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The Danger Of Seduction Gurus

Which Is More Important, Teacher Or Student?

Trial And Error Might Be Better

There’s a common idea in the realm of meeting and dating girls of following some kind of guru. Now, gurus certainly have their time and place. Certainly, if you were learning something that only a few people in the world knew how to do, then you would do well to learn from an expert in the field.

But even then, there’s a danger. See, there’re people who are really good at doing things. Then there are people who are really good at teaching things. Then there are people who are really good at learning things.

Now, if you were to learn from some guru, and learn well, you’d have to have a guy that could do what you wanted to learn, teach what you wanted to learn AND, most importantly, YOU’D be somebody who was willing or able to LEARN what you wanted to learn.

All three of these are rarely present. Which is the most important?

Well, consider each one on it’s own. Take a guy who was a GREAT teacher, who couldn’t do what he was teaching, trying to teach to a roomful of goofs who refused to learn. Nope.

How about a guy who was GREAT at doing, but horrible at teaching, and also teaching to a room full of lazy goofs. Nope again.

Now how about a roomful (or even one guy) who REALLY wanted to learn, but his teacher was an idiot who not only couldn’t do what he was teaching, but couldn’t teach his way out of a paper bag.

Now, if he were teaching some kind of specialized thing like building a computer from scratch, there’s be trouble. But even then, a REALLY motivated student could forget the class, look stuff up online, or buy a bunch of books form Amazon, and probably do pretty well.

In fact, some of the smartest guys on Earth are self-taught, largely because nobody’s smart enough to teach them.

Now, take some like seduction, or dating, or pickup. These are largely based on general social skills, which are hard wired into EVERYBODY.

So not only do you NOT NEED a guru, having one will hold you back. In fact most people spend tons of money and time with gurus precisely BECAUSE they don’t really want to do what needs to be done.

Which is to simply get out there, and practice.

Practice talking to people. All people. Anywhere. Everywhere.

The more people you talk to, the easier it will be, and the more fun it will be.

So when you DO see a girl that’s interesting, you won’t suddenly need to summon super human levels of courage and ninja levels of approach techniques.

You’ll just walk over and talk to her.

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Do You Follow Holy Men?

Beware Of False Prophets

The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within

A long time ago, there was a great rift in the Catholic church.

Up until then the “structure” was kind of like this. There was God and the heavens. Then there were the special holy men who were trained to interpret the heavenly messages.

Then there were the regular, everyday people. They had to do what these chosen holy men said, since they were the only ones who could understand the word of God.

Then they had a great upheaval. Many ex-holy men decided that these holy men were really con artists. Maybe they didn’t start out this way, but they certainly abused their power.

For example, they would sell people tickets into heaven. The way it worked was you had some sins, you confessed them to these holy men, and they handed out your punishments. Of course, they saw this as an opportunity to make some cash on the side, and they did.

After a while, enough of these ex-holy men were so disgusted, they started their own churches.

“The Word of God is available to everybody!” They said. No longer would people have to listen to an “interpretation” of some holy man who had gone through some special training.

And the world hasn’t been the same ever since.

Just think, the idea that a normal guy or girl, meditating on the scriptures (or any other ancient texts) could actually discern valuable teachings!

Of course, this “structure” still exists today, in many forms. Some self proclaimed “holy man” claims he or she knows the secrets, and only he or she knows how to interpret them. 

Even things that are worlds apart from religion falls under this category.

Medicine, science, philosophy, art, entertainment.

It seems that humans are hard wired to fall into the “authority trap.” Unless the wise words come from somebody with recognized authority, we don’t recognize them as valid.

This can help, saving us a lot of time.

But it can also hurt. We may find that after years of following a “holy man” we find he or she’s been a scam the entire time.

Not to mention how easy it is to abuse such power. History is filled with men and women (mostly men) who had the power of authority only to lead people to horrible ends.

Ultimately, it’s up to you. To be sure, a truly wise and honest “holy man” is a wonderful thing to find.

But in the end, only you know what’s right. Only you are responsible for your own life, your own truth, and your own path.

It’s easy to let somebody else choose for you.

Few can choose their own path. Few can listen to their own truth.

Can you?

