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High Probability Dating

Consistent Effort Will Yield Huge Results

Low Energy Huge Results

There’s a lot of fantasy type movies where a guy has some kind of magical powers, and all the girls around him are desperately in love with him, and would do anything for him.

To be sure, this is one of the most prevalent fantasies of most men, based on all kinds of different social studies.

And to be sure, if ALL you wanted was short term flings when as many women as possible, that’s really not such a tall order. There’s a certain way to behave, to talk to them, and to quickly build up attraction.

Sure, you might not be able to do that now, but with some consistent practice, it would only take a few months, maybe a year.

Now, if you are absolutely desperate to get laid in the next ten minutes, waiting a year until you have the skills to pretty much seduce any girl you come across is a long, long time. But if that’s what you really wanted, it would certainly be worth it.

But here’s the thing. It can be dangerous to develop those levels of skills, for many reasons. One is you might decide one day you really only want ONE special girl to be with. Some girl that goes beyond just filling your bed for a couple nights.

And once you develop that “player” mindset, that might be hard to do. Suppose you meet some innocent sweet girl who really is “high quality.” (whatever THAT means). She will know that you’re a player, just how you interact with the world.

But here’s the thing. You can still get to that “harem like” world WITHOUT learning any tricks or techniques of seduction.

How?

Just start talking to girls as a part of who you are. Instead of trying to seduce every single one of them, just talk to them normally, and see it as an exercise to find the girls who are NATURALLY interested in you.

Think if it like you would a sales job. On one end of the spectrum, there’s guys who are ultra high energy, ultra persuasive, know all kinds of techniques. These guys try to sell every single person they come across.

Then there are the guys who are ultra laid back. They know their product REALLY well. They know specifically WHO the product is for. They just spend their time finding that magical 2% of the population who will eagerly buy the product WITHOUT any sales pitch.

A lot less stress, and their customers generally come back again and again.

Here’s the funny thing. If you spent all your time learning advanced game to seduce every female on Earth, it may take you six months to a year.

But if you started today, just talking to girls you met, pretty soon you’d have a nice social circle filled with girls who like you EXACTLY how you are, right now.

A social circle from which you could choose your dream girl. 

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The Boundaries Of Science

The Boundary Between Physics and Metaphysics

Peer Over The Edge

When I was a kid, I loved Quantum Physics.

I read a bunch of books on the subject (that had all the math taken out).

Then later on, in university, when the math got involved, it got even stranger.

(At least as much as I could understand it).

It’s NOTHING like “regular” physics.

But still science, not magic.

It’s just that our eyes, ears, brains, senses, etc, are tuned to intuitively understand things on large scale.

Rocks, trees, animals chasing us, etc.

Stuff on an atomic level is completely different. Completely outside of our intuitive understanding.

Neils Bohr (one of the original Quantum Physics guys) said, “If you understand Quantum Physics, you don’t understand Quantum Physics.”

To be sure, a lot of elements are “borrowed” and used in the metaphysical sense, metaphorically, to describe things we don’t really understand.

Now, to be honest, a lot of these terms are used kind of liberally, and incorrectly, to make the underlying discussion sound a lot more “woo-woo” than it really is.

But in a sense, they are sort of correct.

They are terms we use to describe things we understand, to approximate things we don’t understand.

One things humans HATE is confusion and uncertainty.

This is why letting go (at least temporarily) of the need to classify and categorize everything can be so liberating.

Sure, there are some VERY STRANGE things going on just below the surface. And it WOULD be very cool if some alien could come and explain everything to us in great detail.

But since that’s not likely going to happen, it might be a good idea to simply accept the vast mysteries of life. Appreciate them, embrace them.

Obviously, you need to balance between the real world and the “metaphysical” world.

As the expression goes, “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood carry water.”

Part of enlightenment (whatever that means to you) is simply accepting that which can’t be controlled or explained.

Open yourself to it, embrace it, let it flow through you.

Awaken yourself to your deeper power. Your higher self.

Do you really need to understand the physics of a rainbow to appreciate its beauty?

