounded by your buddies.

In fact, when you DO meet that special girl, there’s a high probability that she’ll be alone, or you’ll be alone.

And unless you feel confident enough to walk up and start talking to her (in NON pick up language), it’s not going to happen.

Sure, you can wait for somebody to introduce you to somebody, or meet people through social circles, but by developing the confidence to just walk up and start talking to people, you’ll have LOT more options, and chances, and you’ll meet that special girl a LOT sooner.

Now, back to that dreaded thought of “rejection” that usually keeps guys safely on the sidelines.

It’s ONLY possible to “get rejected” if you actually suggest something that she can say “no” to.

If you DON’T do that, you can’t get rejected.

Now, it is possible of for you to walk up to her, and have her shut you down completely before you even open your mouth, but if you shower regularly and you don’t have your ding-dong hanging out of your pants, that’s not very likely.

But there IS a way talk to her that is literally rejection proof, so you’ll be able to “feel each other out” and see if you’re both ready to take the next step.

No risk, no worries, no rejection.

And no matter WHAT happens, you’ll BOTH feel much better after the interaction.

The Male Advantage

If you want to get a girl attracted to you, you’ve got to talk to her.

This is GREAT NEWS.

Why?

Guys are attracted to girls to a very LARGE degree, by looks. Meaning if a really hot girl walks into a coffee shop, and she’s taken the time to create an even better appearance with her clothes, jewelry and makeup, she really doesn’t have to do much else to create attraction.

Seriously, imagine your type of woman. Looking just the way you like. She walks into a coffee shop, walks over, and sits down right across from you. All she does is smile that sexy smile, and look at you.

If you’re like most guys, you’ve already fallen in love with her by this time. You’re not really concerned with her personality, or her dreams or what she does for a living. In fact, for most guys, whatever these things are, (her personality stuff) you’d be quick to agree that it’s AMAZING, whatever it is.

On the other hand, think of a girl who repulses you. (Don’t worry, this is just a mind experiment, we’re not out to slam anybody or hurt anybody’s feelings.) Imagine THAT girl came over and sat down, looking at you the same way. 

You probably couldn’t get out of there quick enough, no matter WHAT she said.(Unless it was something involving millions of free dollars).

Guys on the other hand, don’t have this power. Meaning most girls won’t fall in love with a guy JUST based on looks. Lust, yea, Eye candy, yea. But most girls, if they DO see some eye candy model, generally put them into a “category.”  This “category” is most definitely NOT boyfriend category.

Now, I’m going to assume that you’re not some kind of magazine model eye candy guy.

Which means that you have INCREDLBE POWER with ONLY your language.

The attraction that girls feel is MUCH MORE determined by things like your personality, and how YOU can make her FEEL with your conversational skills.

And lucky for us guys, conversational skills can simply get better and better. The more you learn, the more attractive you’ll become, and the LESS things like looks, money, social status, will matter.

The BOTTOM LINE when it comes to attraction is how well you can conversationally create those feelings in her.

Now, most guys THINK they can ONLY create those feelings if they’re rich, or famous, or some other nonsense.

But now you know the secret.

Turn On Your Natural Charisma

What makes somebody charismatic?

You know, the kind of person who walks into a room, and all heads turn. The kind of person who slowly checks out the people, and all the people are thinking the same thing:

“I hope they come and talk to me!”

Most people assume this is purely based on looks. Certainly, if an ultra hot guy or girl walked into a room, they would have this effect.

But this is something much deeper than that. This has to do with incredibly magnetic personal energy that people are drawn to, on a very basic unconscious level, that goes WAY beyond looks or physical appearance.

In fact, even if somebody isn’t otherwise attractive, but they have this magnetic quality, people will be MUCH more interested in them than some brainless beauty (guy or girl).

How can you get that quality?

On a deep level, it’s how you view yourself, and the world around you. 

Most people are worried what people will think about them, and all their thoughts, behaviors, and even micro-movements are designed to elicit that desperately needed approval and validation.

The first step is to get rid of that need for validation and approval from others. But that’s only half the battle. If you only did that, you wouldn’t care what people thought about you, but you wouldn’t much care about other people as well.

That’s why the second piece of the puzzle is crucial. And that is to simply realize that within other people, is treasure.

Wonderful treasure that will take somebody like you to carefully elicit and magnify.

This will change your energy on such a deep and fundamental level that it doesn’t matter WHAT you look like, what kind of clothes you wear, or any of that other “surface level” stuff.

They’ll just notice that YOUR energy is much different than anybody else’s.

You feel comfortable in your own skin, you totally accept and appreciate yourself, and you are genuinely interested in them.

And when they hear the language you use, and how you structure your communication, they will be completely and absolutely transfixed.

In you.