The Third Path To Finding Your Dream Girl

Three Paths To Your Success

The Natural Way Is Easiest

There are three basic choices if you want to go from where you are now, to where you want to be with regards to women and relationships.

Choice number one is what most guys do. Which is nothing. Sure, they spend a lot of time online in forums, mostly complaining about women. Sometimes they’ll give each other advice (safely from their keyboard) about what they should have done or shouldn’t have done.

While it can feel like you’re making progress if you learn about human relationships through reading various blogs on the Internet (ahem…), it will only get you so far. It may even impede your progress, as you think you may be “learning” but in reality, you’re just learning new excuses to keep you out of the game.

Choice number two is what a few guys do. They make a decision to do something about it. Maybe they figure enough is enough, or maybe they had their hearts broken so badly they decide that will never happen again. So they buy courses and attend seminars. They study language patterns and techniques. How to approach, what to say, what to wear. They use all kinds of sales terminology as if they are insurance salesmen going door to door.

And guess what? If they keep at it, they will be very successful. That’s pretty much guaranteed with all skills. If you take the time to learn, and take the time to practice, you WILL improve. This is an absolute certainty.

However, talking to and dating girls is pretty much part of our DNA. Sure, if you wanted to study and master something totally “unnatural,” something that humans AREN’T hard wired to do (like juggling or bowling or playing the piano or whatever), then studying and practicing skills is the way to go.

But in reality, talking to girls and meeting enough of them to find your dream girl is not really unnatural. It’s not something that was invented in recent human history.

The concept of humans mingling with other humans to make more humans has been around for millions and millions of years, since WAY before we were even humans.

Which brings us to choice number three.

Forget the internet posturing. Forget learning specialized skills and patterns and techniques. Just get out there and be social. Talk to people and find out something interesting about them.

Sure, for many people it’s pretty scary at first. But they ALL quickly realize the same thing. People LIKE talking to other people. So long as you’re not pushing MLM or don’t have horrible garlic breath, people will ENJOY IT when you start up a conversation.

If you make it a habit of talking to people wherever you go, just to enjoy it, some of those “people” will be cute girls. And guess what? Some of the cute girls will turn into your dream girl!

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Do You Deserve What You Want?

Let Loose Your Power Of Creation

Creation Is Easier Than Receiving

One of our worst fears is rejection.

This is at the root of many of our other fears. We want something, but we feel if we express our desires, we’ll get shot down. From the tiniest things like asking for the salt to asking a cute person for their phone number, it feels as though we’re on center stage when we’re warming up to pop the question.

However, like many other elements of our personality and communication, there’s a lot of stuff going on.

One thing that people will respond to is our interpretation of ourselves. Little kids have no fear, no shame, no worries. They just blurt out whatever they want. Sometimes they get it, sometimes they don’t.

But you’d have to be an ogre living under a bridge to NOT think this is the prime reason kids are so cute.

Now, if this happens to be your kid announcing to the world what they want at any given time, it can be pretty embarrassing. But to everybody else, it’s pretty cute.

One important distinction to be aware of when discussing adult communication is the difference between structure and content.

The content is that specific thing we are asking for. The salt, the phone number, the raise, etc.

The structure is HOW we are asking for it. And a primary driver of the structure we wrap around our content is our interpretation of the content, and our “deservingness” to receive it.

If we are asking for something we don’t think we deserve (for logical or completely illogical reasons) that will come across in how we ask. So when we DO get shut down, it’s not because there’s anything wrong with the content (that which we are asking for) but our own interpretation.

If we don’t think we deserve it, why should anybody else? Especially if they’re being asked to put time and even money into us getting it?

Now we can also fool ourselves just as easily. We can overcompensate, and “pretend” that we REALLY deserve, and ask for it with all kinds of fake enthusiasm. But then we sound like some sleazy salesperson trying to be our friend.

How can we believe we deserve it (whatever IT is) without sounding like we just came from a super charged guru seminar?

Remember who you are.

Remember why you are here, and what you are creating. You weren’t put here to be “given” stuff, like a kid who cleaned his room on time.

You were put here to create things. And on the other side of everything you’d like, you have something equally as valuable to give.

That part of yourself that is pure energy. Pure spirit. Pure wisdom.

Get in touch with THAT part of you, and you’ll never feel fear again.