There is great wonder within you. Amazing potential. Unlimited energy. Ancient life force.

Are you willing to embrace and appreciate it?

How To Practice Spontaneity 

Practice Not Knowing What To Say

How To Be In The Moment

Many girls love a guy who’s spontaneous. Now, that doesn’t mean saying you are spontaneous. That doesn’t mean telling her stories about how you were so super spontaneous back in college. 

It simply requires that you BE spontaneous, while you’re talking to her and interacting with her.

It also means that you don’t waste ANY time approaching. This is one of the reasons why the three second rule is pretty important. Ideally, you should never have to consciously apply the three second rule. It should be something you do automatically, without thinking.

You see a cute girl, make eye contact, and go and introduce yourself. 

“But, but, but, what do I say?”

“How do I approach?”

“What if she’s with her friends?”

“Who should I talk to first?”

Forget about all that. The whole point of being spontaneous is doing things BEFORE you really know what you’re doing.

Here’s an exercise to try. The next cute girls you see, immediately walk up and say this:

“I had the most amazing thing to do you, but on the way over here, I forgot what to say.”

Then see what she says.

No, this isn’t a pick up line. This isn’t some trick to show off how cool you are. This is PRACTICE to help you think in the moment.

After a while, you won’t need to say that cheesy line. You’ll walk up, and you really WON’T know what you’re going to say until you get there.

This is where REAL spontaneity comes from.

Sure, the first few times you’ll fall on your face. Look silly. Run away with your tail between your legs.

But so what?

The goal is to walk up, and be confident EVEN THOUGH you have no idea what to say.

This will make you INCREDIBLY attractive. Most guys are too scared to walk up. Most guys that DO walk up have some kind of line they memorized BEFORE they even started the approach.

You’ll come across as confident, natural, and fearless. And VERY spontaneous.

How do you do you get to this level?

Practice. Practice talking to girls when you have no idea what you want to say. Practice letting what she ways to you conjure up ideas in your mind.  Practice coming up with things to say ON THE SPOT.

Sure it will take time.

But you’ll develop a skill very few people have.

Accept And Ride The Flow Of Life

You Are The Channel Of Universal Energy

Be Open To Your Own Energy

Where does energy come from?

Hard question to answer, since it shows up in many different ways.

On a very basic, fundamental physics level, there’s the energy that moves matter. And since Einstein proved that energy IS matter, it’s pretty safe to safe that the ENTIRE UNIVERSE is made of the same “stuff.”

What is that stuff? What is the nature of that stuff? How does that stuff make two people that look very similar behave very differently?

Even the same person in two different situations?

On some days, we’re “on.” Everything we do works. Lights are green, doors are opened, ALL of our jokes are funny, and people seem to genuinely enjoy being with us and talking to us.

Other days, it’s like the entire universe is like an impatient parent. “Not now! Please leave me alone!”

Nobody laughs at your jokes, every single light is red, there’s NEVER any parking spaces.

What gives?

Is it random chance? It can’t be random. Since the laws of physics, chemistry and biology seem to keep working.

Our arms suddenly don’t detach from our bodies and float out in space. The tires on our cars suddenly don’t start sliding all over the road as if the laws of friction have taken the day off.

The answer may lie with our own ACCEPTANCE of our energy. Whether we let it flow through us, or whether we fight it, consciously or unconsciously.

Many of the things we’d like to do in life don’t require we do MORE stuff, but they require we do LESS stuff.

For example, if you see an interesting person, for business or romance, you may want to talk to them.

You don’t need to learn how to talk. You don’t need to learn how to walk over there. You don’t need to take whatever they say, and riff on it to build a mutually enjoyable conversation.

All of these things are natural human skills. Hard wired into our brains.

However, you DO need to get out of your own way. Stop fighting with your natural energy and enthusiasm. STOP spinning those stories in your mind of what MIGHT go wrong.

Humans are social creatures, after all. We are also creators, builders, inventors, and explorers.

It’s just a matter of ACCEPTING your energy, and let it flow uninhibited.

THAT’S what it means to be fully human.

Are You Ready?

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Are You Ignoring Her Personality?

Don't Ignore What's Inside

Look A Little Deeper

When I was a kid, sometimes my parents would get those boxes of expensive chocolates.

I don’t know if you’re familiar, but they were all pretty similar in appearance. Outside they were all pretty round, some darker, and some lighter. But inside, some of them had some pretty gross stuff, at least from a kids perspectives.

Which meant that my parents always ended up with a box of chocolates that had small bites taken out of them.

When guys see a gorgeous girl across the room, they are making a LOT of assumptions about her. Her personality, her beliefs, the way she talks, her habits. Pretty much EVERYTHING about her, except her looks.

Which is why it seems absolutely nuts to nervous walking and talking to her, at least from a rational perspective.

If you stop and think about how many gorgeous girls you’d have to talk to find one that you really click with, it would seem like talking to cute girls would be a chore, rather than something to be scared of.

If you’ve ever been in a really bad relationship and wanted to get out but didn’t know how, you know that is a very, very unpleasant situation to be in. Especially if you and her share the same social circle. A literal nightmare.

Yet guys charge in full speed ahead thinking ALL they need is a girl that’s physically attractive, and everything else will take care of itself.

This is not a very effective strategy to say the least.

Now, I know this makes total sense on paper. But when you’re in the mix and that cutie is making those flirty eyes at you, all this rational understanding is going to fly out the window.

Does this mean you’re back to where you started?

You don’t have to be. In order to have a more curious mindset (rather than a desperate mindset) when approaching is to simply get a lot of experience with a lot of girls.

Specifically with a deep, experiential understanding that many girls will simply disqualified.

How can you generate this feeling?

Simply talk to as many girls as you can. Don’t hit on them. Don’t number close them. Just short, polite, conversations. Long enough to know that girls are people, just like you. Some are smart, some are dumb. Some are nice, some are mean. Some are outgoing, some are shy.

The more “data” you get, the easier it will be.

This will show you how:

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Open Ancient Energies Of Life

Science Or Magic?

Science Or Magic?

It’s been said that science that is beyond the current level of understanding will seem like magic.

It’s also been said that all things MUST be explained by science.

One of Einstein’s famous quotes is “God does not play dice with the universe.”

Which means the entire universe is governed by laws, not by some kind of random chance.

However, it’s also pretty clear that science can only explain so much. Beyond that, it’s pretty much guesswork.

Things like the origins of the universe, the nature of space-time, and the strange “missing matter” of the universe.

All these things make the smartest scientist on Earth utterly confused.

Science can be fun, but it can also be a roadblock.

If you need to understand everything about everything, you’d never leave your house.

Imagine forcing yourself to understand the entire mechanics of your car before driving anywhere.

Of course, understanding it to a certain point is necessary. Otherwise you’d run out of gas, wear your tires bald, or let the engine seize up from not changing the oil.

But beyond that, just get in the thing and drive.

There are a lot of useful metaphors to describe things that would be beyond human understanding if we tried to describe them accurately.

The famous saying from NLP, “The map is not the territory,” is true. But often times, the map is all we’ve got.

If you’re going from point A to point B, it’d be kind of silly to travel all the different routes just to find the quickest. Having a map would be MUCH easier.

And because the map can ONLY approximate the territory, it’s much like metaphors we use to describe reality.

So long as they work, and get us what we want, they’re plenty good enough.

Often times when scientists are trying to figure something out, they’ll go through  many “models.”

They’ll come up with a theory of what they think is going on, test it out, and see how well their model holds up.

Us non-scientist humans have been doing that since the dawn of time.

Trying to describe the vast mysteries of the universe in easy to understand metaphors, or “maps” of the territory.

So long as these maps get us to where we want to go, they’re perfect.

Once such “map” is the idea Kundalini Energy. The life force that, when present, makes everything smooth, natural and easy. Fully awake, open and actualized. 

When closed off, it’s common to feel lack, fear and frustration.

How exactly does it work? What are the equations that describe it?

Nobody really knows.