How Should You Look For Your Dream Girl?

Become Socially Outgoing and The Girls Will Follow

Primary Focus Or Side Effect?

Some of the best things come as a side effect, not the main benefit.

But if you focus on them as the main idea, you’ll mess everything up.

Take going out to eat or have a couple drinks with your buddies. The main idea is to get something to eat. So you talk about what kind of food you want, or what kind of bar has the best atmosphere.

This is the focus of that particular excursion. But the main side effect to eating some decent food with your buddies is just hanging out and sharing that experience. But if you were to tell your buddies you wanted to get together to share some fun times, they’d look at you funny.

This is the kind of thing you always know is there, but you never really talk about. Because if you did it would sound kind of lame. Really lame.

Meeting girls is the same way. Most of the time it happens, it happens as a side effect to doing something else. You’re at a friends wedding, you’re in some study group at school, your meeting a bunch of friends for a concert, or you go to a friend of a friend’s going away party.

All of these have a potential side effect of meeting a special lady for a special relationship.

But that’s not the main reason why you do those things.

Nevertheless, many guys go to places SPECIFICALLY to meet girls. They go to clubs and bars specifically to sarge, to use memorized lines and routines to get numbers.

Make no mistake, this will get you some numbers of some girls who are interested in you.

And if you are interested in as many short term flings as you can possibly fit into your life, this is the best method there is.

But if you want to create a good, honest, relationship. This might not be the best angle.

Instead, just do what you want. Go places where there are people. Get in the habit of talking to people, just because you’ll find them interesting.

If you do this, you’ll be much more likely to be an interesting, outgoing, charismatic person when you meet your dream girl.

Another way to think about this is imagine yourself ten or twenty years from now, after you’ve been with your dream girl all this time.

Somebody asks you how you met, what would you like to say?

“We met through friends at this guys work party.”

Or

“I sarged her when she was in a 3 set. I opened her friend with the potato chip pattern.”

Ultimately, it’s up to you.

What do you want?

How To Generate Charisma

Generate Massive Charisma

Enjoy Life And Others Will Enjoy You

Being charismatic is a powerful skill to have.

One thing about us humans is we are generally fixated on content, when it’s the structure that drives out emotions.

Take a pretty good stand up comic. He or she will tell some pretty common stories. Ones that, on their own may  not seem like much on paper.

But how they deliver them is what makes the difference.

Not only do they use incredible gestures and “out of the box” facial expressions, but they take those normal stories, and break them up so we can’t help but focus our attention on them.

For comparisons sake, take a regular person. They start talking to one or two people at a party. For some reason, they really get into their story. A cool feedback loop is created between speaker and listener.

Before long, a crowd grows. But then something happens. The person suddenly gets nervous. Instead of telling their story to close friends, now they’re the center of attention, and it may feel a bit strange.

What if you could feel outgoing, energetic and charismatic around not only your friends, but strangers as well?

What if you didn’t have to wait around for moments like that to “just happen”?

The truth is that you can. But it takes some practice.

The thing about people who are naturally charismatic is that they appreciate life. Not just the awesome parts, but the normal, everyday parts.

Remember, it’s really not the content (WHAT we are talking about) that people like about us. It’s the structure, it’s HOW we are talking about it.

Now, some people go overboard, and lay on some really fake charisma. This is easy to spot a mile away.

This what cheesy salespeople do when you talk about stuff you KNOW they don’t care about, but pretend to.

What I’m talking about is real, honest to goodness appreciation.

How do you practice this?

Just take a few moments every day, and take a few minutes off. Close your eyes, slowly breathe in and out, and feel the force of life pulsing through you.

Feel and appreciate that deep presence of energy that has been there since the dawn of time, and will be there long, long into the future.

Slowly feel this energy resonate through you, and generate genuine appreciation for this energy.

The energy of you. The energy that allows you to experience the world, be in the world, and change the world every time you interact with it.

Practice feeling that appreciation, and that appreciation will grow.

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Always Let Her See The Real You

Don't Be Shy!

Share Your Truth From The Get Go

Most everything in life belongs on some kind of spectrum.

There’re generally two extremes, and most things take place with a mix of both.

Take something as simple as exercise, for example. Some people are way over on one side. They spend hours a day in the gym, are super careful about what they eat, and act like Superman around kryptonite if somebody offers them a doughnut.