But it’s been working for thousands of years, and it can work for you.

Open Yours:

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Sorting Is Easier Than Seduction

Sort Don't Seduce

Don’t Turn Her Into Something She’s Not

It’s really, really easy to get your sites set on one girl. You meet her, have a conversation or two, and your caveman brain starts spinning. She seems perfect. You start to imagine a future together. If only you could figure out how to make it happen.

There’s two ways that guys sometimes handle something like this. One is they continue to interact her, but never really make any kind of move. I’m not talking a physical move, but they never ask her on a date, or talk to her so she knows the guy’s interested.

They sit around and hope something “just happens.”

Of course, this will quickly put you in the “friend zone” from which there’s really no escape. Sure it happens, but it’s not a good idea to depend on it.

The other thing they do is suddenly confess their feelings for her. Tell her they love her with all their hearts. This usually doesn’t work either. Way too much, way too soon.

Both of these strategies are designed to protect the male ego. They are afraid of rejection, so they never make a move and pretty much put themselves in the friend zone.

Or they want to get it over as quickly as possible, so they dump a bunch of emotions on her.

If you’ve done either of these, you know they don’t make things any better.

From an objective standpoint, going down the middle is clearly the best route. Express your intentions, but very slowly, in a way that’s easy for her to reciprocate.

If you’ve never done this before, it can be very, very difficult. Every single step forward means risking rejection. She may give you her number, but she might not date you. She might date you once, but not twice. She might be willing to date you, but not get physical. She might let you get to first based, but not second. And on and on.

As you can imagine, the more experience you get, the easier it will be. But this kind of gets rid of the notion of having it go perfectly with the first girl you ever lay eyes on.

This requires a completely different mindset. One is that finding your dream girl is not a seduction process, but a sorting process.

It’s much, much easier to find somebody who likes you just the way you are, then taking some girl who maybe likes you and spending all kinds of time, money and energy chasing her.

One thing that will help is to simply practice flirting with girls. Only flirting. Not number closing or long drawn out conversations where you hope something eventually happens.

Short, harmless flirting with as many girls as you can.

Until talking to cute girls becomes second nature, and you don’t freak out when you find “The One.

Develop Magnetic Congruence

Line Up Your Parts

Align Thyself

One of the most powerful things a person can do is be congruent.

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, so it may not sound like anything new.

But one thing about any kind of self-development is it’s easy to get trapped in a world of vague words that don’t really mean anything.

One thing you learn if you study NLP is something called the “Meta Model.”

This is a set of language patterns designed to turn the vague into the specific.

As you can probably guess, they don’t work very well in polite conversation. Whenever we’re talking to others we are going to be necessarily vague.

If we show up and start asking “How specifically? Who specifically? Why specifically?” people are going to get pretty annoyed.

But when understanding ideas that can help us more easily get what we want, getting specific is necessary.

So back to that cool but vague word, “congruent.”

What EXACTLY does it mean?

In mathematics, it’s when two angles are the same.

But what does it mean in a social setting?

When somebody is behaving or communicating “congruently” what are they doing, specifically?

Think of the “parts” theory. We all have different parts. When we’re thinking about what to do on a Friday night, for example, part of us may want to go out, while another part of us wants to stay in.

If we are ever conflicted, in any behavior or communication, we are NOT congruent.

One way to tell when people are lying, for example, (certainly not foolproof) is when they break off eye contact, or become closed off physically.

They may not even know they’re doing it. They may even believe what they are saying, on one level.

But on another level, it feels “wrong.” 

If you’re in a relationship (and you’re paying attention) you can usually tell when somebody is not being congruent. They may do a good job of faking it, but it’s still pretty obvious.

(“Do you love me?” “Uh, yea, sure!”)

One of the most common ways we all display incongruence is when part of us wants something, but another part of us is afraid.

We ask our boss for a raise, for example. We are one hundred percent sure we WANT the raise, but when we ask, it’s tough to speak confidently. Part of us is afraid to ask, because we might get rejected.

Same with talking to attractive people, speaking up in meetings or in groups, or any other time we want to express ourselves.