On the other side, there are those that act as if any form of elevated heart rate will end in certain death. There could be a room filled with ready to go porn stars on the second floor, but if the elevator is broken, they’ll give it a pass.

How you behave around women is also on a continuum. There’s the super alpha aggressive side, where she must ALWAYS follow your lead no matter what. Then there’s the other side, when you only do what she allows you to do.

Some guys will talk to a girl, and “test” to see if she’s following them or not. They’ll talk to her for a couple minutes, and then move three feet down the far. If she follows him, she passes. If she doesn’t, he forgets her and moves on to somebody else.

Then there’re guys who do the opposite. They walk up and ask if it’s OK to talk to them. Then they ask if it’s OK to buy them a drink. They even ask if it’s OK to ask for her number.

Sure, both ends of the spectrum will get you a certain type of girl. 

But consider this, the type of girl you get, will ALWAYS expect you to act like that.

Which means if that’s not the real you, you’re going to be in serious trouble.

Now, consider a guy who’s pretty in control of his life, outside of dating. But when he talks to girls, he’s the type to always ask for permission.

There’s going to come a point where he starts to feel comfortable around her, and doesn’t need to ask for her permission any more.

But when she first met him, ALL SHE KNOWS about him is he always asks for permission. That might even be one of the  main reason she liked him in the first place. Maybe she likes guys who “know their place” or something.

Later on, this guy is going to be miserable.

Same goes with the other guy. If he’s trying on some “alpha-persona” he’s going to attract the type of girl who ALWAYS needs to be told what to do.

Unless he’s comfortable with that, there’re going to be problems later on.

How do you solve this dilemma?

Simple!

When you first talk to her, behave like you normally behave. Around your buddies, coworkers etc.

Let her know the real you from the get go.

Sure, she might not like the real you. But so what? Your job is to find the girls that do.

And then simply pick the best one.

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Nonsensical Physics 

Leverage The Unseen

Mysteries Of Science

When I was a kid used to LOVE quantum physics.

Well, at least the concepts. I’d read a bunch of books where they’d taken out the math, so to make it more accessible to everyday guys like me.

Now, from an ultra “meta” standpoint, everything makes sense. Everything is governed by laws and principles.

But from a human standpoint, only a small sliver of a sliver makes any rational sense.

There’s plenty of psychological tests to prove this.

They take a logical puzzle, put it in non-familiar terms (like cards and shapes and colors) and most people fail miserably.

They take the same logical puzzle, put it in a familiar social setting, and everybody gets it. Easy peasy.

Same goes with simple math. Two plus two is four. Two times four is eight.

But start talking about economics, especially when you get into what some economists called the “unseen,” then things get crazy.

One of the most mind numbing aspect of quantum physics was Heisenberg’s Principle of Uncertainty.

He mathematically showed that ultra tiny systems behave in different ways when they are being observed, and when they aren’t being observed.

This is assuming there’s no interaction between the observer and that which is observed.

Why this happens, nobody really knows.

Another thing that blows people’s minds is the derivation of the Ideal Gas Law.

(The what of what??)

You know how when you pop a balloon, it makes a big sound, right? Or if you poked a hole in an inflated tire, all the air would quickly rush out, right?

Why does that happen?

Most of us assume it’s because all those air molecules are in there, crammed so tightly together they can’t stand each other, and can’t wait to get away from each other, right?

Makes perfect sense, but it’s wrong.

There’s a certain equation that describes EXACTLY how much pressure is inside, based on the temperature, etc. And exactly how fast the gas escapes when there’s a hole, etc. And precisely how quickly a balloon will deflate when popped, etc.

So it’s clear this equation is pretty on the money, right?

But here’s the thing. That equation is based on this assumption that DOES NOT MAKE SENSE.

What’s that?

That every single particle of air in there (the balloon, the tire, etc) THINKS that it is all alone.

That equation is based on the assumption that there is ZERO interaction between particles in there.

Which means there must be some OTHER explanation why they all rush out so fast.

Maybe the universe has some deeper laws, that NOBODY understands.

And all we can ever see is what’s on the surface.

Kind of like you.

Most people you interact with only see the OUTSIDE. The very outer layer of what you present.

Inside, you know there is much, much more.

Are you ready to discover it?

Secrets Of Social Success

Look For Treasure In Others

Learn To Appreciate Others

Through the study of genetics, scientists have concluded that throughout history, a few of the guys have gotten most of the girls.

And studying primitive societies that still live according to the hunter-gatherer lifestyle, this holds to be true.

The guys at the top of the social ladder tend to get a lot more girls than the guys down at the bottom. So it stands to reason, if you want to become better with the ladies, it will help to move up the social ladder.

How do you do that?

Well, if you happen to be a member of the Yanomamo tribe in the rainforests of Brazil, this would mean killing more dudes than everybody else. It seems in that particular society, there is a strong correlation with your kill rate and your success rate with the ladies.

Luckily, that doesn’t hold true for most of us!

So, assuming you don’t want to go out there and become a serial killer, how do you become more like those guys at the top of the social heap?

One way is to become more verbally fluent. Contrary to Hollywood, the alpha male is not the strong silent type who grunts and kills bad guys. In real life, the alpha is the guy who can talk a good game.

And I’m not talking about “game” like using seductive language patterns. I’m talking about general social skills. The kind that makes people want to listen to you. The kind that doesn’t sound like some laser targeted set of patterns with a specific outcome.

The kind that you can use with anybody, and leave them feeling better after you’ve finished speaking with them.

Dale Carnegie talked about this in his famous book, “How To Win Friends and Influence People.” There is a whole set of strategies to follow that will help.

But they can all be boiled down to a simple rule:

Become Interested In Others

Most people don’t do this. Most people walk around desperate for attention, desperate for validation, desperation for approval. They get into a conversation with somebody and all they talk about is themselves.

But if you cultivate a genuine interest in others, and the social confidence to find out about them, AND make them comfortable enough talking to you that they feel comfortable sharing themselves with you, you will be astonished.

This simple technique will do more for you girl getting skills than anything else. All you’ve got to do is just start talking to people, and hold one though in mind while doing so:

“I wonder what’s unique and interesting about this person?”

Do this, and wonderful things will happen.

What Happens When People Start Yelling?

It's Not You It's Them

It’s Not You, It’s Them

Most people have heard of the “Pareto Principle,” or as it’s more often called, the 80/20 rule.

In any kind of distribution, 20% of the stuff is doing 80% of the action.

If you’ve got a large sales force, 20% of the salespeople are making 80% of the sales.

If you’ve got a hundred shirts, you wear 20% of them 80% of the time.

This also comes into play when we’re talking to strangers. One huge fear that most people have is getting rejected.

So when we’ve got some idea or even a desire to simply get out there and express ourselves, we hold back because of what we fear.

But as you know, most of our fears never come true.

So what’s going to happen when we actually get out there and start talking to people (for whatever reason)?

That familiar 80/20 rule is going to kick in.

80% of the people we talk to won’t budge one way or the other. They won’t hate us, they won’t love us.

They won’t disagree with us, they won’t agree with us.

And within that twenty percent, ten will absolutely fall in love with us and our ideas, and the other ten will act like we’ve committed the gravest sin even in looking at them.

A long time ago, I used to sell cars. This young couple came in, and wanted to buy a car, but we didn’t have the right color. I told them I’d order it for them, and call them when it came in.

Only when they wrote their number down, I couldn’t read the last two digits. So I just started with 01 and worked my way up to 99 (at least that was the plan). 

I was shocked to find out that one in ten (that ten percent) were very angry that I’d called their home. I wasn’t trying to sell them anything. I just was asking for a specific person. 

Most people said, “Sorry, wrong number.” and I said, “Oops.” and that was that.

But one in ten got really angry.

At first, it made me a little intimidated. But after a couple people started yelling at me, it started to become kind of funny. 

Now, I’m not saying you should go out and hassle people on the street just to have a few laughs, but it is pretty interesting how tightly wound up people are.

And after the third or fourth person started into their tirade, I didn’t feel it was me at all. I KNEW they were yelling at me for their own reasons.

After all, how could they possibly be angry at me, when all I said was, “Hi is Robert there?”

Think about this next time you’re thinking about interacting with strangers. One, all your fears are false. Two, the people that do give you grief, is on them, not you.

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