As you can guess, one the biggest killers of congruence is fear. Fear of rejection, fear of dismissal, fear of being left behind.

The good news is that unless we’re facing down an angry tiger, our fears of false.

How do we get rid of them?

By getting in touch with our higher selves.

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How To Kill Desperation

End This Attraction Killing Curse

Easy Daily Practice

Many people talk about the scarcity mindset, when it comes to meeting girls.

In general terms, when you don’t have a lot of options, you’re going to place a lot of value on the options you do have. If you’ve been out of work for a while, you’ll take any job, no matter how horrible, so long as you start earning some cash that will keep you off the streets.

If you’re starving, and all you’ve got is a box of crackers, those crackers are going to be the most delicious thing you’ve ever eaten.

With girls, it works the same way. If you haven’t been involved for a while, any interaction you get from a girl is going to make it seem like she’s your only chance for romantic and sexual happiness.

To make it worse, since humans spent a long time living in small groups, your inner caveman is programmed to really believe she may be your only chance.

So speaking in terms of scarcity mindset or abundance mindset is pretty useless unless it’s actually true.

Meaning if you really haven’t had much luck recently, no matter how much you build up your confidence in your mind, she’s going to seem WAY more important to you that she really is. Which means you’ll overanalyze everything, be terrified of upsetting her, and pretty much do anything to please her. None of which are very attractive.

Clearly, this can set up a huge negative feedback loop. The more desperate you act, the less attractive you’ll be, which means you’ll be even LESS likely to find somebody.

What’s the answer? Repeat “sex and romance are abundant” a million times every night?

Nope.

The simple, easy and straightforward answer is to simply get into the habit of talking to every single cute girl you see.

Or at least making eye contact and smiling at them.

Sure, it may seem hard at first. But if you suck it up and make this a habit, that feeling of desperation will slowly fade.

Pretty soon you will believe, in a deep psychological and instinctive level, that pretty girls really ARE in abundance.

Now, some guys will do this, and then stop when they start dating somebody.

Don’t make this mistake. This isn’t the greatest metaphor, but it’s helpful.

Think of a martial artist. He trains every single day, to prepare for the rare tournament. If he does well in a tournament, does he stop training? Nope. Never.

Think of any relationship you end up in as an ongoing tournament. Not that you’ll be fighting, but that you need to maintain that “abundance mindset” to keep you relaxed, confident and real. Keep away that desperation.

Always be social. Always be outgoing. Make that who you REALLY are, not who you pretend to be.

The Wisdom Of Silence

Listen To Your Friend

Listen To Your Friend

There are many popular myths and stories that are metaphors for self discovery.

A young explorer leaves his home, searching the world for riches.

After his many adventures, he comes home, only to find the riches were there all along. Buried in the last place he’d think to look.

Dorothy was in Oz trying to get home. Battling villains, flying monkeys, and discovering the man behind the curtain (whom she thought held the key) was a fraud. Then she found the power return was with her the entire time.

Long ago, before humans were created, the gods had a problem. In the world was a great power, but they feared humans would misuse it.

No matter where they thought to hide it, they knew humans would find it. On top of the highest mountains, in the bottom of the deepest oceans.

All places men have been to.

Then they found the place we’d never look.

Within ourselves.

Many of us spend our entire lives looking “out there” for the answers. Relationship after relationship. Job after job. Hobby after hobby. City after city.

But the answer lies within.

It always has.

it’s been said that our biggest obstacle to discovering this is lies in our inability to sit with ourselves.

No TV, no smart phone, no music, no friends. Just sitting and listening to the quiet, inner silence.

A silence filled with infinite wisdom, compassion, and understanding.

Consider making it habit of sitting quietly, if only for a few moments, at least once a day.

Quiet your environment. Quiet your mind. Listen for the guidance of your inner sage.

That ancient energy that exists before thought, before awareness.

Before you.

If you make it a habit of cultivating this inner awareness, you may notice some wonderful surprises showing up in your life.

But then again, maybe they’re already there.

Find Them:

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